AMANDA J. CRAWFORD is a writer, professor, and musician, whose work has been published by the Baltimore Sun, the Arizona Republic, National Geographic, People, Ms. Magazine, Bloomberg News, Businessweek, Hippocampus, and others. She is a professor at Western Kentucky University in Bowling Green, where she and her husband perform in the indie band Former Friends of Young Americans and run the FFOYA House community arts organization.
I LEARNED [family secret] from one grandmother, then the other.
First, it was Millie, my father’s mother, in the house in Pennsylvania, which smelled of smoke and deodorizer, in the living room decorated with small crocheted blankets of coarse rainbow yarn.
My grandmother’s third husband, Grandpa Floyd, was watching pro wrestling on the television as Millie told me stories about our family, her shrill…