My older brother Tim was the lovable black sheep of the family. He refused to dress up, even for formal events, and always sported oversize aviator glasses and a bushy mustache, as if his personal style were stuck in the 1970s. Despite his appearance, though, he was a real softie. He never married or had children, but he treated my twin daughters as if they were his own. When he passed away in 2013, at age 56, from lung cancer, we were all devastated. I couldn’t help but wonder: Was Tim watching over us from heaven, still marching to the beat of his own drum?
One evening, two years after his death, my husband, kids and I were gathered on the couch to watch something on Netflix. We couldn’t agree…