Innholdsfortegnelse for May 2020 i True Love

During the national lockdown, I received a concerned WhatsApp message from my mother alerting me that someone had forwarded her a link to the latest issue of TRUELOVE – for free. Yes, you just had to click on the link, and the issue was on your phone –bansela! A part of me was a little glad that more people would access the amazing work that the TRUELOVE team does, and maybe invest in upcoming issues. But, another part acknowledged the gravity of the situation. Downloading these free copies is illegal. By sending the links to the public, someone broke the law. Sharing them is also an offence. I would like to urge you to support us by educating all your friends who have unknowingly shared the PDFs, and by so…

TIP LEATHER DOESN'T HAVE TO MEAN A BIKER JACKET. THERE'S MORE TO THIS VERSATILE FABRIC – THINK SKIRTS, SHORTS, PANTS AND SHIRTS. DRESS IT DOWN WITH SOFTER FABRICS SUCH AS COTTON, SILK AND LACE.…

Tell us more about yourself. My full name is Athi-Afikile Myataza, and I grew up in a small town called Alice in the Eastern Cape. I’m 33 years old, and my life has been defined by the pursuit of beauty, creativity and honesty. I was never one of those people who knew exactly who they wanted to be. I allowed life to unveil itself slowly to me — layer by layer. What is Athi all about? I’m currently an account director at one of the top black-owned agencies in the country – DNA Brand Architects. My career experience has solidified me in the PR and luxury fashion spaces, having worked as PR manager at L’Oréal South Africa and station publicist at YFM. In the publishing world, my experience includes Destiny…

BEAUTY EDITOR’S TIP THERE ONCE WAS A TIME WHEN DEFINED AND SCULPTED BROWS WERE ALL THE RAGE. HOWEVER, THESE DAYS, BRUSHED-UP AND NATURAL-LOOKING EYEBROWS ARE IN VOGUE. TO JOIN IN ON THIS SIMPLE, NO-FUSS TREND, BEGIN BY BRUSHING YOUR EYEBROWS UP. THIS WILL HELP CREATE A PERFECT FOUNDATION FOR YOUR FACE BEAT, AS WELL AS HELP YOU NOTICE PARTS OF THE EYEBROW THAT NEED A BIT OF FILLING IN. USE YOUR PENCIL TO DRAW HAIR-LIKE SWIPES FROM THE BASE UP IN THE DIRECTION OF YOUR NATURAL EYEBROW HAIR — REMEMBER TO ALWAYS START AT THE FRONT END OF YOUR BROWS. AFTER FILLING IN, BRUSH YOUR EYEBROWS TO BLEND IN THE PRODUCT, BUT ALSO ENSURING A FAR-FROM PERFECT AND MORE NATURAL LOOK.…

Can you think of anything more classic than a row of pearls neatly stacked on a barrette or bobby pin? You can either pin them into your braids or place them on either side of the head for alook that screams “childlike cuteness”! HOW TO WEAR YOUR PEARLS 1. Take your braids from basic to breathtaking by using self-adhesive pearls, as seen at Paris Fashion Week 2020. After braiding your hair, stick the pearls along to create a stunning look. To make it last even longer, spray hi-sheen mist on your hair. 2. More is better. If you are wearing a protective hairstyle, then insert small pearl pins into each cornrow. Actress Ayanda Thabe the showed us how, as did the models at the 2020/2021 Milan Fashion Week. Be sure…

PREP AND PRIME A primer is the most important part of readying your face for make-up application — use it to create a smooth base for your foundation. It will also extend your foundation and concealer’s wear, while smoothing out lines, hiding pores and banishing imperfections. Apply it to thoroughly cleansed skin, and allow it to absorb fully before moving on to a foundation. ALL ABOUT THE BASE Most women make the mistake of choosing a foundation that is either too light or dark. Use your jawline or chest as a testing ground because these areas give a better indication of your undertones. Then, go out into natural light to ensure that it blends right into your skin tone. SLEEK COVERAGE Want your skin to glow, your imperfections to take…

Hard work never killed anyone. It can only usher you into the next phase of your dreams. Self-discipline. This is the single most important trait of every successful entrepreneur. Be committed, and stay true to your dream. Let the vision be bigger than yourself. There is a difference between self-employment and entrepreneurship. The former is when you have urgent needs that need to be fulfilled, whereas the latter means seeing opportunities where others don’t. Always force your way in where you spot opportunities that others may be blind to. Surround yourself with people whose dreams are just as big as yours. You will have a community of people to constantly uplift you when the chips are down. Invest in a mentor or business coach. They will drive you towards your…

Wherever you are on your entrepreneurial journey, it is important to always do a reality check. Ndumo offers the following guidelines: 1. Create an environment where you can do some thinking. It takes a lot of psychological capital to think clearly, and connect the dots. If you do this kind of work, you will develop resiliency that will stand you in good stead on your business journey. It is a crooked path filled with a lot of uncertainty, unpredictability, heartache and soul-searching. But, the rewards are well worth it. 2. Take a moment to reflect on how you got where you currently are. Reflection is only meaningful if it is based on honesty. Be brutally honest with yourself, and take responsibility for the outcomes you are experiencing. 3. Don’t victimise…

I became a caregiver to my parents at a very young age. We lived in the township, and back then, helpers or live-in nurses weren’t a norm. Both my parents suffered from Type 1 diabetes, which meant that they needed insulin. I played the role of a nurse because I assumed that I knew the disease well enough. Little did I know that my turn was coming. Back then, we didn’t have digital machines to helps us gauge blood sugar levels. So, I had to prick them with a needle every morning before breakfast, and use a colour chart to determine the blood sugar levels. My father also suffered from hypertension. This meant that the sodium content in his food had to be lower, but with a bit more sugar…

Children learn about behaviour and relationships from the people around them. Set a good example by looking within yourself first to see what you need to change. This will help you model positive behaviour. Discuss and teach alternative or more appropriate ways to react in difficult situations. Learn about your child’s social life so you can have insight into how they function in different environments. Keep communication open and constant, and maintain the connection. Setting healthy boundaries with your child also teaches them to do this in their own lives with other people.…

LAYERED PAP AND SPINACH Serves: 6–8 Prep Time: 45 mins Ingredients 4 cups mealie meal 2 bunches spinach, chopped 6 cups water 4 Tavocado oil 1 onion, finely chopped 250 g punnet button mushrooms, sliced Sea salt and freshly ground black pepper 2 cups Cheddar cheese, grated Method 1. Pour water in a pot. Add salt and boil. Add 3cups mealie meal, and stir. Close the lid and reduce heat to low. Cook for 5minutes or until pap is slightly thickened. Slowly stir in the remaining mealie meal. Cook for 20 minutes, stirring regularly to avoid lumps. 2. Preheat the oven to 180°C. Coat a large, deep pie dish with cooking spray. Pour pap and smoothen out. 3. Heat oil in a large saucepan, and sauté onion and mushrooms until…

The Newcastle-born Isithembiso actress and model gets all nostalgic by sharing songs that spark lovely memories with her mom — perfect for Mother’s Day. CeCe Winans, His Strength is Perfect This is our favourite! The car just explodes with heart and rainbow emojis after listening to it – very refreshing. Liquideep, Top of the World Together with my mother, sisters and I, we love this song! The lyrics are just so perfect. We always melt to them, making it feel like we’re serenading one another. Toni Braxton and Babyface, Hurt you My mother loves this song so much that I let her take the spotlight whenever it plays; she performs! And, being outgoing and bubbly, she never minds singing alone. – SL…

HUSH PUPPIES We love brands and organisations that make a difference and send a positive message at the same time — and that’s what Hush Puppies® has always been about. Did you know that only 8% of public schools in South Africa have functional libraries? For this reason, Hush Puppies teamed up with the SHOUT Foundation, a philanthropic organisation founded by popular SA artists Danny K and Kabelo Mabalane, as well as Breadline Africa for its 2020 CSI project. The aim is to build libraries where learners can access books, and tackle childhood literacy. The first one opens on 23 April. SHINE THEBE, SHINE! Congratulations to designer Thebe Magugu for successfully staging his debut presentation at Paris Fashion Week, after scooping the prestigious LVMH prize last autumn. The Kimberley-born Thebe…

TIP YES, YOU CAN STICK WITH A MONOTONE TOFFEE COLOUR SCHEME OR BE BOLD AND BREAK IT UP WITH OTHER COLOURS. PAIR A CLASSIC COAT OR JACKET WITH JEANS OR A WHITE SHIRT FOR A SIMPLE, YET STYLISH LOOK.…

BEAUTY EDITOR’S TIP CREATE THE APPEARANCE OF GLOWING SKIN IN THESE FIVE EASY STEPS: STEP ONE: PREP YOUR SKIN WITH AN ILLUMINATING PRIMER TO LEAVE IT WITH A HEALTHY, RADIANT GLOW THAT LASTS ALL-DAY LONG. STEP TWO: REACH FOR A LIQUID HIGHLIGHTER LOTION TO GIVE YOUR COMPLEXION AN ALL-OVER GLOW, AND ACT AS THE BASE FOR THE REST OF YOUR LOOK. STEP THREE: APPLY LIGHTWEIGHT FOUNDATION OR CONCEALER WITH A NATURAL FINISH. STEP FOUR: AMP IT UP WITH A SHIMMERING BRONZER ON YOUR CHEEKS, TEMPLES, SIDES OF YOUR NOSE AND JAWLINE. STEP FIVE: ADD A FINAL BOOST WITH A SPRITZ OF GLOW MIST FOR A NATURAL, DEWY GLOW AND TO EXTEND YOUR MAKE-UP’S WEAR. LUMA ILLUMINATING HIGHLIGHTER, R330, DIOR FOREVER SKIN GLOW FOUNDATION, R880.…

Winter is around the corner, and will wreak havoc on your skin. Even if you use a heavy-duty moisturiser or layer your creams, you can still end up with dull or peeling skin. As the temperature drops, so does the humidity in the air, and this causes dry skin. The solution to all your worries is simple – proper and thorough hydration. No matter what your skin type is, the importance of hydrated skin cannot be understated. Your goal should be to provide your skin with enough nourishment so that it stays hydrated all day. WHAT CAUSES DRY SKIN? Although some women naturally have dry skin, other factors contribute to a dehydrated complexion. These include a change in season, environmental irritants like the sun and pollution, not drinking enough water…

HOW TO MAKE YOUR MAKEUP LAST LONGER STEP 1: EXFOLIATE YOUR SKIN Exfoliation preps your skin for make-up. The smoother the surface, the more evenly you can apply it — and the longer it lasts. Polish away dead surface cells twice a week with a quality exfoliator or scrub. STEP 2: MOISTURISE AND HYDRATE Ever noticed how your make-up starts to collect into fine lines and creases around midmorning? Hydration levels and sebum production fluctuate throughout the day, and causes your skin to look more uneven. But, there are moisturiser, serum and thermal waters that work with your make-up to maintain hydration. STEP 3: SEAL IN MOISTURE Primer seals in your moisturiser and provides an even surface for make-up. It gives your make-up staying power by preventing it from being…

Q: “What are my rights as an employee who feels overwhelmed with the workload because of downsizing, and being told that there’s no budget for extra hands?” Gugulethu Mthalane, attorney and employment specialist at Solomonholmes Employment Law Attorneys, responds: “When a company downsizes its workforce, it is often due to its operational requirements. If the employee, as an alternative to being retrenched, has agreed to new terms and conditions of employment that may entail an additional workload, then the employer is unlikely to sympathise with them. But, if you now have additional work without having agreed to the new terms and conditions of employment, what action can you take? Informal discussion with employer. Try to resolve an employment dispute with your employer amicably before resorting to formal procedures. The parties…

Book that shaped my entrepreneurial journey… Your Road Map For Success by John C. Maxwell. I bought the book en route to my first holiday in Cape Town — it was the first time in five years that I had a weekend to myself. In it, I came across the quote: “Winners know what to give up in order to succeed”. I finished the book as I landed back in Joburg, and felt like a bulb had been switched on in my brain. I sold my house to raise the capital I later used to fund the three residential properties where Imbizo Shisanyama stands today. Book I keep referencing… God Is My CEO: Following God’s Principles in a Bottom-line World by Larry S. Julian. This book is a reminder of…

They say nothing is impossible to a willing heart, right? Coach Corey Wayne, founder of the website UnderstandingRelationships.com shares practical ways of making this unique set-up work. Communicate your priorities upfront. Reassure your partner of your commitment to the relationship, but make him understand that your children will always take first precedence. Set boundaries. Make him aware of things that you won’t allow him, such as meeting the kids until after a certain period. If your partner places you in situations where he expects you to choose between him and the kids, then he may not be the one. If your relationship has advanced to a stage where the two of you are living together or married, have a thorough conversation around whether he is allowed to discipline the children, and…

ANXIETY, stress, strain, concern, confusion . . . As anyone with a child who has attention deficit and hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) will tell you, it can be a difficult thing to get your head around. There’s too much information, too little time to sift through it and a never-ending list of bills, questions and other stressful factors to deal with. That’s why YOU and sister titles Huisgenoot and DRUM are hosting the first conference of its kind in South Africa. We want to help parents who are overwhelmed by everything related to ADHD so they can better help their kids. WHAT WILL IT COVER? This groundbreaking conference will bring together experts in the field of ADHD in two innovative sessions – one aimed at younger kids (12 years and younger),…

FRIED RICE WITH EGG Serves: 4 Prep Time: 40 mins Ingredients 1 cup basmati rice, soaked in water 4 eggs 4 Tavocado oil 1 onion, finely chopped 2 cloves garlic, crushed 1/2 red &yellow peppers each, finely chopped 150 g mushrooms, finely chopped 250 g green beans, finely chopped Salt and freshly ground black pepper 3 cups vegetable stock 1/2 cup white wine Method 1. Heat oil in a large pan. Fry onion, garlic, peppers, mushrooms and green beans on medium heat for 4–5 minutes, stirring constantly. 2. Drain rice and add to the pan. Fry for 5 minutes, stirring regularly. Season with salt and freshly ground black pepper. 3. Add stock and wine, and cook until rice is fluffy and all water is absorbed. 4. In another small frying…

Jojo Abot has a futuristic take on Afro-beats, Jazz, Reggae and Neo-soul — all fused in her unique sound. She was billed to perform at the MTN Bushfire Festival in Eswatini this month, but the annual event was cancelled due to the COVID-19 pandemic. So, she wrote a letter to her fans. Below, are parts of it: “My name is Jojo Abot, and I am a daughter of the African soil; an interdisciplinary artist exploring themes of spirituality, identity and community evolution across mediums. Though not easy, and something that requires an abundance of faith in the unseen, I have been blessed to be led by intuition as well as the silent whispers of my ancestors and universe. At a time when the world seems to be consumed with fear,…

TAURUS 20 APR – 20 MAY Be brave – take the critical steps towards making your dreams a reality – the chase is on. Hold on to what you value. In the first two weeks, follow your bliss. Plan some delicious fun time. Nothing lasts forever, so lap up the blessings. LOVE: Don’t expect to find long-lasting love. A blast from the past can turn your heart upside down. Time to reset your love needs. WORK/MONEY: Practise less spontaneity and do more planning. You want to be revered, but that will require some upskilling. By mid-month, trash the ideas that aren’t working and revert to those that are tried and tested. GEMINI 21 MAY – 20 JUN By mid-month, your ruler ignites your mind. You may have itchy feet, but…

TIP NEVER WORN CHECK BEFORE? NOW IS YOUR CHANCE TO SHINE IN THIS PATTERN. ADD AN ITEM AS SIMPLE AS A SCARF TO YOUR ENSEMBLE OR COMPLETE IT WITH A FLATTERING CHECKED COAT. READY TO TURN HEADS?…

TIP WHITE BOOTS AREN'T DIFFERENT TO ANY OTHER SHOES YOU OWN. BE IT YOUR BLACK PLEATED SKIRT OR SKINNY JEANS, FEEL FREE TO PAIR THEM WITH ANYTHING IN YOUR WARDROBE. NOW, GO ON AND BE YOUR BAD, STYLISH SELF!…

BEAUTY EDITOR’S TIP ONCE YOU’VE FOUND YOUR PERFECT SHADE OF RED, WINE OR PLUM, THE NEXT STEP WILL BE ENSURING THAT YOUR LIPSTICK STAYS IN PLACE THROUGHOUT THE DAY. A RED, OR DARK LIP COLOUR, WILL DRAW ATTENTION TO YOUR LIPS — ENSURE THAT THEY’RE SMOOTH AND NOT FLAKY. TO PREPARE YOUR LIPS, EXFOLIATE THEM WITH A SUGAR SCRUB TO REMOVE ANY DEAD SKIN CELLS. THEN, APPLY A LIP BALM TO MOISTURISE AND HYDRATE THEM. BEFORE APPLYING YOUR RED LIPSTICK, APPLY A LIP LINER TO MAKE SURE THAT YOUR LIPSTICK DOESN’T BLEED OR SMUDGE.…

What gap did you identify in the industry that prompted you to start your agency? While at my previous job, I realised that most agencies didn’t have a real representation of the South African landscape. The majority of consumers today are black, which means that the way we talk to them has to change from neutral to direct. How has your business grown since you started it in 2015? We’ve moved offices three times, and lost a business partner; there’s only two of us now. But, it’s exciting because we have finally figured out how to be a sustainable and profitable business. With each year that has passed, clients have trusted us more while the budgets have increased. To move from small celebrity baby showers to hosting a Bernini event…

Setting foot in Imbizo Shisanyama Busy Corner, in the buzzing township of Tembisa, feels like stepping into the comfort and safety of one’s grandparents’ home. The squeaky-clean setting and nostalgic shisanyama feast the establishment is famous for, are reminders of how it’s, ultimately, the simple things that tug at our heartstrings. As Rita Zwane, or MaZwane as she is affectionately known, answers questions about what keeps patrons coming to her establishment more than 20 years later, one of two gentlemen seated a few feet from our table offers to answer. “This place is a destination. Every Monday, without fail, we drive from afar to come eat here.” A clearly chuffed Zwane describes the gentleman’s response as, “true to her brand premise”. IT WAS ALL A DREAM Zwane vividly recalls working…

Among her list of achievements, Letty Ngobeni can count winning many top awards in property, and even recognition by Munghana Lonene FM as a role model for women in business. But, one of her biggest accomplishments is recovering from the failure of a business. When she decided to buy into a food franchise, Ngobeni felt confident that it would work out. After all, she had had a knack for entrepreneurship for most of her life. “My entrepreneurial journey started early, where I sold chicken feet at school and in the community. As a teacher, I had a side job selling magwinya (vetkoek) and plastic salad bowls, and established a backyard vegetable garden where I sold produce to the community,” she shares. Yet, despite her experience, financial acumen and strong work…

Mpho Moemise, 47, Africa Head of Communications and Engagement “My husband has three boys, and I have two girls and a boy. We met eight years ago. Today, we have a perfectly blended family where my hubby is an amazing dad to all six of our brood — you can’t tell which kids are ‘his’ or ‘mine’. Was it an easy road? It definitely wasn’t. But, we loved each other enough to realise that being together meant that we had to embrace one another wholly. Love is a choice. You can’t choose to love someone and not love certain aspects about them that don’t suit you. After all, kids do not ask to be in the circumstances they usually find themselves in when their biological parents separate.”…

Make the distinction between your child and their behaviour. It is the behaviour that is bad, not them. So, address the behaviour. Show them that bullying is a serious matter. Do not brush it off or let it go. Discuss it, and find meaningful punishment or a consequence that matches the crime. Take away privileges for a specified period of time. Ban TV or video game time and halt outings with friends. Help them understand why you’re doing this. However, only withhold privileges for a short time, otherwise kids lose interest and stop trying. The punishment then loses effect. Make things right. According to the Child Mind Institute, your child needs to understand that they made a mistake that needs to be fixed. They can apologise in person, a letter,…

André Venter recently retired as the academic head of the department of paediatrics and child health at the University of the Free State (UFS). He’s received several lifetime achievement awards for his contribution to education and child neurology and development. His specialities include child development, with a focus on cerebral palsy, ADHD, autism and learning difficulties. Magdel Pretorius has been a psychologist for more than 12 years. She’s worked with primary and high school children in the public and private sectors. This mother of three has first-hand experience of what it takes to shift parenting approaches when dealing with different personalities and complex situations. Clinical psychologist Nadene Harisunker obtained a master’s degree in anthropology. She has a special interest in severe psychopathology and working with it to understand and develop…

What is your earliest food memory? Growing up in Tembisa, my dad was the one who did all the cooking in our home. My mom passed on when I was young. My earliest food memory has to be the sunny side-up eggs that he would prepare on Saturdays. How did you break into the food industry? I was forced to work at a young age, and my first gig was waitressing. One day, my boss asked me to replace a kitchen staff member who was absent. That breakthrough, was the beginning of my journey in cooking. I also use social media platforms to learn more about cooking, and plan to attain a qualification in the culinary arts. What is your signature dish? Creamy chicken pasta. What food style do you…

Movies FAST & FURIOUS 9 RELEASE DATE: 22 MAY Dominic “Dom” Toretto (Vin Diesel) goes head to head with his brother, Jakob (John Cena), in the ninth sequel of this movie. Family, history, action and speed see Dom caught between his love for family and justice, and protecting those he loves. Will he kill his long-lost brother to protect the crew? – LL THE SECRET GARDEN RELEASE DATE: 8 MAY 2020 This British fantasy drama reveals the secrets of a remote Yorkshire country estate. Mary Lennox (Dixie Egerickx) is a 10-year-old orphaned girl forced to live with her uncle, Archibald Craven (Colin Firth). She discovers a secret garden with her cousin, Collin Craven (Edan Hayhurst), and it changes their lives. – LL Stream NOUGHTS + CROSSES BINGE FROM: 16 APRIL…