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1. DRINK OUT LOUD with a glass set that lets you say it with shots ($27, sistersof losangeles.com). 2. GIVE LIP SERVICE with the all-natural quenchers in Burt’s Bees’ new lipsticks ($9, burtsbees.com). 3. GET INSURED! Open enrollment for the Affordable Care Act ends Jan. 31. Visit GetCoveredAmerica.org for more info. 4. HIT PAUSE on 25 to catch the live show: NBC’s Adele: Live in New York City airs Dec. 14. 5. GET SPOOKED as Mulder and Scully get back into the supernatural game for Fox’s rebooted miniseries The X-Files (Jan. 24). 6. FESS UP Your fave drinking game gets a swanky makeover with the Never Have I Ever card set ($25, amazon.com). 7. BREAK OUT THE CRUMPETS Downton Abbey’s final season bows stateside on Jan. 3 (PBS). 8 SHOW YOUR…

WE KNOW YOU HAVE CONFESSIONS TO SHARE....E-MAIL THE DIRTY DETAILS TO CONFESSIONS@COSMOPOLITAN.COM, OR TWEET YOUR TALES TO @COSMOPOLITAN! 1 “I clean for fun— I’m obsessed with it. My roommate’s a slob, so I follow her around and vacuum up after her. It’s really satisfying.” —JESSICA W., 21, STUDENT, NEWPORT BEACH, CA GUY CONFESSION 2 “I WAS HAVING SEX IN THE SHOWER WHEN AN RA CAME IN. WE FROZE IN SILENCE UNTIL SHE LEFT.” —JOSEPH K., 22 3 “I WAS AT A BIRTHDAY PARTY, AND MY FRIEND BACKED INTO A CANDLE AND LIT HIS SHIRT ON FIRE. EVERYONE ELSE AT THE PARTY STARTED FREAKING OUT, BUT I JUST BURST OUT LAUGHING, COMPLETELY INAPPROPRI -ATELY. THANKFULLY, HE WAS FINE.” —MADELINE L., 21, ARTIST, BROOKLYN, NY 4 “I TELL PEOPLE I HAVE ROOMMATES.…

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Unbrushable Hair Piled on texturizer, hair spray, dry shampoo (all the above?)…and have a rat’s nest to prove it? Apply conditioner before shampoo. The oils break down buildup so shampoo can wash it all away. Try Aussie 3 Minute Miracle Moist, $4, drugstores, followed by Hair Food Root Cleansing Shampoo, $10, Target. Tired, Puffy Eyes Tame sleepy eyes with a Visine soak: Add a drop per eye then close for two minutes. Follow with moisturizing under-eye skin patches to counteract alcohol’s dehydrating effects. DHC’s Rich Eye Zone, $17.50, dhccare.com, wraps around your eye, infusing the area with moisture. Wake Up in Makeup? Do a double cleanse. Start with cleansing oil (try Boots No7 Beautiful Skin Cleansing Oil, $12, Target) or micellar water (we love Simple Skincare’s, $7, drugstores) to dissolve…

2016 DIET-BOOK CHEAT SHEET We picked out the sane advice. 1 EAT PROTEIN AT EVERY MEAL. Aim for 25 to 35 grams, says David Ludwig, MD, PhD, author of Always Hungry? Protein in dairy, meat, fish, beans, and nuts cue a hormone that reduces hunger and raises energy. 2 EAT FOR YOUR BODY TYPE. Apple-shaped? Opt for healthy fats before grains to slim your belly, says The Doctor On Demand Diet’s Melina Jampolis, MD. Pearshaped? Favor healthy carbs, like berries. 3 KEEP A FOOD LOG. People who do so lose twice as much as those who don’t, according to Ilyse Schapiro, RD, coauthor of Should I Scoop Out My Bagel? (Answer: Yes.) Just a note on your phone works fine. 55 PERCENTAGE REDUCTION IN BINGE EATING AFTER PEOPLE TOOK A…

His Lines Are Generic Players live and die by the pickup line, whether it’s a come-on at the club or a generic first message on Tinder. If his line could be used on anyone, that’s a red flag. He Loves His “Place” These dudes take each girl to the same spot—it’s zero effort, and he trusts the staff to keep secrets. If he suggests the same sports bar for every date, be suspicious. He Hates Labels Players would rather be benched than seal the deal with a title. They see DTR talks as forced responsibility, and the only ring he’s into comes with a championship.…

Q / MY BF HAS A CRAZY WORK SCHEDULE. AT THE END OF THE NIGHT, ALL I WANT TO DO IS JUMP HIS BONES, BUT HE ALWAYS SAYS HE’S TOO TIRED. I KNOW I SHOULD UNDERSTAND, BUT I’M FRUSTRATED. HOW CAN I LET HIM KNOW WITHOUT COMING OFF AS NEEDY? A If it’s needy to need sex, then we’re all needy! Tell him that you’re proud of his hard work, but you need him hard after work too. Sometimes guys do get tired, but as long as he’s not exhausting himself with someone else, beat this impasse by proposing solutions. Maybe you can squeeze it in before work, meet up for a quickie at lunch, or agree that even if he’s bushed, your bush will get his attention one additional…

Skin WHATEVER’ S CAUSING YOU TO PILE ON PRIMER, FOUNDATION, CONCEALER, AND POWDER IN THE MORNING CAN EASILY BE FIXED WITH A SPECIALIZED NIGHTTIME ROUTINE (THAT ’ S WHEN OUR BODIES ARE FIXATED ON REPAIR). TIME TO GET YOUR BEAUTY SLEEP! IF YOU WAKE UP TO… Breakouts REACH FOR SALICYLIC ACID OR BENZOYL PEROXIDE Seeing mostly blackheads and whiteheads? Go with salicylic acid. It exfoliates to purify pores and unclog sebum. (Find it in Dermalogica’s gel.) “If you have red or painful cystlike bumps— signs of bacteria overload— opt for antibacterial benzoyl peroxide,” explains Eric Schweiger, MD, a dermatologist in Manhattan. He prefers a micronized formula like La Roche-Posay’s. Super-potent, the particles are small enough to penetrate the skin’s surface. HEADS UP Benzoyl peroxide is notorious for bleaching fabrics, so…

AS A SESSION assistant III at Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center, Ayobami Charles keeps things organized at two outpatient clinics: ophthalmology and interventional radiology. She ensures that the clinics’ rooms have the proper equipment, the patients’ necessary lab work has been done prior to surgery, and the patient histories are ready for doctors to review. When Charles graduated four years ago with a degree in psychology, she didn’t know what she wanted to do. At a friend’s suggestion, she applied for an entry-level job at the hospital. She soon realized that she loved it. “I’ve learned how to stay calm and approach patients so that they feel confident in my ability to help them,” she says. Charles’s new goal is to become a hospital administrative manager, working behind the scenes…

THE BREAKDOWN Mostly As GHOSTIE GUY Now you see him, now you don’t. The dude’s in and out of your life (and, uh, other parts of you) when he feels like it. You might think he’s your soul mate, but that’s just because he ghosts so often, you barely know the real him. Tip: The right guy is usually down to hang out with you in the daytime. Mostly Bs ROCK STEADY You’ve been smooth sailing with this bro for a while. He is committed and could very well be—in the immortal words of Phoebe Buffay— your lobster. Just remember, there still needs to be a sprinkle of romance—think date nights at that new Peruvian fusion place and/or sex that lasts longer than 15 minutes. Mostly Cs MR. TEMPORARY Deep…

“On our first date, we talked hobbies, and he told me he was into puppetry. When we went out again, he had a surprise—he brought a puppet that looked just like me. He even gave it a name similar to mine and made it talk with my mannerisms! It felt creepy and obsessive. He’s a better match with the puppet than with me.” TATIANA S., 24 “This guy took me out to a restaurant and didn’t tell me his mom worked there as a waitress. She waited on us, then sat down and ate with us and then paid. That was our last date.” LAURA L., 28 “We started talking about girls he’d dated in the past, and he says, ‘I’m clearly a chubby chaser.’ And winked at me! Rude.”…

1 White-Out Start 2016 off with a clean slate. All-white everything brightens up the dreariest of winter days. Just keep the bleach pen handy. 2 Print Mixing Ready to breathe some life into your wardrobe? Layer contrasting patterns like a street-style pro by keeping it all in the same color family. 3 All Blush See your next ladylike look through rosecolored glasses. Far from fussy, structured pieces in monochromatic pink look pretty chic. 4 Mod Minis Give your style some ’60s sensibility with a prim collar, pointed-toe flats, and a top-handle bag. A cheeky high hemline brings it all back to the future. 5 Sporty chic Cozy winter staples paired with bold sportswear accents look off-duty chic, whether you’re courtside or couch-bound.…

IT’S LIKE it happened in slow motion. I fumbled my MAC foundation and watched my NW40 shatter on the floor. I was back visiting my East Texas hometown, and there wasn’t a MAC counter for miles. I headed to the local Walmart for an alternative, but nothing matched my skin tone. I’m a black woman but light-skinned (think Beyoncé). While there were dozens of shades, not one suited my olive undertones. I knew from years of trial and error that, once applied, those pale shades would give me that “trashy ashy” look. My frustration grew as I searched for darker colors that I could mix with a lighter shade. Combing the aisles, I wondered why the darker shades were stashed on the bottom shelves, collecting dust. And really, why am…

29 PERCENTAGE OF U. S . WOMEN AGES 14 TO 49 WITH BACTERIAL VAGINOSIS . NO SHAME! MUSKY Mild, sweaty odors are likely just pheromones, which are the body’s mate-attracting chemicals. Your natural scent may grow stronger depending on temperature, diet, perspiration…even wearing tight jeans. The solve: Nothing to worry about here. Hit the showers (to remove excess sweat) and go about your day. BLEACHY This strong chemical scent usually arises after a steamy night, when vaginal fluids have mixed with lubricants, condoms, and semen, all of which have distinctive odors. The solve: This smell on its own is NBD. Got itching and redness too? It might be a sign of a yeast infection. See your gyno. FISHY A mild but foul odor can mean an overgrowth of normal bacteria,…

But does that mean recreational pot is good for you too? VIRGINIA PELLEY investigates the new vice of choice. BALANCING 24 CREDITS, marching band, sorority council meetings, and a part-time job was taking a toll on Cali G., then a 21-year-old University of Missouri student. Overwhelmed, she turned to alcohol to mellow out. “My responsibilities became unbearable. I would come home from class, grab a beer, and chug my way into a fog,” she says. After one particularly brutal hangover, Cali swore off hard drinking. Then, on a camping trip with friends, she had a pot epiphany. “My friends told me that smoking weed is safer for your lungs than cigarettes,” says Cali, who is now 24 and living in southern California. “After learning how to do it, I sank…

Q/ What’s a lesbian position that will blow my girlfriend’s mind? Our oral game is getting a little vanilla. A/ The next time you’re going down on her, try tracing out the alphabet (or spell her name!) with your tongue— the variety of movements means she’ll be feeling all kinds of new feels that will build up into a massive O. But mouth stuff doesn’t have to be the only way to get it on with your girl. “People joke about scissoring, but it has some really good qualities to it because you hit all those nerve endings on the clitoris and vulva,” says sex educator Richelle Frabotta. Or if you want to go the penetration route, Frabotta suggests buying a strap-on that’s well-made with leather and strong grommets that…

We understand breakfast. You wake up hungry, so you eat. Lunch makes sense too. But not brunch. Brunch is the gaucho pants of meals: two good things that, instead of creating something greater than the sum of its parts, end up a subpar replacement for either. As for timing, say you make plans to meet everyone at 11. If we wake up at 9, that means waiting two hours to eat. Possible, but it takes effort. And weekends, as you may have noticed from the sweatpants and T-shirt we’re wearing, have nothing to do with effort. So we eat breakfast. Then brunch. Three hours after that, we’re hungry again, so we have lunch. Eventually, we’ll need dinner. Brunch may seem like a fun social opportunity, but to a guy, it’s…

I’VE ONLY BEEN HERE, LIKE, ONCE or twice, and I was drunk,” Miranda Lambert says as we’re shown to our private table at Nashville’s Pinewood Social. The restaurant/bowling alley/lounge is among Music City’s prime spots for after-parties—which explains Miranda’s state during past visits. Today, a rainy afternoon in early October, she’s stone-cold sober, albeit a bit raspy: “My voice is hoarse ’cause I was yelling over loud music last night.” She spent the evening prior at Blue Bar in midtown, where “there’s always live music.” Of her outfit—a cream Rachel Zoe blouse and American Eagle jeans—the 32-year-old says, “I just got some new clothes because all I had were my farm clothes and stage clothes.” That farm would presumably be the one in Oklahoma that she shared with her now…

Before the Interview You may not realize it, but your interview actually starts the minute you say, “Yes, 3 p.m. on Wednesday is great. I look forward to speaking with you.” Here’s everything to do between that moment and the big day. HIT THE BOOKS You wouldn’t go on a Tinder date without Googling, so why would you go on an interview cold turkey? Research your potential employer in full, says Caroline Ghosn, cofounder and CEO of Levo, a professional networking site. If you know anyone at the organization or can find connections through friends or LinkedIn, ask them for insight. Your goal is to spend the interview talking about how you could contribute to the team, not listening passively while you’re brought up to speed. KNOW YOUR INTERVIEWER “Look…

Q / Isn’t the stock market basically gambling? Why should I trust it? As a financial planner, I know that many people are suspicious of the market. At one time, even my husband shied away from investing in it. But investing isn’t a get-rich-quick scheme. It does involve risk, but it allows you to participate in the growth of this country’s companies while your money grows. If you are patient and don’t play the market for short-term profit, the odds are in your favor…unlike in Vegas. Q / Should I put my rainy-day savings in the market? This is a cold hard no. If there’s even a chance you could need your cash in the next five years, it should never touch the market. At LearnVest, we advise clients to…

Aries You don’t have to drop hints with an Aries. Bold, brash come-ons get his juices flowing, so surprise him with frisky forays. He won’t know what hit him if you show up for date night wearing nothing under your coat but a confidenceboosting, barely there nightie. No need to spend too much on it—it’s unlikely you’ll have it on very long if he has anything to say about it! Taurus A keenly sensual sign, your Taurus loves scents like a little musky perfume behind your ear. Threads like cashmere pajamas will drive him wild—especially when you tell him to strip them off and slip between your silk sheets. Give him a taste then dribble warm fudge someplace strategic…which he’ll just have to lick up, of course. Gemini Geminis’ minds…

WE ALL FACE dozens of decisions that bubble up every day, from Do I really want to go to this party? to Should I offer to volunteer for this event? to Should I have the apple or the cronut? (The answer to the last one: Obvi, both!) After years of stressing over my choices, I now find the most useful guide to making the right call is to simply default to yes. That may sound a little crazy at first. We can’t all do everything without running ourselves ragged. But if a decision is haunting you, if you’re right on the fence about it, I say go for it. Here’s why. When I look back at all the good choices that led me to where I (happily) am today, they…

Track Queen Ditch last night’s mini for track pants. Keep the bling to distract from your hangover face. BRA TOP, Heroine Sport, $95, heroinesport.com. PANTS, Pam & Gela, $195, pamandgela.com. PUMPS, & Other Stories, $135, stories.com. NECKLACE, Aldo, $40, aldoshoes.com. CLUTCH, Asos, $33, asos.com Shady Lady Hide tired raccoon eyes with oversize sunglasses in retro shapes and playful prints. SUNGLASSES (FROM TOP), Dior, $515, Dior boutiques, 800-929-DIOR; Crap Eyewear, $58, crapeyewear.com; Oxydo, $98, Nordstrom; Pared Eyewear, $220, paredeyewear.com; Karen Walker, $250, barneys.com Slam Dunk Strut your party dress well into the a.m. by trading stilettos for sneaks with street cred. DRESS, Cynthia Rowley, $348, lordandtaylor.com. BELT, GoJane, $10, gojane.com. SHOES, Nike, $125, nike.com. BAG, Banana Republic, $178, bananarepublic.com. BRACELETS (from top), $7.90 for set of 3, (middle) $12, (bottom) $7.90, all Forever 21, forever21.com…

IF YOU THINK ABOUT IT, it’s weird that your skin-care routine stops at the hairline. “Your scalp is really an extension of your face…and has its own unique skin type,” says Francesca Fusco, MD, a New York City dermatologist for Clear Scalp and Hair. The weather, hormones, even styling habits can throw it out of whack…and that’s when trouble starts. “About a quarter of my patients complain of dryness, itchiness, tightness, and stinging,” says Dr. Fusco. Scalp imbalances can also mess with your look— cue dullness, breakage, and slower growth. Confront your issue head-on with our guide. YOUR SCALP SITCH Second-day hair? As if! You can’t go longer than a day without it getting flat and greasy. SCALP TYPE: OILY Just like fluctuating hormone levels wreak havoc on your face…

ON A Plane... If you’re ballsy enough to pull it off—because getting caught can potentially land you in handcuffs—here’s how. First rule of the Mile-High Club? Don’t let any unmentionables touch the lavatory. Stand and face away from him with your legs together as he enters you from behind. Bend slightly forward, bracing yourself against the wall, for G-spot in-flight delight. Have him cup your breast with one hand and grip your waist with the other for balance. Or he can glide that hand to your clit to make you feel like you’re floating on air. And we don’t have to tell you to be quick. ON A Yacht... Make a splash by using the bed as a coital diving board. Lie on your back with your legs in the…

SCOPE OUT MY Facebook page and you’ll see that my husband, Artie, and I recently celebrated our first wedding anniversary. We took a road trip, fed each other cupcakes, and drank champagne straight from the bottle. Keep browsing and you’ll see our vintageinspired NYC wedding, our candlelit engagement, even a snap from the day we first met in person after months of OkCupid courtship. But way down near the start of my Timeline, you’ll find me partying with my ex-fiancée’s football team after she (yes, she) kicked the winning field goal. She and I dated for about five years. We loved having parties at our apartment in suburban New Jersey, going out for half-priced apps at Applebee’s, and having overly dramatic fights in public. She wasn’t the only girl I’d…

Girls shouldn’t make the first move? Screw that! Dating expert Matthew Hussey shows you how to do it…and still make any man think it’s part of his master plan. Look Twice A guy won’t get the hint from you vaguely tilting your head in his general direction. He needs eye contact. Like, more than once—more than twice, even. That way, he knows it’s safe to come over. Guys don’t approach women who look like they are going to say “Sorry, no.” But we live for the maybe. Use These 7 Magic Words Walk up to any guy and say, “Could I get your opinion on something?” It makes us feel important. Follow up with: “My friends and I are looking for a cool place to go. What’s great around here?”…

RIHANNA The Topknot Are you into karate? Try not to be confused when we ask what color belt you are…or if we get you nunchucks for your birthday. KENDALL JENNER A Ponytail When your hair is up, we marvel at your facility with what we think is a scrunchie. Don’t girls still use those? RUBY ROSE The Pixie Cut Reminds us of Peter Pan— not Mia Farrow, as you may have hoped. We still think you’re cute though. (Not that Ruby cares.) CHRISSY TEIGEN Tousled Waves Tousled will never enter our lexicon. We assume you’ve just gotten out of bed, and that’s kind of hot. BELLA THORNE Milkmaid Braids We’d consider a summer trip to Bavaria just so we can see you in a dirndl…and to eat pretzels. NICKI MINAJ…

BEAUTY TIP Gorgeous, glow-y skin has never been easier with new YSL Le Teint Touche Eclat Foundation, $58 (out this month!). Golden pigments make your complexion look perfectly lit. HAIR: Andre Gunn at Honey Artists. MAKEUP: Eric Polito using Chanel Le Volume at Art Department. MANICURE: Julie Kandalec for Dior Vernis. MODELS: Melie Tiacoh/Next; Pritika Swarup/Women 360 Management. See page 154 for shopping information. BEAUTY TIP Want hair on sleek? Work L’Oréal Paris Extraordinary Oil Lustrous Oil Serum, $7, through strands to minimize frizz and maximize shine.…

“LOVING WINE IS NOT ENOUGH. IN MY ROLE, I HAVE TO MANEUVER DISTRIBUTION, MARKETING, SOCIAL MEDIA, LEGAL ISSUES, AND LOGISTICS.” I’M FROM A FAMILY OF IMMIGRANTS who went into construction and mining. Wine, let alone champagne, was not common at our house. One night when I was 9 years old, I saw an ad for an exchange program that showed the Eiffel Tower. I had never seen anything like it before. I told my mom I wanted to “go where they have that tower.” She said, “Well, then start working.” Get Out and See the World In high school, I studied French and became the first person in my family to get a passport since we’d emigrated. I saved up to pay for a studentexchange program and went to Provence.…

? WHERE DO I BUY ART…THAT I CAN ACTUALLY AFFORD? I know, right? Sites like 20x200.com and Curioos.com have prints from cool artists that start at $24. Sweet! 1 Shop Your Own Walls “Starting from scratch can be expensive,” Henderson says. Pick one bigger piece that you already have, like a poster, as a focal point. Then surround it with smaller, cheaper art. 2 Stick to a Palette Three to five colors, max. “You don’t need to be obsessive about it, but the art should look cohesive,” she says. Same with frames. Go with two finishes—light wood and white—for a super-pretty look. 3 Mix Up the Mediums Photography, prints, even your own amateur watercolor works of art can all live together. 4 Map It Out Before you hammer any nails…

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DOWN 1. This sign is usually up on every health fad even before it becomes a thing. 2. As the sign of __________ , Libra is admired for her impressive social skills and love of beauty and harmony. 4. Dramatic entrances and OTT eyewear are eternal musts for this sexy, passionate, private sign. 5. The unicorn of the zodiac, this sign can be stubborn and singleminded… but is always up to take on others who present an intellectual challenge. 6. Hardworking, ambitious, and subtly edgy, this sign loves to escape to the outdoors whenever she can. 7. Nothing delights this sign, a major foodie, more than a backyard feast with her nearest and dearest. 11. Always filled with wanderlust, Sagittarians are known for their love of __________ and decorating their…

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