Innholdsfortegnelse for July - August 2021 i Fairlady

Most of us have spent more time with our partners in the past year than we ever have before. Let’s be frank – we are tired of each other. Even the strongest relationships have felt the strain. Now, as restrictions have eased, this is the perfect opportunity to take stock and give your relationship some badly needed TLC. Ask what you both want from your relationship from now on It’s time to start talking about how you want your relationship to look in future. What did you like about the past year? What, ideally, would you change? Invite your partner to share their views honestly. Sit down together. Rather than saying, ‘This is what I want,’ be interested in what the other person has to say. Discover what you can…

AVOID Carbs (pasta, rice, bread): It’s widely believed that carbs help you sleep, but the opposite may be true, Dale says. ‘Carbohydrates might bring you down a little bit, but if your meal is high in carbs, it also means it’s high in sugar – and that would not be good at the end of the day.’ Coffee: Depending on your own caffeine sensitivity, caffeine can stay in your system for about six hours. It’s advisable not to have too much caffeine or other stimulants after 2 pm, and generally not to drink too much coffee throughout the day. ‘You don’t really need more than two cups per day,’ Dale says. ‘Even if you’re someone who boasts that you can have a double espresso just before bed, be careful: you…

RESPECT, SISTER Catherine Warburton started practising in the field of environmental law in 1997, before the subject matter was acknowledged as being as critical as we now know it to be. She was awarded Best Lawyer in Environmental Law in South Africa for four years running by bestlawyers.com, based solely on peer review. She has also been recognised in Chambers Global as a Band One Environmental Lawyer in South Africa for a number of years. In her 2013 LLM thesis, ‘Evaluating South African EIA processes in the Context of the Gautrain Project’, she proposed changes to environmental impact assessment processes for large infrastructure projects developed through public-private partnerships. She graduated cum laude. Unlike many, she factors the on-site and neighbouring human community into the sustainability solution too. ‘In the early…

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‘I slept with a grounded wire for a couple of nights. With instantly improved sleep and reduced pain, I knew I was onto something.’ A good friend messaged me about grounding, also known as earthing, early this year: ‘Pretty amazing and well worth checking out,’ he enthused. ‘Many health benefits. I’ve been spending as much time barefoot as possible and feel better for it.’ A Google search revealed a vast alternative health movement, with websites for everything from a 2010 book (Earthing: The Most Important Health Discovery Ever? by Clinton Ober, Stephen Sinatra and Martin Zucker) to a 2019 documentary (The Earthing Movie by Josh and Rebecca Tickell), a fullon Earthing Institute in the US (earthinginstitute.net), and earthing products available even here in South Africa (groundlive.co.za). All centre on a…

Avisit to Abelana River Lodge not only does you enormous good but it also does good for the community and the wildlife. One of the newest game lodges in the country, Abelana is built on land that was returned to the Mashishimale community after a successful land rights claim. For a while the community leased the land to a hunting operation, but it’s now run by an experienced hospitality team who revamped the old hunting lodge completely to create luxurious accommodation. They added a swimming pool with a glorious view over the Selati River, and 20 bedroom suites discreetly spread along the river bank. The meals are fabulous, with a breakfast buffet and hot choices to order, a light lunch, afternoon tea and a four-course dinner. After nightcaps around the…

There’s so much sky at Grootbos that your soul starts to lift almost as soon as you arrive. You don’t watch the sunset so much as feel you’re actually in it. Paradoxically, all that sky also makes you feel more grounded – and grounded is an excellent thing to feel because you’ll want to get as close to the remarkable fynbos in the reserve as you can. At least 860 plant species have been identified at Grootbos, seven of which were first discovered in the reserve. Grootbos Forest Lodge is surrounded by fynbos, but because of the all the light, space and glass it feels as though you’re floating above it. There are 16 luxurious suites, and getting to your room is magical in itself: you walk down a meandering…

When we arrived, there was a penguin at the gate – not a surprise, since Tintswalo at Boulders Boutique Villa is right in the centre of the wellknown colony of African penguins in Simon’s Town. And I know why the penguin felt at home because we did too: as you walk through the front door, you feel yourself relax. Sipping our welcome drinks, we listened to the sound of the sea and the penguins as they settled down for the night while we watched a spectacular sunset. Top-class chefs prepared the set three-course meal for later (I love not having to choose from a menu!) as we enjoyed canapés around the fire. The Villa offers nine double suites, each with a glorious view of the rocky coastline and the sea…

Wtoelcome to walk YOURSELF fit with FAIRLADY Are you ready to stride your way to a slimmer silhouette, step up your energy levels and surpass your fitness goals? Well, all you have to do is put one foot in front of the other with FAIRLADY’s six-week walking workout programme and healthy meal plan. Walking is one of the best forms of exercise there is. Any able-bodied person can do it – anywhere – and because it’s low-impact, it’s easy on your joints and your risk of injury is low. This at-home workout programme is suitable for every fitness level, and gives you everything you need to trim centimetres off your waist, plus sculpt and tone your figure if you want to take it to the next level. You ll receive weekly…

TRAIN YOUR BRAIN Research on cognitive brain training shows that you can improve mental functioning, according to neuroscience researcher Rita Hitching. Brain imaging studies show that the brain’s overall performance starts to decline in your mid-30s. As the brain ages, there’s visible shrinkage in the hippocampus, an area associated with memory. There’s also a reduction in the level of available glucose – the essential metabolic fuel for the brain. Science says there are many ways to train your brain; here are a few to start with: ◗ KEEP MOVING Exercise is vital. In fact, any activity that raises your heart rate increases blood flow to the brain. Exercise increases the release of brain-derived neurotrophic factor (BDNF), which is important for brain function. ◗ GET A GOOD NIGHT’S SLEEP Research suggests…

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The solution to Brainteaser 173 is on the opposite page. Turn to page 184 for entry details. ACROSS 1. Ran (of liquid) 4. Enticing 7. Temperature unit 10. Oscar-winner, Diane … 13. Feared alpine slippages 15. Vitamin, dietary … 17. Wrinkle 19. Sagas 21. Fluid-filled pouches 23. Insurance examiner 25. Secret (phone number) 28. Quell 29. Largest desert 30. City, … Paulo 32. Draws back (in horror) 36. Cash point (1,1,1) 37. Young kangaroos 38. Increase 40. Seafood creature 42. Vibrate 44. Alehouses 45. Bed-base cover 46. Now, at …! 47. Lyrical verse 49. Excruciating (pain) 51. Snake, king … 53. Stardom 54. Ladder rung 55. Norwegian municipality 56. Huge 57. Earthquake focus 60. Appears again (2-7) 65. Yellow fruit 66. Saluted with drink 68. White … sheet (2,1) 69.…

I’m guessing that, ultimately, it’s losing the fear of death that gives you freedom. Don’t tell anyone, but I’m not there yet,’ wrote motorbike adventurer Veronica Feeling in an early missive from her solo circumnavigation of the world. Wearing a canary-yellow biker suit and a long blonde wig, Feeling completed a loop through 22 European countries before heading east, roaring her turquoise Honda VFR750 across some of the world’s most inhospitable regions, from Vladivostok to South Korea, Los Angeles to Tennessee. Fifty thousand miles and two years later it appears the rootless adventurer finally achieved the liberation she alluded to in Berlin. In a stunt-turned-suicide, Feeling was filmed riding her Honda into the Hudson River wearing concrete boots – the ‘final splash’ in her epic journey. ‘It seemed to many…

Ana de Armas is the kind of actress – the kind of person – people decide they must make room for. For example, her character in the anxiously anticipated 25th film in the James Bond series, No Time to Die, didn’t exist when the director, Cary Joji Fukunaga, offered it to her – he just knew he wanted her in the film. So he wrote a character especially for her. ‘Cary called me to say this character doesn’t exist yet in the script but he kept thinking about me and would write it for me,’ Ana says. And he did – he came up with a kick-ass CIA agent named Paloma, a role the 33-year-old played with aplomb. Perhaps it’s her determination, her laser-like focus, that people pick up on.…

‘Only when children are able to grow up outside of the shadow of poverty and violence, with equal opportunities to progress in their lives regardless of their race, class or gender, will we be able to say we have made some of the advances that our Constitution envisages.’ RESPECT, SISTER IN2015, the State Security Agency jammed mobile telecommunications signals and prevented the televising of the EFF’s violent protests in parliament during the president’s State of the Nation Address. Judge Daniel Dlodlo, a veteran of the High Court, dismissed the application challenging it, but Judge Kate Savage, who had just been appointed to the High Court in 2014, bravely dissented. She found the measures in the governing policy unconstitutional and that, because the jamming had been done without the permission of…

The signs were there right from the start. After two months in the job my face broke out in sores: impetigo, caused by stress. Then came a series of paralysing neck spasms. There were periods of thriving, thinking, I’ve got this! Only to be plunged back into a Sisyphean cycle of trying harder yet somehow feeling even more of a failure. People were retrenched; the workload trebled. Then again. Then again. The company made concessions for an ever more demanding client, and the workload just kept growing. What did I do to cope? I took on even more work to show I was up to the task (I wasn’t). Then one day I started sobbing at my desk for no apparent reason and I couldn’t stop. The urge to flee…

I had been to Babylonstoren before, strolling through the gardens and eating lunch at the Greenhouse, but I had barely scratched the surface. The first thing that tipped me off was the wine tasting at the end of our cellar tour. Each of the 10 Babylonstoren wines was paired with a complementary snack: macadamias (from the farm) to go with the crisp Sprankel MCC, lemon-zested buffalo mozzarella (from the farm) to go with the oaked Chardonnay, charcuterie and biltong (from the farm) to go with the reds… I’m sensing a theme here. Our evening drive to the Clouds, a lookout point with glorious views of the farm, as well as the next day’s garden tour, confirmed my suspicions: there’s very little that doesn’t grow on this farm. The 3,5-hectare garden…

I have never been a fan of road trips, so I was surprised at how much I enjoyed the three-hour drive from Cape Town to Bushmans Kloof – partly thanks to the playlist we’d excitedly curated beforehand, but also the scenery unfolding before us: the gorgeous landscape starting to buckle and bend into the Cederberg. The hotel itself looks out on sun-baked cliffs, and is a refuge fitted out with an artful mix of luxurious South African colonial and African design. We were welcomed like royalty by friendly and professional staff who pride themselves on their excellent service: it really is a place where no request is too large, no detail too small. Fine dining is one of the many joys Bushmans Kloof has on offer. Every meal is prepared…

‘I went through a second adolescence, one in which I became a kind of heat-seeking missile for the exact opposite of what I’d had before: intensity, breaking taboos.‚ I am alone in a hotel room. I am pacing, barefoot, adjusting my tootight black minidress. In a few minutes, a man is going to arrive. A very tall, very muscular Italian man covered from head to toe in tattoos. And we are going to… Well, actually, in that tense, charged, excited-scared-wild moment, my imagination has short-circuited. I know what we’ve discussed, but somehow my brain can’t quite comprehend what is actually about to happen. We’re going to f**k, that much is certain, but this isn’t really about that, per se. No. This is no ordinary rendezvous between lovers… This is about…

We’re looking for impactful, resilient, inspiring women entrepreneurs in South Africa who inspire with their vision and success. If you recently started a new business, have been running your own business for a while – or know a woman who has – we want to hear from you! There are fabulous prizes to be won, of course, but what we really want to do is celebrate and promote women who have what it takes to change the economy – and the future – of our country for the better. Santam understands that the first 1 000 days of running a business are the hardest. If you’re still in business by day 1 001, you’re in it for the long haul. Because Santam has been supporting women in business for years,…

Tata Harper skincare and facial There’s no greenwashing in the fantastic skincare brand that bears Tata Harper’s name: all the products are grown, tested, bottled and batched on her organic farm in Vermont in the US. They contain no toxins, fillers, chemicals or artificial fragrances (the latter deserves a special mention because the products smell amazing). The packaging, down to the ink on the boxes (made of recycled paper from sustainable forests), is entirely natural. There’s nothing tricksy about her ingredients either – vitamins A and C, peptides and so on – but there’s definitely magic in the way they’re put together. Speaking of magic, I would recommend shamelessly blagging, begging or nagging your way to a Tata Harper facial, for now only available at Red Carnation Hotels in Africa:…

CANADIAN TUXEDO For a more sophisticated take on the denim-on-denim look, add a tailored check blazer. CUTE TO BOOT Don’t hide your cute new booties under a boot-cut-style ir of pants. These straight-legged jeans with big turn-ups show off this season’s suede ankle boots with aplomb. A sophisticated neutral denim coat rounds off the look. THAT ‘70s SHOW These high-waisted neutral flares are giving us such a strong ’70s vibe – you might as well lean into the look and pair it with a retroinspired marble-print jersey! Too over the top? Team it with a neutral top instead. BACK TO BLACK Denim on denim also works in shades of black – pair a dark wash with a faded one for a less matchy-matchy look. A cosy knit adds a layer…

DELONGHI (KH770920CB) R1 899; TAFELBERG, TAKEALOT, 1 800–2 000 W, 9 FINS This heater gave an outstanding performance. It was the fastest to heat the room in our tests and maintained a steady warmth, offering the best combination of output and efficiency. It delivered an immediate temperature increase that built steadily and evenly across the room. It also retained its heat the longest after the heater was switched off. The controls are intuitive and worked well on all three settings, with a noticeable difference in temperature. The thermostat has multiple heat settings for customisation. The ComforTemp setting saves energy by automatically maintaining an optimal room temperature, which is great for smaller spaces. The heater is heavier and bulkier that some of the others, but the robust build makes it unlikely…

Doodle SPOT ACROSS 1. Sprouting process 9. Adapting to stage play 15. Slant 16. Mobile phone company 17. Dessert, … brûlée 19. Clergyman 21. Respond to stimulus 22. Also-ran 23. Bye! 24. Former US president, Barack … 25. Seaweed-and-rice roll 27. Eyelid swelling 29. Western alliance 31. Privileged few 33. Severe (illness) 35. Removed 38. Long firearm 40. Sharp twinge 42. Jewelled crown 43. Baking agent 44. Scroungers 46. Snatch 48. Olympic award 49. District 50. Sicilian volcano 51. All … on deck 53. Suspends 55. Indian bread 56. Consecrates as priest 58. Part exchange (5-2) 61. Battery size (1,1,1) 63. Ooh and … 65. Understudy (5-2) 69. Astronaut, ‘Buzz’ … 71. In the distance 72. Raw recruits 74. Evita, … Peron 75. Flipping, … over 76. Gorilla or monkey…

Sleep is critical to our survival as a species. Without it, we would die. Despite that, for many of us it’s not an easy process. ‘There isn’t a single creature on the planet that doesn’t need a period of rest in a 24-hour period,’ says sleep scientist Dr Dale Rae. Being diurnal creatures, we’re sensitive to sunlight and are designed to be active when the sun goes up and resting when the sun goes down. ‘The more consistent we are, the easier it is for the body to anticipate what we’re asking of it every day. Our bodies love rhythm and routine.’ Dale is a senior researcher at the University of Cape Town, where she specialises in sleep. She also runs Sleep Science (sleepscience.co.za), a practice where she helps clients…

RESPECT, SISTER Advocate Ouma Rabaji-Rasethaba means business, and she has the cred: a risk specialist, she’s had a successful stint at the National Prosecuting Authority (NPA) before. As deputy to national director Shamila Batohi and head of the Asset Forfeiture Unit, she’s in charge of getting high-level corruption cases to court nationally and provincially, and doing it fast: her target is a list of 10 priority cases to be prosecuted by September 2021. In August last year she started to make good on her promise to get the stolen money back when she obtained preservation orders from a Gauteng High Court to freeze bank accounts worth more than R18 million as well as attach luxury vehicles belonging to the founders of Covid-19 pyramid scheme Up Money. It was made clear…

RESPECT, SISTER She has courage and commitment… and attitude: Judge Chantal Fortuin presided over the extremely complicated and dangerous four-year trial of 28s gang boss George ‘Geweld’ Thomas and 17 others. Thomas faced more than 160 charges, among them murder (including the murder of six potential state witnesses), extortion and conspiracy to commit murder. According to the press at the time, he threatened to kill both Fortuin and her daughter. His defence attorney later tried to get the judge to recuse herself on the basis that the story was untrue and, as it was all over the papers, he feared Thomas would not get a fair trial. Judge Fortuin summarily dismissed the idea, saying that she was not scared and that she didn’t read the papers on cases that she…

Installer of oversized art You probably haven’t given it much thought, but hanging art can be very dangerous. That’s where Bié Venter comes in: she’s a household name when it comes to the installation of oversized art. Bié has spent her entire career hanging massive art installations that involve the use of scaffolding and suspension cables – people with a fear of heights need not apply! One of her projects included an 8 m-high public artwork – Usha Seejarim’s Pin Code, which was made from about 140 000 safety pins – at the MTN Innovation Centre. This was one of the most challenging works to assemble because it wasn’t only about handling the art but also about making sure the space around it wasn’t damaged by the scaffolding and equipment. The…

STRANDLOPER OCEAN BOUTIQUE HOTEL, PATERNOSTER, WESTERN CAPE Walking towards Strandloper’s renowned Leeto Restaurant, your breath is literally knocked out of you. In front of the hotel stretches nearly 9 km of pristine beach, lapped by a sparkling sea and laced with seagulls mewling and diving in the extraordinary light that everybody talks about. And what they say is true: it’s the kind of light that artists abandon happy homes to seek out. Strandloper often uses the phrase ‘barefoot luxury’, and that’s exactly how it feels: the fact that there are so few rooms and such a tight team makes it seem intimate yet at the same time you feel very spoilt; it’s a wonderful, unusual balance. Our sea-view suite felt absolutely private yet showcased a sweeping view of the bay.…

I grew up in KwaZulu-Natal, and that silky air and wild, warm sea is in my blood: I feel instantly at home there. I remember the stories my dad used to tell me about the ‘atmospheric’ (read: slightly down-at-heel) Oyster Lodge, as it used to be known – long before Stanley and Bea Tollman bought it in 2006 and transformed it into its present glorious form. And it is glorious: beautifully appointed in textures and colours that mirror the red-and-white lighthouse in front of it – the famed Bea Tollman and daughter Toni’s eye for style, I’m told. There are many things that make The Oyster Box Hotel unique: for one, it’s been voted by Tripadviser as the best hotel in South Africa. But one of my favourites is that…

Last year, the way we live our lives changed dramatically. No more casual restaurant meals, time spent wandering the malls in search of that perfect dress or meeting friends for after-work drinks… No more anything, pretty much. Many people lost their job. And many had their income drop – if not immediately, then over the months that followed. The way we spend our money changed too: we started bulk-buying for fear of running out, amped up our online purchasing skills, and cautiously started making ad-hoc trips to the shops as an excuse to get out of the house and actually do something. Some people used the opportunity to spend less and are now in a better financial position than before. Others overspent – in response to the fear, depression, relationship…

I sibindi Africa Lodges owns and operates four elegant lodges in Southern Africa: Tsowa Safari Island in Zambezi National Park, Zimbabwe; Kosi Forest Lodge and Thonga Beach Lodge in iSimangaliso Wetland Park; and Rhino Ridge Safari Lodge in Hluhluwe-iMfolozi Park. All four lodges celebrate the biodiversity and cultural heritage of the area in which they’re located and include the local communities in conservation efforts. Isibindi is offering a FAIRLADY reader a two-night stay for two people at Tsowa Safari Island in luxury tented accommodation. The main camp comprises six two-sleeper stretch tents, set in stunning natural surroundings. The living areas overlook the river, offering ample opportunity to spot the resident pair of Pel’s fishing-owls or roaming buffalo, elephant and hippo. Sunset river cruises, game drives, walking, fishing, paddling, swimming (there…

PROF THULI MADONSELA, Law Trust Chair in Social Justice at Stellenbosch University’s Faculty of Law It’s been an honour to have Professor Thuli Madonsela on our panel of judges since the very start. Now in her seventh year as a judge, she is excited to meet the next group of entrepreneurs. ‘Some jobs require you to have a degree, but to be an entrepreneur you need an idea, passion and hard work,’ she says. Thuli is best known for her work as South Africa’s Public Protector, a title she held with utmost integrity for seven years. She has received several accolades, including being named one of Time Magazine’s ‘100 Most Influential People’ in 2014 and Forbes Africa’s Person of the Year in 2016; and in 2018 she was awarded the Order…

What is foundation? Think of it as real-life Photoshop. The hallmark of a good foundation choice is when you can barely see it but people keep asking you whether you’ve just come back from that 10-day yoga retreat. The science behind foundation has progressed in leaps and bounds. Gone are the days of cakey face paint that smells like the inside of your grandmother’s handbag. Formulas have become increasingly refined, and skincare ingredients are being added – most foundations can now moisturise and protect as well. To find the perfect foundation for you, there are a couple of key terms that can help. ‘Coverage’ refers to the amount of pigment in the formula, with higher-coverage foundations being better for covering blemishes and inconsistent colouring. ‘Finish’ is the way the product…

Doodle SPOT ACROSS 1. Devoutly 6. Ethiopia’s Addis … 10. Aristocrat 14. Inoculation serum 18. Uncanny 19. Encore! 20. Be naughty (3,2) 21. Knock-back 22. Spoon 23. Conflict 24. Lures (5,2) 25. Water bottle 26. Relish 27. Crooner’s repertoire 28. Pilot 30. Voiced (views) 32. Portable staircase 35. Classiest 39. Rebuke 42. Coped (4,2) 46. Tile-chip picture 48. Frozen era (3,3) 49. Written tests 50. Actress, Diane … 51. Rampage, run … 53. Perused 55. Verge 57. Go by (of years) 58. Status … 60. Cuba’s Fidel … 61. Company heads (1,1,2) 63. Financial holding 64. Cheated 65. Steal (power) 66. Settings 70. Light meals 73. Glowing coal 74. False gods 75. Chick’s cry 76. Interesting antique 77. Suspended 78. Surface (road) 79. Untruthful person 80. Remove clothes 81. Voodoo…

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