Innholdsfortegnelse for January 2018 i NEXT

We’re not always great at being kind to ourselves It’s all about you Are you sitting comfortably? Got your cup of tea/glass of something cool and refreshing? Good, then we’ll begin. We need to talk about you. Yes, you. I hope the sun is shining on you right now. I hope nobody is bothering you about making them a snack/ finding their togs/catering to a party of 12 they’ve just invited round on the spur of the moment. I hope you’re not trying to multi-task reading this magazine with, well, anything. This moment is for you, and you deserve it. Does that make you feel uncomfortable? Women are very good at being kind to others. If I had a dollar for every smart, successful woman I’ve met who has gone…

I can’t seem to go back to eating animal products... Why? I feel better. I feel lighter A year ago when I was trawling the ‘What’s the healthiest diet that will improve everything in my life and make me live until 150’ food websites, I read an article by food author Michael Pollen. Pollen had studied the healthiest people on the planet and their diets. His conclusion was brilliant, pithy and is now stuck on my fridge: “Eat food, not too much, mostly plants”. I’m a red-blooded meat lover from way back. I do the best roast lamb ever, and I cannot walk by a good sausage roll. I eat the fat from a chop, even a cold one. When I was pregnant I would roast just meat, stare at…

‘AT 4 O’ CLOCK IN THE MORNING, THERE’S A LOT OF LAUGHTER AND SINGING [ON SET]’ ‘TO CRY ON NATIONAL TV WAS HARD. BUT THE RESPONSE WAS HUMBLING. BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE GIVING THEIR HONEST STORIES’ ‘THE HARDEST THING SOMEONE EVER SAID TO ME WAS “YOU DON’T UNDERSTAND BECAUSE YOU’RE NOT A MUM”’ When you google ‘Amanda Gillies’, the results point to a story from Three’s The AM Show that screened last May. Presenter Duncan Garner was interviewing a fertility expert when the chat turned personal and both newsreader Amanda and co-host Mark Richardson opened up about their individual fertility struggles. Despite a journalism career that spans almost two decades, it’s this five minutes of television that currently define her. (It should come as no surprise that the story doesn’t appear…

They’re the easiest choice in the world What’s an easy choice for looking like I’ve made an effort? Grab a dress. There’s something about dresses that just make you seem ‘dressed up’. They’re also the easiest choice in the world; no finding the right top or bottom, no coming untucked; dress them up or dress them down. The top tip here is to find one that suits your shape – if you’re straight up and down, look for one that has shape; if you’re pear shaped choose a strong neckline and something that gently flares at the hip. Top heavy? Look for shape but avoid anything with too much cinching at the waist (eg if it has a tie belt, try tying at the rear). Tip Pair dresses with bold…

DR FRANCES PITSILIS SKINFRESH, MEDICAL AND COSMETIC CLINIC Dr Frances Pitsilis owns Skinfresh, a medical and cosmetic clinic in Milford on Auckland’s North Shore. There, the emphasis is on treating internal health as well as appearance. This often looks at nutrition, supplements dietary intake and balancing hormones. ‘60 IS THE NEW 40 AND WOMEN WANT TO REMAIN HIGH FUNCTIONING.THEY WANT TO LOOK AND FEEL GOOD’ FAREWELL FAT From suction to lasers to injections – the fight against fat continues. Forget extreme diets and rigorous exercise; last year New Zealand received access to laser technology called TruSculpt 3D that targets fat cells and destroys them. Now – in what could be the biggest launch of 2018 – there is an injection that dissolves fat cells. Known in the US as Kybella,…

FOR HIM Give his grooming routine a natural kick with HUNTER ESSENTIALS KIT, $115. Created out of natural ingredients, like macrobiotic sea minerals, cold-pressed oils and extracts, actives, vitamins and antioxidants, this range not only smells handsome but looks great on the bathroom counter too. FOR THE LITTLE ONES Wash their sandy, salty bodies and hair with WELEDA’S KIDS 2IN1 SHAMPOO AND BODY WASH RANGE, $16, which is available in three great fragrances: Very Vanilla, Lively Lime and Happy Orange. Hydrating and cleansing, these products are also gentle on sensitive skin, vegan, and can be used by all – big kids have been known to love them as well (plus they’re a great travel size). DIVINELY HER With a botanically-sourced lactic gel to support the skin’s resurfacing process, this organic…

You might not own an island bolthole, but you can recreate the Vanuatu vibe with these Pasifika-inspired pieces Create your own island haven this summer with a sophisticated tropical theme. Gone are the days of washed out blues, sandpaper scrubbed timber and nautical stripes with rope detailing. Update your wooden finishes with a whitewash or black lacquer, and throw around some contrasting graphic accessories. For a modern monochrome palette, use natural fabrics like cotton and linens. There are great cushion options out there, but why not try re-covering a small pair of chairs? Select clean lines in your large items like sofas and tables. And give them a lounged-in feel by using a loose linen cover or raw timbers. Loose covers also give you the freedom to choose a lighter…

FAILURE IS JUST A THING THAT HAPPENS AND IT DOESN’T HAVE TO BE THIS MASSIVE SETBACK WHY WOMEN FIND IT HARD TO LIVE AN AUTHENTIC LIFE There is a lot expected of us on a daily basis, from the ground level of our families – whether those are›our parents or our spouses or our children – all›the way up through our colleagues or employers and then the world at large, which of course puts a›lot of emphasis on how a woman should look and act and talk and dress. That often deviates quite a bit from what one’s authentic self might be, so there’s a›lot of pressure to conform to an ideal, whether that’s›a mother or an employee or just as a›woman in›the world. Defining success Identify your WNDs –…

Turkey & herb salad with palm sugar dressing 200g bean thread vermicelli 2 tsp vegetable oil 500g leftover roast turkey meat, shredded 2 Lebanese cucumbers (260g), cut into matchsticks 1 large carrot (180g), cut into matchsticks 250g cherry tomatoes, sliced 1 small red onion (100g), sliced thinly 1 cup loosely packed fresh coriander leaves 1 cup loosely packed fresh mint leaves ¹/₃ cup (25g) fried Asian shallots ²/₃ cup (90g) unsalted roasted peanuts, chopped coarsely 2 fresh long red chillies, seeded, sliced thinly PALM SUGAR DRESSING 6 fresh coriander roots, trimmed, chopped coarsely 4 cloves garlic, chopped 2 tsp sea salt flakes ²/₃ cup (180g) grated palm sugar 2 Tbsp fish sauce ½ cup (125ml) red wine vinegar ²/₃ cup (160ml) extra virgin olive oil ²/₃ cup chopped fresh coriander…

It’s as if we’re being enfolded into is place WAINAMU LUXURY TENTS BETHELLS BEACH, AUCKLAND We’re sitting in a car park, waiting to meet Jim, who’s going to take us to our home for the night. We’ve been to Bethells Beach (Te Henga) on Auckland’s west coast before and fallen for its relaxed charm. This time, we’re visiting on a Wednesday, so the roads are quiet without the usual throngs who flock to the beach on summer weekends. In the car park just past the bridge, I begin to hear the humming of an engine getting louder. In the wing mirror of our car, I spot an old mustard-brown truck with open sides. It’s pulling out from a road just on the other side of the bridge. ‘Wainamu’ is…

Never date a man who says they’re ‘practically separated’ It’s one thing to trust your new man when he pledges not to wear sandals and socks in public. It’s another to trust him when he assures you that his wife is ‘totally happy’ about getting divorced. The first time I hear this I choose to believe it, in the same way that you believe a horoscope when it promises financial success. The second time, I can’t help noticing that Mr Stable is twiddling his unruly hair – a sure sign that he’s nervous – and that he can’t quite meet my eye. The third time he says it, he’s towering over the stove in my miniature kitchen, cooking risotto. This time his assurance is upgraded, but unfortunately it reminds me less…

IT’S GIVEN ME A NEW FEELING OF SECURITY TO DISCOVER A FRIENDSHIP CAN SURVIVE CONFLICT In zoology there is a concept called the Five Chimps Theory. You can predict the mood and behaviour patterns of any chimp by which five chimps they hang out with the most. I know we’re humans, but still. Choose your five chimps carefully. I have some chimps who think it’s always champagne o’clock and say “It’s a dead soldier” when they finish a bottle of chardonnay. I have other chimps who want to argue about Foucault and economic policy. I have chimps who read Best Bets. I have chimps who make me laugh until I think I’m going to wee myself. And sometimes do, a little bit. What the hey. I have Facebook chimps whose…

1 Catch a wave – using a child’s boogie board counts! 2. Swim under the stars. 3. Finish a book. 4. Go to an outdoor movie screening. 5. Have a proper sleep in. 6. Go camping (or glamping). 7. Arrange a long lunch with friends, somewhere with a great view. 8. Rearrange the furniture (and add a few summery pieces) for a room refresh. 9. Order fish and chips and eat them straight from the paper on the way to the beach. 10. Stock up on goodies at a farmers’ market for a picnic lunch. 11. Go to a live music event. 12. Download a meditation app. 13. Actually use the meditation app. 14. Eat more fruit, especially if it has ‘melon’ in the name. 15. Do an activity you’ve…

‘We’d love to have a family. Mike is very excited by the prospect of children’ There are two very different Chelsea Winters, at least according to her husband. There is the one we all know – the wholesomely pretty MasterChef winner and successful cookbook author. That’s the Auckland version of Chelsea. She lives in an airy modern townhouse filled with Scandi-style furniture and leafy pot plants, and the sorts of words you might use to describe her are clean-living, focused and hardworking. But come summer, as soon as she gets to her favourite beach on Great Barrier Island another Chelsea emerges. One she cheerfully admits is “rough-as-guts”. “Barrier Chelsea never washes her hair because she’s in the sea all day and it goes crazy and dreadlocked. She’s brown and she…

AndreaYearsley, 49, is a nail therapist and a property investor. She lives in Auckland with her husband Ralph, son Bailey and their dog and ‘fur baby’, Macy. Maree Spring, 58, is a personal trainer for Look Better Naked, for all-women team training groups, and trains all the women in this story. She lives in Auckland with her husband, Paddy. Anthea Baker, 52, is a home stager, who prepares homes before they’re sold. She lives in Auckland with her fiancé Freddy. Between the two of them, they have four boys ranging from 21 to 28. Kate Barlow, 41, works in public relations in the financial services sector. She lives on Auckland’s North Shore. She’s been training with Maree for several years. Sarah Murray, 33, is the deputy editor of NEXT. She lives in Auckland with her husband Andrew and one-year-old son Rafferty. When the holidays are…

Capricorn DEC 23 – JAN 20 ELEMENT: Earth KEY WORDS: ‘I achieve’ GEMSTONE: Garnet RULED BY: Saturn POSITIVE: Ambitious, humorous, loyal, gregarious NEGATIVE: Cautious, old-fashioned, calculating, cool OVERVIEW: UP-TEMPO TIME A lot happens for you at the start of 2018. Your ruling planet Saturn has entered your sign, bringing a steady hand to everything you undertake. In March your social scene expands into a new network. RELATIONSHIPS You may not admit it but you can be quite a party animal. January will be a bit of a blur. Things slow in February, leaving you unsettled. An attractive newcomer will soon fix it. Travel is likely in September. MONEY An opportunity comes along in the first quarter of 2018 that feels like a revelation. Grasp it with both hands. July ushers…

Got a tummy you hate? Or legs you don’t love? Distraction is one of the best styling tricks around. Great accessories like belts, scarves, jewellery, bright shoes, sunglasses and bags – even bright lipstick; all of these can be used to distract the eye away from the body part you’re not so keen on. Go for colour and wear these away from the area you want to hide.…

1 PLUMP IT UP Each gorgeous lip shade contains precious oils to deliver hydration, antioxidants and anti-ageing effects for a softer, fuller pout. 2 MAX OUT You get so much bang for your buck with these lippies priced to please. 3 NATURAL ATTRACTION With no added nasties, these lipsticks are almost good enough to eat. 4 LUSH & LUXE Get that pillow effect with these super-luxe lippies with bold colour in an ultra-creamy formulation. Tip Opt for a pared-back eye to make your lips pop…

Say goodbye to straightened hair and high-maintenance colour – this summer it’s all about effortless style. The look for the summer is set to echo early 70s LA – à la Stevie Nicks and Farrah Fawcett – with textured hair, lots of movement and lived-in colour making for an easy transition from brunch to beach to bar without the hassle of having to touch up your ‘do in-between. EFFORTLESS SUMMER STYLE Gene Cooksley, founder and director of Takapuna’s salon Oscar and Co, says he’s excited about a strong trend towards fluffy textures and movement for the summer of 2018. “From a stylist point of view, it gives you the ability to create natural, effortless ‘I just woke up like this’ hair.” This is perfect for those of us who naturally…

Amaranth nut bread 1½ cups amaranth flakes ½ cup sunflower seeds ½ cup pepitas ½ cup mixed nuts, crushed if large nuts are used 3 Tbsp psyllium husks 100g flaxseed meal 1 tsp sea salt 3 Tbsp macadamia oil 1 Tbsp raw honey (optional) 350ml filtered water 1 Place amaranth, seeds, nuts, psyllium, flaxseed and salt in a bowl and mix to combine. Stir oil, honey and water in a small saucepan on stove on low heat until honey is dissolved. Mix into dry ingredients. Place mix in a loaf tin lined with baking paper and let bread rest for 2 hours. 2 Bake in a preheated oven at 160°C for 45 minutes, then remove from tin and bake on a tray for an additional 30 minutes. Bread should sound…

DINING IN STYLE Fans of the movie classic Breakfast at Tiffany’s can now truly breakfast at the iconic jewellers with the opening of the Blue Box Café at the flagship Fifth Avenue store. Decked out in Tiffany’s signature robin egg blue and with views over Central Park, the café serves breakfast – including coffee and croissants à la Holly Golightly’s breakfast of choice – lunch, and a Tiffany Tea. Celebrating in style The Farm at Cape Kidnappers is celebrating its 10th birthday. The luxury Hawke’s Bay lodge has 24 suites with views over the countryside and ocean, and if the spa and world-class golf course aren’t enough to keep you occupied, the Farm is also home to the Cape Sanctuary – the largest privately-owned wildlife restoration…

‘If time and money were no object, what would you do NEXT?’ “Stop work; make our current house a holiday home for people who can’t afford holidays; write my memoirs; do a PhD; travel; contribute to charities.” Paula, 60+, Ida Valley, Central Otago “Buy or build a house for myself, plus one each for my two sons.” Drina, 40-59, Auckland “Teach art classes and spiritual life balance classes. I would build a centre in a nature area and make it an affordable retreat where people of both genders and all ages, come to rest and revive.” Gina, 40-59, Auckland “Learn Te Reo, learn to cook Italian food, work out every day, and travel with my whanau.” Gwen, 40-59, Hamilton “We would buy a brand new motor home and travel around NZ first and…

My typical day… My working week is so varied as I’m self-employed, but there are some regular features to each week. I teach yoga classes at Positive Balance on Auckland’s North Shore and I have my radio show on a Saturday at Radio Live. Outside of that the days are filled up with the kids and their routines. After dropping the two big kids at school I always go for a walk with the baby to fit some exercise in, then I’ll often have a coffee with girlfriends before heading home and figuring out my daily priorities. I write them down to make sure I don’t get off track (social media and replying to emails is a shocker for this). I’ve had to become very focused and clear in my…

 Depression stole large chunks of my life. I was unable to work, leave the house or look after myself. Learning to manage my depression only started when I began to practise self-care. Today, when I incorporate ways to look after myself, I feel much better for it. When we put our needs first, we support the things that really matter But it is difficult to prioritise my needs. I detest the internal dialogue that starts when I take time out for myself; it highlights all the other things I should be doing or people I could be spending time with. We’ve all been there – we agree to do something for someone then instantly regret it, resulting in feelings of resentment. Instead of saying ‘No, sorry, I can’t,’ we put the…

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1 ADD SOME HEIGHT You know what they say? Add an inch, take off a pound – and even after all these years it still rings true. A good pair of heels that are at least 6cm high, will immediately help your figure. If your legs are one of your best assets you can opt for a bright heel to draw attention to nice ankles. But to really get the slimmest looking legs, opt for a nude pair of heels as this will further elongate your leg. 2 SHOW SOME SKIN UP TOP A V-neck should be your new best friend. Almost like an optical illusion, the upside down triangle of a V-neck helps to create a focal point that is up and away from your midsection. In short, your…

Lancôme will transport you to a dreamy, flower-filled paradise A rose by any other name… A divine gel infused with rose petals to hydrate skin, the Lancôme Absolue Precious Cells Revitalizing Rose Mask, $206, will transport you to a dreamy, flower-filled paradise. Use weekly, for all skin types. OH MICKEY! This holiday season buy someone you love the highly coveted Kiehl’s Creme de Corps collaboration with Mickey Mouse, $98. This limited edition cult favourite will keep skin soft, smooth and hydrated and is sure to become a collectable. Alternatively, you can choose the unique designs from UK graphic artist Kate Moross and add a work of art to the bathroom shelf. SHE’S BACK! LOCKING IN MOISTURE FOR DRY SKIN,THE ELIZABETH ARDEN VISIBLE DIFFERENCE REFINING MOISTURE CREAM COMPLEX, $70, HAS BEEN…

a IS FOR ALCOHOL Forget waiting until Dry July, now is a better time than ever to ditch the bottle. Wellness guru Dr Libby Weaver is an advocate of drinking less, with even moderate amounts of alcohol consumption linked to an increased risk of cancer. Other health benefits of giving up the booze include lower cholesterol, improved blood pressure and a reduction in liver fats, and even limiting how much you drink will lower your risk of heart disease, stroke and type 2 diabetes. We know those mid-week wines aren’t good for the liver, and your head won’t thank you for it the next morning. No way, rosé. b IS FOR BE PREPARED Do you think your biological clock is ticking but you’re not sure how fast? You’re just one…

Real, in-the-flesh boyfriends are usually accountants, yarn artists or vegan activists “Speak into my good ear,” I asked daughter Sophia. We were out for our usual Friday night dinner. She passed me a water glass. “Give it to my good arm,” I said. My right arm is so sore. “It’s because you go around holding it up, linked through the arm of your imaginary boyfriend.” My younger man isn’t real, apparently. He is a figment of my imagination. “And I’m getting really sick of you making me sit in the backseat of the car,” she complained. Sophia was just messing with me – she does this a lot, changing my ring tone to a recording of me snoring, etc (if I’d bought her a pony that time she might not…