Innholdsfortegnelse for 28 May 2015 i Drum English

EVERYBODY in life has a gift or talent that will help him or her put bread on the table. There’s a saying that your gift will make you stand before high profile people. But, it is very important that one is able to balance the gift with one’s character. I have heard motivational speakers warning audiences that their gift or talent has the ability to make them shine. Indeed, it will take you to a higher place in life where you appear before kings and princes, but if your character is bad, you will not be there for long. If you’re a gifted person, it’s very important to do checks and balances of your gifts, talents and character. This also applies when you’re ambitious. It is pointless to be armed…

LAST MONTH I was among many of the mothers and fathers who camped and slept outside a high school to submit an application form. It is a sobering reality that our education system is under huge pressure to provide quality schooling to our children. There are only so many schools that can boast of a great track record in academic success and entrance to these institutions has become very difficult. What made my heart happy was when I told my son about my experience – he promised to do his best at his new school next year. There is nothing more a parent can ask for. I salute all mothers and fathers who did the same out of love for their children and their futures, and who would not hesitate…

IT SEEMS there’s a lot to worry about for Sbusiso Leope, AKA DJ Sbu: traffic offences including a pending drunk driving case; accusations that he falsely claimed his energy drink, MoFaya, is certified with the SA Bureau of Standards (SABS); and now rumours his live-in lover Disebo Makatsa (28) has called off their wedding. According to a Sunday paper, Disebo lost patience when Sbu refused to apologise to the SABC for ambushing one of their events to advertise Mo’Faya.A corporate warrior who serves on the board of of Sbu’s Sbusiso Leope Education Foundation, Disebo has also apparently had enough of her man partying until morning and leaving her alone with their daughter. Another Sunday paper reported that the DJ is also battling an insurance company Dial Direct after it referenced…

THE Moroka boys on SABC1’s Generations:The Legacy are quite a spectacle. Now there’s a conflict brewing between the three of them – Jonathan (played by JT Medupi), Mazwi (Musa Ngema) and Smanga (Moopi Mothibeli) – that will surely make for one of the most interesting storylines in the country’s most-watched soapie. We caught up with the trio to chat about life away from the cameras. JT MEDUPE (27) What’s it like being on Generations: The Legacy? Oh man, it’s great and exciting. Everyone at The Legacy is warm, friendly and very professional. It’s also a big step in my career and I’m totally grateful. Tell us a bit about your childhood. I’m the fourth of five children raised by an amazing mother. I was quiet as a kid, the typical…

IN ONLY a few minutes, you can ensure your family has all the assistance they need to bury you in a dignified way one day. Nobesuthu Tonyela (28), from Gugulethu in the Western Cape, is an avid DRUM reader who recently took out a DRUM Protector Plan for the day she passes away. “We all know how important it is to have funeral cover.To me, the most important thing is that I can trust my funeral policy to provide for me when I need it to arrange a dignified funeral. I’ve been reading DRUM for years and I trust their DRUM Family Protector Plan.” She says taking out the policy was an easy process. “I took it out over the phone. I just sent them an SMS and the KGA…

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QUICK PILCHARD PIE A tasty, affordable meal if you’re on a tight budget. PREPARATION: 10 MIN STANDING: 15 MIN COOKING: 20-25 MIN SERVES 4 BATTER 250 ml (1 cup) cake flour pinch of salt 2 ml (½ tsp) freshly ground pepper 15 ml (1 tbsp) dried Italian herbs 3 eggs 250 ml (1 cup) milk FILLING 15 ml (1 tbsp) oil 2 cans (400 g each) pilchards in tomato sauce 4 sprigs of rosemary Preheat the oven to 230 °C. Grease a quiche tin or deep baking sheet with non-stick spray. 1 BATTER Combine the flour, salt, pepper and herbs in a mixing bowl. 2 Whisk together the eggs and milk. Make a well in the middle of the flour mixture and gradually beat in the milk mixture, whisking until…

People go through a shock phase after getting a cancer diagnosis. “But you’ve got to take control of the situation,” says Dr Dave Visel, author of Living With Cancer. Find a friend to support you. “No one should go through a fight against cancer alone,” Dr Visel says. “When people ask if they can help, give them specific tasks such as driving you to an appointment or helping with childcare,” cancer specialist Dr Matthew Hoffman says. “Learn to rely on others and share responsibilities.” Work obligations and other roles – such as parent, spouse or caregiver – will compete for your time and energy. “Rule No 1: your treatment comes first,” Dr Hoffman says. Staying positive is important. “But expressing your feelings – even ones that seem negative – is…

Many couples aren’t aware they have the option of signing a cohabitation agreement, says Nthabiseng Monareng, a family law specialist based in Roodepoort. “People are still under the assumption that living together is legally protected but it’s not,” she says. “When the relationships ends, partners always fight about assets [like a house] they have jointly invested in financially. In most instances, the house is registered one partner’s name and during separation the other partner will lose out.” Nthabiseng explains what the agreement is: It’s a legal agreement that unmarried couples enter into when they want to live together and conduct their relationship like a married couple. It must be signed by both parties and witnessed. Cohabitation agreements provide couples with some legal protection as, in the event of a dispute,…

E-mail Dr Nomteto at doctor@drum.co.za or SMS the keywords DR NOMTETO, followed by your question and name to 34926. Each SMS (160 characters) costs R2. WE WANT TWINS I’ve been dating a guy for a year now. He has a 10-year-old daughter and I have a five-year-old daughter, but we want to have twins.When is the right time for women to conceive? Is there any medication I can take to ensure I have twins? DESPERATE, EAST LONDON DR NOMTETO ANSWERS Unless you conceive twins naturally, which is unlikely, your other option is to go for in vitro fertilisation (IVF) and plant more than one embryo in your womb. However, everything must be in place and correct. You both need to visit a specialist clinic where this procedure can be done.…

GENERATIONS: THE LEGACY Gadaffi puts Thabi on Tau’s trail. Nolwazi makes a discovery, and uses it to hurt Angela. Smanga is angry at Mazwi for compromising their new account. Everyone is shocked at #Hashtag World when the boss’ wife gets arrested. Namhla (THULISILE PHONGOLO) confides in Kyle, but ends up regretting it. Jonathan tells Siya he’s on his own. Karabo can’t bring herself to let the Abe issue go. Tshidi isn’t about to let Karishma win the fight. Mr Sokhulu receives some shocking news. RHYTHM CITY David tells Suffo that he will take ultimate punishment from the gang for his role in the whole mess. Doc lays down the law for Zinzi. Emmanuel apologises to Bash. David struggles to choose between death and being a tool of the 66 gang.…

WHAT YOUR FRIENDS WON’T TELL YOU You thrive on gossip. Commitment is not your strong point. You change your mind on a whim. You’re a great storyteller, but sometimes that’s all they are, just stories. Keeping you interested is hard work as you easily get bored. You’re a jack of all trades, master of none. To you everything is a joke.…

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SAY WHAT? A husband is trying to prove to his wife that women talk more than men. He shows her a study which says men use about 10 000 words per day, while women use 20 000 words per day. “You know,” the wife replies, “I think women use twice as many words because they have to repeat everything they say.” Her husband just gapes at her. He says, “What?” BUSINESS SIGNS Plumber: “We repair what your husband fixed.” Pizza shop slogan: “Seven days without pizza makes one weak.” Door of a plastic surgeon’s office: “Hello, can we pick your nose?” Sign on an electrician’s truck: “Let us remove your shorts.” On a maternity ward door: “Push, push, push.” On a butcher’s window: “Let me meat your needs.” On the…

THE FEUD between angry Soweto residents and power supplier Eskom still rages on, with Orlando West residents recently blocking Khumalo Street with rocks and burning tyres in protest against the installation of prepaid electricity meters. Among their grievances residents claim the system is just too expensive, and want to rip the meters out just five months after Eskom installed them. But Eskom says the country owes it R8 billion, with Soweto accounting for half that debt, and it has no intention of writing it off. So it seems residents have two choices: find a new supplier, or live in the dark. ONE OF the residents who says she’s been adversely affected by the installation of a meter is Florence Ntombela from OrlandoWest.When an Eskom official knocked on her door in…

AS A YOUNG man growing up in an informal settlement near Clermont, KwaZulu-Natal, he thought the only way to become successful was to become a gangster. But a chance encounter changed his thinking, and now he has taken himself from living in a shack to heading up a law firm in the most powerful business district in Africa – Sandton City, Johannesburg. At 31, Siphile Buthelezi has achieved what many young men only dream of – graduating from law school with distinctions, working and travelling overseas, establishing his own company and finally marrying the woman of his dreams. “When you live in the townships your understanding of someone successful is a thug who wears nice clothes and drives a nice car,” says Siphile. “What he does to achieve this means…

THE PREMIER soccer league (PSL) season is barely over, but soccer fans are already focused on the MTN8 competition. It takes a competitive nature to end a campaign in the top half of the PSL table. and teams and fans alike are already anticipating who will win the first trophy of next season. Newly crowned league champions Kaizer Chiefs won last year’s MTN8 title, beating Orlando Pirates 1-0 in the final to lift the coveted trophy. Amakhosi didn’t concede a single goal in 360 minutes of football. In that time they scored on 10 occasions to take the trophy for the second time since 2008 – when MTN replaced SAA as sponsors of theTop 8 tournament. The top eight clubs that will partake in this year’s event are Kaizer Chiefs,…

THE LAST time we saw him in a television show was back in 2013 when he played Siya, a drag queen, in the controversial drama series After 9 on SABC1. But now actor and singer AUBREY POO is back in the business. Aubrey will be playing Pastor Gabriel on SABC3’s hit soapie Isidingo. Comparing his current and previous roles as a pastor, Aubrey believes Pastor Gabriel gives him room to expand. “There is a lot more to this one and there’s no romantic storyline – there’s a deeper involvement with the church and it’s a different angle.” He feels he’s better suited to this role. “It’s been a good four-and-half years since I left Scandal! and I think I’m more mature and I have a different experience of life.” Despite…

JORDIN SPARKS (25) has moved on from her ex Jason Derulo and is now dating a rapper. The Battlefield singer has been posting cute shots with SAGE THE GEMINI, a member of an American hip-hop and music production collective called The Heartbreak Gang. The former American Idol winner confessed that she’s “having fun” with the rapper, whose real name is Dominic Wynn Woods. “He’s a really good guy, and the pictures speak for themselves. I don’t just kiss people!” While Jordin has moved on from Jason, the Talk Dirty hitmaker recently revealed that breaking up was hard. “It just goes on and on because people keep talking about it,” he said. Well, breaking up with a star via SMS would keep tongues wagging.…

IF YOU’VE ever wondered what superstar BEYONCE does to unwind, we can let you in on a little secret: the Die With You singer is apparently a big fan of the hugely popular TV show Game of Thrones (GoT). So big, in fact, that adoring hubby JAY Z bought Mrs Carter a prop from the show. “Apparently Jay Z bought one for Beyoncé,” reveals British actress EMELIA CLARKE, who stars as Daenerys Targaryen, the Mother of Dragons in GoT. The props are similar to the highly decorated Fabergé eggs, and almost as costly.…

THE ANNUAL Premier Soccer League Awards are all about the season’s best players, but the red carpet also plays its role. This year’s event was held at the Sandton Convention Centre and while Kaizer Chiefs defender Tefu Mashamaite stole the show by scooping the night’s coveted awards, our lovely local lasses played it safe on the fashion side. The event’s presenters, MINNIE DLAMINI and CAROL TSHABALALA, wowed the crowd in their many outfit changes, ranging from figure-hugging floor-length Oreb creations to tuxedos and breathtaking Gert-Johan Coetzee originals. Another celeb who stunned in a flowing frock was NANDI MNGOMA, who wore a champagne-coloured Klûk CGDT number. Also spotted in local couture was MPHO MABOI, Kaizer Chiefs’ Reneilwe Letsholonyane’s baby mama. She donned a black leather and tulle NN Vintage Collection creation.…

Black Like Me founder Herman Mashaba has told a United Nations committee that affirmative action has to be scrapped if the SA economy is to thrive. Do you think he is right? To vote on your cellphone, go to our website by typing www.drum.co.za on your browser from a WAP- enabled phone. Find the poll on our website homepage and select Yes or No. YES 50 % NO 50 % “Work hard for your money and learn about investment options from the bank. Stay away from get-rich-quick schemes” NELSON KHUMALO, TEMBISA…

Should Africa Day, which is celebrated across the continent on 25 May every year, be declared a national holiday in South Africa to foster a sense of unity with the rest of the continent? LEANDRA THEYS YES It won’t cost us a thing to just go through with the idea and show unity with the rest of the continent. If we don’t, we’ll look segregated and divided from the rest of the African countries. HONEST TSHABA NO There is no unity in South Africa. It is clear that South Africa does not want to be united with other countries, for example, xenophobic attacks. It is a great idea but not everybody is going to like it. ADET MOSIME YES It should be celebrated since we are currently not united. This…

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ONE DAY he says he’s gay, the next he vows he isn’t. It seems award-winning gospel singer LundiTyamara changes his sexuality whenever it suits him. Just over 10 years ago the gospel star disclosed his homosexuality in an interview with City Press, in which he came out by saying he had been living a lie. However, Lundi told another weekly publication in 2012 that he isn’t gay, but people think that he’s gay because “uethe-ethe” (he is in touch with his feminine side). When Lundi recently spoke to celebrity socialite Khanyi Mbau on her talk show, Katch It with Khanyi, he again denied claims that he’s gay - but DRUM has reliably learnt that the popular musician has been in a relationship with a married man, a paramedic called Bonginkosi…

IN HIS role as the villainous Dustbin Man in e.tv’s Scandal!, he will leave no stone unturned to wreak revenge on the family he blames for ruining his life. But when we meet Mothusi Magano at our DRUM offices for our photoshoot, he’s nothing like the man that many viewers love to hate. In true gentlemanly fashion, the actor apologises for not shaving his hair for the photoshoot but we quickly assure him he’s fine just the way he is. And as we make our way to Auto Spares in Lyndhurst for the shoot, loyal viewers of the prime-time soapie recognise him and greet him. He seems taken aback by the amount of people showing him love and flashes a huge smile before waving to his fans. “I’ve just come…

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GO BIG You know it’s a classic trend when the First Lady wears it. Michelle Obama made heads turn when she chose a big curly ’do for the annual White House Correspondents’ Association Dinner. Two of our local red carpet regulars, Mpumi Mzobe and Penny Lebyane, have also been spotted rocking some big hair. PONYTAIL Beyoncé dazzled at The Met Gala 2015 in a super sleek, high ponytail with Shirley Temple curls. Queen Bey’s updo was simply picture perfect. CHOPPY BOB Singer and Moesha actress Brandy’s new choppy, jet-black bob with messy wave-like curls set the bar high for this season’s most popular look. BRAID BRIGADE American actresses Kat Graham and Meagan Good show us that it’s all about the braids. This timeless hairstyle can be fabulous whether it’s worn…

MOST of us imagine that our chances of getting cancer amount to a terrifying lottery – but the truth is we have a lot more say in managing our health than we realise. “Your genes account for as little as 5 % of your risk,” says Rachel Thompson of the World Cancer Research Fund (WCRF). Here are some inspiring health and lifestyle statistics to help give you a nudge in the right direction Reduce your risk by . . . 7% BY SWITCHING WINE BOTTTES Next time you pour yourself a glass of vino, opt for a bottle that’s around 10 % strength rather than14 % and you’ll cut your risk of bowel cancer by as much as 7%, according to research by the World Cancer Research Fund.Alcohol can increase…

Need advice? Email sisdolly@drum.co.za or SMS the keyword SIS DOLLY followed by your question and name to 32113. Each SMS (160 characters) costs R1. WHAT’S HIS PROBLEM? I’m 26, gay and dating a guy of 25. I once invited him to my home but he came up with a lame excuse and cancelled at the last minute. He did it again when I offered to come over for New Year’s Eve. I moved to Joburg in January for work and he also lives there. I thought I’d see more of him but he continues to make excuses. The worst is he was admitted to hospital and didn’t want me to visit him. That hurt me a lot. I love him, but sometimes doubt him. What can I do? CONFUSED, GP…

NGO FUND-RAISING We run a non-governmental organisation (NGO) and need help with funding to continue our community work. Can you please help us? NISMA SAMBO, MPUMALANGA, SMS JOSHUA ANSWERS The most important step in soliciting funds for your NGO is to ensure that it is duly registered in terms of the Non-Profit Organisations (NPOs) Act and with the national Department of Social Development. Many investors and donors want assurance that the organisation really will use the money for the purposes they’ve proposed. For instance, NPO registration is a funding requirement for most donor and funding agencies. Another way of raising funds is to find businesses whose corporate social investment (CSI) programmes are aligned with your NGO’s purpose, and approach them for funding or possible partnerships. It is also important to…

BEST MOVIES OF THE WEEK THE REUNION TRUE LIFE DRAMA (MZANSI THURSDAY 21:30) A young woman must fulfill her father’s dying wish — to bring her three estranged half-brothers back together so that they can go into business together as bounty hunters. Starring JOHN CENA. IN PURSUIT ACTION (SABC1 FRIDAY 22:00) A lawyer is framed and sent to prison for the murder of the powerful husband of the woman he’s having an affair with. With the help of a prison guard (COOLIO) he escapes and heads to Mexico to prove his innocence. JUST GO WITH IT COMEDY (E.TV SATURDAY 19:30) After a big break-up plastic surgeon Danny’s (ADAM SANDLER) approach to getting women is to tell them that he’s unhappily married and on the verge of divorce in order to…

• Believe it or not, Ester has ghost-written for Rihanna (Where Have You Been), Nicki Minaj (Super Bass) and Katy Perry (Firework). • After her big screen debut in Pitch Perfect, she’s back for Pitch Perfect 2 (out now), which she also wrote songs for. She’s also gearing up to grab the musical spotlight with her first album, Story Never Told. • Legendary femcee Missy Elliott will feature on one of her singles off the album, How You Love it, described as a club banger. By the way, don’t you think they look like sisters? • Ester prefers acting over songwriting, describing the latter as “lonely”, and has lent her amazing voice to Ice Age: Continental Drift, where she voiced two characters. • Although she plays a lesbian in the…

If you have a problem and would like advice from other teens, e-mail teenspeak@drum.co.za and we’ll get our panel to help you HE’S TOO SKINNY My 14-year-old son weighs 38 kg, and really wants to become bigger. How can he bulk up? CONCERNED MOM TEMOGO NKOSI (21) REPLIES I wouldn’t advise him to use any supplements as he’s still young and his body is still developing. Who knows how he’ll grow in five years? He should rather join a gym, preferably with a gym partner who will motivate him, and he should remember that a balanced and healthy nutrition plan is very crucial. Encourage him to follow a high-kilojoule diet and urge him to eat consistently throughout the day, especially if he’ll be exercising. He could also increase his portion…

THE LAST time we spoke to him, he was beaming with pride. He and his Student Representative Council (SRC) had raising over R3 million for students who were about to be kicked out of the University of the Witwatersrand in Johannesburg if they failed to pay for their registration fees (Show us the money, 19 March). Now we speak to Mcebo Dlamini under very different circumstances – he has been axed as SRC president and is serving a year’s suspended sentence of academic exclusion.While the sentence was passed shortly after he posted an offensive Facebook post praising German dictator Adolf Hitler, the university says it suspended him for an earlier offence, a physical fight with another student. Mcebo’s confidence doesn’t seem to have taken a knock, though. “I’ve been removed…

SOUTH Africa is in mourning following the death of a struggle icon who gave her all for her country. After a long illness, Dr Ruth Mompati passed away at the age of 89 at 2 Military Hospital in Wynberg, Cape Town, in the early hours of Tuesday, 12 May. DRUM looks back at the life of an ANC stalwart labelled a giant by her colleagues; a woman who rose up from behind a typist’s desk to become an activist, and who played an invaluable role in the liberation and post-1994 development of our South Africa. Dr Mompati was born on 14 September 1925 in Tlapeng Village, near Vryburg,in what was then theWesternTransvaal. She later served this district, which was renamed the Dr Ruth Segomotsi Mompati District Municipality, as mayor. Affectionately…

BEING one of the most powerful women in TV can’t be easy. Ask director, screenwriter and producer Shonda Rhimes. It looks like the hit-maker is gearing up for a fight with fans of long-running medical drama Grey’s Anatomy, which she created in 2005 and has produced ever since. This comes after 25 000 fans decided to sign an online petition and boycott the award-winning show after Shonda killed off one of its main characters, Dr Derek “McDreamy” Shepherd (played by Patrick Dempsey). The meant Patrick was fired, but he seems to be okay with the demise of his sexy character. “I like the way it played out,” he said in an interview after his last episode aired in America recently. But should Shonda, who was named one of TIME Magazine’s…

ACTRESS and television presenter KHANYA MKANGISA is private about her love life. Could the the reason for her secrecy be that it’s just that complicated? Rumour has it that the former YoTV presenter is dating Kaizer Chiefs bad boy GEORGE LEBESE. George, however, is currently facing assault charges laid by his ex-girlfriend, Sizakele Manonga. According to a source, George won Khanya over while she was dating a Joburg post-production assistant named SEBASTIAN VONTAS. However, Sebastian recently appeared on an episode of Diski Divas on a blind date with KATLEGO “KAT” MOHOADUBA. “It was the first time we met, but after shooting we spoke off camera,” said Kat. “We didn’t go on another date because he mentioned that he is in a complicated relationship.” Could this “complicated relationship” be the love…

AFTER taking a short break from making music, WILLOW SMITH is back in the recording studio. The 14-year-old controversial daughter of Will and Jada Pinkett Smith recently released the video for her new track, F Q-C #7 (pronounced Frequency Number Seven), which she co-directed. In it she presents four sides to herself – including one in which she rocks African tribal make-up to imitate her favourite Avatar character, Neytiri played by Zoe Saldana. She’s finally making headlines for her craft instead of her personal life, for a change.…

WE BET that when KYLIE JENNER started dating rapper TYGA she didn’t know that the relationship would be so dramatic. Not only is her family concerned that the 26-year-old is a bad influence on the 17-year-old reality star after she posted a video declaring she was high,it turns out that she’s now also involved in a legal battle with Tyga’s ex. Model BLAC CHYNA (27) is seeking sole custody of the former couple’s two-year-old son but will allow Tyga weekend visitation rights. Blac Chyna feels that Tyga’s involvement with a minor shows “bad judgment that translates into his parenting skills.” Apparently Kylie is determined to testify on Tyga’s behalf, once she turns 18. There’s no word on what American Idol judge JENNIFER LOPEZ will do now that the popular reality…

Write to us at PO Box 653284, Benmore 2010, e-mail us at letters@drum.co.za or SMS 32113 CONDOMS PROMOTE SEX A plan to introduce condoms in schools will simply encourage pupils to engage in sex. Many of the pupils who are sexually active have access to condoms, but neglect to use them. There’s nothing wrong with sex education, but giving condoms to pupils as young as 10 sends the wrong message. It won’t help stop teenage pregnancies, only increase them. M HLUNGWANI, MUKHOMI VILLAGE THANKS FOR THE ADVICE Thank you for your great feature (Office etiquette, 23 April) in which you talked about what to wear for office work and how to handle the staff in your department. It really motivated me because I am a receptionist. I wish you could…

THE PROVINCE of Limpopo recently showed its appreciation and love for its celebrities by honouring them at the inaugural Film, Art, Music and Entertainment (FAME) SA Awards. The ceremony was held at the University of Limpopo’s Turfloop campus and the crème de la crème of the province’s stars attended. The emcees were Muvhango actor Lesley Musina, Lethabo “Lejoy” Mathatho from Thobela FM, and comedian MASHABELA GALANE. Meanwhile, actress-turned-gospel-singer RAMI CHUENE, who won the Best Female Actress gong, was all smiles on the day. “It’s always an honour to receive awards and winning them at home is most humbling,” she said. Muvhango and Skeem Saam stars CLEMENT MAOSA, GABRIEL TEMUDZANI and MACDONALD NDOU got the loudest cheers from the crowds. “We shouldn’t be all cosy – he’s my archenemy,” joked Gabriel…

SHE was once a devout Christian and a worship leader at a church in King William’sTown, but now Afro-soul sensation Zahara’s drinking problems are once again taking centre stage.This time the Loliwe singer is said to have been thrown off a flight ahead of a scheduled performance in Birmingham, England, where she was billed to perform alongside Oliver Mtukudzi. “Zahara was booked to perform in Birmingham and when we got to the airport the flight attendants noticed she was too drunk to board and wouldn’t allow her to fly,” a close friend tells us. “Robbie Malinga [music producer] intervened by speaking to the flight attendants but they were having none of it. As she was walking back from the plane she dropped her passport and didn’t even notice until one…

IT’S a windy but sunny May afternoon when we track down the bubbly actress at Sasani Studios in Balfour Park. This is the location of her shoot for a scene in e.tv soapie, Rhythm City, in which Hlubi Mboya plays businesswoman and record label boss Thandeka. The object of our search emerges clad in a black minidress, and looking as gorgeous as ever. It’s obvious why over the years Hlubi has been selected to grace the covers of numerous glossy magazines. She was, in fact, the first black non-model woman to appear on Elle’s cover. Hlubi’s friendly and fun on set, and insists on hugging everyone. She keeps telling the technical staff how much she loves them. Her relaxed persona is no doubt a result of her 15 years of…

BEING a content producer for a gossip reality show sounds glamorous and fun. After all, you get to hang out with celebrities. But there’s a downside too – you have to deal with inflated egos and pretentious attitudes. And suddenly, the job seems less fun. So perhaps it’s not surprising that SABC1’s reality show Real Goboza’s (RGB) content producer, Ntsikelelo Ndlovu, loves to hate his job. “Being on RGB is fun, but I hate the late nights,” Ntsikelelo tells us. “We watch people partying but we don’t get to take part.We are always hard at work, and we don’t sleep.” Working side by side with the celebrity lifestyle magazine show’s presenters, the bubbly SinazoYolwa and the beautiful Amanda du-Pont, would be enough for many. But Ntsikelelo has other ambitions. Also…

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READER’S RECIPE POTATO FISHCAKES Brian Magagula from Mbombela sent us his fishcake recipe. We used haddock instead of hake. PREPARATION: 10 MIN COOKING: 35 MIN CHILLING: 1 HR MAKES 15 400 g haddock fillets 375 ml (1½ cups) milk 1 bay leaf salt and pepper 5 large potatoes, peeled and chopped 1 egg, beaten 4 spring onions, sliced handful parsley, chopped 250 ml (1 cup) breadcrumbs oil, for frying lemon wedges and tomato sauce, to serve 1 Put the fish in a saucepan with the milk and bay leaf and season with salt and pepper. Bring to a gentle simmer over low heat and poach the fish for 10 minutes. 2 Remove from the heat and lift the fish out, reserving the milk. Put the fish on a tray, remove…

FOR IT MALWANDLAAMUKELANI Living together with your partner is not a problem. You experience a lot of things together. He gets to see how you’ll be if he is to marry you. If marrying you was part of his plans, he’ll marry you. If his intentions were only about sleeping with you he’ll still leave you. MADIDIMALO WA MAMADI It depends on the two and the way they love each other. You can stay for long but the trust between you determines the value of your true love. Marriage can then be arranged and things happen. AGAINST IT DITSHELE MABOKELA Bad idea. I lived with my partner for 12 years, got engaged, had two kids and I’m now separated. If he wants to live with you he must marry you…

Have a problem? E-mail testotherapy@drum.co.za, Tweet us @Testo_DRUM or write to Testo-therapy at DRUM, PO Box 653284, Benmore 2010 MY DEBT IS PUTTING A STRAIN ON MY MARRIAGE I’m going through debt counselling. I’ve been struggling with my finances for two years and even though my wife is supporting me, I can see she wished things were better. We’re also no longer as intimate as before and don’t laugh like we used to. I’m thinking of getting a divorce to free her from my drama. Is it the right choice? MANDLA, E-MAIL BRA MO ANSWERS Look on the positive side: She’s supporting you at this difficult time. What is essential is that you communicate with her and keep her updated on how your debt repayments are going. Talk to her…

NAME OF BUSINESS: Casambo Exclusive Guest Lodge SECTOR: Hospitality REGISTERED: August 2012 STAFF: 42 permanent and 10 casual ENTREPRENEUR Carol Sanderson (38) has always found great pleasure in interacting with people, having learned valuable business skills from her late grandmother during her childhood in Barberton, Mpumalanga. Her dealings with people grew into a desire to help them, and persuaded her to pursue a career in radio journalism. But it was only recently that she managed to combine her love for entertaining and hospitality by becoming the owner of Casambo Exclusive Guest Lodge in Nelspruit – a venue that offers accommodation and hosts private and corporate functions. “I never understood the entrepreneurial seed my grandmother planted in me when she sent me out to sell sweets, eggs, corn, peanuts and ice…

GEMINI 21 MAY – 20 JUN Since you’re currently vulnerable in terms of your reputation and standing in society, it’s important to be impeccable in word as well as deed. It’s best to refrain from telling white lies, even if it is to prevent someone else from getting hurt. Information overload could disturb your sleep patterns. Therefore, if you feel jittery, take time out and give you mind a rest. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 30, 40, 22, 41, 7, 19 CANCER 21 Jun – 21 Jul It’s a good time to pack your bags and go away on holiday. If that’s not an option, a weekend escape or having fun with your friends could be an alternative way to take a break from work responsibilities. Although, as a Cancer, you need…

1. HOW MUCH DID THE PSL FINE GOALKEEPER ITUMELENG KHUNE FOR HIS TWITTER RANT ABOUT A REFEREE? A. R10 000 B. R25 000 C. R30 000 D. R40 000 2. ON WHAT DAY OF THE WEEK IS MOTHER’S DAY USUALLY CELEBRATED IN MAY? A. Wednesday B. Friday C. Sunday D. Saturday 3. WHAT SPORT’S PLAYING FIELD IS DESCRIBED AS A DIAMOND? A. Cricket B. Baseball C. Hockey D. Tennis 4. A DERMATOLOGIST DEALS WITH AILMENTS RELATING TO THE . . .? A. Skin B. Ears C. Feet D. Heart 5. MAPUTO IS THE CAPITAL CITY OF WHICH NEIGHBOURING COUNTRY? A. Namibia B. Botswana C. Lesotho D. Mozambique 6. IN WHICH MONTH DOES THE SOUTHERN HEMISPHERE’S WINTER SOLSTICE (SHORTEST DAY OF THE YEAR) FALL? A. August B. July C. June D.…

YOU KNOW the feeling you get when that hot, popular kid drives themself to college while you have to schlep to class using two types of public transport, not quite knowing how you’ll even afford your tuition fees? Well, you can take some comfort in the fact that you’re not the only one channelling AKA’s jealousy, thanks to Vuzu Amp’s Rich Kids. Regarded by some as the first South African reality TV show to put the spotlight on how Mzansi’s young and super-wealthy spend their money and time, others say there’s no need for amped up skhothanes to flash cash that their parents earn. We spoke to some of the cast to find out how they feel . . . NAPE Nape (21) is a globe-trotting lover of high-end takkies…

WHEN I was much younger, I lived with my grandmother in a small village. Often she would have to fight to get me to school because I hated it so much that I would pretend to be sick so she’d let me stay home. When my mom visited us I acted out because she forced me to go to school. My absenteeism was so bad that I had not learnt to do the basics of Grade R. During the year that I (somehow) completed Grade R, my dad bought a house in Madiba Park, Polokwane. The following year he decided that I should move in with him so I could get a better education. However, I had to perform a test to determine if I was able to start Grade…

THEY shape young minds, possessing the power to inspire and give confidence - as well as to bore and crush the joy of learning. Love them or hate them, you cannot avoid them.Teachers have affected all of our lives in one way or another. And that’s why one man decided to take a closer look at their role in our society, and put his findings on paper. A Teacher Changed My Life is the work of corporate trainer, motivational speaker and CEO of Dazz Consulting Darren August.The book is designed to inspire both teachers and learners alike. Darren (34) says his goal is to help people thrive and succeed. Education is at the source of his mission. DARREN, who grew up in Ennerdale south of Johannesburg, tells DRUM about the…

1925: Ruth Segomotsi Mompati was born. 1952: She was actively involved in the Defiance Campaign. 1956: She was part of the women’s anti-pass law march to the Union Buildings. 1962: She went into exile and served the ANC in Tanzania, Zambia and Britain. 1990: She was part of the ANC delegation that began negotiating the peaceful transition to democracy with the National Party. 1994: She was elected to the National Assembly of the first democratic Parliament. 27 MAY 1994: She made her first statement to Parliament in the debate that followed President Nelson Mandela’s first address to a joint sitting of Parliament. 1 SEPTEMBER 1996: She resigned as a Member of the National Assembly to take up the position of Ambassador to Switzerland. 1996: She was awarded an Honorary Masters…

CHRIS BROWN has found himself dealing with police yet again – but this time, he wasn’t the offender. After recently celebrating his 26th birthday, the Loyal hitmaker arrived home to find a naked woman asleep in his bed. While some would appreciate the act, the woman was a complete stranger and freaked Chris out. AMIRA KODCIA AYEB (21) also allegedly spray-painted “Mrs Brown” on both his silver Rolls Royce and black Range Rover. “I get home and find this crazy individual in my house. She had broken the hinges off the doors. She found time to cook her several meals. She wrote “I love you” on the walls. She threw out my daughter’s clothing as well as my dogs stuff,” Chris tweeted. The stalker is being held in a mental…