Innholdsfortegnelse for 25-Feb-16 i Drum English

IN THIS issue, we bring you a mixed bag. We speak to highly respected Public Protector, Thuli Madonsela, who has not been shy to stand up for the truth at all costs. During her tenure, she has continually held her head up high – even when she was ridiculed for coming down hard on corrupt officials who misuse State resources. Thuli is not the kind of person who can be rattled. She possesses the bravery of a lioness and has shown us that it’s possible to stand up for what’s right against all odds. As she finishes her term as Public Protector, Thuli joins the list of people who will go down in history as having fought for the rights of ordinary South Africans. If Jacob Zuma and other corrupt…

NONTUTUKO MALELA YES I don’t think it’s a good thing because people withdraw from investing in South Africa, and it affects the economy. SIPHO DLAMINI NO Not really, because we all know the EFF always causes chaos, so when they’re in the picture you know it’s nothing good. OTLOTLENG KOPANG YES It doesn’t give them a good image because it turns our Parliament into mere entertainment. KARABO TAUNYANE NO It exposes Parliament because it seems like the ANC is trying to push its own agenda – forgetting the other parties involved. NTOKOZO MCINEKA KA MAKAMU NO In political terms, the EFF is doing a great job in Parliament. It can be called chaos if that happens in church, but Parliament is a place of politics. The EFF brings a different…

IT WOULD be fair to say that he’s been on a bit of a rough ride lately: he was one of the 16 actors axed from Generations and intimate details of his private life were splashed all over the media. However, as the saying goes “fortune favours the strong”, and he’s managed to weather the storm. In fact, Atandwa Kani seems to have turned his life around completely – both personally and professionally. We speak to the self-proclaimed “prince of theatre” about love, life and everything in between. We start with his professional life, and learn that Atandwa has joined the second season of e.tv’s popular drama series Ashes to Ashes. His character, he informs us, is called Advocate Buzwe Sihlahla, and Atandwa seems to admire him a lot. “He…

1970s: Became a member African National Congress (ANC) Regional Executive Committee, Bambatha region where he became a Chairperson of ANC Bambatha Branch. 1990 to 1995: He became a labour union shop steward and led a negotiating team for better working conditions during the period and he organised the first ever strike in the financial sector, under the banner of Sacawu, while working at Metropolitan Life Insurance Company in 1990. 1994 to 1999: Chairperson of Ntunjambili Development Forum. 1996 to 1999: He became ANC Local Government councillor and caucus chairperson. 1997 to 1999: He was as a chairperson of Kranskop Policing Forum. 1997 to 2000: He served as regional secretary of ANC Ukhahlamba region. 2002 to 2005: He was a co-chairperson of Joint Budget Committee. 2005 to 2008: Chairperson of the…

NAME: Noluvo Duna OCCUPATION: Gospel singer FROM: Kempton Park NOLUVO’S STORY I’m a 28-year-old married mother of one and I’m eight months pregnant. Since falling pregnant, it’s been a challenge for me to be on trend like I usually am. I love wearing items that show off my petite shape, but I’m not sure about how to mix my normal clothing with maternity wear and still look good. Comfort and looking good are my main concerns. NOLUVO’S REACTION I loved the styling as it didn’t deviate from how I imagined I would look, and it suited my petite structure as well as my baby bump. I learnt how to look and feel presentable, especially with the kind of person I am, and it fits my career profile, too. DATE NIGHT…

GIVING your children a good breakfast is the best way to ensure that they get their day off to a good start. Studies show that a breakfast of cereal rich in complex carbohydrates can help maintain mental performance. So why not try Jungle Crunchalots? It’s crunchy, it’s munchy and it’s chocolatey. Or, if you prefer, honey-flavoured. But best of all, it contains nutrients that the body needs. Crunchalots is made with wholegrain oats, which means it naturally contains beta-glucan, a soluble dietary fibre that might help to keep your digestive system regular. It’s also high in B-vitamins, which assist in the release of energy from food, and a source of iron, which helps your red-blood cells transport oxygen. In short, Jungle Crunchalots will give your kids the energy to help…

“Bad body odour does not exclude anyone because of their age” COULD I HAVE HIV? Q I am a 27-year-old woman and I broke up with my ex three months ago. Last month, he found out he is HIV-positive. I went for an HIV test just after he told me and my results were negative. Is that a possible outcome or was he infected after we broke up? Please help by explaining how quickly someone can become infected. ANONYMOUS, E-MAIL A Yes, it is possible that he is positive and you are negative. The time when he discovered his infection and whether you were still dating is not an issue right now. Right now, you should be concerned about doing a second test after three months to check if you…

“Revealing your desires can be a crucial part of working through sexual issues” IS SHE STILL INTO ME? Q My wife and I have been married for eight years and we have two kids. Initially our sex life was good but now we are only intimate three times a week. She’s also refusing oral sex and foreplay, and insists on the lights being off. What’s going on? WORRIED A You and your wife need to talk about your needs without blaming each other. Remember that you’re in this together and you want to stay together. One way to change the dynamic is to write her a letter expressing how you feel, and then ask her to respond by writing you a letter. Writing opens up many possibilities and can shake…

GOING green has become a buzzword in the 21st century. Basically, it’s all about making choices that will help save our environment. This comes down to buying what is known as eco-friendly material and reducing our “carbon footprint” to slow down global warming, in order to save our planet for future generations. This process is commonly summed up by three Rs: Reduce, Reuse and Recycle. Recycling has come a long way in South Africa. You no longer have to make your way to municipal waste sites: bins to dispose of glass, plastic, bottles and paper are conveniently placed in supermarkets, shopping centres, schools and filling stations all over the country. Everyone can do it. All it takes is a little thought and effort about how we use things around us…

PISCES 19 FEB – 20 MAR It’s the week of the year when your Pisces attributes are superlative, for better or for worse. When it comes to relationships, at best you’ll be a compassionate friend and devoted partner and lover. At the same time, however, you might be elusive and commitment-shy. Professionally, whilst your artistic flair will be the wind in your sails, too much daydreaming could very well sink your ship. YOUR LUCKY NUMBERS 3, 43, 31, 28, 18, 2 ARIES 21 Mar – 19 Apr If you’re a true Aries you’re likely to be active and on the go. However, it’s a week to slow down. Chances are you might even go through a phase of running out of steam, so chill out and recharge. It’s time to…

1. AGAINST WHICH TV STATION DID GARETH CLIFF WIN A COURT CASE? A.SABC1 B. DStv C. E.tv D. M-Net 2. THE OSCARS TAKE PLACE IN WHICH AMERICAN CITY? A.New York B. Washington C. Los Angeles D. Chicago 3. HOW MANY BONES DOES THE ADULT HUMAN BODY HAVE? A.300 B. 270 C. 206 D. 250 4. IN WHICH PROVINCE WILL YOU FIND THE CANGO CAVES? A. Western Cape B. Limpopo C. Eastern Cape D. KwaZulu-Natal 5. WHICH OF THE FOLLOWING IS USED IN PENCILS? A. Silicon B. Graphite C. Phosphorous D. Charcoal 6. WHERE IN THE BODY WILL YOU FIND A CORNEA? A. Ear B. Throat C. Foot D. Eye 7. WHAT IS THE NAME OF THE CHARACTER ACTOR SELLO MAAKE KANCUBE PLAYS IN SCANDAL!? A. Calvin B. Max C. Lucas…

HE LOVES US BOTH I’m 17 and dating my boyfriend for two years. I just found out he’s cheating with a girl I consider a friend. When I asked him about it, he told me he loves us both. I love him too, but I’m not sure I can share. SELFISH MILISA SIVILE (19) REPLIES The fact that you still want to be with this guy after he admitted his infidelity must mean that you really love him. So I guess that rules out the “leave him, he doesn’t deserve or respect you and you can do better” advice. All that’s left for me to ask and say is: if he really loves you, why did he cheat on you? Since he wants both of you and you don’t want…

THE DEVELOPMENT of aircraft has made the world a much smaller place. Just think about how you have to drive for a whole day to cover the roughly 1 400 km between Johannesburg and Cape Town, but you can do so in a plane in about two hours. It’s also put overseas travel within many people’s reach. In the past, you had to travel to other continents by ship. In the early 20th century, if the South African cricket team had gone to play England it would have taken them two to three months to get there by ship. These days the Proteas just hop on a plane and often visit a number of countries in one month. Let’s take a closer look at this important technological development. LONG, LONG…

SHE’S just wrapped a long day of shooting yet even dressed casually in sports gear and takkies she looks effortlessly chic. With her chiselled cheekbones and lovely almond-shaped eyes Mbali Mlotshwa (28) is a great choice for the role of a sexy and sassy fashion designer who catches the eye of not one but two heart-throbs in 7de Laan. The diminutive actress makes her début in the popular soapie later this month and says it’s her most exciting role to date. She’s one half of an interracial romance, a rarity in the SABC2 soapie. It’s not the show’s first interracial relationship – the marriage of Felicity (Melanie Du Bois) and Herman (Deon Coetzee) claims that title – but Mbali is happy this romance will get people talking. She’s thrilled the…

LIFE IS good for Top Billing and Metro FM presenter BONANG MATHEBA: she was recently announced as the host of E! Africa’s red carpet events in Mzansi. According to an E! press release, the channel will now be covering South African red carpet events on DStv channel 124. The E! scoop comes hard on the heels of the husky-voiced personality being chosen once again as one of Revlon’s global ambassadors. The 28-year-old’s strides in the entertainment industry seem to shade her detractors, who think she’s overrated. Last month, her Metro FM colleagues, Phat Joe and Pearl Thusi, were suspended for “continuously bashing” her and making fun of her relationship with rapper AKA. We caught up with Bonang at her hotel before the E! Africa Party in Sandton and the channel’s…

TRUST BLACK LAWYERS Gareth Cliff recently did what many, including President Zuma, have failed to do. He appointed black legal brains in advocates Eric Mabuza and Dali Mpofu to fight for his job. Mpofu found himself in a tough spot as he had to make a business decision over his political career. His party, the EFF, accused him of being a snake with two heads for representing a “racist”. Despite my political affiliation, l commend Cliff for teaching us to believe in our own black lawyers after they outsmarted and outclassed their opposition and won the case. It’s about time we know that black legal minds are just as good as their white counterparts. MK TSHEHLA, E-MAIL NO CHANCE FOR POOR KIDS Children from rich families have more educational advantages…

‘She must be celebrated for her fearless courage’ SHE HAS to be one of South Africa’s most renowned figures – and for all the right reasons. She’s our very own “Iron Lady” – a human rights lawyer and activist who is our buffer against corruption. She has the power to investigate and make recommendations on improper dealings within Government, and she is not afraid to do so. Her name is synonymous with tackling some of South Africa’s biggest corruption scandals. In return, Advocate Thuli Madonsela has become the target of heavy criticism from affected individuals, organisations and political parties. President Jacob Zuma appointed Madonsela as the Public Protector in 2009. After seven years, her time is up and, on Wednesday 19 October she will hand over her illustrious baton. What…

‘Those people couldn’t be bothered about poor souls’ HE SHAKES his head with disapproval as he watches the TV, where men and women dressed in fancy suits and outfits walk the red carpet rolled out in front of Parliament. “They are all riding the gravy train while we poor people continue to suffer,” Dumisani Tshabalala says as he prepares to watch the 2016 State of the Nation Address (Sona). For many years prior to this, he’s listened with much enthusiasm and hope to Sonas, and today is no different. But year after year he has been left disappointed despite the promises that have been made by the Government, he says. IT’S THE night of the much-anticipated Sona and we are visiting the tiny two-room house in Dube, Soweto, that Dumisani…

Always pay off debt carrying the highest interest rate first, stresses Nico Swart, Unisa lecturer and author of Personal Financial Management. If you have the means, now more than ever before you should try to put extra money into your home bond, he adds. It makes sense to reduce the amount you pay interest on as soon as possible, before the interest rate increases. In general, additional bond payments are always an effective way to save because in the long term you save on interest by paying off your bond before the end of the 20-year period. Review policies and insurance. Make sure you’re not overinsured and negotiate insurance premiums. “You don’t always need a gold card. Talk to your bank about cheaper bank fees” says Angelique Ruzicka, editor of…

‘The movie is about deciding what makes you happy’ IT’S AN overcast afternoon when we meet the two bubbly ladies in Johannesburg’s CBD at the elegant The Reef Hotel, but the weather in no way reflects their moods. Both sporting trendy Afros, two of the leading cast members of the movie Happiness is a Four-Letter Word*, Mmabatho Montsho and Renate Stuurman, are clearly on top of the world. Renate sits in the make-up chair while Mmabatho relaxes on the bed as laughter filters from the industrial-chic decorated bedroom with a view overlooking the Joburg skyline. Their conversation flows so seamlessly one could mistake them for old friends. Interestingly, both talented actresses have been actively involved behind the scenes over the years, directing local soapies and producing short films. Mmabatho has…

OVER the years, haircare technology has evolved and almost anyone can get treated with a personalised haircare system. That being said, natural hair is not easy to take care of; it gets dry, breaks easily, the texture can be very hard and it can be tiresome to style. But every now and then a new product hits the market in an attempt to make the natural hair journey easier – now it seems the best thing you can do for your natural hair is to co-wash. WHAT IS CO-WASHING? Co-washing is when you use a conditioner to cleanse and condition your hair instead of using a shampoo. There are now products available that are specifically used for co-washing and therefore labelled as such. These products include some cleansing properties to…

NO CARBS BABY MARROW SPAGHETTI WITH TOMATO AND PRAWN SAUCE “This is a carb-free meal, using baby marrow instead of pasta.” PREPARATION: 10 MIN COOKING: 10 MIN SERVES 4 30 ml (2 tbsp) olive oil 1 onion, chopped 2 red chillies, chopped 2 cloves garlic, chopped 1 cm ginger, chopped 5 ml (1 tsp) Chinese five-spice 120 g shiitake mushrooms, sliced 300 g can chopped tomatoes 30 ml (2 tbsp) soy sauce 200 g prawns, deveined and shelled 350 g baby marrow spaghetti handful coriander, chopped few drops of fish sauce 20 g butter 1 Heat a pan of oil over medium heat. Add the onion and sauté until soft. Stir in the chilli, garlic, ginger and five-spice. Cook until fragrant. 2 Add the mushrooms and tomatoes simmer for 2…

WHAT YOU GET: Week 1: A new diet. Weeks 2, 3 and 4: An eating plan for the week, PLUS recipes, PLUS expert tips. So if you want to drop a few kilos, don’t miss an issue! YOU can still eat all your favourite dishes by replacing meat with beans, lentils, chickpeas or nuts, advises dietitian Fiona Blankenberg. “For example, replace the mince in bolognese with soya mince or lentils. Don’t be afraid to experiment with new and different foods and recipes,” she suggests. “There’s a variety of vegetarian products available that taste like and sometimes look like their meat equivalent. “Herbs and spices are an important part of a vegetarian’s diet to add flavour. Try adding coriander or parsley leaves to salad or vegetarian burger patties. “Make sure you’re…

RECENTLY a medical response team was put together by the Department of Health after numerous cases of meningitis were reported in Mossel Bay in the Western Cape. Even though the outbreak was contained and residents were told not to panic, it raised many questions about what the disease is and how you can protect yourself and your family. According to Health24.com, meningitis is an inflammation of the meninges, the membranes that surround the brain and spinal cord. There are two different types of meningitis, as it can be caused by either bacterial or viral infection. Bacterial meningitis is the most serious and can be life threatening, although it’s not very common. Viral meningitis (see box on the right) is more common, but is generally less serious. Occasionally, if not treated,…

Batteries that contain toxic chemicals cannot be recycled or disposed of in your normal household rubbish. Look out for bins at recycling stations to get rid of these. Styrofoam - the spongy material used to make take-out food boxes or coffee cups - doesn’t break down over time, so limit your use of these products. Laminated or wax paper and paper with labels on it can’t be recycled, as their fibres won’t break down during the process. Paper towels and tissues are seen as too contaminated. Shredded paper will clog up the machinery used and should rather go to the compost heap. Clingwrap, plasticware, chips packets and chocolate or sweet wrappers can’t be recycled.…

QUALITIES Dedication, discipline, emotional stability in reacting to losses and gains, willingness to learn constantly, patience, realism, the self-control not to overtrade, logic and organisation. You need to be well-centred – some traders meditate for peace and clarity before trading. QUALIFICATIONS Traders don’t necessarily need any type of formal educational background, but most are at least college-educated. Some countries require licensing and certification to trade, while others do not. To learn about forex trading, you can do either online training courses or individual training courses with an experienced trader or a broker to learn how to use the software and platform for your account. A combination of both is recommended. The Market offers three BANKSETAaccredited one-day training courses at R2 200 each, in Johannesburg and on request in Cape Town…

ISIDINGO Lincoln (LINDANI NKOSI) gains a vital ally in his struggle to keep Katlego under his thumb. Sam’s claws come out as she faces the prospect of losing Brad for good. Calvin realises he may have to compete with Aphiwe’s church. Calvin walks into a trap set by Lincoln. Aphiwe struggles with S’khu’s words of warning. Brad approaches Rajesh for a stake in HI. SCANDAL! A revelation has Mangi panicking. Stokkies plans his next move. Lindiwe is determined to fix things. Eddie (SANDY MOKWENA) finds himself in an alarming situation and Hector is baffled as to what went down. Lindiwe’s hopes are raised but she finds herself waiting to have them fulfilled. Eddie and Mangi are forced to come clean to a superior. MUVHANGO Vusi thinks he might know who…

“I’m a big comic book nerd, so every time I’m in costume and see everyone in costume, I’m just like: ‘This is sick’” AN UNWILLING HERO Franz plays Jefferson “Jax” Jackson in The Flash, a teen whose dreams of playing college football are dashed after an explosion, which also gives him superpowers. Although initially hesitant to accept his powers, some of which enable him to fly and throw great balls of fire, he agrees to morph into a superhero called Firestorm to help save the world from evil mutants. He now stars in a new spin-off series called Legends of Tomorrow. MOVIEMAKER He might be new to our small screens, but Franz is no stranger to the big screen. The 23-year-old British-born actor, who also has Gambian roots, has worked…

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THIS Valentine’s Day actresses Khanya Mkangisa and THANDO THABETHE urged young women to make the first move in their new campaign, Make Your Move, in association with oral care brand Close Up. In celebration of this initiative, club Harem in Rosebank hosted an event, aptly themed The Close Up, and celebs came in their droves to support the cause. Among those there were musical maestros DJ ZINHLE, who was on the decks, DJ DIMPLEZ and Bidvest Wits soccer star BONGANI KHUMALO. Despite the personal drama she’s been through, DJ Zinhle spread the love with adoring fans, proving that it’s going to take a lot more to get this girl down.…

WELL-WISHES continue to pour in for one of Mzansi’s most popular actors, RAPULANA SEIPHEMO, as he fights for his life at Milpark Hospital, JHB. The actor, who plays Tau Mogale on Generations: The Legacy, was in a car accident in Diepsloot, north of Joburg, that claimed the lives of two passengers. The show’s Publicity Manager, Gaaratwe Mokhethi, said that Rapulana was scheduled to be on the set of the popular soapie when news of the tragic accident broke. While they await his recovery, she assured fans they have a “Plan B while the actor remains in hospital”. Currently, his story line with on-screen wife Karabo Moroka (played by Connie Ferguson) is captivating, as she seeks to marry a second husband. In his latest Instagram post, Rapulana posted a selfie at…

‘It’s her most radical political statement in her 20-year career’ IT’S ONE of the biggest sporting events in America; theNationalFootball League (NFL) final known as the Super Bowl. And the halftime show of any Super Bowl is almost as important as the game itself. For this year’s 50th anniversary, the NFL pulled out music’s big guns: Coldplay, Bruno Mars and Queen Bey herself. There’s no denying her pulling power – Beyonce’s pregnancy announcement at the 2011 MTV Video Music Awards made it the most-watched show in MTV history with over 12 million viewers tuning in. Never one to disappoint, Bey surprised fans when she entered the Levi’s Stadium in San Francisco two weeks ago flanked by an army of dancers dressed in all-black with Afros and berets, provoking images reminiscent…

The South African Pharmacy Council has taken a step in the right direction by easing the laws which prohibit pharmacists from selling HIV home-testing kits for private use. A lot of people in the country don’t know their status, and this will help people to know their status, where they otherwise may not do so in a public clinic. My concern remains around the risks of suicide and lack of counselling for those who test positive. Counselling is compulsory before the test. There are people out there who still consider HIV as a death sentence, while it is not. Who is going to counsel them in a chemist before they purchase the product in order to take control of their lives after noticing that they are HIV-positive? MKATEKO MKHOMAZI, E-MAIL…

HE IS at it again and it seems he can’t stay away from controversy, Financial and health issues have been plaguing this actor for a while now. Numerous stories have surfaced claiming heartthrob Melusi Yeni moved back home to KwaZulu-Natal because he was out of pocket, and he was also reportedly hospitalised at one time. Towards the end of last year, we were led to believe that the popular actor was back on track and ready to work on e.tv’s hit show Rhythm City (Melusi makes a comeback, 3 December 2015). However, it’s alleged that his part in the popular soapie has reached its end. “Melusi Yeni’s contract has come to an end and it will not be renewed,” a source tells us. “He has already shot his exit scenes,…

THERE WAS a time when South Africa was entering an age of hope and everything seemed to be in working order. That was the belief expressed by Thabo Mbeki in his State of the Nation Address (SONA) in 2006. The country’s impressive growth rate had been driven by high consumer demand and financed through credit, thanks to a low interest rate environment at the time. But that was then, and the picture is rather different 10 years later. President Jacob Zuma’s address earlier this month highlighted South Africa’s growing challenges. Despite trying to hold on to a few positive points, the majority of economists commenting on the SONA say his words are unlikely to restore confidence in the country and convince rating agencies to not downgrade the country’s credit rating.…

‘I knew that I was going to get a reward’ HE WAS hell-bent on not letting his background determine his future. His journey took him from working as a police officer and a security guard to becoming a qualified lawyer. Daluxolo Batyi (34), from Summer Greens, Cape Town, tells us that he always wanted to be involved in the legal environment. However, financial difficulties didn’t allow him to further his studies after Matric. His father, who was the family breadwinner, died when Daluxolo was in Matric. Being the eldest child, he had to make a plan to provide for his unemployed mother and five siblings, but he wanted to study at the same time. After being awarded a bursary, he went to study Administration at the Border Technikon, now Walter…

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CARAMELISED BRUSSELS SPROUTS AND CHICKEN SALAD PREPARATION: 10 MIN COOKING: 20 MIN SERVES 4 4 chicken breast fillets salt and pepper 30 ml (2 tbsp) wholegrain mustard 15 ml (1 tbsp) olive oil BRUSSELS SPROUTS 15 ml (1 tbsp) butter 300 g Brussels sprouts 30 ml (2 tbsp) brown sugar salt ASSEMBLY 150 g mixed lettuce Preheat the oven to 200 °C. Grease a baking sheet with non-stick spray. 1 Season the chicken with salt and pepper. Brush with the mustard and arrange on the prepared baking sheet. Drizzle the oil over and roast for 15 minutes or until done. Shred the chicken and set aside. 2 BRUSSELS SPROUTS Heat the butter in a pan and fry the Brussels sprouts for a few seconds. Sprinkle the sugar over and stir-fry…

“The reality is that she doesn’t owe you anything” SHOULD I STAY? Q I’m 38 and the mother of my child is 30. She’s HIV-positive and during her pregnancy we agreed that I would stick with her to support her. Our child is now four. I’m still testing negative but now she says she doesn’t love me anymore and is cheating on me. Must I let her go? I love her. SM, E-MAIL A The story you tell about her HIV status gives me your context, but really has no bearing on the fact that she wants to leave you. What it does say is that you might feel that she owes you because you made an agreement to support her. The reality is that she doesn’t owe you anything…

For the sake of a healthy relationship and sex life, couples need to make a conscious effort to connect in a deep way every day, Blem says. “There’s a lovely equation which says I = (D + F) C, in other words, intimacy equals depth and frequency of communication.” One of the most important things couples need to do is to learn how to communicate on a predominantly emotional level. “I call this the ‘work of love’, which really helps us know each other at a heart level,” Blem says. From dialogue, we can move into the more familiar form of communication which is discussion, understanding what the other person thinks and wants. These communication tools, when understood and applied properly, move relationships from an unconscious and random experience to…

Viral meningitis can be caused by many different viruses, the most common of which is found in the intestines, and therefore in faeces and sewage-polluted water. It can also be caught as a result of herpes, the flu, measles, polio or chickenpox. Viral meningitis is contagious, and if you contract it, people who have been in contact with you will also be put under observation. Don’t share eating or drinking utensils with someone who has been infected, and wash your hands as often as possible. Antibiotics cannot cure viral meningitis, and you will have to just nurse yourself back to health. If you have a severe case, you will be admitted to hospital for tests to see which form of the disease is making you ill, but most cases can…

THOUGHTS can make or break you, so it is critical that you take charge of your mind. Your brain belongs to you, so you must decide how you use it. As Proverbs 23:7 says, “As he thinks within himself, so he is.” Channel your thoughts towards better possibilities and don’t be the worst problem in your life. Overcome the strongholds in your mind. Develop the art of forgetting what lies behind and reaching forward to what lies ahead of you. Of course, negativity will challenge you every step of the way. That’s why you need God to help you. Counterattack all negative thoughts by feeding your soul with God’s word, which can grant you a sound mind. A mind that is established in God’s word is kept in perfect peace.…

SMOOTH MOVE A little girl asks her mother: “Can I go outside and play with the boys?” Her mother replies: “No, you can’t play with the boys. They’re too rough.” The little girl thinks about it for a few moments and asks: “If I can find a smooth one, can I play with him?” SPLIT THE BILL Did you hear about the guy who had a multiple-personality disorder? He had to stop seeing his psychologist because his medical aid would only pay for one appointment at a time. IN THE CLASSROOM Multiplication Teacher: Sindi, why are you doing your maths multiplication on the floor? Sindi: You told me to do it without using tables! Geography Teacher: Thandeka, go to the map and find North America. Thandeka: Here it is. Teacher:…

VODACOM’S unique Change The World (CTW) project enables ordinary South African individuals to make extraordinary differences. Through this project, individuals can volunteer their skills and time by working for a non-profit organisation (NPO) for 12 months. Vodacom pays the volunteer a stipend, makes a grant to the charity and provides the project with funds. With this initiative, Vodacom helps to address SA’s social issues in communities around the country. Since Vodacom launched the initiative in 2011, 54 volunteers have made extraordinary differences in the lives of hundreds of thousands of beneficiaries of the 54 different NPOs. The programme has also changed the volunteers, with some of them deciding to stay in the world of social entrepreneurship. HIGHLIGHTS OF THE CTW VOLUNTEERS’ ACHIEVEMENTS Secured R4,3 million worth of Services SETA training.…

‘Since those early days, I’ve fallen in love with the game’ I IT’S NOT the biggest sport in South Africa, but one huge fan is keen to change that. He’s moved up the ladder from supporter to becoming Basketball South Africa’s (BSA) Acting President. Sanele Mthiyane speaks to DRUM about how he fell in love with the sport and his plans to increase interest and enthusiasm for basketball in SA. The 39-year-old from Shakaville Township in KwaDukuza, KwaZulu-Natal, tells us he realised he had a passion for basketball during his high school days. At the time he was inspired by the National Basketball Association (NBA), the top men’s professional basketball league in America, which is also considered the premier men’s professional basketball league in the world. “The love for competition…

NANDI MNGOMA @NandiMngoma New chapter loading. . . Next week we change the game. I’m doing this for my beautiful Queens and Kings. PABI MOLOI @PabiMoloi I appreciate all the throwbacks, remember when’s & ‘you’re the face of my childhood’ shout outs. It isn’t lost on me how special this is. SOPHIE NDABA @SOPHLA_NDABA Happy Valentine’s Day to all those Who have dedicated today to reminding your partner that they are precious LALLA HIRAYAMA @Lalla_Hirayama Ok I know this song is pretty old but hayi kuyashisa shem! Prince Kaybee . .. Wajellwa . . . on repeat right now!!!!!! NOMZAMO MBATHA @Nomzamo Mbatha I hear the fashion team on my next cover is one of THE best . . . Lets #Nubian it up guys…

HER ACTING career is going from strength to strength – from a main role in the movie Happiness is a Four-letter Word to e.tv’s popular drama series Umlilo. KHANYI MBAU has been confirmed as the latest addition to the cast for season 3. According to the character’s biography, the former Muvhango actress will play a “pragmatic and strategic” state prosecutor. She’s portrayed as being strong, in control and more than a match for Mnqobi (played by Hamilton Dlamini) with a sultry, smoky sensuality. But it seems that Khanyi wasn’t the first choice to play the character. DRUM has reliably learnt that before Khanyi was offered the role, it was offered to former Muvhango actress and singer MADUVHA MADIMA. It’s said that Madhuva turned it down due to contractual obligations to…

WHEN E! Entertainment announced that the American channel would now cover local red carpet events, a party of note was thrown to celebrate. At the E! Africa Party in Sandton it was announced that BONANG MATHEBA – who was breathtaking in a black and beaded Gert-Johan Coetzee number – would host the show. Other celebs who rocked black dresses were DINEO MOEKETSI, MAMPHO BRESCIA, TERRY PHETO and NOMUZI MABENA. Dineo, Thando and BOITY THULO all wore custom-made, daring dresses by Quiteria & George, with Boity’s white outfit more bridal than bold with its sheer mermaid-style gown and train. Actress Mampho and skanda queen Nomuzi opted for the high-waisted skirt trend in a sheer top and bustier respectively. Bringing colour to the show were NHLANHLA NCIZA and LUTHANDO SHOSHA. Mafikizolo leading…