Innholdsfortegnelse for April/May 2019 i Working Mother

I didn’t want to turn 30. It felt sooooo old (feel free to hate on me). Even though I was married and owned a home (albeit a one-bedroom apartment in a not-hip part of Queens, NY), I felt like I hadn’t accomplished all that I’d wanted to. Maybe that’s because I had almost literally my whole adult life still ahead of me. Now that 40 looms, I’m feeling more comfortable with that number than I felt with 30. I’ve got two little boys, a house, that same, great husband (hey, Paul), and a job that gives me the flexibility I need and the satisfaction of helping people, which I crave. Similarly, Working Mother is turning 40, and it feels good. In an era when magazines with longer histories are shuttering…

“Eliminate inconvenient late-day chats with co-workers by scheduling time to check in on them earlier in the day.” Lydia Wickcliffe Fenet, senior vice president, international director of strategic partnerships at Christie’s and author of The Most Powerful Woman in the Room Is You (Touchstone; April 2019) “Joining a carpool can force you to stay on a strict schedule both before and after work.” Kristin Bytes, kinja.com blogger “Set alarms during your final hour of the day at 15-minute intervals, and then a final one a few minutes before quitting time. Even if you get pulled into something unexpected, the alarm will remind you to extricate yourself.” “Ditch your work landline toward the end of the day and strictly use your personal cell. That way you can stay on a call…

GROCERIES to grab: • Ricotta, about 23 ounces• Eggs, 15• Marinara sauce, 2 14-ounce jars• Yellow onions, 2• Boneless, skinless chicken breasts, 7• Button mushrooms, 1 pound• Asparagus, 6 spears• Boston lettuce, 1 head• Spaghetti, 1 pound• Sweet red peppers, 2 CHECK that you have: • Canola oil• Chili powder• Salt• Barbecue sauce or hoisin sauce• All-purpose flour• 2 percent milk Ricotta Dumplings Serves 4, 25 minutes 1. Heat the oven to 300°F. Bring a large pot of salted water to a boil; reduce heat to a gentle simmer. Line a large rimmed baking sheet with parchment paper. 2. Whisk 3 eggs in a large bowl, then whisk in 2 cups ricotta cheese (about 15 ounces), then 1 cup all-purpose flour and 1½ teaspoons salt. Use one cereal spoon to…

SPONSOR: Gilda Spencer, Senior VP, Deputy General Counsel, Dispute Resolution Services SPONSEE: Maya Ewing, Managing Director, Senior Counsel, Employment and Benefits When Maya Ewing started at Allstate in 2002, her first sponsor was her boss. Eight years later, Gilda Spencer arrived in a much more senior legal role. After an initial meeting, Gilda saw a spark in Maya and asked to meet with her regularly. “She was several people removed from me, but she was bright and hardworking. She had been identified as high potential, but there were some gaps for her to work on,” Gilda recalls. The company started a program that rotated talented young lawyers into different jobs, and Maya was moved from employment law to insurance operations. “She wasn’t happy about it, but I told her, ‘This…

Eli Lilly and Company Indianapolis, IN Chairman and CEO David Ricks Senior VP, HR and Diversity Stephen Fry Women reporting to the CEO at the pharmaceutical company rose in one year from 31 percent to 43 percent. In 2017, women were 61% of U.S. promotions to senior director and above. FleishmanHillard St. Louis, MO President and CEO John Saunders Chief of Staff Lisa Moehlenkamp In 2017, four of six strategic priorities at the public-relations firm were led by women: business development, Della Sweetman; global client leadership, Anne de Schweinitz; talent development, Lisa Moehlenkamp; and networks within the network, Marjorie Benzkofer. 11 of the 18 in the cabinet—the top leadership organization—were women. Ernst & Young LLP New York, NY EY U.S. Chairman and Americas Managing Partner Kelly Grier EY Americas Vice…

Some tips from moms and other pros: • Find a family physician who can see you and your kids, preferably back to back. • Think of medical visits as self-care, say many doctors. The payoff: When you feel better physically, you’ll be more even-keeled emotionally. • Be honest with your doctor or dentist about your busy schedule so they can work with you. Some offices text or call with reminders or offer online portals to make scheduling easier. • Use milestones (your child’s birthday, the first day of school) as a date to trigger you to schedule your appointments. • Get someone to keep you on schedule—your partner or a sibling. • If all else fails, don’t beat yourself up. Just do better next time.…

“Do I push myself to get a director role and possibly lose precious moments with my 11-year-old?”—Denise DeCesare, Ocean Township, NJ HER DILEMMA: “I got divorced in 2011 and moved back to New Jersey to have my family’s support. I took a job that was a step down because I was concerned about work-life balance and supporting a young child on my own. Now, I love my boss, job and company, but I find myself needing more money and wanting that director title I used to have. Getting those things could mean longer hours, five days a week on-site (I currently commute 90 minutes each way but work from home twice a week) and less time with my son. Do I try to supplement my income with a side job?…

THE CHALLENGE: Take five hours of art classes a week Mom: Rachel Silverman, rabbi in Sharon, MA Kids: Anna, 4, and Danny, 2 “I’ve been into art since high school, but I realized I hadn’t created anything in two years, so I signed up for a Thursday-night pottery class. I had to talk myself into it since I’m already out of the house many nights for work, but my husband took over bedtime duty on Thursdays. I also take painting on Tuesdays, my day off, while the kids are in school. I’m regularly late for class, and that’s OK. If I don’t schedule it, it won’t happen. Creating nurtures my soul, and each time I drive home from the art studio, it’s like leaving a mini vacation.” THE CHALLENGE: Win…

“Oh yeah! There she is,” says the bespectacled celebrity smiling at me on my laptop screen. She’s not referring to having found me, her interviewer, on Skype, the unconventional but practical way we two moms on opposite coasts are connecting; rather, she’s referring to herself. In the fog of mourning her mother, getting pregnant, facing postpartum struggles, and getting pregnant again in quick succession, bubbly, career-focused Jennifer Love Hewitt couldn’t recognize herself—not that she had much time to try. “I worked [on The Client List] when my daughter was 8 months old up until my son was born [nine months later],” she tells me from an area off her dining room in her home. It looks like a confessional space from the Real World—but hip, not hokey—with a map of…

SPONSOR: Margaret Anadu, Partner, Head of Urban Investment Group SPONSEE: Sherry Wang, Managing Director When Sherry joined Goldman Sachs 11 years ago, she met Margaret, who had been at the firm for four years. Sherry, who came to the U.S. from China when she was 5, was a Yale graduate. Margaret, who emigrated here from Nigeria when she was 10, attended Harvard. “The sponsorship relationship evolved,” Margaret recalls. “I became more senior and was able to push for Sherry and help advance her career. Last year, I played a role in Sherry’s promotion to managing director (one of the highest levels at the firm). I made sure a broad set of folks all knew her and that she got the exposure she needed.” They’ve continued their relationship with frequent coffees…

Woman of Achievement Amanda Sourry President, Unilever North America After having my second child, I felt that the whole “superwoman” thing wasn’t working for our family, and I wanted to be able to spend more time with our children. I know that I wouldn’t be in the role that I am now if I hadn’t been able to work part time during those early years. That was well before we had the kind of programs that we have today supporting working parents—both mothers and fathers. This is also proof that it is not only about policies, but it is also about leadership and talent. Rising Star Ana Victoria Garcia Alvarez CEO and Founder, Victoria147 When I was a kid, my mom taught me to be ambitious. I also learned how…

Erum Ilyas, M.D., a dermatologist in King of Prussia, PA, spends more time taking care of her three children’s teeth in a year than she has her own health… ever. “I schedule my appointments only when I hear a scary story or witness something in my own practice.” She isn’t alone. In a 2018 survey of 1,000 women ages 30 to 60 by public-relations firm GCI Health, nearly 1 in 3 confessed they didn’t get screened regularly for medical conditions, citing a lack of time. And 89 percent of moms surveyed put their kid’s health needs first. Before you dismiss reprioritizing, consider this: Checkups and screenings aren’t as frequent as they once were. “Most of the stuff you need is not on a yearly interval,” says Lydia Pace, M.D., associate…

“I can be covered in spit up on a conference call while I’m pumping, and that’s OK because this is my perfect. It might not be somebody else’s, but this is mine.”— Kerry Washington, actress and mom of three Why do I always have to be the brain? Sometimes I want to be the heart…. No one likes the brain because the brain makes you do your homework and empty the dishwasher, while the heart gets to go out for ice cream and take in stray children.—Melissa Joan Hart, as Liz Thompson, on No Good Nick, premiering in April on Netflix “No one seems to appreciate how good I am at everything I do.”—Jessica Huang, from Fresh Off the Boat, played by Constance Wu A champion is defined not by…

The colorful skirt, collar and heels are designer, but the crew-neck top is from Forever 21! STYLE TIP “Stay warm, but choose festive pieces.” A midi skirt and long-sleeved sweater in form-skimming silhouettes keep you covered up, while the rainbow tiers are a sweet ode to spring. @stylepantry stylepantry.com STYLE TIP “Make your jacket an integral part of your outfit.” Choose a fun-hued one to complete a power suit; it’ll keep you cozy and make a statement. @iambeauticurve beauticurve.com STYLE TIP “Add an unexpected pop of color.” Still too bleak outside to go full-on bright? Introduce cheerful colors into your wardrobe in small doses. Hot pink pumps perfectly liven up this otherwise-subdued ensemble. @polishedwhimsy polishedwhimsy.com STYLE TIP “Mix winter-patterned outerwear with pastels.” Coats and jackets in houndstooth, plaid, herringbone and…

SPONSOR: Eric Kutcher, Senior Partner, Global Leader of High Tech, Media and Telecom Practice SPONSEE: Kelly Ungerman, Partner, Americas Consumer Digital Leader Kelly Ungerman joined McKinsey in 1999. She transferred to LA, Chicago and Dallas, and was promoted to partner 10 years ago. She met her now-husband, Drew, at McKinsey. By the time Max and Maya came along, Drew had been named a senior partner, and Kelly was close to achieving the same. But to find balance that worked for her professionally and personally, Kelly chose to take one of the alternative paths the firm offers parents and others who need options for advancement at a slower pace. So she stepped off the rapid track with the understanding that she could still get to the top on her own time.…

It depends, say experts. Ask yourself: • Do you have any medical conditions? If you had pregnancy complications, physical or mental, or have a chronic condition like asthma or GERD, an internist or family physician might be a better bet, says Lydia Pace, M.D., of Brigham and Women’s Hospital in Boston. Just bring up your pregnancy history with that doctor. • What’s more convenient for you? If you’re more likely to see your gyno for a yearly well-visit, then as long as she can handle all your screenings, that should be fine, says Dr. Pace. • What’s the scope of care that your OB-GYN offers? If she doesn’t provide the full range of primary care, such as managing chronic medical conditions or offering all preventive services or immunizations, then she…

Heather Colby is at Northwestern Memorial December 22, 2018 at 7:35 AM We are so excited to welcome Luna Belle! The only thing more amazing than this tiny miracle? The disposable underwear they gave me after the birth. WOW! I know I’m supposed to focus on the whole wonder of creation thing, but underwear you can wear, and literally anything can happen down there? And then you just throw them away! Without a care! It’s like the paper plate of panties! Marisa Williams is at Saint Mary’s Hospital February 13, 2019 at 2:14 PM Julian Marcus has arrived—a week early! Due to time restraints related to my criminally short, unpaid maternity leave, this birth announcement will double as my out-of-office email. Please call my cell if your issue is more…