Seek someone who considers themselves to be a fellow learner and who explores their own life and family.
Seek someone who will challenge you to find your true self, which you may have lost in marriage, parenting, or career. They will challenge you to be your appropriate size, which you may have compromised to fit in or be loved and accepted.
They may help you trim down your size after you expanded into bullying behaviour during periods of self-doubt.
Seek someone who knows therapy sessions focus on process, including reactivity, rigidity, fusions, cut-offs, triangulations, over-functioning, and under-functioning, rather than just content.
Seek someone who helps you identify and clarify your helpful and unhelpful attitudes and behaviours so you may gain clarity and self-awareness, pathways to personal responsibility, blame avoidance, and…