Innholdsfortegnelse for 05-Oct-2020 i Woman

A slower, more meaningful life is something a lot of us have been thinking about more and more, and while going to restaurants and hitting the shops is good for the economy, does it really make us happier? Tapping into a passion is something a lot of us are maybe too afraid to try (what if we fail?) but Julie Macken’s story (p23) about ditching the corporate ladder in order to start her own natural skincare business proves that listening to your heart can lead to a more fulfilling lifestyle. In the meantime, turn to p50 and be inspired by some of the UK’s most stunning national parks – autumn has never looked so good.…

‘SHE WAS INCREDIBLY LOYAL’ Holly Willoughby could be forced to go head-to-head with her former talent agency YMU after reports emerged that they allegedly want to take a cut of her future earnings, despite no longer working with the TV star. Insiders close to Holly, 39, say she’s not willing to ‘roll over’ without a fight and ‘won’t be taken for a fool’, as she prepares to go it alone with her newly-created agency Roxy Management. But, while Holly is ready to do battle, things could get awkward, as her This Morning co-host and best pal Phillip Schofield is still looked after by YMU... GOING IT ALONE These claims come after Holly decided to cut ties in order to set up her own talent agency, where she’ll work closely with…

£49,000 Private-jet pals Meghan made a visit to see Harry in 2016 with help from friend Jessica Mulroney. ‘Jessica arranged for her to use the private jet of the Canadian real-estate power couple Krystal Koo and Michael Cooper,’ the authors claim. £3.5M Gift from granny Their 10-bedroom Frogmore Cottage home is described in Finding Freedom as a ‘gift from the Queen’. The authors say giving homes to grandchildren is ‘the Queen’s thing’. £5,021 An Arctic adventure According to new bombshell biography Finding Freedom, Harry and Meghan had a trip to the Arctic Circle in 2017, courtesy of guide Inge Solheim. £13,260 Luxury at Lake Como The couple enjoyed a break with George and Amal Clooney at their home on Lake Como in August 2018. George flew them in on his…

Ailsa Frank, an alcohol-reduction hypnotherapy specialist, says: ‘Drinking habits build up and the amount of alcohol that used to satisfy someone’s needs begins to not feel enough, so a glass of wine per night can easily become a whole bottle or more. The main causes are personal stress and work pressures – and instead of addressing the problems, people turn to a glass instead. It’s more commonplace than you’d think, and lockdown exacerbated people’s problems – people who drink due to loneliness felt more alone, those with family pressures were confined with no break from each other, and those with work pressure could drink more because they didn’t need to drive to work in the morning. You can overcome grey-area drinking by focusing on new behaviour. Take your time, make…

Christine Wright, founder of Habit Breaker, and Simon Chapple, a certified sobriety coach, advise: ✱ Find your ‘Why?’. Why do you drink? ✱ Tell people you’re cutting down. Ask them to respect that. ✱ Start slowly – take part in alcohol-free months like Sober October or Dry January so you can make a plan to stop completely. ✱ Read sober books and follow sobriety influencers on social media for advice and support. ✱ Find alcohol-free alternatives to your favourite tipple and embrace the change. ✱ Don’t judge yourself for the past, and don’t feel a failure if you slip up. ✱ If you're worried about how many units you should be/are consuming, visit drinkaware.co.uk.…

‘I FELT GUILTY I’D NOT REALISED SOONER’ Caroline Martin, 62, is from Lincolnshire. As soon as he started school, my little boy changed from being happy and carefree to quiet and withdrawn. He would cry at night and be in sheer terror whenever the school holidays ended. I’d ask him what was wrong, but he’d never say. He was friendly with a little girl from up the road, but never had many friends. ‘EVERYTHING SUDDENLY FELL INTO PLACE’ In secondary school, whenever I asked how his day was, he’d just mumble that it was fine. He was always playing on his computer. I’d say, ‘Are you happy?’ and he’d reply, ‘Yeah, yeah, I’m all right, Mum.’ Even at his graduation ceremony at university he’d barely let me take a photo.…

Psychologist and counsellor Susan Quilliam says, ‘The good news is that both Caroline and Deborah realise the situation of their children being transgender is natural, not a disease, mental illness or ‘lifestyle choice’. Plus, both women have themselves found peace. They’ve worked through shock, fear, grief, guilt. They’ve learnt to understand gender incongruence, and to withstand society’s disapproval, they’ve continued to give their children the love they need. The bad news? While a full 1% of the UK population are transgender, not all get support. If your child is transgender, or you’re supporting another parent in this situation, remember: ✱ Your child’s pain isn’t down to what you have or haven’t done as a parent. ✱ Understanding the issues will increase your emotional strength and capacity for action. ✱ You…

No-heat hairstyle Constant use of hot tools such as straighteners, hairdryers and curling tongs can cause serious damage to your hair, making it dry and brittle. Instead of battling with heat, try HairFlair Waveformers Beach Flair Styling Kit, £30.95, hairflair.com. Separate towel-dried hair into small sections, feed through the flexible rollers and wait for your hair to dry – overnight if needed. When hair is completely dry, remove each Waveformer and you’ll see tousled waves and not a hot tool in sight. Master the air-dry Beat the frizz and smooth your air-dried look with OGX Coconut Miracle Oil Air Dry Cream, £7.49. Apply onto damp hair and work from root to tip, smoothing hair follicles and taming unruly frizz. If you have curly hair and love to air-dry your waves,…

For 19 years, my husband, Erik, 49, and I haven’t had a moment to ourselves. In April 2001, when we met at a friend’s wedding in Florida, I was newly divorced, with two young sons, Henry, then seven, and Matt, four. We had a whirlwind romance and, just eight months later, I sold my London flat and moved to America to be with Erik. Erik was a wonderful stepdad, and the boys adored him. Our blended family was completed by the arrival of our daughter Lily in September 2002. I’ve juggled a career as a novelist with full-time motherhood for 26 years, but with Lily off to uni this autumn, suddenly that was all about to change. Even though he loves his family, I know Erik has always looked forward…

OPEN SESAME! ADD SOME CRUNCH TO YOUR LUNCH WITH HELLMANN’S NEW CREAMY COLESLAW MADE WITH REAL MAYONNAISE, £1, 250G, TESCO. Tahini, made from ground sesame seeds, is an essential ingredient in Middle Eastern cooking, especially for dishes such as houmous and falafel, and now it’s fast becoming a popular ingredient for baking, too. Add it to honey, chocolate or dried fruit-flavoured cookies and cakes and you’ll be amazed how good it tastes. Available from most supermarkets for about £2.50, 300g. PICK A PECK OF PUKKA PIES Fresh out of the oven are two new vegan pies from much-loved pie brand Pukka. As we slide into autumn, they’re the perfect warming meal with chips or mash and a side of fresh veg. Choose either Vegan Chicken & Mushroom or Vegan Minced…

Stay safe Get your supply of face masks and hand sanitiser through the letterbox with this new monthly subscription service. Choose from the individual, duo, or a family-sized box (starting from £13.99 per month, gale.health). Turn off the TV Improve your health by reducing the time you spend in front of the television. Researchers at the University of Glasgow found that the lowest risks from cancers and cardiovascular disease were associated with watching TV for two hours or less per day. Get more omega-3 Brits don’t get enough omega-3, despite it being essential for heart, eye and brain health. Get your daily dose with Wiley’s Finest Catch Free Omega-3 Liquid (£29.99, wileysfinest.co.uk). This vegan supplement in Tropical Mango flavour can even be used in smoothies, salads and desserts.…

Less hidden Men usually discover how to climax early in life, so they have lots of tried-and-tested knowledge of what they need, and they can let us in on those secrets. Less complicated Men get to climax with moves that are typically simpler and a lot more straightforward than ours, so they can often just keep doing what they’re doing and be pretty sure they’ll come. Less vulnerable Where there are no sexual problems and sufficient stimulation, male climaxes usually happen. While women can be put off by changes in stimulation or shifts in mood, male orgasm is usually more reliable.…

Susanna’s heartache: ‘MY WORLD IS CHANGING’ Susanna Reid has admitted that, like thousands of parents across the country who face their children leaving home to study at university, she too is going through the empty-nest emotions. The Good Morning Britain star, 49, who is mum to sons Sam, 18, Finn, 16, and Jack, 15, with ex-partner Dominic Cotton, opened up about Sam flying the nest. ‘I woke up at 3am in a panic, having been in denial until that point about the fact my eldest son is leaving home,’ she said. ‘I’m dreading the moment when I get back from dropping him off at university and I have to set one less place at the dinner table.’ And Susanna admitted  she is most worried of all about her ‘rapidly emptying…

Adam Woodyatt and Beverley Sharp It was recently revealed that EastEnders stalwart Adam split from his wife Beverley in August 2019. The couple had been married since 1998 and have two children together, Jessica, 27, and Samuel, 23. Rita Simons and Theo Silveston Former EastEnders star Rita, who played Roxy Mitchell on the BBC soap, and her husband Theo Silveston announced that they split up two years ago. The ex-couple, who co-parent their twin teenage daughters, say they remain on good terms. Samantha and Mark Womack Rita’s on-screen sister, Sam (who played Ronnie), also announced her marriage split recently, confessing the couple actually broke up two years ago, but had been ‘co-existing happily’ since with their son Benjamin, 19, and daughter Lili-Rose, 15. Kelly Clarkson and Brandon Blackstock US singer…

ASHLEY ROBERTS No need to feel blue about the end of summer, this Pussycat Doll, 40, looks cool as she coordinates her shoes and handbag with her beautiful floral-print shirt dress. KATE GARRAWAY The Good Morning Britain host, 53, breathes fresh air into this sixties-inspired outfit. The pastel pink and cream stripe complement Kate’s blonde highlights. RACHEL RILEY This navy skater-style dress is ideal for striding into the new season. It can be dressed up with heels or, like Rachel, 34, dressed down with flat sandals. RIA HEBDEN Lorraine entertainment presenter Ria, 36, pulls off this khaki jumpsuit effortlessly – making it look super chic with a pair of heeled sandals. MYLEENE KLASS Spotted out wearing her winter boots already, Myleene, 42, wastes no time in mix-and-matching styles, proving you…

Kate Baily, 50, is a sober coach and author. She lives in Burgess Hill with her husband, 46, and their children, 13 and 10. Tipping the dregs of the bottle into my wine glass, I shook my head with disappointment. ‘So much for just having one,’ I thought. It was 2012, and this had become a pattern. The kids were asleep, I finally got a chance to relax, but with my husband still at work, wine was my companion – and I hated how normal it had become. In my 20s, I moved to London, where I lived a ‘Sex and the City’ lifestyle. Working for a women’s magazine, drinking on some evenings and weekends. Occasionally, those nights ended in a blackout or killer hangover. But that’s what your 20s…

Julianne Moore GET THE LOOK Julianne, 59, puts a new spin on double denim and proves that tailoring doesn’t always have to be dressy. Pairing a cashmere knit with a denim suit, she completed the look with bright accessories. Margot Robbie GET THE LOOK Looking every inch the starlet about town, Hollywood actor Margot, 30, mixes leather with silk and adds a classic coat to her monochrome look. Emma Bunton GET THE LOOK Leg-lengthening flared trousers teamed with baby blue and pink are a match made in heaven for Emma, 44, and we love the coordinated candy-coloured hair, too! Ashley Roberts GET THE LOOK Never one to shy away from a trend, former Pussycat Doll Ashley, 39, clashes prints like an expert and makes this combo look effortless.…

Hannah, 27, says: ‘Even when I was six, I knew I didn’t fit in. I became very low and often had suicidal thoughts. In secondary school, I knew I wasn’t gay, but didn’t feel any attraction to girls, either. I couldn’t see any future for myself. At university, with space to think, I realised it’s not that I want to be a woman, I already am one inside. I told a close female friend, who was wonderful, putting me in touch with her transgender friend. I chose not to tell my parents until after my degree, as I was worried they’d try to stop me transitioning. They didn’t understand at first, but were supportive. Dad told me, ‘This is your life – do what you need to do.’ I was…

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I’ve been terrified of the children leaving home for so long, and there’s no denying how much I miss Lily and the boys. But I had a fantastic time in my 20s when I lived alone in London, and I have to keep reminding myself that my life doesn’t begin and end with the children. I’m married to a man I love and respect, and whose company I still enjoy even after two decades together. I’m fit and healthy, and I have a fabulous circle of friends who’re all in the same boat as me. Admittedly, I’m already looking forward to Christmas when all the kids will return home. But, in the meantime, I’m trying to change my mindset and be more positive about this next chapter of my life.…

Add a dash of sweetness to life with a fabulous honey-flavoured gin or ready-mixed cocktail. And if you’re rethinking your drinking, you’ll love this alcohol-free beer. HONEY, HONEY If you like your drinks on the sweeter side of dry, Haysmith’s Honeycomb Gin from Aldi is for you. Don’t forget to shake the bottle for a gold shimmer! £14.99, 70cl. BEER WITHOUT BOOZE Looking to cut down on alcohol but need flavour? Freestar is an award-winning alcohol-free beer packed with big flavours. £6.50, 4x330ml, Ocado. COCKTAIL TIME Celebrate the weekend with Funkin Cocktails. Experience new Peach Bellini (Sainsbury’s) and Strawberry Daquiri (Asda and Morrisons). £2, 200ml.…

I THINK MY NEIGHBOURS MAY BE PUTTING DOWN RAT POISON, SHOULD I WORRY ABOUT MY CAT? Unfortunately, many people will take it upon themselves to put rat and mouse bait in their own garden. While what they are doing is perfectly legal, and they may well have a rodent problem that they are trying to deal with, this poses a real hazard for other animals, including our outdoor cats. There are different types of rat poisons, some being more toxic than others to cats (and dogs too). There are two types: those that affect the nervous system and cause signs such as drooling, tremors and fits and those that affect the ability of the blood to clot and lead to uncontrolled bleeding. In the UK, we see cats who have…

HOW TO BUILD A GIRL Journalist and author Caitlin Moran has adapted her 2014 novel into this coming-of-age film which follows Midlands teenager Johanna (Beanie Feldstein) as she reinvents herself as rock journalist Dolly Wilde. Look out for some familiar faces in the pictures of Johanna’s heroes on her bedroom wall, including Michael Sheen as Sigmund Freud! RADIOACTIVE Rosamund Pike stars as pioneering scientist Marie Curie in this biopic about her life and work, from her relationships with husband Pierre (Sam Riley) and lover Paul Langevin (Aneurin Barnard), to her scientific breakthroughs about previously unknown radioactive elements. The film also explores the legacies of her work, including life-saving medical treatment, atomic warfare and nuclear power. GET DUKED! Troublesome Glaswegian teenagers Dean, Duncan and DJ Beatroot are sent on an orienteering…

Match of the Day presenter Gary Lineker gets paid 33 times more than a specialist doctor in the NHS. Both have knowledge and excellence in their field, but in Lineker’s case it is literally a field, just with goalposts at each end. He chats about football; doctors risk their lives saving COVID-19 patients with little protection from a virus that could and does kill them. Now more than ever we should look at how little our real heroes are paid and level that playing field. Recently released BBC figures show Lineker earned £1,750,000 in the last financial year. He will take a £400,000 pay cut in the coming year to even up the maths and dampen down criticism of his wages. I don’t doubt Gary and many of the other…

FROM SCRIPTS TO SKATES Actor Faye Brookes has signed up for Dancing on Ice 2021 – a year after leaving Coronation Street. Faye, 33, is expected to ‘bring the glamour to the ice’, according to show insiders. ‘WOOD’ YOU BELIEVE IT? EastEnders star Jake Wood, 48, confirmed he’s leaving the soap after almost 15 years as Max Branning – but his character won’t be killed off. He said, ‘I’m excited to see what the next chapter holds.’ GOLDEN BALL TV and radio host Zoe Ball, 49, has been handed a whopping £1m pay rise – making her the highest-paid woman at the BBC. She now earns £1.3m after bosses closed the gender pay gap. Hurrah!…

✱ You silently worry, regret, and fret about your drinking – you wake up feeling remorseful about drinking the night before, and make up for it by exhibiting other ‘healthy’ lifestyle choices. ✱ You drink between two extremes – you don’t drink every now and again, nor are you dependent on alcohol. ✱ You can and have stopped drinking for periods of time – sometimes weeks or months – but struggle to stop completely. ✱ Your drinking often doesn’t look problematic to those around you – and people within your social circles will reinforce the idea that you don’t have a problem. ✱ You veer between ignoring that small inner voice telling you to stop and deciding you’re overthinking things and need to ‘live a little’. Alcohol is your reward,…

Toby, 26, says: ‘It’s been a long and incredibly tough journey and I’m so grateful for Mum’s support. Sadly, not everyone has been supportive. I’ve faced abuse – I’ve had people shouting crude things at me, I’ve had to defend myself against strangers, and I still don’t feel safe using male public toilets. I feel lucky to have the love of my partner, Seth, 25, and close family, who will be supporting me when I have surgery to transform the lower half of my body, completing my transition. I’m always open to questions because transphobic comments usually come from ignorance, which is why I remain openly trans. How are people meant to learn if no one speaks up about it?’…

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1 G&T CHOCOLATE BAR  Gin & Tonic 71% Dark Chocolate is just one of the irresistible flavours in the luxury ethical Love Cocoa by James Cadbury range. Others include Maldon Sea Salt 70% Dark Chocolate and Salted Caramel 41% Milk Chocolate, £3.95, 75g, Ocado. 2 BROWNIE POINTS Sit back, relax and enjoy a bit of ‘me time’ with McVitie’s Moments Brownies. Choose from Double Choc Fudge or Creamy White Choc flavours, both covered in deliciously smooth milk chocolate, £1.85, 5-pack, Tesco. 3 VEGAN MARSHMALLOWS Soft, squishy with a deliciously sweet vanilla flavour, M&S has nailed it with its Plant Kitchen Marshmallows. Thread them onto fruit skewers or sandwich between vegan biscuits and chocolate for meltingly good s’mores, £1.50, 150g.…

Keeping my eyes healthy Q I have always been afraid of losing my sight when I get older; is there anything I can do to help prevent this? Philippa says A Eye health can be a marker for health in the rest of your body. Looking through your pupils at the back of your eyes, doctors can see changes, which can show that you have high blood pressure or diabetes! Having a healthy diet, exercising, limiting your salt intake and, most importantly, not smoking will all keep your eyes healthy. A small study in people over the age of 40 recently showed that staring at an LED torch emitting a certain wavelength of red light could improve eyesight, so perhaps there will be other ways to help protect your eyesight…

Shall I get pierced down there? Q I’m a man in my 50s and, now the kids have left home, I’m having a very enjoyable ‘midlife crisis!’ My wife and I are trying out fantastic new things in the bedroom, have bought a pile of sex toys and are getting tattoos and piercings. We’ve even talked about having our genitals pierced – it sounds as though it would give us intense sensations. Problem is, the very thought makes me flinch! Is it safe? Susan says A You’re right to hesitate. Pierced genitals can increase pleasure, but also the chance of infection. If you go ahead, be ultra-careful around hygiene, particularly after using the bathroom, and, if you spot a problem – discharge or pain – see a doctor immediately. To…

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Catty ad Carole Baskin, star of Netflix’s Tiger King, has long been subject to rumours she is linked to the 1997 disappearance of husband Don Lewis. When she appeared on Dancing with the Stars, Don’s daughters appeared in an ad asking what happened to their dad. How very roar-kward. Born fighters Sarah and Aaron Curtis were horrified when Sarah tested positive for COVID-19 days before giving birth to twins. Kenna and Lissa also tested positive, but are now at home, virus-free. We should remember them when we are grumbling about masks.…