Innholdsfortegnelse for 24-Nov-16 i Drum English

THEIR relationship got off to a shaky start, but today they’re probably South Africa’s most dynamic duo. When SA’s top media personality hooked up with our top musician, it was bound to cause waves. Fans were shocked when it was revealed that rapper Kiernan “AKA” Forbes (28) cheated on DJ Zinhle Jiyane with Bonang Matheba (29). Naysayers pronounced the relationship doomed - after all, Bonang has a public history of failed relationships. Think Skwatta Kamp member Slikour, DJ Euphonik and Nigerian singer-songwriter D’banj. But one year on, the pair have kept their love strong and silenced critics who predicted they wouldn’t go the distance. Speaking to our sister publication, YOU magazine earlier this year, the pair revealed they were fans of each other’s work first before hooking up. “I still…

CHRISTMAS is fast approaching and that means shopping for everyone – from the kids and loved ones to neighbours and teachers. While some are getting excited, others dread having to brave the crowds in shops and malls. Luckily, you can now shop at Makro to your heart’s content without contending with the crowds. At the Makro Online Store, you can browse through an extended range of gifts, from the everyday to the extraordinary. You’ll also find some exclusive online deals – ideal for the festive season. Did you know Makro online sells Smeg appliances, Serta beds, JoJo Tanks, Corsair Components and MakerBot 3D printers? These are just some of the products that might surprise you. You can even buy a slushy machine! The most exclusive items on the virtual shelves…

BEEF SPAGHETTI BOLOGNESE The starchy water from the pasta will help the bolognese sauce to thicken slightly as it simmers. PREPARATION: 10 MIN COOKING: 1 HR SERVES 6 30 ml (2 tbsp) olive oil 100 g bacon, chopped 2 sprigs rosemary 2 cloves garlic, minced 1 onion, chopped 500 g minced beef 200 ml (⅔ cup) beef stock 2 x 400 g cans plum tomatoes 10 ml (2 tsp) sugar 500 g spaghetti Parmesan cheese extra virgin olive oil basil to garnish Preheat the oven to 180 °C. 1 Heat oil in an oven-proof pan over medium heat. Add the bacon, rosemary, garlic and onion and cook for 5 minutes or until softened, stirring occasionally. 2 Add the minced beef, breaking it apart with the back of a spoon. Cook…

LITTLE JABU Little Jabu comes home and tells his daddy: “Dad, tomorrow there’s a special ‘adults-only evening’ at school tonight.” “Really? Adults only?” his dad asks him, surprised. “Yes,” nods Jabu, “it will be just you, the teacher, the headmaster and two police officers.” After Sunday school, the teacher releases the kids to go to church and reminds them: “You all know to be very nice and quiet in the church. And why is that?” Little Jabu offers: “Miss, it’s so we don’t wake up all those people sleeping.” A teacher in Sunday school class once asked Little Jabu: “Jabu, do you believe in the devil?” “No,” replied Little Jabu knowledgeably. “It’s just like with Santa Claus – I know it’s really my dad.” Mother: Jabu, if you keep being…

TREY SONGZ 28 NOVEMBER AARON MOKOENA 25 NOVEMBER TINA TURNER 26 NOVEMBER SHARLTO COPLEY 27 NOVEMBER THE GAME 29 NOVEMBER CHRISSY TEIGEN 30 NOVEMBER SAGITTARIUS: BEST AND WORST LOVE MATCHES In Gemini, you find a partner who will put your vision into words. Aries provides you with the challenge and action you need. Leo’s stubbornness and flair for drama keep you spellbound. With Aquarius, you’re in your element. Charming Libra provides a sense of balance. Routine-driven Taurus doesn’t like travelling – you’ll soon be bored. Tidy Virgo’s orderliness will drive you crazy.…

GIRLS Go natural Take inspiration from singer SOLANGE and ditch the straighteners and blow-drying for cute curls or plaits. Plus it’s low-maintenance if you’re swimming. Splurge on hair oil – it’s so hot right now and you can take your pick from argan to grapeseed. Or save bucks and buy good old coconut oil to use as a hair mask before washing or hair moisturiser. GUYS Opt for a mini Afro like actor MICHAEL B JORDAN. It’s a get-up-and-go look that’s perfect for warmer weather.…

RADIO personality SAMMY SOSA is back on the airwaves after clinching a deal with online radio station Touch Central. The star had a short stint with Metro FM before she was shown the door when she didn’t pitch for work. She allegedly broke the conditions of her contract with the corporation because, it later emerged, she was busy shooting DStv’s reality programme The Hustle. Since then, her life apparently took a downward spiral as numerous reports suggested she was down and out. She also came under fire in August when local muso Inno claimed she owed him R20 000. The sassy deejay set the record straight on social media. “I live an honest life and would never swindle anyone,” she tweeted. “l earn an honest living and work for everything…

CAN YOU believe it’s been three decades since the M-Net magic started? And what a party the first SA pay-TV broadcaster threw to mark the occasion. With the theme Thirty Years of Timeless Magic, M-Net’s 30th birthday was a three-course feast for screen and sports stars, media moguls and tycoons from across the continent. Besides the pleasantries and reminiscing over the channel’s successes, the performance by Claire Johnston of Mango Groove was a major highlight. The star-studded bash was “hosted” by Trevor Noah – The Daily Show anchor appeared in a hologram in a pre-recorded skit, but he still had everyone in stitches. “I’m happy for Yolisa (Phahle, CEO of M-Net South Africa) and the team,” said iconic actor SELLO MAAKE KANCUBE. “M-Net changed the landscape of television in a…

THERE’S been a mixed response to the decision of disgraced Eskom CEO Brian Molefe to step down. But truth be told: The man did the right thing, and as sad as his situation might be for his sympathisers, he has no one to blame but himself. As the old isiXhosa saying goes: “Uzenzile akakhalelwa (one who does wrong has no one to blame but himself)”. Surely he knew there would be repercussions the moment he associated with the Guptas? We hailed him as a Messiah for saving us from the dark days of load-shedding, so why did he have to tarnish his reputation like this? Now he’ll be remembered as another corrupt CEO who lied through his teeth about his links to a dodgy family. I might not have been…

‘Adoption is a taboo subject in the black community because we always take our relatives to live with us’ SHE PLAYS the glamorous but devious Iris Zungu in Mzansi Magic’s Isibaya. Her conniving character is accustomed to nothing but the finest things in life, and will stop at nothing to get her way. When we meet Mampho Brescia at the Spoil Day Spa in Kempton Park, east of Joburg, we discover that at least one part of fiction mirrors reality: she looks ravishing, with her face flawlessly made up and ready for the cameras. The 38-year-old admits there’s some similarity between her villainous on-screen character and her real self. Like Iris, Mampho says she has guts, she’s driven and she has a sense of freedom. Still, the gorgeous mom-of-one has…

‘No one has a right to talk you into something you’re not ready for’ HE HITS ME Q I’ve been in a relationship with a guy since 2013. Two years ago, he started to hit me whenever we had a misunderstanding. He last hit me two weeks ago. In December, he went to pay lobolo for me but I decided to let him go because he keeps promising he’ll never hit me again. He’s still beating me. I reported this to his family but nothing has changed and I went to open a case against him. I’m six months pregnant so I need your advice. Do you think I made the right decision? CONFUSED, E-MAIL A No woman should have to tolerate an abusive relationship. That’s why there are measures…

DOMESTIC violence is not limited to men hurting their wives or girlfriends, and you do not need to wait for something drastic to happen before you take action. South Africa has one of the world’s highest rates of gender-based violence, says Liesl Williams, a legal expert at law firm Norton Rose Fulbright. “People don’t always know what their rights are or where to seek help,” she adds. Violence against women and children happens every day, notes Nosisa Gumede, a relationship expert and senior social worker at Agisanang Domestic Abuse Prevention and Training (ADAPT). “People need to hear about it 365 days a year to end it. Perpetrators also need to know that violence against women and children won’t be tolerated. Those who want to stop being abusive also need to…

GENERATIONS: THE LEGACY Xolelwa is mortified when she has to serve Lebo and the girls. Wandile stands up for himself. Fana is manipulated by Jack. Smanga is shocked when Namhla (THULISILE PHONGOLO) wants to go public. Sphe is nervous about her mother meeting Mazwi. Getty puts her foot down about her niece’s relationship. Zitha uncovers information. In a moment of vulnerability, Namhla reveals all. SCANDAL! Yvonne offers Neo some surprising advice. Dintle (MAPASEKA KOETLE) and Mangi are both satisfied with the outcome of a fraught situation. Romeo ends up in a situation which he cannot control alone. Yvonne turns her attention to a new project. Romeo is hopeful that his plan will work. Layla has to consider that an offer may be more than it appears to be. Ndumiso has…

‘This is a bad omen; you’ve given birth to an albino’ I HAVE MANY names: my mother calls me “Nwelezelanga” because of my golden hair. Some call me “Mhlophe” because of my fair, almost-ginger skin. One wise old woman of the tribe calls me “Mehlomadala” because of my big round eyes that reflect oceans of untold stories. The village girls who like to taunt me just call me “that albino girl”. I’m 13 years old, however, that’s a distortion on its own. I’m young yet old; I’ve experienced the cycle of birth and death many more times than I care to count. I’ve donned and shredded many skin colours in my lifetime. I’ve lived the lives of many; the lives of the poor and the healers of Bantu and served…

MY WARDROBE MUST-HAVE . . . A well-fitting suit. MY FASHION FAVE AS A KID ... Cargo pants. MY BEST FASHION BUY . . . My pair of Jordan 1s. MY FASHION ICON . . . Not sure, maybe [retired footballer] David Beckham. THREE THINGS MEN SHOULD NEVER WEAR . . . Dirty takkies, suits straight off the rack and anything they’re not 100 % comfortable in – it shows in the way you carry yourself. MY FAVOURITE DAY-TO-NIGHT OUTfiT . . . Jeans, high-tops, white T-shirt, accessories. YOU’LL NEVER SEE ME . . . In a straw hat.…

IT WAS already a joyous occasion when reader Thuli Khumalo recently celebrated a milestone birthday. But she didn’t bargain for the surprise of her life: her boyfriend and father of her child popping the big question. Thuli thought the man in her life, Thandile Tsewu, was simply going to propose a toast on her 30th birthday so she was completely overwhelmed when he asked her to marry him. The party was held at the East London Golf Club and went off without a hitch, with Thuli organising and planning the event herself. She did seek the help of Border Cater Hire for the décor, though, and was impressed with their work. “They did a great job,” the special lady says. The point of the event was to celebrate 30 years…

GOSPEL great PASTOR BENJAMIN DUBE is beside himself about his latest collaborative project, Spirit of Praise Vol. 6. Titled A New Season, the album went gold in 14 days after its release, and word from the distributor, Spirit Music Group, suggests that its sales are now nearing platinum status. Produced by Benjamin, the album features a host of gospel crowd-pleasers including Rofhiwa, Dumi Mkokstad and the man of the moment, the impressive Dr Tumi. “Big up to my Spirit of Praise backing vocalists,” says Benjamin. “They are so on-point. Every time I listen to the album the backing vocalists and the band amaze me.” Says Matthew Nkabinde, the project manager of the recording, “The album is one of the best projects from Spirit Music Group and that’s why we called…

SURPRISE, surprise! Who saw the result of the recent US presidential election coming? Certainly not [prophet] TB Joshua, who predicted a victory for Hillary Clinton. The result left some people very happy and optimistic, and many more filled with disbelief, fear, sadness and frustration. Ultimately, the American people spoke through their vote, just like many South Africans did with their choice of political party and current president. The majority of the American public settled for a man who had proved to be a habitual liar, tax dodger, sexist and racist who highlighted the issues that divide them as individuals. And like our current leader, Donald Trump showed he’s not shy to make friends with individuals who others consider dangerous. The American voters are fortunate that, in four years’ time, they…

It’s scary to admit it, but most of us would be absolutely lost without our smartphones. These devices go everywhere with us – this is the tool that keeps us in touch, on time and on top of our busy lives on a daily and hourly basis. We use them to record our lives in every way, whether it’s a quick #messydesk post on Instagram ora selfie at a midweek dinner with friends. But more than just being a useful tool, our smartphones tell everyone around us who we are and what we want from life. Nothing says #winning like the latest, sleekest curve of a cutting-edge smartphone slid casually into your pocket or clutch. From the minute we wake up in the morning, the Samsung Galaxy S7 and S7…

‘If you are on ARVs and your viral load is undetectable, you’re non-infectious’ HIV CONFUSION Q I’m HIV-positive and my man says he’s negative, and has been for six years. Is it possible he could be negative now and that he was positive before? NICKY, SMS A No, it’s not possible that he was HIVpositive before and is now negative. Yes, the viral load could be undetectable if it was once positive, but an undetectable level of HIV copies doesn’t mean he’s HIVnegative if he’s taking antiretrovirals (ARVs). If he was never HIV-positive and has always been negative, then yes, he is HIV-negative, even though you are HIVpositive. The real issue is that if you have unprotected sex even with your status, two things are at play: If you are…

1 TENSION BUILDING Tension builds slowly; the abuser starts to get angry; communication breaks down; the victim feels the need to give in; tension becomes too much; the victim feels uneasy and needs to watch every move. 2 INCIDENT Any type of abuse occurs such as physical, sexual, emotional, and economic. 3 RECONCILIATION / “HONEYMOON” PHASE The abuser apologises; begs for forgiveness; shows sorrow; promises it’ll never happen again; blames the victim or denies abuse occurs; minimises abuse, claiming it wasn’t as bad as the victim claims. 4 CALM BEFORE TENSION STARTS AGAIN Abuse slows or stops; the abuser acts like abuse never happened, makes promises and gives gifts; the victim “believes” the abuse is over or the abuser will change. FIND OUT MORE * For how to…

VERY FEW things in life compare to being rejected by those who are supposed to love and care for us. The Bible is filled with stories of people who have suffered rejection at the hands of their loved ones. The story of Jephthah in Judges Chapter 11 is a case in point. In Judges 11:2, we read: “Gilead’s wife also bore him sons, and when they were grown up, they drove Jephthah away. ‘You are not going to get any inheritance in our family,’ they said, ‘because you are the son of another woman’.” Perhaps like Jephthah, you’ve been rejected by your own family. It could be siblings, a spouse or a companion. Perhaps you’ve been rejected for something you have no control over. Jephthah wasn’t rejected for something he’d…

WHERE did 2016 go? The end of the year is almost upon us, and the holiday season is about relaxation, catching up with friends and family and, of course, great food. And yet, with everyone taking time off work, visiting relatives and kids home from school for the holidays, a home can (and usually does) get more than a little chaotic. One lucky reader’s festive entertaining will be just a little bit easier this year, with an incredible LG giveaway that’ll make your kitchen the most popular spot in your home this Christmas. Enter now for a chance to win an LG Karim Black 679L fridge valued at R29 159! This spectacular refrigerator features a modern linear compressor with a 10-year warranty, a Touch 88 LED display, as well as…

SAGITTARIUS 22 NOV – 20 DEC It’s time to make hay while the sun shines, which means it’s the right week to make personal aspirations your highest priority. Whether you want to reach higher in terms of work, fulfil relationship dreams or hanker to develop your body, mind and soul, it’s a favourable time. Opportunities present themselves to further your long-term hopes and wishes. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 43, 26, 27, 19, 7, 42 CAPRICORN 21 Dec – 20 Jan If you’re a true Capricorn, chances are you’re ambitious and work hard at climbing the ladder of success. However, since the week is giving off a rather reflective vibe, it’s time to shift your focus from the material to your inner world. In the process, some light might be shed on…

MAKE-UP TRENDS Don’t spend all summer trying to get on-fleek brows or lips like Kylie Jenner’s – there’s more to life than a perfectly made-up face. Here are tips for those special occasions: GO (SORT OF) NAKED Get our writer Saskia Hill’s glow (BELOW) with spot concealment (applying concealer to blemishes or dark circles) for those no-fuss days. It also means you don’t have to worry about touching up your make-up later in the day. If you’re not into concealer, opt for tinted moisturiser for a natural glow and nourished skin – it’s a win-win! SUN-KISSED SKIN Most of us prefer a natural tan at the beach, but this isn’t good for our skin in the long run. If you want a natural but safe sun-kissed look, apply bronzer to…

ONE OF Mzansi’s most popular telenovelas, Gold Diggers, is gearing up for a riveting new storyline that promises to keep viewers on the edge of their seats. Speaking at a media lunch MATSHEPO MALEME, who plays Cat, gushed about how much she loves the show, and how she enjoys playing her dodgy character. “Cat is an interesting character – she appears harmless but she is not,” Matshepo told us. We also learnt that TINA JAXA’s feisty character May, would soon be taking a different direction. “I enjoy playing May because she can be dodgy and I like that element,” Tina shared. Veteran actress TINAH MNUMZANA, who plays loudmouth Dikeledi, added she’s “honoured to be part of the show”. Meanwhile MPHO SIBEKO said he is thrilled with the direction his character,…