Innholdsfortegnelse for July 2017 i Cosmopolitan

NO MATTER HOW old we get, we never quite outgrow the feeling that when summer rolls around, we have permission to kick back, flop onto an Instagrammable oversize pool float, and just…exhale. For those of us on the east coast, it seems like we wait an eternity for the sun to finally show its face (and when it does, it usually shoots up to about 80 degrees overnight— I swear, I’m not complaining). Summer is a glorious season. And one of the most festive times is always July 4th, Independence Day. But among all the BBQs and fireworks displays, it’s easy to forget the deep significance of the occasion— and how lessons of the past can inform the present, in giant and tiny ways. (Quick history brushup: Way back in…

“I recently found out that I say the weirdest stuff— loudly—in my sleep. My friend told me I often mumble things like ‘Mamma mia, that’s a big pizza’ or ‘Please don’t make me eat more broccoli.’ Now, I’m always terrified I’ll say something mean or embarrassing and a roommate or boyfriend will hear me.” —KATELYN B., 21, STUDENT, TORONTO, ONTARIO WE KNOW YOU HAVE CONFESSIONS TO SHARE.... E-MAIL THE DIRTY DETAILS TO CONFESSIONS info@COSMOPOLITAN.COM, OR TWEET YOUR TALES TO @COSMOPOLITAN! “I was hooking up with this guy who I wasn’t really into. So one night when someone I actually had a crush on started flirting with me, we went back to his apartment, and he mentioned that his roommate was home. Turns out, the roommate was the dude I was originally hooking…

PRO T IP “ SKIP THE BELT AND T IE A BOLD SWEATER AROUND YOUR WAIST INSTEAD.” Shalaeya Brown, fashion assistant @Shalaeya…

WAKE-UP CALL Perk up pre-coffee with this invigorating body wash. OLAY Fresh Outlast Body Wash in Energizing Lime and White Tea, $5.50, drugstores GREEN SCREEN Cancel redness (from a sunburn or breakouts) with a color-correcting concealer. SOAP AND GLORY Kick Ass All Is Calm Concealer, $10, walgreens.com WELCOME MATTE Skin win: A spongy adhesive pad grabs an oil-absorbing blotter for easier dabbing. TOO COOL FOR SCHOOL Dinoplatz Dear Brachiosaurus Blotting Papers in Green Tea, $8, sephora.com SWEET SUDS The only thing that could make tub time more delish: a candyinspired bath melt. LUXE BY MR. BUBBLE Guilt- Free Cocoa Butter Bar in Sweet and Clean, $6, ulta.com FACE PAINT When your T-zone’s shining and your cheeks are f laking, you know it’s time to multi-mask. TONYMOLY Painting Therapy Packs in Black Sebum Control and…

DARK CIRCLES You’ll need: A creamy, full-coverage concealer. Pro hack: Swipe it under your eye in the shape of an upside-down triangle, then wait a minute. “Trying to blend it right away is like attempting to spread cold butter on toast,” says Benefit makeup master José Rivera. BOBBI BROWN Instant Full Cover Concealer, $32, bobbibrowncosmetics.com PIMPLES You’ll need: A green color corrector (to neutralize redness) and a hydrating matte concealer on top. Pro hack: Never let the applicator touch a zit—that can spread bacteria. Use a concealer brush, blend with a clean finger, then wash your brush, says Rivera. LANCÔME Teint Idole Ultra Wear Camouf lage Corrector in Green, $31, lancome-usa.com MILK MAKEUP Flex Concealer, $28, milkmakeup.com BROWN SPOTS You’ll need: Concealer with SPF. UV rays make pigmentation issues worse. Pro hack: Apply,…

ESTHER PEREL IS A SEX AND RELATIONSHIPS THERAPIST, THE BESTSELLING AUTHOR OF MATING IN CAPTIVITY, AND HOST OF THE AUDIO SERIES WHERE SHOULD WE BEGIN? WITH ESTHER PEREL, ON AUDIBLE. HER TED TALKS ON DESIRE AND INFIDELITY HAVE BEEN VIEWED MORE THAN 17 MILLION TIMES. The person you’ve been seeing didn’t show at your birthday party— after promising up and down that it was on the calendar. Or you recently found out that your significant other has been secretly in touch with an ex. Such mess-ups aren’t necessarily relationship ending, but they can continue to cause you distress, even after you receive a heartfelt apology. Why? It may be because you’re under 35 and part of what I call the disappointment generation. Love has become a major source of self-worth…

Avoid BFF Behavior Stop crashing in the same bed, playing his therapist, and talking about your individual sexcapades. If you want to be his date, act like you’re on one. Skip Platonic Words Tell him his grown-out stubble or new shirt looks “sexy” instead of “nice.” He might look at you strange, but it’s a step toward becoming more than pals. Drop Hints That Other Men Want You Competition is an aphrodisiac for men. Mention the guy who hit on you and he’ll wonder why he’s not also gunning for your attention. Call Him Out It may be tempting not to challenge him—but screw that! If he steps out of line, speak up. He’ll be more attracted to you if he has to be his best to keep you around.…

The humble jump rope has come a long way from gym class. It’s now your go-to tool for torching calories faster than biking, swimming, or running (we’re talking 133 every 10 minutes). “And jumping firms everything from your arms to your butt,” says pro dancer turned trainer Amanda Kloots, founder of the cardio-sculpting class The Rope, in New York City. Her 20-minute plan—created exclusively for Cosmo—includes powerful strength moves for total-body toning. SUN’S OUT, BUNS OUT Start by jumping rope for five minutes, tightening glutes with each jump and tucking hips forward slightly for maximum butt burn. But don’t jump too high—it increases your risk of shin splints. 1 PULL BACK Stand with feet hip-width apart on middle of rope, holding handles in front of you, elbows slightly bent, palms…

One saturday night last year, Maria M.*, 25, was at a dive bar in downtown New York City celebrating a friend’s birthday. It one was of those great parties where you blink and it’s suddenly 2 a.m. By then, Maria was tired, so she ordered an Uber—an occasional splurge on late nights, although she mostly tried to take the subway. Five minutes later, her phone buzzed; the driver was outside. A little tipsy, Maria walked to the curb. “Are you my Uber?” she asked the guy behind the wheel of a car that was just pulling up. “Yes,” he replied. She got in but soon became aware that he was turning onto the highway in the wrong direction—north, instead of south, toward her Brooklyn home. When she asked why, the…

Since exiting her longtime correspondent gig on The Daily Show last year, Jessica Williams has been busy doing dope things like…well, cohosting the hit podcast 2 Dope Queens with her friend and fellow comedian Phoebe Robinson. Now, she returns to our screens on July 28 for her first starring film role in the romantic comedy The Incredible Jessica James. She plays a 20something Brooklynite who’s simultaneously navigating a burgeoning playwriting career and a new relationship with a divorced dude (Bridesmaids’ Chris O’Dowd). Much like fictional Jessica, real-life Jessica, 27, has a confidence so casual, it’s contagious. Here, in looks made for the spotlight, she dishes on tapping into her proudest, loudest, baddest self. BE SEEN Show love for your lady parts with a top (like this one!) that benefits Planned…

CRISP + CLASSIC Everyone’s fave seasonal standby has a sunny new look. SAMUEL ADAMS Summer Ale, $15 to $18 for 12, samadams.com for retailers LIGHT + BUBBLY An Italian white meant for sweaty days outside. LILA Sparkling, $12 for 4, lilawines.com for retailers POPPIN’ TABS Since glass and pool decks—or friends who’ve had one too many—don’t make a great combo, keep your party a cansonly fete. (Just beware of bros prone to shotgunning beers!) SMOOTH + CRAFTY Pairs perfectly with burgers and brats. NEWBURGH BREWING COMPANY Cream Ale, $10 for 4, newburgh brewing.com for retailers FUN + REFRESHING Like a wine cooler’s tangy, hip younger sis. RAMONA Ruby Grape Grapefruit, $20 for 4, drinkramona.com for retailers EARTHY + FULL A zesty brew with notes of cedar and citrus. STILLWATER ARTISANAL Stateside Saison, $3 each, craftshack.com…

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PICK A FLAVOR. Cup, cone, or inbetween cookies... do National Ice Cream Day (July 16) however you damn well please. MAKE A SPLASH. Enter for a chance to win a trip for four to Universal Orlando Resort to experience Universal’s new Volcano Bay water theme park (left), including round-trip airfare, accommodations at Loews Portofino Bay Hotel, and entry to all Universal Orlando theme parks ( summersweeps.cosmopolitan.com). PUNCH up your pout by trying a shade (or 12!) of CoverGirl’s Melting Pout Gel lipsticks ($8, drugstores).…

1. HUNGER by Roxane Gay In this powerful, eye-opening memoir, the Bad Feminist author unpacks her complicated relationship with food and body image. 2. FINAL GIRLS by Riley Sager Stephen King dubbed this page-turner about three women with a seriously grim bond the “first great thriller of 2017.” So yeah, it’s good. 3. MADE FOR LOVE by Alissa Nutting Embrace the absurdity in this bonkers romp featuring a woman on the run from her insane husband and a slew of oddball characters. 4. THE SEVEN HUSBANDS OF EVELYN HUGO by Taylor Jenkins Reid Come for the glam old Hollywood vibes; stay for a touching tale of a young reporter and a silver-screen legend. 5. FITNESS JUNKIE by Lucy Sykes and Jo Piazza Join Janey as she seeks her best life…

“On our first date, he suggested I pick him up at his house. When I arrived, I discovered that ‘his house’ was actually his grandmother’s house. He proceeded to introduce me to his sister, two aunts, two uncles, his grandma, three cousins, and his mom. Then he said that he thought our date could be a trip to the zoo...with all these people in tow. The zoo is three hours away, so I was in a car full of strangers and this guy for six hours round-trip. Not romantic.” —AMANDA A., 21 “I went on a double date with my BFF and her boyfriend. I hadn’t yet met the guy, but we’d been texting for weeks and I was excited. In person, he was shorter than he’d said, which was…

EXOTIC PICKS SLITHER RIGHT IN Candela Novembre Stick to black and white for an eclectic mix of knits and sexy snakeskin. FEEL FERAL Olivia Palermo For a chic safari vibe, try a silk button-up and a slim cargo skirt. BRING OUT THE BIG CATS Miranda Kerr A leopard crop top ups the fierce factor on a dark ensemble. Meow!…

GLAM CURLS Clamp your iron on a two-inch section of hair, turn it 360 degrees away from your face, then drag it out to form a spiral (it’s like curling a ribbon). FLAWLESS FINISHER Mist on hair spray (like Tresemmé Beauty-Full Volume Flexible Finish Hair Spray, $5, target.com), then brush curls. THE BEACHWAVER CO. Coast Pro Ceramic Professional Styling Iron, $169, beachwaver.com This version has removable, curved attachments to make flat-ironed curls and waves even easier. COOL GIRL WAVES For sexy S-bends, start at your roots, and move the iron down, flicking your wrist back and forth, making a halfturn every few inches. FLAWLESS FINISHER Suave Professionals Texturizing Sea Salt Spray ($6, walgreens.com) cranks up texture. BOUNCY FAUX-OUT To fake a blowout, straighten hair as usual but turn the iron…

Zach Kornfeld Single AF 26, New York, NY Pizza and pajamas (romantic partner optional) Not a no-no, per se, but typically not what I’m looking for. First dates should be about feeling out each other’s vibe and seeing if you want a second. Drive out of the city, stay in a funky Airbnb, drink lots of wine, and buy kitschy mementos we don’t need. You’ve gotta cap it off at 10 to 15, or else you might scare them away. I want it, but I don’t want to rush it. It’s important to find yourself before you settle down, and being single can be incredible for self-discovery. Exactly four and a half times What’s the most romantic way to spend a Friday night? Is sex on the first date a…

1 Your partner has made this disappointing move before, either with you or past girlfriends. True False 2 When the letdown happened, everything was normal—no one was going through major life changes. True False 3 You and your friends agree that something similar will likely happen again. True False IF YOU ANSWERED MOSTLY TRUE It might be time to move on. This was not a one-off situation and everyone knows it. Staying together because you’re not a fan of change could mean signing up for an unstable future. IF YOU ANSWERED MOSTLY FALSE Hang in there. Current life drama could have played a part in your lover’s odd behavior. It’s possible for you to regain your trust in him or her.…

This is what happens when we work out: Our bodies experience a “pump,” a rush of blood into the muscles we’re exercising that makes them look bigger and more defined. Think of it as a full-body erection. (Actually, don’t—that’s just gross.) For a few short minutes, we have our dream body—and we need to take a thumb-numbing amount of selfies before our abs disappear. Can you blame us for posting pics as Superman before we morph back into Clark Kent? It’s the only time we feel like eye candy. So try to appreciate our buff gym body—because like many things male, it won’t last very long.…

GLOW FROM WITHIN The state of your skin (your body’s largest organ) is a direct reflection of what’s happening on the inside. Try one (or all) of the tips below—and watch your radiance skyrocket. GO GREEN “I tell my clients to eat half an avocado every day, whether it’s on top of a salad or in a smoothie,” says celeb facialist Joanna Vargas, founder of Joanna Vargas Skin Care. The fruit supplies the skin with healthy fats and phytonutrients that hydrate from the inside out. GET SWEATY A good cardio sesh can make skin come to life: It speeds up your heart rate and ups blood f low to the brain, and that’s ref lected in the face. Cue that lit-fromwithin look that lasts long after your workout. HIT THE…

1 Check the Checks Many on-demand businesses do only cursory background checks. Visit their sites to search for gold-standard policies that scan for social security numbers, state and federal docs, DMV records, a sexoffender registry presence, and any open or past lawsuits. 2 Study Reviews When available, consider the quality and quantity of a provider’s reviews. If someone has raves but there are only three or four of them, steer clear. “Those could be from friends,” says Arun Sundararajan, PhD, author of The Sharing Economy. “Pick the person with 100 good reviews.” 3 Update Your Squad Before you go anywhere or do anything with a stranger, call your BFF. Better yet, do it in front of your driver/ handyman/date, suggests Sundararajan. Say “Hey, I’m getting into a Juno right now” or “I hired…

Don’t sacrifice any more sunnies to the sea for the perfect image. Instead, strap on a snorkel and dive in (with a waterproof phone case). Your and T-Swift’s old fave pool toy is looking a bit...limp. Replace it with a cushiony lip float. (Cheaper than fillers!) Put down your bev? Never! Keep sipping (not chugging!) from Chambongs with your crew. Leave the high jumps at CrossFit, and turn this ‘gram mainstay into a hilarious flop with a face-plant. Fails bring all the LOLs… and Likes.…

LEO 07. 23–08. 22 You’re more in demand than rosé on a rooftop after the 5th, so take care of yourself and avoid burnout. Carve out time to exercise and meditate—water views will calm you. Things may get tough at work on the 26th, so put on your big-girl panties and make a bold move! YOU NEED: To stay centered. LEO GUY: He’s been flaky lately, but by the end of the month, he’ll be ready to show you his doting, devoted side. VIRGO 08.23–09.22 It’s all happening for you right now. A career hot streak kicks off on the 4th—when Venus hits your success zone—if you focus on teamwork. When Mercury moves into your sign on the 25th, no one will be able to say no to you, so…

MOVIES 1. SPIDER-MAN: HOMECOMING New Spidey Tom Holland and an especially badass Zendaya add fresh bite to a Gen Z spin on the superhero classic (July 7). 2. THE BEGUILED Sofia Coppola’s lush direction is a perfect match for a slow-burn psychological thriller set during the stifling days of a Civil War summer (June 30). 3. BABY DRIVER Ansel Elgort and Lily James rev up for a heist film with pulse-pounding action and a killer soundtrack to match (June 28). 4. THE BIG SICK Silicon Valley’s Kumail Nanjiani brings laughs and heart in this crosscultural rom-com charmer (July 14). SUIT UP for a look at women’s wrestling (spandex, body glitter, and all) with Netflix’s comedy Glow (June 23).…

UNSUNG (S)HERO “My mother went back to school when I was 13 and worked five different jobs so she could get a college degree and then her master’s. Now, she’s a psychotherapist and very successful. She’s the strongest person I know. She taught me to work my ass off.” LAST LAUGH “I really, really love to laugh. On the dating scene, I’m finding that the more I laugh heartily and authentically, the happier I am. Sex is great, but it’s really just about having a good conversation, learning something, and laughing a bunch.” SHE COMES FIRST “One [relationship] lesson I had to learn was to listen. Some people do that naturally, but I didn’t. If you shut up for a minute and listen to your partner, whether it’s in life…

Each month, Cosmo lets one passionate voice sound off. one of the most powerful parts of the Women’s March this past January was seeing the number of people who had never really participated in any political activity throwing themselves wholeheartedly into the event. They organized. They knitted hats. They crafted hand-lettered signs. In many cities, the crowds were so thick that it was just a huge, slowly moving mass. Millions of women and men around the world showed up to say “I’m here, and my voice will be heard.” That’s real democracy in action. Democracy isn’t about paying a little attention once every four years and then tuning out after the election. It’s about getting involved and staying involved. And that’s the great thing about this kind of activism. There…

FINGER PAINTS DIY’ing your mani is the grown-up version of coloring, especially with this Crayola collab. Apply one coat (it’s all you need), and 60 seconds later, you’re dry. SALLY HANSEN + CRAYOLA Insta-Dri in Carnation Pink, $5, Walgreens MAGIC WANDS New ways to transform your lashes 1. One coat delivers serious thickness. LANCÔME Monsieur Big Mascara, $23, lancome-usa.com 2. Wavy bristles leave no lash behind. L’ORÉAL PARIS Voluminous Lash Paradise Mascara, $10, drugstores 3. A special shaker tube prevents dry-out for a clump-free finish. RIMMEL LONDON Shake It Fresh Mascara, $7, Target GLEAM PLAYERS Fragrance roll-on? Been there. Perfume powder? Done that. A trio of gorgeous gels spiked with shimmer and the iconic scents of Chanel Chance? Pure magic. LIP SERVICE One lipstick, endless hues: Swipe this on and watch your pout…

YOUR SUMMER SIP Gin and Tonic TRY 1: ISSEY MIYAKE L’EAU D’ISSEY PURE A fresh, chill blend of aquatic and cashmere notes, and the bottle is a classic in the making. $100 for 3 oz., Macy’s YOUR SUMMER SIP Gold Rush TRY 2: DKNY NECTAR LOVE This honeycomb-jasmine mix is equal parts sweet and sophisticated—like the hot toddy’s cooler sis. $98 for 3.4 oz., Ulta YOUR SUMMER SIP Spicy Marg TRY 3: CK ONE SUMMER Pepper and lime notes give off a sassy vibe. $54 for 3.4 oz., Macy’s YOUR SUMMER SIP Piña Colada TRY 4: ESTÉE LAUDER BRONZE GODDESS Splashing on the coconut- scented fragrance instantly transports you to a poolside party. $70 for 1.7 oz., esteelauder.com YOUR SUMMER SIP Rosé Spritzer TRY 5: RALPH LAUREN ROMANCE SUMMER BLOSSOM…

YOU’RE… SINGLE “Have you found someone special yet?” BLUNT “No, apparently all the special ones are taken! But want to hear about the wild hookup I had last weekend?” A dash of snark lets your interrogator know they’re being intrusive—but a smooth change of subject also jumps over any awkwardness, says etiquette expert Elaine Swann, author of Let Crazy Be Crazy. With this response, you can get right into sharing a juicy anecdote from your dating adventures (what they really want to hear about anyway) and bypass any further probing about when Mr. Right is finally going to appear. SUBTLE “Nope, but being unattached gives me the freedom to do whatever I want—like learning to surf in Bali next month.” Put a hand to your heart to show sincerity when…

LOVE ADVICE FROM OUR GUY GURU, LOGAN HILL Q / MY GUY TELLS ME I’M A BIT CLINGY. HOW DO I GET HIM TO GIVE ME THE CUDDLES I WANT BUT NOT DRIVE HIM CRAZY BY ASKING FOR THEM ALL THE TIME? A Rather than complain to him that you don’t get enough, be positive and ask for more. Try “I know you don’t like to cuddle as much as I do, but it feels so good when I wrap myself up in you—and I wish you’d make me feel that good more often.” That way, he feels very flattered…not nagged. Also, remember to pick your moments. Fourth quarter of the NBA Finals? Red light. There are relatively few men who are down for snuggles then. But during a serious…

PHONY MOANERS YES, DUDES FAKE IT TOO And a new survey of more than 2,000 people shows which hookup scenarios men are most likely to finish with a faux orgasm. These numbers, at least, aren’t lying. Long-Term Relationships 31% FAKE IT But why? Maybe he’s anxious about his performance, a physical issue keeps him from finishing, or he feels you two are in a rut. If that’s it, try new things. “Some guys crave novelty with sex,” says sexologist Carol Queen, PhD. One-Night Stands 28% FAKE IT New Relationships 26% FAKE IT Marriages 15% FAKE IT…

If you’ve been popping biotin supplements for lush hair, dewy skin, and strong nails, here’s a tough pill to swallow: At high doses, the B vitamin could lead to misdiagnoses of pregnancy or conditions such as infertility, thyroid disease, and even cancer. Because certain lab tests use biotin to generate results, taking megadoses (a typical tablet can have up to 10,000 micrograms, far more than the recommended daily 30 micrograms) can produce false positive or false negative readings. We’re not saying you have to pitch your whole stash—but check with your MD. She’ll likely suggest you skip them for two to three days before a medical test.…

Safr A new ride-share biz that vets its (mostly female) drivers with in-person interviews. Cars are tracked in real time; if a vehicle goes off course, Safr intervenes. Zeel In-home massage apps can sound sketchy (you, naked in your living room… with a random). But Zeel masseuses must be licensed and insured massage therapists, and they are all hyper-vetted in person. Glamsquad Before sending its hair and makeup stylists to your pad, the beauty service performs background checks and character evaluations and requires each pro to complete a 40-hour assessment program. Rover In addition to requiring a background check, the pet-care company vets each walker and sitter with testimonials and a petsafety quiz (only 15 percent of applicants are approved).…

TWEET OR ’GRAM YOUR GRIPE AND PHOTO (HASHTAG: #BITCHITOUT) OR E -MAIL INBOX@ COSMOPOLITAN.COM(SUBJECT: BITCH IT OUT). POLISH OFF “I know it’s a free country, but there should be a rule against painting your nails on the train! #Fumes #PetPeeve” —YAEL M., @YELLYWELLY, VIA TWITTER CRAZY SITUATION WORKING YOUR LAST NERVE? VENT HERE! UNDER WRAPS “This guy is seriously wearing a towel around his waist in public. WTF??! —HEIDI G., @HEIDIGELDIS, VIA TWITTER HOT WHEELS “Do we have to see this on a lovely Sunday-afternoon drive?” —CATHY C., VIA INBOX “When Facebook’s Memories feature thinks you’d like to look back on a photo of you and your ex-boyfriend from 3 years ago. ”—RYANNE N., @RYANNENOELLE7A, VIA TWITTER “When you’re running late to class and waiting for a car to back…