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"Designer" Tees "FASHION'S BIGGEST NAMES GET REMIXED EN ESPAñOL BY SPENGLISH TEES." —SERGIO KLETNOY, EXECUTIVE ASSISTANT TO JOANNA COLES T-shirts, Á la Mexique by Spenglish collaboration with Gabriel Rivera Barraza, $50 each, spenglish.net Phone case, $99.95, boostcase.com Streamlining "I LOVE MY BOOSTCASE.THE CARDHOLDER DETACHES, SO IT'S BASICALLY A WALLET AND IPHONE CASE IN ONE." —ALLIE KIRCHER, ASSISTANT PHOTO EDITOR Debbie Harry "SHE ROCKED TWO-TONED HAIR BEFORE BIEL AND BILSON WERE EVEN BORN! IN HONOR OF BLONDIE'S 40TH ANNIVERSARY, SALUTE THE STYLE LEGEND." —KATIE CONNOR, DEPUTY EDITOR Do-Good Gold "I'M ALL ABOUT PUTTING THIS LOCKET ON LOCKDOWN, CODESIGNED BY ORANGE IS THE NEW BLACK ACTRESS ALYSIA REINER TO BENEFIT THE WOMEN'S PRISON ASSOCIATION." —ALEXANDRA ENGLER, EDITORIAL ASSISTANT Clean Lines "THERE IS NOTHING BETTER THAN A CLASSIC STRIPE TO PUNCH…

Marcus Jahmal INSTAGRAM: @CLRTherapy Graffiti artist Marcus Jahmal, aka Nephilim Giant, made seven big-city-inspired art pieces for the fashion feature "Style City" (p. 190). HOW I GET PAST MY CREATIVE BLOCKS "By doing everything but my art. I notice that when I am enjoying life away from the canvas, a whole wealth of inspiration sets in. Art imitates life." Lisa Benson TWITTER: @LisaMarieBenson The senior manager of IMG Models was key to making the fashion story "Style City" with megamodel Chanel Iman a reality. HOW I STARTED MY CAREER "When I started at IMG, I was answering phones, making no money. People were telling me to go work in finance, but I knew I wasn't going to do that. I received great advice to find something that I could be…

"He walked me to my car and got close. I thought he was going to kiss me but instead he licked my face. Twice."—JEN D., 28 "He told me he was a filmmaker and showed me one of his movies on a date. It had an explicit sex scene that he starred in. And he was wearing the same outfit in the film that he wore on our date."—ROSE S., 29 "ON A FIRST DATE, THE GUY TOLD ME, 'YOU REMIND ME OF A DEAD EX-GIRLFRIEND.' WHAT WAS I SUPPOSED TO SAY TO THAT?!"—GABBY S., 20 "After sex, a guy I'd just started seeing put his hand on my stomach and talked about how many kids we'd have." —CODY G., 22 "ALL HE TALKED ABOUT WERE HIS KIDS, WHICH TURNED…

"I'VE HURT PEOPLE WHEN IT WAS ABOUT MY OWN INSECURITIES." What impresses you most about women? Their strength. In Sweden, there's a lot of talk of gender equality. That discussion isn't as prevalent in the U.S. I feel that successful American women are tougher than Swedish women—they create their space. Do you have any relationship regrets? I've hurt people unnecessarily when it was about my own insecurities. But you have to make those mistakes to become a better person. I've learned to steer away from the wrong kind of woman for me. Any advice for couples who are thinking about moving in together? Moving in is almost a bigger step than getting married. I love living with my love. But you have to lower your expectations a bit and understand…

DANCE, DANCE REVOLUTION FUN Fingerbreaking videos become so popular that an actual break-dancing competition adds a hand-moves category. FEARLESS Virgin America's new flight-safety video: entertaining enough to make passengers look up from iPhones. FAIL Answering the call of duty to clean their dormitory, underwear-clad military cadets dirty dance with brooms. VAGINA MONOLOGUES FUN Rapper Awkwafina follows "My Vag" with "Queef," telling women to "embrace your queef." Let it out, ladies. FEARLESS Architect Zaha Hadid's World Cup stadium design gets mocked for looking like a vagina; she cries sexism. FAIL Artist Casey Jenkins spends 28 days knitting from a ball of yarn she stores in her vagina. Yep, even during her period. Ugh. CLOSE TO THE CHEST FUN @FootballerBoobs dares to see soccer stars differently by drawing players (like Cristiano Ronaldo)…

WHY WE LOVE THIS LOOK Mesh works miracles. It offers all the skin-baring sex appeal of a mini with the good-girl illusion of a pencil skirt. Strap Star Skip the expected digital watch for a classy leather-banded analog ticker. In a Flash Make a statement on Saturday nights out and during your Sunday morning jog in track shorts with a metallic finish. Shock Value Call attention to your latest nail art with a highlighter-hued clutch. Jacket, Theory, $275, Neiman Marcus Direct; orange jacket, Calvin Klein, $129.50, Calvin Klein Outlet; cuffs, Calvin Klein, $160 each, calvinklein.com; bra top, Tamara Mellon, $150, net-a-porter.com; skirt, Milly, $365, Milly, 212-395-9100; bikini bottom, This Is a Love Song, $171 for set, revolve clothing.com; shoes, Gucci, gucci.com; clutch, Kzeniya, $645, hlorenzo.com 1 Bra, VPL,…

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How much should I tip at the salon? So many people touch me! —ERIN CAMPI, 21 "Stylists and colorists: 15 to 20 percent. Give $5 of that to the assis tant—$10 if she did your blow-dry." I have a few grays that stick straight up like static. How can I flatten them? —SHARON MALONEY, 38 "My secret: a pro keratin treatment. It softens their wiry texture. Ditto Clairol's new DIY dye." No time for keratin? Apply Julien Farel Zero Frizz Restore ($33, julienfarel.com ) all over, blow-dry hair with a paddle brush, then flatiron to tame stuck-up grays temporarily. I'm not great with a brow pencil. Is powder any easier to use? —JEANETTE TORTORELLI, 22 "Cream-to-powders are total cake. Just dip an angled brush into one and sketch—nothing looks more…

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THE COSMO HERO Krizette Chu, 29, features editor, Cosmopolitan Philippines In the hours before Typhoon Haiyan made landfall at her hometown of Tacloban last November 8, Krizette Chu's main worry was whether her family and friends had batteries and food to outlast the storm. "We had no warning of how dangerous this one would be," says Chu, an editor with Cosmo since July 2012. To the world's horror, the storm decimated 95 percent of Tacloban and has claimed more than 6,000 lives. "I have a friend whose entire family is missing and another whose body has not been found," she says. Knowing her hometown would need immediate relief, Chu spearheaded her own grassroots organization through Facebook to coordinate supplies, collect news reports, and give people a place to find out…

A The combo climax is the unicorn of orgasms—magical, mysterious, and lingering right over the rainbow. First, "you'll need a lot of warming up," says certified sex therapist Sari Cooper, because foreplay makes blood flow to your G-spot. Make like Beyoncé and put your love on top—the angle of his penis hitting your G while you're straddling him ups your chances of an internal O. Then have him stroke your clitoris during sex, and don't hold your breath. "Breathe from your belly—or even [as crazy as it sounds] your vagina! It will create more blood flow and a greater chance of orgasm," says Alexandra Katehakis, clinical director of the Center for Healthy Sex. Ahem, make that a double. Q After sex, I find myself "don't wake me for 12 hours"…

The author, now 22 and living in New York City, on campus. It is 9 p.m. on a November Saturday at Harvard. I am sitting in my dorm, having just applied Sally Hansen leopard-print press-on nails and wearing a $24 chiffon dress from Forever 21 that my sister told me "looks really expensive." I am waiting to hear from a nerdy but cute guy I'll call Nate*, whom I know from class. He asked me out last night. Well, sort of. We were at a party when he approached me and said, "Hey, Charlotte. Maybe we'll cross paths tomorrow night? I'll text you." I assumed the maybe and his general passivity were just ways to avoid feeling insecure about showing interest. After all, we are millennials and old-fashioned courtship no…

NEW YORK CITY "IN NEW YORK, YOU DRESS FOR YOUR NEIGHBORHOOD. I'M A DOWNTOWN CHICK—JEANS AND RIPPED-UP TEE SHIRTS. WHEN YOU'RE UPTOWN, IT'S MORE PROPER AND SOPHISTICATED." Top, skirt, $595, Michael Kors; belt, Meredith Wendell, $150; shoes, Coach, $268; bag, Alexander Wang; earrings, $525, diamond-shaped ring, $265, rectangle rings, $310 each, Jennifer Fisher; cuff, Pamela Love, $600; bracelet, $450, dome ring, $350, Robert Lee Morris PARIS "FRENCH PEOPLE ARE VERY PUT TOGETHER. WHEN I'M IN PARIS, I TRY TO KEEP IT COOL AND SIMPLE BUT STILL DRESS MY CHICEST." Dress, Dior; shoes, Christian Louboutin; bag, Olympia Le-Tan; ears headband, Maison Michel, $531; cuff, Dior Fine Jewelry; green-toned ring, $370, earrings, $685, Aurelie Bidermann; long ring, $695, gold rings, $330 each, Annelise Michelson SAN FRANC "BASEBALL IS BIG IN SAN FRAN,…

Make over YOUR MONDAY MORNING No shocker: Nearly half of women say they feel crappiest on Monday a.m. Try these tricks to start the week feeling Friday-fab. Wake Up With Mint A whiff of peppermint helps fight fatigue and increases mental alertness, researchers say. Brew a cup of tea, or rub on lotion. Bank an Early Workout It activates your lymphatic system, which can help eliminate weekend puffiness. Plus, you'll get glow-y. Recall a Happy Memory Keep objects on your desk or dresser that you associate with good times, like a shell from the beach. Just looking will elevate your mood, reports a new study. Make a Power Playlist In a stay-under-the-covers mood? Upbeat tunes can convince your body that you feel good, according to a recent study. Buy a…

Origami Condoms ETA: Late 2015 The revolutionary rubbers get their name from their design. They're folded, not rolled like traditional condoms. Lube inside, accordion pleats outside, and supple silicone instead of latex will work together to reduce chances of tearing. Plus, it will feel better for him because the barrier moves with his bod. The STI-Fighting Ring ETA: LATE 2019 A new intravaginal ring, worn for 90 days at a time, could protect against both pregnancy and viruses like HIV and herpes. The secret? Combining the contraceptive hormone levonorgestrel, currently used in implants and IUDs, with the antiretroviral drug Tenofovir. The Male Pill ETA: Early 2020s Researchers are testing ways that test oster one and prog est er one could stop sperm prod uction. An other idea: A hor mone-free…

Mind blow! When athletes wear a red uniform, they're more likely to win, according to a study in Psychological Science. "When we wear red, others may perceive us as more competitive and dominant and then we get a confidence boost," explains lead researcher Daniel Farrelly, PhD, of the University of Sunderland, England. It works at the gym too, so wear a red tank to Spinning class or on the treadmill and kick a little more ass than everyone around you. —LIZ PLOSSER Q. Is it true you burn more fat exercising on an empty stomach? A Recent studies say yes. But eating before you work out is actually better for weight loss, because it gives you the energy to push yourself harder and burn more calories overall. One to…

CONtROL ThE CLUTTER Clutter has a way of attracting more clutter, which makes your place seem messier than it is. Stop it before it happens! Small habits go a long way. Hang up your coat right when you get home, keep shoes corralled in a bin, and don't let the mail pile up. Takes seconds, and prevents headaches later. DO IT TOGETHER! Research shows that women feel more attracted to men who help around the house.Not only do ladies feel loved, their stress levels go down. So get your man in on the action and get in the mood. When was the last time you Cleaned…? 1 …Your Shower Razors, pumice stones, and loofahs harbor lots of bacteria! Clean razors with white vinegar or bleach; pumice stones with hot, soapy…

Butt Seriously "I just don't understand! It's called pulling up your pants! Or just wearing pants that fit you! Ew!" —Kaylah S., 23 Mixed Message "Is he talking about himself, or is this guy trying to tell me something?" —Adam L., 29 Trashing It Out "No wonder my boyfriend's friend is in his midthirties and single!" —Jenna D., 26 Denim Display "Perfect outfit for the farmer's market, don't you agree?" —Carly L., 22 ANNOYED BEYOND BELIEF? LOG ON TO COSMOPOLITAN.COM/BITCH-IT-OUT TO SHARE YOUR PET PEEVE (AND PHOTO). IF WE PRINT YOUR SHOT, WE'LL GIVE YOU $50! COVERS American Retro — alenetoo.com. Fleur du Mail — fleurdumail.com. Marc Jacobs — Marc Jacobs retailers. Manolo Blah nik — 212-582-3007. Evfa Attling — evfaattling.com. Stephen Web ster — 310-246-9500.…

1. LOVE THYSELF In the pretty one, zoe kazan takes on her fab twin sis's life only to find there's nothing better than doing you. New girl's jake johnson helps her find her way. 2. and 3. RETHINK THE STORY …Of two tales you know well: Boy, Snow, Bird reimagines Snow White, had she grown up with a multiracial family, while Fallen Beauty celebrates love—between girls, that is—in the Roaring '20s. 4. SET YOUR DVR FOR THE OSCARS' RED CARPET With so many daring style stars in the mix, you're going to want to see the dresses in slo-mo (March 2). 5. ALL HAIL KING FALLON After white-knuckling it for years, jay leno finally loosens his grip on the tonight show, handing it over to everyone's fave singing funnyman, jimmy…

Best advice I ever got on how to navigate a party? Stop thinking about yourself—and how awkward or nervous you feel—and start asking other people questions. Ask anything, from how do you know the host to what do you do or what do you want to do next? It puts them at ease, and you'll see their look of relief when they see someone's interested in them. I had so many questions for our fun and fearless guests at the Cosmo 100 lunch, an inspiring collection of politicians, performers, space scientists, legal eagles, tech experts, and beyond. Not only fab company, these women know how to get what they want. You can meet some of them and ask a few questions of your own at Cosmo's Fun, Fearless Life conference…

DOGGIE-STYLE Lena Dunham and Jack Antonoff put their puppy love on blast. RED NECKS Naomi Watts and Liev Schreiber hit the same bargain-scarf bin. WHY SO SERIOUS? The Beckhams mean business—suits, scowls, and all. PRECIOUS BUNDLES Check under the hoods—Andrew Garfield and Emma Stone are running smoothly. IF THE SHOES FIT Olivia Wilde and Jason Sudeikis take their kicks courtside. IN THE NAVY Shia LaBeouf and Mia Goth act like you've never seen two people in love and sweats. PLAID CAMPAIGN Scott Disick and Kourtney Kardashian begin to flannel, er, channel each other. HIS AND HIS Panamas, stripes, colored chinos—is there anything Jesse Tyler Ferguson and his husband don't share? TEAM PLAYERS Props to Mila and Ashton—it takes major league balls to go this matchy-matchy.…

You don't need superpowers or huge muscles to take the world by storm. Divergent author Veronica Roth explains why the best heroines are the ones who battle real, complicated choices. RIGHT NOW, WE'RE EXPERIENCING THE rise of strong heroines. Gone are the shrinking, fainting violets of ages past. Now, we can run, fight, and wield weapons as well as the boys. It's pretty awesome. When I started writing about Tris, the main character of the Divergent series, I was going for a strong heroine. She may start out small and mild-mannered, but she transforms into someone you definitely wouldn't want to mess with. But as the series went on, I found myself worrying about this strong-heroine thing a little. By valuing characters who possess physical strength and unfailing mental mettle,…

SARAH Dress, Mother of Pearl; shoes, Tommy Hilfiger, $399; clutch, Peter Pilotto for Target, $22.99; top cuff, $65, middle bracelet, $39, bottom bracelet, $39, Nissa Jewelry AYA Jacket, Lauren Ralph Lauren $699; T-shirt, Cynthia Rowley, $150; skirt, DKNY, $195; shoes, Christian Louboutin; handbag, Chanel; necklace, David Yurman; ring, Vince Camuto, $38 SHIONA Crop top, clutch, cross necklace, $280, Salvatore Ferragamo; skirt, Diane von Furstenberg; shoes, Fausto Puglisi; vin tage Chanel necklace, Depuis 1924; initials, $700 each letter, chain necklace, $460, hand cuff bracelet, $620, Jennifer Fisher; left side bottom ring, Fallon, $170 KATHY Sweatshirt, GoJane, $39.70; shorts, Mcginn, $130; shoes, Sophia Webster, $485; handbag, Paula Cademartori; necklace, Holst and Lee, $175…

ROCK THE LOOK Pair large-scale logos with micro-prints for a mix-and-match made in heaven. Acces sorize with tons of 'tude. COSMO DEAL! Score this Milly tee (orig. $90) for $50 from MillyNY.com. Enter code MILLYCOSMO at checkout. Wear your emotions—they're the new nameplate necklaces. Buy it or DIY it. Varsity-jacket letters transform a tank top. BUY IT 1 Dress, Material Girl, $42, Macy's 2 T-Shirt, Milly, $50 with code MILLYCOSMO, millyny.com 3 Skirt, AMI Clubwear, $29.99, amiclubwear.com 4 Rings, Foreign Exchange, $6, feclothing.com 5 Sweatshirt, MKL Collective, $44, karmaloop.com 6 Phone case, Kate Spade Saturday, $25, saturday.com 7 Leggings, Forever 21, $10.80, forever21.com 8 Necklace, Freedom at Topshop, $25, topshop.com 9 Skirt, Pixie Market, $48,…

NO SLEEP? NO PROBLEM Thanks to this concealer's light-reflecting particles, redness-reducing chamomile, and line-plumping sodium hyaluronate, the only person who will know about your late night is you. Laura Geller Beauty EyeLight Under-Eye Brightening Pen, $23, qvc.com LITTLE BANG THEORY Midi, mini, micro—whatever you call this skimpy-fringe style, we're obsessed! It's coolest when cut jagged and worn straight, says Cervando Maldonado, who snipped Lizzy's style. Got texture? Flatiron your bangs, or have them professionally relaxed. Eau de R-Patz The ultra-steamy ad (with nearly 17 million hits on YouTube) set the bar high, but the sexy spokesman's scent does not disappoint. You'll want to douse your man in the spicy coriander/earthy iris blend, then break the bed. A PERFECT LINE—EVERY TIME "Eye-pencil sharpeners are always around when you need them,"…

When you're out in the sun, smog, cold weather—even just a Saturday night with the girls—your body is exposed to and can create harmful compounds called free radicals. These bad boys latch onto healthy atoms in your skin, damaging them, which sets the scene for skin issues (dullness, breakouts, and wrinkles). Enter antioxidants: the first line of defense in neutralizing free radicals. We've ID'd the habits putting your skin at risk plus the antioxidants that'll prevent and reverse the damage. IF YOU… LIVE IN A BIG CITY What's more annoying than rush-hour traffic? The nitric oxide fumes all those cars produce. Along with fellow free-radical ozone, nitric oxide damages skin's DNA, causing roughness and sensitivity. ANTIOXIDANT RX GREEN OR WHITE TEA When applied to skin, teas neutralize free radicals before…

LIGHT SHOW The secret to Heidi's mani: a striper brush (shown here), which has long, thin bristles. Paint some nails green and some black. When dry, run a teal striper diagonally across green nails and a green striper across black nails. Top left: Butter London Nail Lacquer in British Racing Green, $15, butterlondon.com; Salon Perfect Nail Art Liner in Blue Skies, $2, walmart.com Bottom left: Zoya Nail Polish in Raven, $9, zoya.com; It's So Easy Stripe Rite in Green, $4, Sally Beauty Supply ONE DIRECTION Paint nails stone white, let them dry, then run a black nail-art pen down the center of your middle fingers and horizontally across the rest. On model: Jin Soon Polish in Kookie White, $18, jinsoon.com TIP When using a nail-art pen, press…

Seize Opportunities It is impossible to try to organize one's personal life or career according to some preconceived plan. As a closeted lesbian growing up in Cleveland in the 1980s, if you had told me that one day, I would marry a woman, have a child, and win a landmark civil rights case, I would have told you that you were certifiably insane. As a result, all you can do in life is recognize unexpected opportunities whenthey come your way. When I first met my client Edie Windsor, other lawyers had already turned her down. But I knew immediately that Edie's story presented the best possible chance to overturn the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), which barred the federal government from recognizing the marriages of gay couples. Prep Like Crazy…

The sculpted bodies, the feats of skill…if the Olympics get you a little hot and bothered, it's only natural. Sex really is the most heart-pounding of all team sports. So Cosmo is here to put the O in Olympics this season. Try our winter-sports-inspired positions and performance-enhancing tips and give racy new meaning to bobsledding, curling…and working the long pole. Now let the (bedroom) games begin! BEDROOM PERFORMANCE ENHANCERS Welcome to the orgasmic opening ceremonies. All you really need to win in bed are your willing bodies, your fiery Olympic passion…and a few shiny Tara Lipinski–inspired bras. Play dirty. A high stick or a hip check is a penalty on the Olympic hockey rink, but in the bedroom, getting a little rough before the main event starts can turn everything…

Q My guy told me I have a funny O-face, and now I'm self-conscious about it. Is this going to ruin sex for him? A Uh, everyone has a funny O-face. If your O-face isn't funny, chances are, you're not having an actual O. If you're needlessly feeling self-conscious about what your face looks like when you come, you're never going to come. I say needlessly because your O-face will not ruin sex for your guy. If you punched him in the scrotum when you climaxed, that would ruin sex. If you screamed out extraordinarily offensive racial slurs, that would ruin sex. But a funny face will not. Let your guy know his O-face looks just as funny as yours, then suggest you go make each other make them. Q…

"NO DIGGITY," THE '90S JAM BY BLACKSTREET, pours out of the speakers at New York City's Bob Bar, where Leela Hatfield, 27, and her best friend, Alie Martell, 27, are throwing a party. Nostalgia is already in the air: The pair are wearing custom-made tank tops re-creating their childhood Best Friends charm necklaces and handing out stickers emblazoned with their smiling faces and a special hashtag: #Since1993. Their guests shower them with gifts (they thought about registering but thought that would be greedy) and cards —one starring two poodles and a message reading, "Happy Anniversary, you two amazing bitches!" Welcome to Alie and Leela's 20-year friendiversary party, a giggle- and gin-infused affair marking two decades since Martell showed up as the new girl at Hatfield's elementary school, bonded with her…

WHO: Betty Who REAL NAME: Jessica Anne Newham HOMETOWN: Sydney, Australia BREAKOUT JAM: "Somebody Loves You" (the soundtrack to the viral Home Depot Proposal YouTube video). Who's second EP will be out this spring. FIRST ALBUM I BOUGHT: "Britney Spears' …Baby One More Time, on cassette tape. I had to have it because, duh, it's Britney." SECRET TALENT: "I am extremely gifted at reading out loud. It's actually my life's calling. Really, I should be reading audio books and giving voices to cartoon characters." BEST LOVE LESSON: "I am nothing without it." Vest, Helmut Lang, $695; T-shirt, Obesity and Speed, $125; jeans, Paige Denim, $189; shoes, Ellery et Giannico; fringe necklace, $429, necklace, $499, blue-stone ring, $255, Iosselliani; large cuff, $220, small cuff, $200, Susan Hanover; tooth ring, Luv Aj,…

THE 11-WORD RECIPE Grill asparagus with salt, olive oil; top with lemon juice, pecorino. SOURCE: MARISSA LIPPERT, RD, CHEF/OWNER OF NOURISH KITCHEN + TABLE IN NYC TRUST US Yogurt Cocktails Sounds strange, tastes awesome. Mixologists are spiking Greek yogurt —a superfood that's rich in calcium and protein—with booze, like this Bourbon Ginger Lassi cocktail from Lush Wine and Spirits in Chicago. Try It! 2 ounces bourbon 3 tablespoons plain Greek yogurt 1 ounce honey 1 ounce lime juice 2 tablespoons minced ginger Pinch of salt Handful of ice Dash of Angostura bitters (optional) Puree all ingredients in a blender until smooth. Add a splash of ginger beer (optional). Garnish with lime zest and black pepper. BREAKFAST IS NEGOTIABLE Everyone knows that breakfast eat ers are slimmer. Except that after reviewing…

What Is Going On? If there was a shot to ward off cancer and STIs, you'd get it, right? Well, there is one…and hardly anybody seems to want it. Cosmo reports on what's scaring women away from the HPV vaccine and answers all your questions on this super-common, super-confusing germ. From the time she was 17, Michele Prigo never missed a Pap smear. She knew the annual check could catch signs of cervical cancer, yet year after year, she was only vaguely mindful of the involvement of a sexually transmitted virus. The sex-ed she got in the 1990s was mostly a lecture trying to frighten the libido out of her, with an onscreen horror show of sore-covered genitalia. She admits she didn't always insist her boyfriends use condoms. Why would…

MEET YOUR TRAINER Don Saladino Known For His super-effective strength and cardio workouts that get stars in NYC ready for movie roles and TV appearances. Famous Clients Ryan Gosling, Maggie Grace, Hugh Jackman, Scarlett Johansson, Blake Lively, Ryan Reynolds How to Do This Workout Grab a 5- to 10-pound set of dumbbells, and do three sets of each move. Do the routine every other day. THE MATRIX 1 Stand with feet hip-width apart. Imagine you're standing in the center of a clock, with 12 o'clock directly in front of you. Bend knees and elbows to prepare to jump. 2 Swinging your arms for balance, jump toward 1 o'clock, landing on your right foot and keeping your left knee up. 3 Pause, then jump back to center. Repeat to 3 o'clock…

@AuroraAstro (FEB. 19–MARCH 20) Pisces BIRTHDAY GIRLS STELLAR GIFTS Your first instinct is to look for the best in people and situations. BLIND SPOTS You can be flaky and cancel plans at the last minute! FASHION FAVES Layering soft, beautiful pieces suits you. INDULGENCE Hours listening to your favorite music can transform your mood. SEDUCTION STYLE You know how to tantalize a guy and keep him wanting more. THIS MONTH The New Moon in your sign on the 1st gives you a burst of fresh energy! Write down your goals for the upcoming year, and start mapping out the steps you'll take to reach them. But don't get too busy for your girls—get a catch-up brunch on the calendar with your ladies before things get too crazy. YEAR AHEAD May…

1. To relieve stress, you usually: a. Take a Zumba class. Pitbull is your guru. b. Cruise Etsy while casually masturbating. c. Yell at someone you care about. 2. Your morning ritual generally includes: a. Running a 10K, mixing a kale smoothie, and making balloon animals at a children's hospital. b. Shower, coffee, a bagel, and if there's time, throwing a comb through your hair. c. Rocking back and forth in the fetal position while whisper-singing "You Are My Sunshine." 3. The last time you cried was… a. When you went on a hike and saw a bald eagle fly into the sunset. b. When you watched A League of Their Own—on your period. c. When Starbucks misspelled your name. You can't take this bullshit anymore! 4. If…

WE LOVE READER NIGHT We invited eight hilarious readers to spend the evening chatting with Cosmo editors over snacks and champagne at our offices. Want to come to the next one? Watch our Twitter for info on how to apply! NBD, just drinking champagne and talking about boys at Reader Night! LETTER OF THE MONTH "I nearly did cartwheels when I read 'This Is Not Why You're Single' [in the January issue]. It made me realize again why I love Cosmo. As a 26-year-old, I'm not in a hurry to find Mr. Right, but when he comes along, it's going to be amaz ing and totally worth the wait." —Crystal D., Fresno, CA TWEETS WE LOVE ERIC PHYFER @EPhyfer Guys, if you're ever having trouble understanding girls, just pick up…

1 "AFTER AN INTENSE, ALL-NIGHT ROMP WITH A GUY, I WAS LATE FOR REHEARSAL. I WASN'T ALLOWED TO DANCE WITH MY WARM-UP SLEEVES ON…BUT I HAD SCRATCH MARKS ON MY ARMS AND BACK FROM THE NIGHT BEFORE! I BLAMED MY CAT." —AMANDA L., 23, DANCER, FROM FERGUS FALLS, MN 2 "I'M A PSYCHO FLOSSER. I WENT TO THE DENTIST ONCE AND HAD NINE CAVITIES, SO NOW I HAVE FLOSS EVERYWHERE—IN EVERY POCKETBOOK, IN EVERY ROOM OF THE HOUSE. I'M ALWAYS FLOSSING." —NINA B., 29, BENEFITS AND PAYROLL MANAGER, FROM NEW YORK, NY 3 "A GUY TUCKED ME IN AFTER I GOT REALLY DRUNK ON HALLOWEEN. THE NEXT MORNING, I WOKE UP AND MY WIG HAD FALLEN OFF—I HAD A GROSS BALD CAP ON MY HEAD. HE SAW ME LIKE THAT,…

WHOSE SKIN IS IT? Rita Ora T-Pain Lena Dunham Marc Jacobs Pharrell Williams Miley Cyrus Justin Bieber 1 Miley Cyrus takes her grandma love to the permanent level. 2 Girls spoiler: Lena Dunham trades in that Brooklyn walk-up. 3 For Marc Jacobs, pineapples under the sea are always on trend. 4 In case you were wondering, T-Pain doesn't need your love. 5 Rita Ora gives good face. 6 Who doesn't want to trade places with the tiger on Justin Bieber's arm? 7 Oh, please, Pharrell. We know you're no angel. JUMPSUIT-O-METER Not all onesies are created equal. You be the judge. Nicole Richie's perfection is as clear as black and white. Vanessa Hudgens' look is all genie-in-a-bottle and sheer brilliance. Olivia Wilde rocks a deep V so hard, she deserves…

1. Travel With a Crew I've found it's best to travel in even numbers. There were six of us being flown into the "bush." One, my cousin Molly, the younger, whiter version of Tyler Perry's Madea. Two, my newly divorced sister, Simone. (I facilitated it. Simone often refers to me as a relationship wrecker.) Then Shelly, a lesbian lawyer, Hannah, my oldest friend from L.A., and Sue Murphy, a coexecutive producer on my show. Sue is the type who, upon finding herself with a bottle of pinot noir and no glass, will empty the bottle into a bowl of cereal and ingest the wine and the Frosted Mini-Wheats with a spoon. She is the best. 2. Try to Sleep With Your Tour Guide On the first day, we saw wildebeest,…

FOR STANDING OUT Rack up tons of new followers in daring print-and-color combos that turn heads (and iPhone lenses). OPI Nail Lacquer in Jade Is the New Black, $9, opi.com; Butter London Nail Lacquer in Jaded Jack, $15, Ulta; Sally Hansen Triple Shine Nail Color in Dive In, $5, drugstores STAND TALL Avoid the wobbles—strut in chunky statement heels. Shoes, Nicholas Kirkwood, Nicholas Kirkwood, 646-559-5239 The multicolored mani is major! Use hues in the same family. Wear a colorful bag with wild patterns—more is more. GET GRAPHIC Comic prints attract eyes and Instagram Likes. Jacket, Equipment, $318, Equipment, 646-277-6496 Style star Miroslava Duma INSTAGRAM: @MIRADUMA Swap black eyeliner for unexpected hot pink. NYX Slide On Pencil in Pink Suede, $8, nyx cosmetics.com EMBRACE TEXTURE A woven tribal skirt adds an…

ABOUT AN IT GIRL WHO Singer, songwriter, DJ, model, producer, founder of Saint Records (saintrecords.com), and oh, yeah, Beyoncé's sister, Solange Knowles, 27 THE LOOK Femme but fly. "When I think of pastels, I think of Easter Sunday. But designers are doing them in a really cool way. Just stick to minimalist silhouettes and modern fabrics." GO-TO GETTING-READY JAM "Since my sister's album came out, it's literally all I've been listening to." Top, skirt, Vika Gazinskaya, modaoperandi.com; shoes, Sophia Webster, $595, Saks Fifth Avenue; clutch, Meredith Wendell, $195, meredithwendell.com; earrings, Yazbukey, $200, 212-941-9656 DELICATE BALANCE There's nothing granny about Tumblr-ready lace sweatshirts and track shorts. Pair with crop tops and graphic heels. Dress, Wes Gordon, Bergdorf Goodman, special order only; bathing suit, Milly, similar styles available at milly.ny.com; shoes,…

How to Stage a Beauty Intervention Part of being good friends is telling each other the truth. But how do you tell your BFF that her look may be holding her back? Here's how to break the news and still come out besties. "Her brows are so thin, they look insane." —LACEY, 27 WHAT TO SAY Thank heaven for Cara Delevingne: use the model's major arches as bait for talking brows. Tell her, "I'm so happy big brows are back. Less maintenance, you know?" Then invite her to join your brow boot camp. Her issue, however, could be stress, says Di Medlock, director of waxing at Exhale Spa. "Overplucking is often an attempt to control things in life," says Medlock. If she seems frazzled, she may need an invite to…

SHAKE UP YOUR MAKEUP Sporting specs requires a few tweaks, says makeup pro (and glasses girl!) Bobbi Brown, author of the new Everything Eyes ($15, Chronicle Books). She's launching her own eyewear line with Safilo too (right) . Her top tips: Amp up your arches. Oversize glasses can hide brows. To make them pop, fill them in with powder or brush them up with tinted gel. Tarte Amazonian Clay Volumizing Brow Powder, $38, qvc.com; Benefit Gimme Brow, $22, benefitcosmetics.com Make it matte. Prevent frames from sliding all over your nose with an oil-absorbing matte foundation. Rimmel London Stay Matte Liquid Mousse Foundation, $5.50, drugstores Destroy dark circles. An illuminating concealer erases under-eye shadows, which lenses magnify. Physicians Formula Super CC+ Concealer SPF 30, $13, drugstores Lash out. Curl your…

"REJECTION IS A FORM OF GUIDANCE." Whitney Cummings Comedian After college, Cummings auditioned to be a newscaster and was told she wasn't cut out for it (too funny). She tried hosting variety shows for TV, but "always came in second" (too kooky). She went on 200 commercial auditions and couldn't book a single one (too pretty/not pretty enough). She auditioned for acting roles, but that didn't work out either (too quirky). "That's why stand-up worked for me," Cummings says. "You have to be as unapologetically original as possible, so it was the only place I could fit." HER LESSON Let it hurt. By the time she found success, Cummings found herself deeply resenting the people who had rejected her years before. "Everything broke my heart, but I pretended like…

STEP 1 Get inspired by Mika Brzezinski. STEPS 2 TO 10 Follow our smart, do-this-now, five-step plans for everything from finding love to unlocking your inner CEO. STEP 11 Enjoy being a rock star. THE ONLY WAY to have the fun, fear less life you crave and deserve is by respecting yourself and your potential and making sure everyone else does. In my book, Knowing Your Value, I wrote about the ways that I, like many women, held myself back career-wise by undervaluing myself. Knowing your worth—and acting like it—is essential to success at work and happiness on a personal level. Here's how to lay the groundwork for your incredible career and love life. Know Your Value 101 START STRONG. Not having a ton of skill and experience doesn't mean…

Whether it's tall, dark, and handsome or deeply damaged, we all have a type…or do we? "A lot of women have this misconception that the 'type' they fall in love with is out of their hands," says Andrea Syrtash, author of He's Just Not Your Type (and That's a Good Thing). Spoiler: Not true! We broke down four classic man ruts we all fall into and how to break out of them like a triumphant rom-com heroine. The ASSHOLE Peace out, brah. It's officially over. ABOUT THE ASSHOLE: This is the guy who talks his way backstage at a Kanye concert, makes out with you in front of Yeezus himself, doesn't text you again for two months, then wants to go out again like your first date was yesterday (womp).…

MANQUATIONS As Einstein once said, guys don't always add up. Do the man math and find out if you should sear him into your brain like a times table or forget him like senior-year trig. He calls you dude + Takes you only on brunch dates = So deep in the friend zone, you might as well be his cousin. He texts only after midnight + Treats you to vodka sodas but no actual meals = He's just trying to get it in. He "checks in" at your date spot (and tags you) + Announces he had a really great time via Twitter = He's desperate to make someone else jealous. He plays Cher's greatest hits on repeat in his car + His drink order ends in tini = What…

If you didn't know better, you'd think California girl Ashley Benson was a native New Yorker, rolling around NYC's Meatpacking District in leather leggings, hard-knock boots, horn-rimmed glasses, and not a stitch of makeup. With her hair dyed caramel brown for Webcam, a thriller she's shooting in Brooklyn, she could pass for an off-duty Scarlett Johansson. When I tell her this, her eyes light up. "When I was 15, I was her stand-in for a Dolce & Gabbana campaign," she says. "I love her so much!" That's no lie. She tells me she booked her hotel using a name from one of Johansson's films. "They wouldn't let me check in," she says. "It took forever to convince them it was really me." You can't fault the staff for being thrown…

NEW-WAVE LIPSTICK Making the matte trend even more rad: fluoro pastels. The neon-infused sorbet shades have a chalky finish (a bit like surfboard paint). PRO TRICK Chapped lips soak up extra pigment, creating a splotchy effect, so give yourself a lip facial first. Generously coat your mouth with balm for five minutes, then tissue off. PRODUCT PICKS Nars Satin Lip Pencil in Timanfaya, $25 (on model above); Obsessive Compulsive Cosmetics Lip Tar in Narcissus, $18 (on model at right) From left: Tank, Pima Doll, $100; shorts, Bardot, $84; tank, Osklen, $267; earrings, model's own OCEAN LINER Bahama blue liner makes a classic cat eye so spring '14. PRO TRICK Dip a pointy cotton swab into makeup remover, then run it above and below your line for a crisp, mistake-free finish.…

If you walked into Chicago's Red Kiva lounge one night last year, you probably would have thought you had stepped into a Hookah bar by mistake. Flocks of 20- and 30somethings crowded around tables showcasing a small, sleek device—the Vaportini—designed for inhaling not flavored tobacco but liquor. While one group took turns breathing in vapors of bourbon, others inhaled vodka, gin, and the hard-core party favorite, absinthe. The allure? You get drunker faster and on less booze. "When you inhale a substance, it reaches the brain exponentially faster and at a much higher concentration," says Scott Teitelbaum, MD, division chief of addiction medicine at the University of Florida College of Medicine. By bypassing your stomach, you also end up with no nausea and "little to no calories," says Dr. Teitelbaum.…

Back in the fall of 2001, I was a high school junior, with a schedule full of AP classes, meetings, and concert rehearsals. So when I started gaining weight and feeling tired and weak, I figured it was stress. Within weeks, the scale shot up 20 pounds, with the weight concentrated in my legs and ankles. I got breathless just walking to class. But I grew up in a family of stoic noncomplainers, so I downplayed how bad I felt. When the fatigue became overwhelming, I finally saw my doctor. She found fluid in my lungs, and I was quickly sent to the ICU. I was diagnosed with heart failure due to dilated cardiomyopathy, a condition where the heart muscle weakens, enlarges, and can't pump efficiently. Doctors don't know what…

Decisions, Decisions… Where do you want to go? A road trip is about how you get there, but it's important to know where you'll end up, says Seth Kugel, Frugal Traveler columnist for The New York Times. What would you be pumped to do? Explore a cool city? Lie down on the beach? Baseline: Do what you love. Driver's Plan-ual How Far Out Do You Need to Plan? SAY YOU WANT TO… Hit up a special event. Give yourself a few months. Lodging sells out around festivals and high seasons. Book nice accommodations. Make reservations a month in advance. Just pick up and go. Take at least two days to lock down your route and the towns you really want to hit. How Do You Plan Your Budget? Transportation. Calculate…

Excerpted from You Should Have Known Grace Sachs is living her dream life: doctor husband, a young son, and a stellar career as a marriage therapist. She takes a tough-love approach with her female clients, urging them to trust their intuition when it comes to not- so-savory men. Grace has made such a name for herself that she's written a book, You Should Have Known, which is just weeks from its release when the mother of one of her son's schoolmates is murdered. The detectives investigating the case want to question Grace's husband Jonathan, a pediatric oncologist who's mysteriously MIA. They inform Grace that Jonathan was fired from the hospital where he worked…and where the victim's husband was being treated for cancer. Surely they're confusing Jonathan with someone else who…