Innholdsfortegnelse for 21-Feb-19 i Drum English

YES, it’s great if the family structure is two parents with happy, healthy kids. But for many of us that’s just not possible. Whether by choice or accident or the twists and turns of life, sometimes we have a family setup that isn’t what we wanted. But that is life and the wonderful thing is we go on every day, working hard to keep our families – no matter what shape they’re in – going. We do our best to be strong, to make them happy and to give them a better life than we had. On page 40 we speak to three women – a former single mom, a working mom and a gogo parent – to hear how they manage it all. Happy reading! Until next week, THE…

DRUM Word Search Do you love the thrill of finding hidden gems? Then DRUM Word Search No 2 (R44) is the magazine for you – it’s the perfect way to relax while still exercising your brain. The second issue is packed with 109 great puzzles the entire family will enjoy. There are  themes such as cities, movies, music, food, sport and the Bible, all featuring great word lists. The kids’ section features animals, colours, weather, idioms and more, they will have fun and learn so much too. DRUM HOMEWORK DONE NO 2 2019 As the school year begins it’s a good idea to start preparing for homework, assignments and projects. DRUM Homework Done issue No 2 (R44) is packed with interesting facts on everything from birds and insects to the…

MORE and more women have joined the workforce – from the boardroom to the classroom, we’re definitely seeing more diversity on the job. But after a long day’s work, most women – unlike their male counterparts – head home to start their second shift. Zama Dube* knows just how draining the double burden can be. It’s only the beginning of the year and already she’s absolutely exhausted. There are many nights when 8pm rolls around and she realises she hasn’t had a moment’s rest all day. From the time her alarm clock goes off at 4am, the mother of one from Joburg is on the go – packing lunch boxes, making breakfast and getting her three-year-old son Phiwo* off to daycare. Then after a tough day at the office it’s…

MEATBALLS WITH PEANUT SAUCE MAKES 15 MEATBALLS; 5-7 FLATBREADS PREPARATION: 20 MIN COOKING: 20 MIN MEATBALLS 500g beef or lamb mince 1 red onion, finely chopped 2 garlic cloves, finely grated 10ml (2t) ground cumin 60g peanuts, finely chopped in a blender oil for shallow-frying PEANUT SAUCE 50g peanuts 30ml (2T) olive oil 15ml (1T) soy sauce 5ml (1t) brown sugar 60ml (¼c) boiling water 50g tahini (sesame paste) 1 green chilli 1 garlic clove, finely grated juice of 2 lemons extra peanuts to garnish FLATBREADS 500ml (2c) self-raising flour 1,2ml (¼t) salt 250ml (1c) plain yoghurt or buttermilk TO SERVE fresh rocket 1 MEATBALLS Mix all the ingredients and shape into golf ball-sized meatballs. Chill in the fridge until needed. 2 PEANUT SAUCE Blitz all the ingredients in a…

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I THINK SHE CHEATED ON ME Q My wife and I have been together since 2006 and we got married in 2013. In August last year she went to Durban with some colleagues, all of whom were women except for the company owner, who drove them. A few weeks later my wife forgot her cellphone at home and she called me to ask if I’d bring it to work. I wondered why she was so desperate to have her phone so I looked at her messages. I was shocked when I saw a comment from her to a female colleague saying, “I did something wrong. I slept with the driver. Cheating is wrong but I had fun.” I was so disgusted and disappointed but remained calm and gave her the…

1 MAKE SURE YOU’RE CONTRIBUTING ENOUGH Your monthly contribution to your company retirement should be equal to at least 15% of your income before tax. When young people start working they often choose the minimum contribution. But contributing 15% or more over a 40- to 45-year period will ensure a comfortable retirement. If your contribution now is less than 15%, ask a financial adviser to help you work out how much you should be saving. Don’t be discouraged if you can’t afford it immediately – make it a goal for when you next get a salary increase. 2 START AN EMERGENCY FUND A goal for an emergency fund could be to save R5 000 to R10 000 over the next four years. Keep your hands off it and use it…

OF BLOOD AND BONE BY NORA ROBERTS (LITTLE, BROWN) R249* This is the second book in Nora Roberts’ new thrilling series. In the first one, a mysterious virus called The Doom essentially wiped out billions of people on Earth and left a few to start over. In this second instalment, the children of those who’d survived the devastation are making their way in a new world. They know nothing about high-rises and streets filled with people and cars, all they know is a world filled with new magical people from elves to fairies and everything in between. But their world is also filled with evil people who want nothing more than to destroy their new haven, aptly called New Hope. This is where Fallon Swift, a superhero in the making,…

They painted with their fingers, sharpened reeds or brushes made from bird feathers. Paint was made from a natural clay known as ochre, which was mixed with eggs, water, blood or juices squeezed from plants. The colours red and yellow were the most popular because they’re found naturally in clay, but black made from charcoal and white made from bird droppings or white kaolin clay were also used. WHAT DO THE SYMBOLS MEAN? THERIANTHROPES This symbolises shamans who are in a trance state. They transform into animals and enter the spirit realm where they can speak to the dead. CURING RITUAL The sick person lies on the floor with their knees tucked in, while a shaman bends over them and the rest of the group dances in a circle to…

IF YOU just got your first job it can be tempting to spend your first salary on luxury goods, but try to keep your life simple – don’t look at what others have. At this stage in your life you need to avoid debt. Wear the clothes you already have, and budget for your rent, transport and food for the first six months. Keep yourself physically active at weekends to avoid unnecessary shopping. Take a packed lunch to work to avoid unnecessary spending on takeaways. It’s a good idea to start a savings plan as soon as possible. If you have children, live within your means. MEREDITH GOEIEMAN, EMAIL THE WINNING LETTER RECEIVES R300. Letters should be about 100 words. Write to us at PO Box 653284, Benmore 2010, email…

IT seemed like the perfect love story. They met, fell in love, got matching tattoos and were ready to walk down the aisle together . . . all in the space of less than six months. After years of heartbreak and loss, it seemed singer and mother-of-two Kelly Khumalo (34) had found her Prince Charming in rapper and producer Chad Mansoor (25) aka Chad da Don. The pair appeared inseparable and served up all sorts of heat on the red carpet at glitzy events but now the fairytale has ended as quickly as it began. A source close to the two says they broke up “a couple of weeks ago” and although they’re sad “they’re dealing with it”. Kelly is coming to terms with the split, the friend says. “She’s…

Sociologist Karen Graaff suggests drawing up a timetable of household tasks and dividing them equally. He needs to be clear on what his duties are and commit to them. “Men should be expected to keep track of their own tasks without needing to be reminded of them,” she adds. DOING THEIR SHARE Some men might think that because they can’t cook this means they don’t have to do anything for meals, but this doesn’t have to be the case, Women’sNet chairperson Tina Thiart says. He can help with chopping veggies or loading the dishwasher. Or even better: if his partner does all the cooking, he can volunteer to do all the grocery shopping. And the cleaning afterwards. CHANGING THE WAY THEY SEE THEIR ROLE Thiart says men need to start…

FRENCH TOAST WITH RASPBERRY MASCARPONE Spoil someone special with this breakfast treat. Strawberries work just as well as raspberries. SERVES 4 PREPARATION: 15 MIN COOKING: 15 MIN FRENCH TOAST 4 eggs 250ml (1c) milk 30ml (2T) butter 4-6 thick bread slices RASPBERRY MASCARPONE 1 tub (250g) mascarpone 30ml (2T) raspberry jam 125g fresh raspberries TO SERVE cucumber ribbons extra raspberries honey 1 FRENCH TOAST Whisk the eggs and milk together well. Heat half the butter in a nonstick pan over low heat. One by one, dip half the bread slices in the egg mixture. Fry the egg-coated bread until golden brown. 2 Repeat with the rest of the sliced bread and egg mixture. 3 RASPBERRY MASCARPONE Mix all the ingredients well. 4 TO SERVE Spoon the mascarpone mixture on the…

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PISCES 19 FEB – 20 MAR The sun is in your sign, so it’s time to celebrate your birthday and new personal year. You may want to visit an exotic destination or invite friends over. Try to devote time to setting intentions and clarifying goals for the year ahead, whether it’s for health or wealth, personal aspirations or your professional life. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 20, 25, 34, 38, 44, 5 ARIES 21 MAR – 19 APR If you’re a true Aries you’re probably on the go and ready for action. Yet it’s a week where being could be more rewarding than doing. Whether you spend time in nature, take solo strolls, meditate or practise mindfulness, it’s a time to recharge body, mind and soul. But try not to let a…

The late Don Shirley’s family said the film is inaccurate and slammed its film-makers for not contacting them. Mahershala Ali apologised, saying, “I did the best I could with the material I had. I was not aware there were close relatives with whom I could have consulted to add some nuance to the character.” Viggo Mortensen apologised for using the N-word after a screening. He told The Hollywood Reporter he was making the point that people casually used the slur in the Jim Crow era and added that he had “no right to even imagine the hurt that is caused by hearing the word in any context”. The film’s writer, Nick Vallelonga, the son of the real Tony, deleted his Twitter account and apologised for a 2015 tweet that triggered…

1 Television personality Boity Thulo dropped her second... earlier this month? A Film role B Beauty range C Song D Fitness line 2 In finance terms, ...payment is a large sum that concludes a series of smaller payments to repay a loan? A Balloon B Inflation C Excess D Commission 3 Parliament tionally opens tradion the... Thursday of February every year? A Fourth B Last C First D Second 4 A new documentary called... alleges Michael Jackson sexually abused two young boys at his famous ranch? A Secret Land B Leaving Neverland C From Neverland D Finding Neverland 5 The Proteas cricket team recently beat which world No. 1 T20I team 2-1 in a three-match series? A Pakistan B India C Australia D West Indies 6 A... is a glass building in which you grow…

Dean Jafta’s body was found on 25 May 2017 and was buried in August 2017, General Andre Wiese, commander at the Tshwane East cluster, confirmed. “It can take months to bury the body of a pauper.” He adds that a thorough record is kept of where the body is buried and in which coffin. “So if the body is identified, we know where to find it.” He says within two hours of being exhumed in November, Dean’s body was taken for DNA testing before being released to the Jafta family to be buried. “We know the body is Dean’s but need to prove it as part of the formalities, with the DNA results which will be released in the court case.” The original investigating officer was negligent in trying to…

When musician DJ Shimza’s Mercedes-Benz G63 was reportedly stolen from his home on a golf estate he asked tweeps to contact him or the police if they had any info on the ride. DRUM readers weighed in on his request. Does he have an album coming out? These guys have too much drama when they do. KHETHA SIBUSISO KHETHA Were we riding with him? Did he ever offer us rides? ITU MAGS Poor Shimza. I wish I could help. PORTIA MAD’LOW KHAU Something doesn’t add up. There was security at the estate and a garage. Was it repossessed by the bank? NANDI SPEELMAN If they can steal his car from a garage, let’s stop paying the tracking companies guys . . . I’ve decided vele it’s useless. NOZIPHO KHOSA Are…

Shepherd Bushiri (35) and his wife, Mary (34), were released on bail of R100 000 each on 6 February, five days after being arrested on charges of fraud, money laundering and contravening the Prevention of Organised Crime Act.They’ll be back in court on 10 May.The couple are represented by top defence advocate Barry Roux, who represented Oscar Pistorius. The Financial Sector Conduct Authority fined Bushiri Investments R50 000 for contravening the Financial Markets Act by illegally trading in foreign currency. Last August, the Authority found the firm claimed to be an exchange when it was not licensed to operate as one. At least six congregants have claimed they were duped into investing in a scam by senior members of the Enlightened Christian Gathering Church . They were asked to invest…

Dry shampoo Washing your hair every day can cause it to become dry and brittle, which is why dry shampoo is an exercise bunny’s best friend! It refreshes, gives volume and lets you delay washing your locks for a day or two, which also saves water. The trick when using dry shampoo is to apply it to your roots before your workout so it absorbs sweat. If you apply it to sweaty hair it will become powdery and stiff. You can also blow-dry your hair on a low setting, then apply dry shampoo for volume and odour control. But don’t go more than two or three days without washing your hair – you’ll end up with a build-up of product and sweat. Not a good look!…

Anyone can spin – all you need is access to a gym. Classes usually range from beginner to expert. As well as being a great workout it’s also kind on your joints, allowing you to exercise as you recover from injury or simply cope with getting older. Your hips, knees and ankles will thank you. Regular spinning will start to transform your body. Your large muscle groups, like your calves, hamstrings and thighs, shape up fast, and you’ll also gain strength in those all-important ab and core muscles. Spinning will give you a good cardiovascular workout, which improves blood flow, stamina, your mood and assists in the fight against chronic conditions such as high blood pressure, heart disease, stroke and diabetes, the Mayo Clinic says. And you’ll be burning fat…

GENERATIONS: THE LEGACY Gog’ Flo proves she’s no pushover. Jack reminds Zitha who’s in charge. Smanga isn’t ready to forgive and forget. Sikhumbuzo shows what happens to people who don’t pay him on time. Lungiswa reveals a crucial piece of information. Tshidi (LETOYA MAKHENE) receives some good news. MUVHANGO Sundani (CHARLOTTE MULAUDZI) gets a surprise from Tenda. Mo discovers who framed her. Vho-Mukondeleli is summoned to the royal house. Moliehi and James’ divorce negotiations begin. Mpho suspects something is amiss with Shaz. Mulalo’s dream comes true. Susan opens Pandora’s box. The prodigal daughter returns home. ISIDINGO Obakeng’s blunder could cost Nina her life. Kgothalo makes a crucial discovery. Morongwa (SOSO RUNGQU) and Gatanga make a disappointing discovery. Lungi accepts a contract that causes tension between her and Kgothalo. Anja takes…

J Cole (34) released his first single of the year, Middle Child, like all his music: with little fanfare. One of his infrequent Instagram posts heralded that it would arrive the very next day. IN THE BEGINNING Born Jermaine Lamarr Cole on a USA military base in Germany, J Cole grew up in North Carolina in the US, and started rapping at a young age. His mixtape, The Come Up, got him noticed and he was the first artist to sign to Jay-Z’s Roc Nation in 2009. MUSICAL POWERHOUSE He’s released five albums, all of which have made their way to number one on the Billboard 200 chart. His debut record, Cole World: The Sideline Story (2011), earned him a best new artist nomination at the 2012 Grammy Awards. Last…

HANDI Vilakazi really T hated staff meetings at Honeysuckle Primary School. She always felt like every criticism was directed at her, even though she was a dedicated teacher. Mr Motaung, the principal, announced on the intercom there was an urgent meeting half an hour before it was time to leave. She entered the staffroom and sat next to Mrs Tshabalala, the mathematics teacher. They giggled at Mr Motaung, a short bald man, who was noisily rummaging through some papers. “Sorry about this,” he began apologetically. “It seems we need two teachers to represent us at the launch of the new curriculum structure that’s being presented at the Sandy City Conference Centre tonight at 7pm. “The reason for such late notice is that the circular apparently fell under my desk. Fortunately,…

POINTS TO PONDER If all is not lost, where is it? The first rule of holes: if you are in one, stop digging. I wish the buck stopped here. I could use a few... It’s hard to make a comeback when you haven’t been anywhere. The only time the world beats a path to your door is if you’re in the bathroom. If God wanted me to touch my toes, He would have put them on my knees. It’s not hard to meet expenses. They’re everywhere. I went to a bookstore and asked the salesperson where the self-help section was. She said if she told me it would defeat the purpose. What do you do when you see an endangered animal eating an endangered plant? If one synchronised swimmer drowns,…

FOR a while he was on top of his game. His role as a successful businessman in one of Mzansi’s most-loved shows helped make him a household name. Fans couldn’t get enough of the handsome actor who played Phenyo Dlomo in Generations, and every producer wanted a piece of him. Melusi Yeni was flying high and living the good life. But then he was fired from the popular show in 2013. The actor hasn’t been seen on screen in two years – until now. Melusi (41) recently joined Imbewu: The Seed and fans are delighted. We catch up with him at a coffee shop in Musgrave Centre, Durban, in between shooting scenes for the e.tv show. His face is fuller and his goatee thicker but Melusi still has that megawatt…

SHE’S a living legend in African football, the only player to score more than 100 international goals in the beautiful game – and now she’s about to go global and join the ranks of some of the biggest names the sport has ever seen. Portia Modise (35) was recently named an ambassador for the upcoming Fifa Women’s World Cup. She joins the ranks of other Fifa ambassadors, including big names like Ronaldo, Zinedine Zidane and David Beckham, and the former forward and midfielder is brimming with excitement. “It feels great that I’ve been recognised by the big house of football that is Fifa, the mother of football,” she says, chatting to us from her home in White City Jabavu in Soweto. She can’t wait to watch Banyana Banyana in action…

MONEY MOVES HE SPENDS hours in gym sculpting that ripped body, but CEDRIC FOURIE didn’t think twice about ditching the dumbbells for a worthy cause. The Skeem Saam actor was recently spotted at Poelano Secondary School in Evaton West, south of Joburg, where he gave a motivational talk on money. Cedric’s speech formed part of a series of financial programmes run by The Big R Solutions, which offers free life skills to students. We asked the TV hunk to take us back to his high-school days. Your favourite subjects at school? Biology and business economics. Were you bookish or sporty? I was more book-smart in high school and now I like sport, but I’m still more book-smart than anything. What advice would you give your 16-year-old self? Save as much…

LIAM’S DARK PAST IT’S only February and already it feels as if the crazy is ramping up too quickly. In a bizarre moment of oversharing while promoting his new movie Cold Pursuit, LIAM NEESON told an interviewer he’d once spent about a week walking the streets, with a stick, hoping to provoke a fight with “a black bastard” after a friend was raped. We’ll be honest, there are a couple of Hollywood types it wouldn’t surprise us to hear this from … but really Liam? The Irish actor (66) didn’t get to beat anyone with a stick and he insists he’s not racist, naturally. He said he’d done a lot of soul searching to deal with his anger. ‘People walk around sometimes with rage, that’s what happens’ Most celebs resisted…