Innholdsfortegnelse for 27-Sep-18 i Drum English

LISTEN CLOSELY Parenting is a complicated task but the secret to a healthy child-parent relationship is effective communication. Parents hold the key to smooth communication and they must ensure their doors are always open. While young people don’t want to disappoint their parents they also hate to be compared to their peers. High expectations from parents can confuse children to the point where they may hide how they really feel. Before imposing careers and hobbies on our kids we need to let them express their feelings. Young people who don’t confide in their parents end up taking bad advice from friends. All parents want the best for their kids but judging them won’t help. Parents, listen to your kids and try to see things from their perspectives. That’s how you’ll…

Having survived a horrific car crash, fitness model Sbahle Mpisane thanked her family and fans for their support in an Instagram video posted by her brother Andile. DRUM readers reacted to the post. I hope she recovers fully. She looks like she’s in so much pain. SNENHLANHLA ZASEMBO MKHIZE She even looks different, but we thank God she is awake. ZANELE AVRIL MANGANYI She looks so different, shame. NONI MAKALETHU NOMILANI MATHE Bad things are meant to humble us . . . AMANDA OTTO-RUITERS Experiencing death first-hand will humble a girl. MBALENHLE NTOMBI YOMAWELA SHAMASE We thank God for her life and hope for her complete recovery. JANET DEEKAY BEEBEE PHUTHOLOGO She has changed, she looks completely different. NICKIE PRIE NICOLE…

HE’S PAYING LOBOLA FOR ANOTHER WOMAN Q I’m a 37-year-old lady and I’ve been in a relationship for two years. But my boyfriend recently told me he’s going to pay lobola for the mother of his son. I love him and never expected to marry him but this has come as a shock. He says he loves me but the situation is complicated – he can’t explain why he’s going to marry this other woman. This has hurt me a lot. Now I’m not sure what to do. He says he wants us to stay together but I’m not sure it’s right to continue with him. Should I let him go or should I stay with him? Please help me. SZ, EMAIL A I’m sure you know you’re worth more…

■ It’s a subsidy that provides a once-off deposit to people who have secured a home loan ■ It’s aimed at first-time buyers to help reduce the initial mortgage loan amount ■ If you earn between R3 501 to R15 000 per month, you should apply ■ The National Housing Finance Corporation can offer you between R10 000 to R87 000 depending on your income ■ South Africans who have never benefited from any housing subsidy or scheme can apply.…

RHYTHM CITY Rene appeals to Mzi for help. Gail (PAM ANDREWS) urges TK to make a run for it before David attacks. Puleng tricks Suffo into meeting Toolkit. Mzi turns the tables on Rene. Sabelo and Jafta clash. Zodwa’s inspiration makes Puleng dream big. David plays a trick on Gail that reveals the truth. Mzi and Rene take the next step. ISIDINGO Lincoln tells Ntando that Kgothalo (KATLEGO DANKE) is a distraction he can’t afford. Clive will do whatever it takes to ensure nothing gets in the way of his new business venture. Seline finds out her husband has been seeing a sex worker. Hendrik regrets helping Lalage. Lincoln surprises Lalage with an unexpected invitation. GENERATIONS: THE LEGACY Lesedi confronts Amy. AJ tells Wandile he wants more from their relationship.…

KING PROTEA Protea cynaroides Where Eastern and Western Cape Colours QUEEN PROTEA Protea magnifica Where Western Cape Colours PINCUSHION Leucospermum Where Western Cape Colours PINK ICE PROTEA Protea "Pink Ice" Where A hybrid of the mink protea and stink-leaf sugarbush, usually found in nurseries or gardens. Colours When you cross two kinds of plants their offspring is called a hybrid. This is usually done to create more vibrant or longer-lasting flowers. New kinds of proteas that have been cultivated include cardinal, Sylvia and Susara.…

You can find the king protea all the way from the Cedarberg in the Western Cape to Grahamstown in the Eastern Cape, from sea level to 1 500m above it. Because of the different conditions across this vast area king proteas’ flowering time, size and colour can vary. Its tough, leathery leaves protect it during the dry, hot summers and wet, cold winters. It also has a large, long taproot that reaches deep underground to extract moisture from the soil for the plant. But that’s not all it can withstand. Its thick underground stem contains dormant buds, which can help the plant survive wildfires. Even if most of the plant has been burnt away, it will grow back from these underground buds.…

FANS are seeing red. Their once unbeatable team is floundering, slipping down the log almost as fast as the ball seems to be sailing through goalkeeper David de Gea’s fingers. And the Manchester United faithful are hurling the blame squarely at manager José Mourinho. Mourinho signed a three-year contract with Old Trafford in 2016 with an option to renew until 2020. But if recent rumours are to be believed he may be shown the door far sooner. There’ve been whispers former Real Madrid boss and French football legend Zinedine Zidane is waiting in the wings to take over. However, Press Association reported Mourinho “retains the full backing of the club’s hierarchy”. But that’s done nothing to dissuade fans – or critics. Former Red Devils winger Lee Sharpe doesn’t think the…

THEY knew they had big shoes to fill when Lerato Kganyago and DJ Warras left the SABC1 music show Live Amp. But it turns out Lesego Nkaiseng aka DJ SPEEDSTA (26) and DJ LAMIEZ HOLWORTHY (26) had nothing to worry about – the TV hosts are a hit with fans thanks to their dazzling on-screen chemistry. But do they really get on as well as it seems or is it all an act? SPEEDSTA 1 What is Lamiez’s most annoying habit? Sometimes she doubts herself and doesn’t realise what an amazing person she is, so I have to remind her. Mine is I sometimes speak too fast – I hate it. 2 Her biggest on-camera blunder? We both forget people’s names. We have it right days before when we rehearse,…

‘Change I want to we need’ – KANYE WEST SHARES HIS PSEUDO-PHILOSOPHICAL WISDOM KANYE WEST has been tweeting again. And, in keeping with tradition, you’ll make your brain hurt trying to distinguish fact from fiction from art. Or maybe it’s all Yoda-inspired Star Wars-ian wisdom, like this gem: “change I want to we need”. Pro tip, Ye, punctuation matters. Kanye also announced he’s going to be a teacher at a prestigious art school. But, turns out, not really. The school issued a statement saying they were “flattered that Mr West would have an interest in teaching emerging artists and designers at the School of Art Institute of Chicago.” But he is “not currently teaching at SAIC, and at this time, there are no plans for him to do so”. He…

OUR lifestyle team have once again outdone themselves by putting together a gorgeous fashion and beauty supplement. Fashion editor Peta-Lee Matjaola shows you summer trends and how to wear them, with quite a few great options for tops, bottoms, dresses or accessories. Nthabiseng Makhokha, our beauty editor, gives you excellent advice on how to find great products and awesome options for hairstyles that are easy to achieve – and easy on your pocket. We hope you enjoy this supplement, which starts on page 21, and that you find it useful and relevant. Tell us what your fave items are or share your pics on social media of your on-trend outfit. Until next week, THE DRUM TEAM We would love to hear your thoughts on matters close to your heart. Email…

The 2018 issue of DRUM Hair (R49) is here to help you find your fresh new summer ’do and give you all the advice you need to care for your hair. This glossy magazine is packed with the latest styles spotted on celebs and Instagram stars, as well as runways and Mzansi’s streets. There are also articles on choosing the right hair oils, buying the perfect wig, great advice before trying the grey hair trend, as well as cute styles for little girls. We also chat to gorgeous cover star Enhle Mbali Maphumulo about her hair journey and favourite styles. Get your copy in stores now or order from Johan Terblanche on 021-406-4962 or johan. terblanche @ media24.com…

HE’S achieved every milestone he set for himself. Playing professional football, getting into the Premier Soccer League, then representing his country in the game he loves – all done. But there was one dream he’d patiently been waiting and praying for and now Siphiwe Tshabalala (33) is living it. He left SA to play overseas after signing with Turkish club Erzurumspor on a two-year deal. And so far the move has been great, he tells DRUM, just weeks after he made his first appearance for his new team. We catch up with him in a telephonic interview between training sessions with his new home club. “I’m probably more famous in Turkey than I am at home,” he jokes. Then, more seriously, adds that working overseas is a dream come true.…

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FOR many, it’s the first thing they drink in the morning – with cereal or coffee – and the last thing they have at night, as part of a bedtime drink. In South Africa we consumed about 1,46 billion litres of white milk in 2014 – that’s a lot of milk. And why not? It’s rich in calcium, potassium phosphorus, zinc and magnesium and has been linked to reducing symptoms of PMS and insomnia. “Recent studies show it may also protect against obesity, hypertension and type 2 diabetes and it’s an excellent aid for muscle repair after exercise,” says Maretha Vermaak, a dietician with the Consumer Education Project of Milk SA. We look at the most readily available milks and compare the nutritional information to help you decide which one…

MARRIED friends and couples on social media agree – some of their wedding expenses weren’t worth the cost. We spoke to wedding and event planners Aleit Swanepoel from The Aleit Group and Minda Maritz from Blush Society about how to avoid money mistakes surrounding the big day. 1 BAD PLANNING Have a budget – the most you can spend – then break it down and don’t leave anything off the list because it will come back to bite you. Include optional items if you have money left over when the must-haves are paid for. Sites such as hitched.co.za and weddingflair.co.za offer budget planners. Record your spending with apps from the Apple and Google stores, such as Wedding-Happy and Wedding Planner by the Knot. 2 TOO MANYGUESTS It usually costs R300…

LIBRA 23 SEP – 22 OCT As a Libra you’re bound to be a peace-loving soul who avoids conflict but this week disagreements may be difficult to avoid. Storms are brewing, especially on the home front. It may not be pleasant but it’s time to assert yourself as it’s a skill you may need to develop further. Walking away may just not be in your best interests. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 33, 21, 24, 1, 31, 10 SCORPIO 23 OCT – 21 NOV Psychological and emotional strength is a characteristic common to your sign. This week your brainpower will stand you in good stead so it’s time to sink your teeth into complex study material or focus on a research project. You should be able to brainstorm your way through a…

TALION BY BEYERS DE VOS (PENGUIN) R209* After Freya Rust’s “perfect” twin brother, Ben, is shot at close range outside a nightclub in Hatfield, Pretoria, she’s determined to avenge his death. But was Ben really all that perfect? What dark secrets did he keep from her? Inspector Nolwazi Mngadi is tasked with finding the murderer. It should be an easy job, but more than a year passes and she’s no closer to cracking the case. Freya thinks she’s found the murderer and resolves to kill him. But does she have the right man? Meanwhile, ruthless drug dealer Slick plies his trade. What was his role in Ben’s death? This is a crime novel with a difference – it’s a dark and disturbing tale of the menacing underworld lurking beneath the…

When most people think of fynbos flowers they think of proteas, of which there are many types. Because proteas occur in such a wide variety they were named after the Greek god Proteus, who could change his form at will. South Africans are so proud of these beautiful flowers that we named our national cricket team after them. The team’s emblem contains a picture of a king protea – our national flower. SA’s proteas belong to the family Proteaceae, which is mainly found in the southern hemisphere. We’re not the only country to name a sports team after this colourful family of flowers. The Waratahs, an Australian rugby team from Sydney in New South Wales, were named after Telopea speciosissima, a member of the Proteaceae family with the common name…

The king protea is sometimes referred to as the sugar bush or honey pot because of the syrupy sugar it secretes. Certain proteas secrete so much of this nectar that early Dutch settlers to the Cape collected it by shaking the nectar off the flower head into buckets. They boiled it to make bossiestroop (bush syrup) that they used as medicine – like a cough syrup. This protea secretes nectar to attract birds and insects (pollinators) like the Cape honeybee (RIGHT) that help pollinate the flower. When a pollinator visits the protea the flower opens to reveal a style that releases pollen onto the creature. These visitors then carry it off to pollinate proteas elsewhere.…

1 Naomi made history Osaka as the first . . . to win a singles Grand Slam? A Woman B Teenager C Australian D Japanese 2 The professional youngest boxing trainer in South Africa is . . . years old? A 18 B 15 C 13 D 16 3 Kim West Kardashian is reportedly enrolled in . . . school? A Business B Law C Beauty D Selfie 4 Former Barack Obama US prez says he was kicked out of . . . for smoking when he was at college? A Disneyland B Home C The White House D School 5 Hlomla and Bianca Dandala Amato starred as Derek and Phillipa in which local soapie? A Scandal! B Muvhango C Generations D Isidingo 6 Miss Green SA revealed Tamaryn she…

SHE has a lot to be grateful for. Her health, family, her music and now a second baby on the way – life is good for Brenda Mtambo. The songbird has just weeks to go before giving birth and she misses wearing heels, she says when we catch up with her. She also has to pee every half an hour, she says with a laugh before heading to the ladies’ room. But she wouldn’t change it for anything, Brenda says. After all, she knows how precious life is after she was hospitalised last year. She found out she has a rare kidney condition called ectopic kidney. “My condition isn’t fatal but it’s something I know I need to watch,” she says. Her left kidney is smaller than her right and…

BOKS EDGE ALL BLACKS The Springboks shocked the world and silenced naysayers with their nailbiting 36-34 victory over New Zealand, a feat they’ve managed to do only 36 times from 96 matches against their rivals. It was all for South Africa, proud Bok coach Rassie Erasmus said after the game. “The boys knew they were playing for their whole country. We could have lost the game in the last minute, but the guys stuck in there.” Even he was surprised at how well the team did. “I don’t know how we scored all those tries. They’ve got one of the best defensive systems in the world and we had no ball and scored all those tries,” Rassie said. BLAME IT ON THE REF BENNI MCCARTHY’s charges suffered a crushing defeat…

SAY her name in Venda, Limpopo, and fans start singing her praises. She’s been compared to late stars Lebo Mathosa and Brenda Fassie. And she tested her diva-like tendencies by showing up at this year’s Phalaphala FM Royal Heritage Festival in a royal chair carried by security guards. MAKHADZI MUIMBI (22) believes entertainment is a calling. We catch up with the young singer. 5 PEOPLE YOU’D LOVE TO COLLABORATE WITH? DJ TIRA is my role model. He’s hard-working and is good at spotting talent. DJ MAPHORISA – he’s versatile and can make any sound work. Prince Kaybee’s story inspires me. He started out in a competition and he made the most of it – look at him now. DJ GANYANI because he’s also from Limpopo and always represents home well.…

‘I could not believe how humiliating it all felt’ – NICKI MINAJ NICKI MINAJ may have put on a dignified face right after her brawl with CARDI B at New York Fashion Week but the gloves are off again! The rap superstars were at each other’s wigs at a NYFW afterparty after Cardi claimed Nicki insulted her daughter, Kulture Kiari Cephus. Wigs were pulled, gowns were torn, and Cardi was fuming (It’s Nick vs Cardi, 20 September). Nicki held back on talking about the smackdown but shared her side of the story on her online Queen Radio show. “The other night I was part of something so mortifying and so humiliating to go through in front of a bunch upper echelon … people who have their life together. The way…

‘Bill Cosby was not afforded an impartial judge’ – CAMILLE COSBY MEANWHILE, disgraced comedian BILL COSBY is to be sentenced this month on three charges of sexual assault, but his wife and lawyers are fighting to have his case dismissed entirely. Cosby faces up to 10 years for each of the three counts of drugging and raping Andrea Constand in his Philadelphia home in 2004. But CAMILLE COSBY issued a statement asking the case be thrown out or that the judge step down at the very least. She’s asking for a motion of dismissal, accusing the judge of withholding “pertinent information” about a so-called ongoing feud between the judge and a former district attorney. She said, “Bill Cosby was not afforded an impartial judge and he did not receive a…

STAR LOOK TICHINA ARNOLD in an Alpana Neeraj dress at the Showtime Emmy Eve Nominees Celebration. AMANDA BRUGEL in a striped one-shoulder minidress at Variety and Women in Film’s pre-Emmy party. SAMIRA WILEY in an Elisabetta Franchi all-in-one and Casadei heels at Entertainment Weekly’s pre-Emmy party. ADINA PORTER in an LBD with sheer detail at The Hollywood Reporter & Sag-Aftra party. JEANNIE MAI in a Nedo dress at The Hollywood Reporter & Sag-Aftra party. THANDIE NEWTON in an off-the-shoulder dress with side train at Variety and Women in Film’s party. JASMIN SAVOY in Emilio Pucci and Chanel at Entertainment Weekly’s pre-Emmy party. TRACEE ELLIS ROSS in a Norma Kamali ensemble at The Hollywood Reporter & Sag-Aftra party. JANET MOCK in a purple minidress at the Variety and Women in Film’s…

A BEAUTIFUL day begins with a beautiful mindset. When you wake up take a moment to remember what a privilege it is to simply be alive and healthy. The moment you start realising life is a blessing I assure you it will start to feel like one. Let us thank God for people who make life bearable with their laughter, sincerity and humanity. Let us stop worrying about things that don’t matter. You want more money, but there’s someone living in poverty. You want a husband, but there’s someone out there who doesn’t have parents. You want to slay, but someone is desperate to stay warm. Don’t waste your time on things you think you want because there’s always someone out there who needs it much more. PHINDILE MOTILENI, SOKHULUMI…

SHE’S been searching for perfection her whole life. New breasts, bigger lips, nose job, new cheeks – she’s done it all. She’s also become an ambassador for skin lightening and disregarded all the criticism that came with it. Now South African kwaito star Mshoza, real name Nomasonto Maswanganyi, has gone under the knife again – this time to get a bigger booty. “Yho! I was a seshwapa [had a flat bum] from a very young age. I didn’t even have breasts and I think that’s why people thought I was a tomboy when I actually wasn’t,” the Kortes hitmaker tells DRUM. She’s changed her looks drastically since she hit the music scene more than 10 years ago, and she’s not done, she says. “I’m generally very conscious of beauty and…

‘You need to go from wanting to change your life to deciding to change your life’ SHE went from being basically broke with few lucrative prospects to becoming a multimillionaire life coach and author. So when Jen Sincero dishes advice, people tend to listen. The bestselling author recently went on a book tour to promote her second book, You Are a Badass at Making Money. But her first offering, You Are a Badass, is still her most popular book and regularly features on bestseller lists. It’s the book that changed the 53-yearold’s life when it was published in 2013 – and the lives of the hundreds of thousands around the world who’ve read it. While doing an interview with The Guardian at a restaurant earlier this year a former client…

PLUM CRUMBLE MAKES 8 TARTLETS PREPARATION: 10 MIN CHILLING: 30 MIN COOKING: 15 MIN BAKING: 40-45 MIN CRUST 150g butter 125ml (½c) sugar 5ml (1t) vanilla essence pinch of salt 430ml (1¾c) cake flour FILLING 1kg plums 100g sugar zest and juice of 1 lemon TO FINISH ice cream to serve Preheat the oven to 180°C. Grease eight tartlet tins with nonstick spray. 1 Crust Using an electric beater, beat the butter, sugar, vanilla essence and salt until smooth. Add the flour and beat until the mixture starts to form a firm dough. Shape into a ball, cover with clingfilm and chill for 30 minutes. 2 Press the dough onto the bottom and up the sides of the tartlet tins. Prick with a fork and bake for 10 minutes. Remove…

ARE you a first-time buyer? It turns out there’s a solution for you – making your dream of being a homeowner that much easier to achieve. Buying a home is a wise decision. It’s more beneficial than paying rent monthly on a property that isn’t fully yours – and while you may not have millions, your bank understands that buying a home is important to you. ENABLING YOUR NEXT There’s a solution at your disposal, known as the Finance Linked Individual Subsidy Programme (FLISP). This is a government subsidy programme that aims to further assist first-time home buyers. The subsidy seeks to reduce the pressure of your monthly repayments, and is paid into your bond account to bring down your instalments. You can also choose to use it to pay…

IN THE ARMY NOW “Today, gentlemen, I have some good news and some bad news,” says a drill sergeant to a group of cadets at a training camp. “The good news is Private Mgudla will be setting the pace on our morning run.” The platoon is overjoyed as Private Mgudla is overweight and terribly slow. “Now for the bad news,” the sergeant continues. “Private Mgudla will be driving a truck.” “Well,” snarls the tough old sergeant to the bewildered private. “I suppose after you get discharged from the army you’ll just be waiting for me to die so you can come and spit on my grave.” “Not me, Serge.” the private replies. “Once I get out of the army I’m never going to stand in line again!” During a simulated…

SWEETENER BY ARIANA GRANDE The year has been crazy for ARIANA GRANDE – a break-up, regaining her confidence after a terror attack at her concert and getting engaged. She expresses all her feels on this album, which went to No 1 on Billboard. Producer Pharrell Williams’ signature quirky beats can be heard on treats like R.E.M and the title track. God is a Woman and No Tears Left to Cry show off Ari’s incredible voice. A flawless delivery.…

The king protea’s inflorescence is made up of hundreds of individual flowers grouped together. Each flower consists of nectaries, an ovary, a style, anthers and a pollen presenter or stigma. The long thin stalk is known as the style. The anthers shed their pollen onto the tip of the style just before the flowers open. The tip of the style is called the stigma and it “presents” the pollen to make it easily accessible to birds and insects. The ovary develops into a small dry fruit containing a single protea seed from which a new plant can grow. At the base of the ovary are the tiny nectaries, which secrete the nectar to attract pollinators such as birds.…

HE MIGHT well be one of the most famous unemployed athletes right now. Although he has no team to play for at this point, his is the face plastered across billboards in some of America’s largest cities. And the video of his recently released ad has gone viral globally. Colin Kaepernick is the face of Nike’s latest ad campaign to celebrate the 30-year anniversary of its Just Do It slogan and the sportswear giant drew praise and criticism for choosing him. Some were furious Nike would celebrate an athlete who refused to stand for America’s national anthem . Others were thrilled that the company backed the American football star for taking a stand against racial injustice in the US, in particular the killing of black people. The athlete’s peaceful protest…

31 Orlando Pirates showed SuperSport United they still have what it takes when they beat them in a thrilling match at Orlando Stadium. 21 It was a good game for Highlands Park when they claimed victory over Golden Arrows, moving up to the top half of the PSL log. 6536 Western Province have maintained their unbeaten run in the Currie Cup when they beat the Golden Lions at Ellis Park. 10 Banyana Banyana defeated Botswana in a windy Cosafa Women’s Championship match at Wolfson Stadium in Port Elizabeth.…