Innholdsfortegnelse for November 2017 i Cosmopolitan

My happy place: My aunt’s house in Brazil. It’s like Modern Family. Everyone’s yelling over each other but in a loving way. My best trait: Adapting to different environments. Growing up, I moved a lot so I got used to constant change. My worst: I’m pretty stubborn. If I’m having a debate with somebody, I won’t let it go. I don’t need them to agree with me, but I need them to understand my side. Favorite Insta account: @TimAndEric. It’s based off a show on Adult Swim with Tim Heidecker and Eric Wareheim—it’s obscure, bizarre humor. Weirdest quirk: I’m always doing voices from internet and YouTube characters nobody is familiar with—or at least not most people I’m around—so nobody laughs. I think everyone in their 20s should: Move to a…

“It’s rare that a man catches my eye. But one time, I was in the mall, and I saw a guy who was perfect. Typically, I’m aggressive and overly confident, but I tried to scope him out first. So after hiding behind kiosks (several in a sequence), I lost sight of ‘my man.’ I turned around, and he was standing there and says, ‘Hi, I’m _____.’ I was mortified. He saw me track him for, like, five kiosks straight!” —ARIELLE C., 26, SPORTS JOURNALIST, RALEIGH, NC “I went on a date with my boyfriend at the time, wearing a cute little romper. He asked me how I peed in it, and I explained that girls just take it off every time. He asked why I didn’t just pull it to…

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He is a few inches shorter, a couple of years older (read: 10), or his hairline has seriously receded overnight.…For 68 percent of women, a date not looking like his profile pics is the ultimate turn-off. Here, Melissa Hobley, CMO of OkCupid, shares the signs a guy is being shady about his appearance online. Grainy or pixelated photos Full-body shots taken from a great distance Parts of his face cropped out Hats, ski goggles, or sunglasses— in every pic Strictly group poses with eight frattastic friends Only one photo…

WOMEN MEN 10 FUN DATE IDEAS—YAY! Visit an art museum and bond over how much you don’t get it. Hit up trivia night at a bar. Rent bikes— helmets are the great equalizer. Order a meal-kit delivery service, and cook dinner together. Take in a movie at midnight. Dance your butts off at a silent rave. Take a walking tour of your city. Eat your way through a farmers’ market. Sip leisurely at a winery or brewery. Play old-school board games.…

Both men and women agree: They’d like to meet someone faceto- face—like, in real life—again. But…most have only asked someone out in person once or twice. In fact, almost half of all women ages 18 to 24 have never asked a person out! It’s time to make moves, girl. Start with the locations and one-liners here (feel free to improv!), then get even more pickup strategies and ways to tell if a guy will be open to your advances at Cosmopolitan.com/MeetAHottie. GROCERY STORE Sameera Sullivan, CEO and chief matchmaker of Lasting Connections, says she finds attractive bachelors for her clients at the deli counter. YOUR LINE “Wow, food shopping when you’re starving is such a bad idea. Right?” COFFEE SHOP Go between 4 p.m. and 8 p.m. to scope out…

Logan Hill has dated around, hooked up, grown up, screwed up, and settled down, so he knows what he’s talking about. See more of his insightful answers to your love dilemmas at Cosmopolitan.com. I just started dating someone, and he wants to have sex five times a day. I was flattered and excited at first, but now it’s too much. How do I handle this? A_ On the surface, this sounds like a problem lots of people wish they had. But yeah, it also seems pretty exhausting. Five times a day is a lot for anyone’s body to take, even if, like your current guy, they enjoy it. It’s perfectly healthy to communicate your limits. You can say you want less action without framing it as an ego-popping rejection. Think:…

No romantic relationship can be a completely open book. Keeping a few things to yourself is common…and normal. One study by sociologist Beth Easterling (who’s examined this topic extensively) found that more than 60 percent of coupled-up people admit to having kept at least one secret from their partner. And yet once couples grow closer, it’s typical for them to start divulging all truth. For instance, you may confess to your partner that you actually hate that sweater he always wears or that, early on, you didn’t think you two would last. For the most part, these are facts that will hurt your mate— you’d be telling him purely for transparency’s sake, which today is equated with intimacy. But I believe it’s not so simple. Certainly, it’s useful to tell…

1. “Don’t wait until you are overwhelmed,” says Nancy Spangler, PhD, of the American Psychiatric Association Foundation’s Center for Workplace Mental Health. Try to recognize your red flags so you can plan an absence in advance rather than leaving your coworkers scrambling to cover for you. 2. Be direct but brief. Tell your boss you are burnt out and need a day to recuperate so you can come back at a hundred percent. “That shows initiative, which is reassuring to supervisors,” says psychologist Richard Shuster. (If your company is unwoke, just request a personal day.) 3. Make the most of your time off…by doing the least. “Get ample rest and consider a digital detox,” says psychologist Farrah Hauke. Don’t overthink it. Any pause from work helps, even if you’re running…

If you weren’t trying to get pregnant in the last couple of years, you might’ve brushed off news of the mosquito-borne virus and the serious birth defects it can cause. But the threat has quietly been ratcheted up—for everyone. We now know you can get Zika from a much bigger organism: a man. Since January 2015, there have been 5,441 confirmed cases in the U.S., and 47 of them were sexually transmitted, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). And because the CDC doesn’t even record sexual transmission in U.S. territories like Puerto Rico, the actual number could be higher. Zika’s still not technically classified as an STI, since it’s primarily spread by mosquitoes. But the virus has been found in semen as long as 188 days…

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1 FOCUS ON YOUR STRENGTHS Is it that you are honest and will slay corruption? (“A New Way.”) That you know everyone in your town? (“I Know You. I Am You.”) 2 TWEAK A COMMON TAGLINE I wrote a book on sexism called You’ve Come a Long Way, Maybe. The title’s a take on a famous old ad campaign. Using something people are already familiar with makes your message easy to grasp. 3 BE HOPEFUL, INCLUSIVE, AND CLEAR No Child Left Behind is a good example. It’s an actual policy, but it doesn’t mention wonky statistics. It’s a simple idea we can all believe in.…

GRAB A CALCULATOR “Do you want to send out mailers or pay for advertising? Do you need a campaign manager?” asks McDaniel. Those things cost money— which means more time spent fundraising up front. HIT UP YOUR SQUAD “Ask everyone you know who they know,” says McDaniel. Also check out FollowThe Money.org to find donors to other local races. Set up meetings with high rollers, and win them over with your passion and ideas. ASK FOR A SPECIFIC AMOUNT “They’re expecting it—don’t be shy,” says McDaniel. Do your homework to come up with a realistic number. “If you want someone to believe in you, show them you believe in yourself.” HOST A FUND-RAISER You can pull one off cheaply at a local restaurant or a friend’s place. “Request small donations…

VICKI:We met at a gym across the street from the Capitol, working out before work. KATE: She’s in very good shape. I try to reach her level of athleticism. VICKI: It was so fun to talk with Kate, because I was a newbie in the legislature and she was more experienced. She’d say, “Yes, this seems insane, but here’s why it happens.” I loved her sense of irreverence. Sometimes in politics, you have to laugh or cry. This woman laughs! KATE: We’re trained to see the other side as the enemy. But if you have an outside relationship, it helps you figure out ways to work together. It was good for me to hear from Vicki’s…I don’t want to say her “red-state brain”…but from her perspective, about how I could…

ALL IN TOGETHER, a bipartisan group, focuses on getting women’s voices heard in many ways, from op-ed writing to lobbying. EMILY’S LIST, the OG powerhouse, trains and funds pro-choice Democratic women. IGNITE is a nonpartisan group that helps high school and collegeage women get their feet wet in leadership. RUN FOR SOMETHING helps progressive candidates ages 35 and under get on the ballot. SHE SHOULD RUN offers nonpartisan campaign e-courses. THE CENTER FOR AMERICAN WOMEN IN POLITICS at Rutgers University has an exhaustive database of local orgs that can help you campaign, and its Ready to Run trainings take place across the country. WOMEN2WOMEN is a political action committee that helps support female GOP candidates.…

WHAT IF YOU DON’T DOODLE? It’s not a sign of mood probs. But you may want to try it sometime! Simple scrawling can help with focus, uncover your deepest thoughts, and enhance memory processing. Your Name No shade, but you are self-centered and seek out the spotlight—both okay, as long as they’re in check. Crosses If it’s the biblical kind, you’re craving protection. But X crosses indicate pent-up frustration about something. Circles You’re vibing hard with the universe at large, which basically means you’ve found balance and wholeness in life. A House If it’s neat and simple, you have a happy home life. But if it’s a mess (or slightly askew), you may feel trapped. Someone Else’s Name You’re hung up on another person— maybe you’re in love or maybe…

1. When your date offers to pick you up, you: A Suggest an UberPool instead— you’ll have less awkward alone time, even if you’re both exposed to strangers’ BO. B Throw a pair of rubber gloves in your purse so you can make a show of removing any mess from his passenger seat. C Insist you drive. You demand control over the mph, aux cord, and sunroof at all times. 2. Your go-to #OOTD (as in outfit of the date): A A turtleneck you can sink into every time your cheeks get all flushed. B One of those slogan T-shirts that says I’m With Stupid. C A flashy piece of heirloom jewelry meant to beg questions about your epic family history. 3. At a romantic dinner, you’re most likely to…

Sometime in the last decade, dating took a wrong turn. Serendipitous meetings (or thoughtfully considered setups) have devolved into mindless app swiping that more often results in a pen-pal relationship than an IRL experience. To get to the bottom of the mate-meeting malaise, we partnered with Tinder and surveyed more than 4,000 of their users. What jumped out: We’re all craving some romance. I actually realized that same thing this summer when—in an it’s-a-small-world moment—I happened to meet a guy who lives down the hall from me in NYC for the first time on a remote Greek island in the Aegean Sea. I posted about it on Instagram and Facebook and was blown away by how enthralled people were, many claiming it was a sign that we were meant to be…

WOMANLY WISDOM “My mom and three sisters taught me everything I know about women. My sisters would come home from dates and tell me how guys made them feel. Like, ‘Okay, Lucky, listen. This idiot didn’t open the door for me,’ or whatever. I pretty much had four moms, so I learned how women work.” KILLER COMBO “Sexy doesn’t have to just mean ripping your clothes off. It’s about attitude. I’m drawn to a girl who’s confident, cool, and sweet.” ZADDY’S HOME “When I found out I was going to be a dad, I was excited from the very beginning. I learned everything I could about babies—I read so much, you have no idea—and I was very involved in doctors’ appointments. It’s crazy how much I loved my daughter from…

“One time, I went to dinner with this guy and his parents. His dad got drunk and made a point to ask about our sex lives. He said, ‘The only thing you should be doing at your age is dry humping. If you’re having intercourse, you better hope to god I never see it, hear it, or even think it.’” —MARIE C., 21 “I went on a blind date, and I made my friend hide out at the bar, just in case. He eventually noticed her and thought we were trying to set up a threesome. When we said we weren’t, he got livid and started breaking glasses at the bar… OMG.” —CHRISTINA H., 21 “On our first date, my ex and I wanted to see a movie, but tickets…

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These days, the dating process can seem more horror flick than rom-com (“I swear, if I meet one more freak... ”). But in reality, the outlook isn’t that bleak, according to an exclusive Cosmo-Tinder survey of more than 4,000 male and female Tinder users between the ages of 18 and 34. When asked what their experience is with dating in general, 68 percent said it’s “sometimes great, sometimes a struggle.” What’s really holding them back from totally enjoying the journey is fear. “The most surprising discovery in our survey is that both men and women are preoccupied with not finding the right person— forty-six percent are afraid of settling for the wrong partner,” says Jess Carbino, PhD, relationship expert and Tinder sociologist. “We’ve been socialized our whole lives with the…

I’ve been on plenty of bad first dates that have made me regret not staying home in my sweats, swigging wine. Which got me thinking: Instead of spending my time, money, and effort meeting dating-app matches, what if I just FaceTimed them? It seemed like such a “duh”... so I tested it out. Whenever I got the “You want to meet up?” message from a match, I wrote back: “Would it be cool if we FT first? Just want to make sure you’re not an avatar. ” Most guys couldn’t deal. They’d disregard the question (probably thinking Who is this loser?!) and ask to meet up again. Or they’d just ghost. Cool. But finally, one brave soul agreed to go through with it: a really cute 25-year-old who I’d had…

In our survey, 60 percent of women said their biggest dating frustration is that no one wants to commit. And they’re kinda right. Overall, many Americans are delaying or opting out of marriage. When this milestone is pushed back, there’s less of a rush to define the relationship, says Jess Carbino, PhD. Take this quiz after you’ve been on a few dates to figure out if he’s on the BF track. QUIZ Is He Ready to Commit? He talks about the future but neglects to introduce you to his friends and family. TRUE FALSE He often complains about being insecure in his career or dissatisfied with where he is in life. TRUE FALSE He’s made comments that suggest—or has flat out stated—that he’s not looking for anything serious right now.…

1 Do you feel like your secrets are a heavy physical weight sitting on your chest? YES NO 2 Do you find that convos with your S.O. no longer get into anything deep? YES NO 3 Recently, your mate has made a comment like, “I feel like I don’t even know you anymore.” YES NO If you answered mostly yes, you need to avoid keeping everything to yourself. Hiding the big stuff keeps you two from truly connecting. And since these things are weighing on you, you may blurt them out when you least expect it. If you answered mostly no, you have a healthy and freeing level of disclosure. You’re able to talk to your partner about things that matter while still keeping some private things just that.…

Isabel was unsure whether or not to invite her boss to her birthday party. In the end, she figured the more, the merrier! “If you’ve never mixed your friends with your boss, your birthday party is not the place to start,” says Tina Sharkey, cofounder and CEO of the e-commerce company Brandless. Typically, wedding invites are okay, but don’t ask your manager to anything that could become a rager (read: you, sloppy and swimming in booze). “Bosses don’t feel excluded if you don’t invite them— they get it!” explains Sharkey. BEHOLD, FIVE POTENTIALLY DICEY SCENARIOS—AND HOW TO DEAL Dana is so used to text-speak that she doesn’t think twice before using it with her colleagues. Emoji and slang can help show your colleagues you’re a real person, not just a…

1 Try out your message on friends and neighbors first. Ask for brutally honest feedback. I treasure the people who are meanest to me. If hearing criticism fires you up to improve rather than making you feel broken down, well, you have one skill you’ll need to succeed in politics. 2 Be disciplined. If a reporter presses you on something you don’t want to answer, just say, “That’s not what I’m here to talk about today, but I’d be happy to have that conversation with you another time.” 3 Don’t get defensive. If you mess up, just say so. Even if it’s just, “Wow, I really blanked on that answer.” Voters want authenticity, and most of them are really forgiving. GET ON THE BALLOT “It varies a lot by state,…

CONNECT WITH YOUR PARTY “Breaking into your local political network is a key part of the process,” says Brenda Choresi Carter, director of The Reflective Democracy Campaign, which tracks the demographics of political power. Meet local political brokers by attending meetings on key issues in your town, or volunteer for someone else’s campaign. If you demonstrate that you’re effective, your party will be more likely to back you. FOLLOW THE MASSES “I love technology, but not everybody is on Twitter,” says Letitia James, the Public Advocate for the City of New York. Meet voters IRL. “Try the grocery store,” suggests Jennifer Cunningham, managing director of political and public affairs consulting firm SKDKnickerbocker. Set up a table (ask a manager first), stand there with a friend, and say, “Hi, I’m Julie…

The first election I lost was in 1996. I was running for city council in Fort Worth, Texas, and I lost by 90 votes. It felt like a rejection—I dwelled on everything I could’ve done differently. But I wound up trying again three years later, and that time, I won. Losing actually made me a better candidate the second time around, because I already had a network of donors. But I’d also made connections with voters, which helped me understand their needs a lot better once I got into office. When I then ran for governor of Texas and lost, in 2014, the main thing I had wanted to do was to improve public education. My opponent—the Republican who won—wound up focusing on that issue while in office. My talking…

Come for the gorgeous food porn, stay for the recipes from foodie queens like Chrissy Teigen and Padma Lakshmi in Cherry Bombe: The Cookbook. Make your next round of FMK a superhero special. Thor: Ragnarok hits theaters Nov. 3, followed by Justice League Nov. 17. (Btw, we’d marry Thor every time.) The Fault in Our Stars author John Green mined his own experiences with OCD for his latest, Turtles All the Way Down. Two months after “Look What You Made Me Do” divided the internet, Taylor Swift drops her latest album, Reputation. Greatest Swift era ever... or pettiest? You decide. Since no one can steal her swagger, settle for RiRi’s unstoppable glowup with Fenty Beauty by Rihanna’s Match Stix Shimmer Skinstick in Trippin ($25, fentybeauty.com). It’s fab fashion for all…

My name is Amy Odell, and I manipulate my Instagram posts. I have made sunsets pinker, my complexion clearer, and oceans bluer. I have removed people, objects, and unsightly driveways. And I nearly always adjust images of my cat so she resembles something more than a mass of iron filings with eyes. Despite much of the world having retouching technology in their pockets, we’re quick to attack social-media users “caught” altering their photos. Beyoncé went viral for apparently retouching her legs in Instagram photos. And travel blogger Amelia Liana was blasted for what looks like superimposed shots of herself at fabulous places (the Taj Mahal, London Bridge). This isn’t your typical Facetuning, granted, but if these claims are true, what’s the difference? Whether you’re removing a sign or making your…

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If men and women could change one thing about dating today, their top choice would be to make it less exhausting and timeconsuming. Preach! It may sound counterintuitive, but to lessen the stress, approach meet-ups like you would a business, suggests Carmelia Ray, a dating coach and expert for Match. Some sanity-saving tactics: 1 Slow Your Roll Putting pressure on yourself to meet someone in the next month because you’re ready to settle down right now sets you up to make bad or impulsive choices. You wouldn’t expect to achieve a big career goal in such a short amount of time, right? Setting a more realistic time line, like at least six months to a year, normalizes your dating pace. 2 Schedule Swipe Sessions Tapping into your dating app(s) when…

Odds are, you have a list of requirements a guy should meet that sounds like this: handsome, brown hair, went to X school, makes $Y per year... .But guess what? That’s not going to help you find the person you truly vibe with. “Someone can be perfect in superficial terms, but they may not give you what you really need,” says Joanne Davila, PhD, coauthor of The Thinking Girl’s Guide to the Right Guy. Here, the four most important qualities to look for when assessing a date’s compatibility. He is empathetic and can see your perspective on issues. He’s excited about you and your passions in all aspects of your life. He has similar future goals (where to live, financial aspirations, etc.). He makes you feel comfortable talking about sex.…

I’ve always been into , but I recently hooked up with a and it was Am I bi? A_ So you kissed a girl... and you liked it! Great. You don’t have to get hung up on labeling yourself. One positive experience with a woman doesn’t mean you need to reclassify your sexuality (now or ever), says psychotherapist and sexologist Michael Aaron, PhD. “Sexual orientation has multiple dimensions, including who you are attracted to, want to have sex with, and want to have a relationship with—and these categories are not always in sync.” If you do feel the need to further define yourself—or what type of partner you should look for—ask yourself some questions to determine if an ongoing, same-sex relationship is for you. What was so amazing about your…

Any orgasm is a good orgasm. But there’s a certain male variety that can take a climax from good to ahhhmazing. It’s the P-gasm—the deeper, longer, more intense pleasure peak a guy can experience when you massage his prostate gland (or P-spot) during sex. The internal, walnut-size, hypersensitive organ sits between a dude’s bladder and penis and is often compared to the female G-spot. “Men often say that orgasms from prostate stimulation feel more expansive and whole-body than strictly penile orgasms,” says Charlie Glickman, PhD, sexuality educator and coauthor of The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure. This is partly due to the gland’s role in ejaculation: When a guy is aroused, it swells with a fluid that makes up part of semen, then during orgasm, it squeezes and propels this…

When Justin Bieber abruptly canceled his Purpose tour last summer, he was candid about his reason. “I want my career to be sustainable, but I also want my mind, heart, and soul to be sustainable,” he wrote on Instagram. Surprising but fair—dude needed a mentalhealth day…or many. Mental-health days should not be an afterthought, a punch line, or something solely reserved for people suffering from diagnosed mood disorders. Increasingly, they’re being recognized as a smart way for anyone to take time off to deal with everyday stress. “While some stigma still exists, more companies are embracing mental-health days,” says clinical psychologist Richard Shuster, host of The Daily Helping podcast. Honchos like Facebook CEO Sheryl Sandberg also seem to support the idea. “We need more leaders who encourage employees to bring…

Ask Dr. Ashton Q “I use birth-control pills to skip my period. Can I do that every month?” A_ Yes. It’s perfectly fine to keep going for however long you want. Controlling your cycle this way does not affect future fertility. The only downside: Many women have breakthrough bleeding after a few skipped flows. This is totally normal and happens when your body’s typical hormonal balance changes. To prevent future spotting, take four days off the Pill as soon as you see blood, then pick up right where you left off. You may also want to use condoms, since all Pills carry a 9 percent failure rate with typical use. Q “Ugh, I keep getting yeast infections. Could it be my diet?” A_ There’s no conclusive evidence that food can…

Anyone can make a #SquadGoals pic look cute on Insta (oh hey, Tay- Tay), but building a reallife, ride-or-die crew can be tricky—especially if you’ve just moved to a new town. Lucky for you— and thanks to a slew of new apps (see “Need a New BFF? Swipe Right”)—“friend dating” is easier and more popular than ever. Technology has given women everywhere an assist in forming platonic relationships (which, btw, can make you happier and healthier). Ahead, Cosmo has your guide to finding and bonding with potential BFFs. 1 Scout Prospects In terms of IRL friend pickup spots, the usual suspects still rule: a mutual acquaintance’s party, your local coffee shop, the gym. When you spot someone promising—maybe she has a hilarious phone case that makes you go “same”—approach her…

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First off, less is more. Pick three main things to focus on. Stay true to your beliefs, but make sure your issues resonate with voters too, since you’re running to represent them. During my first race, I was passionate about helping the homeless—but people in my town were concerned about taxes and economic development. So I geared my message toward those things, then made homelessness a priority once I was in office. It helps to have people around you who are immersed in the community— your friend who’s a teacher, your relative who’s a firefighter. They can help you understand what needs to be done in your town. They’re like your own focus group. Ask them, “What’s the most important local issue to you right now?” Poll your Facebook followers too.…

Start by deleting any cringe-worthy moments (read: old springbreak pics) from your history as well as anything not consistent with the image you want to present. “Have your significant other do the same,” says Christine Matthews, a pollster and president of Bellwether Research and Consulting. If anyone in your inner circle posted something sexist two years ago, you’ll be held accountable for that too. Sorry, no selfies. Instead, get a professional headshot. Make your pic the same across all platforms to convey a unified message, says Mindy Finn, cofounder of Stand Up Republic and 2016 Independent vice-presidential candidate. Start fresh accounts that specify what you’re running for, says Tammy Gordon, founder of D.C. communications agency Verified Strategy. Make your personal accounts private (you still have to scrub ’em— you never…

When I decided to run for office, two of my closest friends laughed uproariously. They said, “You realize you have to talk to people to win?” But I quickly learned that talking to voters is not about me, it’s about them. I can’t serve you if I don’t know what you need, so I have to find out. The first time I had to knock on doors, I prayed for rain. But each door I knocked on helped me get better at the next one. Now, wherever I meet someone, I start by shaking their hand or touching their shoulder to signal that I’m paying attention. Then I ask an open-ended question—even if it’s just “What’s on your mind?” I always look them in the eye while they’re answering. The…

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