Innholdsfortegnelse for January 2013 i Cosmopolitan

I love fresh starts. Of course, there are big new beginnings, like a new job (editor of Cosmo!) or a new apartment or a new partner, and then there are the smaller ones, like maybe a new haircut or a new coat—but no matter how inconsequential, they always give me energy. I love the chance to clean the slate and start anew, full of promises to myself about doing everything faster, cheaper, thinner! I know, I know, you take your problems wherever you go, but sometimes a change of scenery gives you a new perspective, and a new year can be like that too. Sometimes we need to be pushed into making a change. In this month's issue, we bring you Cosmo's "New Year, New Rules, New You" (page 106),…

HER HIT SONG HAS 300 MILLION VIEWS (AND COUNTING) ON YOUTUBE—AND INSPIRED SPOOFS BY BIEBER, THE U.S. OLYMPIC SWIM TEAM, AND THE HARVARD BASEBALL TEAM (AMONG OTHERS). CARLY RAE JEPSEN, 27, TALKS ABOUT HOW HER LIFE CHANGED IN A YEAR. Carly's Cinderella story is a modern classic: a singer with dreams of the big time, performing at bars and cafés (and waiting tables) for years, trying to catch her break. The twist: Justin Bieber turned out to be her fairy godmother. If The Biebs hadn't been washing dishes at his mom's house near Stratford, Ontario, he wouldn't have caught "Call Me Maybe" on the radio or tweeted about it to his 29 million followers or made a video with his friends (including then-GF Selena Gomez) lip-synching to the insanely catchy…

Take It All Off Ask your stylist for a pixie that's at least three inches long on top and buzzed everywhere else. Tease roots, spread a layer of wax (like Got2B Playful Defiant Pomade, $6) onto hands, and pull through hair upward for height. Go Faux With Long Locks Section off the hair between your temples from hairline to crown, then pull the rest into a low, sleek twist or bun. Spray top section with root lifter (try Aussie Aussome Volume, $3.25), tease, and pin a pompadour in place. Source: Sunnie brook, celebrity stylist for head & shoulders…

With the runaway success of The Mindy Project, there's no question that Kaling is sitting pretty on top these days. But for all the buzz, she's oddly middle of the pack in one regard: her weight. "I am not model skinny but also not superfat and fabulously owning my hugeness," she writes in her memoir, Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me? (And Other Concerns). "I fall in that nebulous 'normal American woman' size that legions of fashion stylists detest. For the record, I'm a size 8 (this week, anyway)." Mindy is hardly alone. Lena Dunham, Christina Aguilera, Jessica Simpson, KhloÉ Kardashian Odom…they're all members of the same club: normal-size women who wear a few pounds here or there as a badge of honor —and with badass equanimity. When Lena's pantsless…

Q. Why are guys so into Spartacus? A. I think they like it for the same reason I love doing it. I get to be the guy I really want to be. He's tough; he fights for the little guy; he doesn't take no for an answer. He's sexy with all the ladies. He's just a tough, good guy—the alpha male you want to be. Q. Do you think men feel pressure to fill that superhero role? A. Guys know there's a heroic archetype that's expected of them in a relationship. But I think they like playing that role. They like occasionally getting the chance to be that guy even if it's a little tricky and hard, given who they are normally. Q. So how can a woman bring out…

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GOT CURLS? Scrunch hair pudding (a new überhydrating styler) into damp strands. Air-dry, comb, and mist on argan oil. WANT THEM? Apply mousse all over, and blow-dry. Set hair in hot rollers for 20 minutes. Brush, then defrizz with serum. Hera Argan Oil for Hair and Skin, $45 Carol's Daughter Hair Milk Pudding, $22 Catwalk by Tigi Curlesque Defining Serum, $20 Redken Curvaceous Wave Ahead Texturizing Mousse, $18…

THE PRO 1. Place a clean business card diagonally in the hollow of your cheek (from the ear down) and sweep bronzer along top. The darkness gives a chiseled effect. 2. Smile, place two fingers next to your nose, and apply blush to the uncovered area of your cheek. (Placing color too close to your nose makes your face look fuller.) 3. Tap highlighting powder along the crest of your cheekbone up to the temple in a C shape. The sheen enhances bone structure. COOL-SKIN PICK Giorgio Armani Sheer Blush in 6, $44 WARM-SKIN PICK L'Oréal Paris True Match Blush in Spiced Plum, $11 Tom Ford Beauty Shade and Illuminate, $75, offers bronzer and highlighter. Lancôme Cheek Brush #6, $43…

Q. I wear my long hair off my face a lot. What can I do to avoid breakage? A. Skip elastics, and use a corkscrewlike pin instead. It gently screws into a twist or bun, securing without tension. SOURCE: JENNY CHO, HAIR STYLIST FOR SUAVE Q. Can a cold infect my lipsticks and balms? A. Yes—and repeat contact can prolong a cough. Use lip pots, not sticks, which don't touch your lips (sanitize first). SOURCE: DERMATOLOGIST JOSHUA ZEICHNER Q. I moisturize my body before bed but hate feeling sticky in the sheets. Any tricks? A. Use a dry oil spray. It absorbs in seconds, and its silicone base has a comfortable powdery finish. SOURCE: DERMATOLOGIST MARINA PEREDO Q. I'm over ombré highlights. What's a lower-maintenance option? A. Balayage highlights. Unlike…

1. Be Respectful of Her Time Like any successful woman, your mentor is busy. A quick coffee with you becomes just one more item on her already packed to-do list. So give her options, says Kat Griffin, founder of the career-advice blog Corporette.com. Shoot her an e-mail when you have a question, and let her know you are open to coming to her, chatting on the phone, or just talking via e-mail. Give her plenty of time to get back to you—e-mailing with questions that need ASAP advice is annoying. 2. Seek Advice, Not Answers She's not your best friend, mom, therapist, or Ouija board. And she probably doesn't feel comfortable telling you what you should or shouldn't do. The work-around? "Instead of asking 'what should I do' about a…

INSIDE Epic love…P.88 Fell for a woman…P.92 For Keeps…P.94 Text fight…P.96 Rebound sex…P.98 Sex Q&A…P.103 Ask Him Anything…P.104 1. NO SMARTPHONES IN THE BEDROOM One of you is frisky, the other is texting the boss = intimacy killer. 2. SCHEDULE NON-DATE NIGHTS Spending time solo or with friends leaves you stronger outside the relationship and in. 3. GIVE PROPS Daily, mutual praise keeps you focused on each other's best (not annoying) qualities. 4. MAKE SMALL CHANGES Little stuff, like heeding his request not to use his razor on your legs, has a big impact. 5. FLIRT WITH HOTTIES… DURING THE DAY Stick to lunch, not dinner, with that ex or foxy coworker. Jealousy never has a chance to set in. SOURCES: AMY JOHNSON, PHD; TINA TESSINA, PHD; PAULA SZUCHMAN, COAUTHOR…

We were the quintessential Manhattan couple. My boyfriend was a successful finance guy, and I was a pop-culture journalist. But sometimes—usually after an awful commuting experience—we'd discuss leaving NYC. "Dallas?" He'd mention some oil job. "Sure," I'd say. "Can I wear cowboy boots?" These hypotheticals seemed like just a game; we'd been together 18 months, but neither of us was mentioning the M word. So when my boyfriend asked over sushi if I'd move to Fort Bragg, North Carolina, I didn't think much of it. "I want to join the Army Special Forces," he said. Laughing, I pinched a piece of tuna with chopsticks. This was the craziest hypothetical yet! Sure, he was take-charge and outdoorsy, but at 31, my boyfriend was a hedge-fund manager. The heaviest lifting he did…

Q. What's the best position for a quickie? A. Definitely standing doggie-style. It gives him easy access to your G-spot (his penis is pretty much guaranteed to hit it in this position) and your clitoris (which he can stimulate with his hand), so it's more likely that you'll have a speedy climax. You can change the angle to find your sweet spot easily—the farther you bend over, the more intense each thrust will feel. Another bonus: The view is awesome for him, so he'll get off quickly too. Once you get started, don't waste time; grab one of his hands and place it between your legs, and bring the other to your breasts. Q. I feel like sometimes I'm too wet down there. What's going on, and is there anything…

Want to Vent About a Critical Girlfriend? Call in to Cosmo Radio's Wake Up With Taylor (Sirius XM Channel 109), January 10 at 9 a.m. ET. I met Lindsay* five years ago at a mutual friend's house party in Philadelphia, when we both reached for the same can of PBR.We clicked immediately—we complained about the lack of hot men in the room, then Lindsay segued into a hilarious story about a guy she'd recently dated who turned out to be in a cult. I spat out my beer, I was laughing so hard. Later, we ditched the lame party and walked to a pizza joint down the block. Trading dating war stories and joking about the entry-level work world we were part of over a couple of slices, the whole…

THE GERM MAGNET YOU'RE WEARING THIS WINTER If you only wash your gloves when you spill coffee on them, they're probably covered in cold- and flu-causing microbes, thanks to all the door handles, railings, and ATMs you touch every day, says Donna Duberg, micro-biologist and assistant professor of clinical laboratory science at Saint Louis University. Lower your risk of catching something by laundering them each week or running an antibacterial wipe over them daily. Dr. News The Crucial Topic Your Ob-Gyn Isn't Talking to You About Only 40 percent of ob-gyns ask patients about their sex life, reports a study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine. Yet all should, since sexual issues could have a treatable physical cause. Even if your MD never brings it up, tell her about symptoms…

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Put Your Instagram Talents to Good Use Don't let those epic party photos or artsy Instagram still lifes go to waste. PostalPix is a free app that prints those pics from your smartphone and mails them to you (for a fee), so all you have to do is hang 'em. Elevate your shots by displaying them in white frames of various sizes, then clump five or six of them to create a gallery wall above your couch or in your hallway. Surround Yourself With Color One of the best ways to create a new vibe is to paint an accent wall—and it's not as daunting a task as you may think (it's one wall). Hit the hardware store for a roller, a tarp, masking tape (to cover trim), a can…

Detective Logan Riske is on a mission to find the man who murdered his best friend—and the key to putting him away lies with Pepper Yates. Pepper's brother, Rowdy, is a critical witness in the case, but he knows that if he testifies, his life could be in danger, so he goes on the run. Only Pepper knows his true whereabouts, and Logan vows to get that information out of her by any means necessary. Logan's plan is to go undercover as a new tenant in the building Pepper manages. Slowly, he starts to build a rapport with her—and even though he wills himself not to, he begins to develop feelings for her. But Pepper is doing everything in her power to resist his charms—she doesn't trust anyone right now,…

1 A coworker invites you to her Minor French Novelists book club. These days you're hooked on YA fantasy, so you… A Wikipedia the first novel and bring a baguette and Brie to the meeting. B Decline and see if other coworkers have interests more similar to yours. C Let her know the topic's not your thing but you'll come for wine and gossip. 2 How many people on your Facebook feed would you actually recognize on the street? A 100 percent. Why be friends with someone you don't know in real life? B 80 percent. There are a few you haven't seen since they moved away in eighth grade. C 40 percent. And when you're friends with 800 people, that's pretty good. 3 Which celeb would you most want…

The Upton Effect "@KateUpton is Cosmo's cover girl. My favorite month, model, and magazine. Happy birthday to me!" —@Billie_xxx 52 Shades of Sexy "Buying the 2012 Cosmo Bachelors issue? My best idea in a long time." —@BriannaReh A Welcome Warning "'The Scary Crime No One's Talking About' happened to me in 2011. The bartender spiked my drink, but I was aware enough to get away. Thank you for validating what I already knew and educating your readers." —Cyndi R., Spring Hill, Fla. Doc Talk "In 'What Your Gyno Must Never Do,' you stated that pinching a patient's nipples during a breast exam is a red flag. As a family nurse practitioner, I am supposed to press the nipples to check for discharge. I'm worried patients may now think…

ON PLAYING HIMSELF ON TV "It's just automatic ego destruction, every single day. The only rule I have is, if people are laughing, then thumbs up." WHY CHLOE'S A COOL BITCH "There is definitely something sexy about someone who just owns it, someone who knows who they are without needless insecurity." HOW TO MAKE A GUY LAUGH "Bust his balls…in measured doses. A little goes a long way." WHAT HE WON'T SAY TO A GIRL "'Is that what you're wearing?' Even if it's genuinely meant to ascertain how close we are to being able to leave, that question can never be asked successfully." DUDE INTEL "Guys need like 20 minutes a day to do nothing—either watch a game or just sit and do nothing. Empty-head time. We're much more fun…

1 People Kanye follows on Twitter. It's Kim. (Shocker!) 181 People Kim follows 8,778,762 +People who follow Kanye 16,573,908 + People who follow Kim 121 Letters comprising Miley Cyrus's and Liam Hemsworth's matching tattoos. The couple got excerpts from a 1910 speech by former president Teddy Roosevelt. 39,117 Letters in Roosevelt's 1910 "Citizenship in a Republic" speech 1 Tattoos Roosevelt allegedly had. The 26th president of the U.S. was rumored to have his family crest inked across his chest. $120 Reported cost per nail that Katy Perry spent on a manicure—that featured art from MTV's famous animated series Daria—at a salon in Tokyo $4.50 Cost of Katy's favorite drugstore product, Palmer's Cocoa Butter body lotion 11 Years it took Drake to graduate high school after dropping out (we applaud you,…

1. Laugh YourWay ThroughAwards Season If cohosts Tina Fey andAmy Poehler aren't enoughfunny for you, follow these folks on Twitter for hilarious Golden Globes tweets: @SethMeyers21, @MaudeApatow, @AzizAnsari, and @MeganAmram. They'll zing the night away. 2. Mario Testino Goes to Boston In Your Face, an exhibition of the legendary fashion photographer's most provocative work, is on display until February 3 at Boston's Museum of Fine Arts (mfa.org). Order the gorgeous coffee-table book from Amazon. 3. Celebrate MLK Day, January 21 Curl up with the new book Martin Luther King Jr.: A King Family Tribute, edited by Angela Farris Watkins (niece of MLK). His family members paint a moving portrait of the civil-rights crusader. 4. Give Back and Travel Free Hostelling International USA (hiusa.org/service) will put you up gratis across the…

Rob* and I met on the subway in New York City. It was a Friday night, and I was all done up, on my way to meet my friend with benefits. Rob sat down next to me, and I noticed him glancing at me a few times. Suddenly, he turned and said, "I think you're really pretty, and I'd like to take you out for dinner." Just like that. He was cute, and his confidence was sexy. Plus, I'm a dating "yes" girl—I rarely turn down guys, because I figure even if we don't click, I'll at least get a good story. So I gave him my number. Rob called the very next morning (yes!) and suggested we meet that night at 8 at an expensive sushi restaurant in midtown…

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What Leah's Loving Confession: It's been ages since I've soaked in an actual bathtub (they're not exactly standard in tiny NYC apartments). So you can imagine how psyched I was to discover six of them at the new Aire Ancient Baths. The enormous spa (a textile factory turned urban oasis) is inspired by the old Greek and Roman bathhouses and offers a variety of soaking options—from icy to hot baths, and my fave: a floating salt pool, complete with underwater music—plus the most relaxing hammam, aka steam room, ever (hot marble, the refreshing scent of mint…heaven!). Tubless like me? Spas like Aire are popping up all over. Otherwise, try my at-home tips any time you need to hit reboot in 2013. Follow Cosmo's beauty director on Twitter…

CAT CALL Hannah's signature makeup look is a thick liquid-lined eye. "It takes me under three seconds to apply one," she says, crediting her skills to the liner at left. "I've been using this since I was 14. It's by The Body Shop, the only beauty store on the island of Cyprus, where I lived as a teenager." The Body Shop Liquid Eyeliner, $13.50 MANI MANIA She has to keep her nails neutral on set, so "I rebel on the weekends," Hannah says. "I'm obsessed with Essie's bright shades—I have a cabinet full of, like, 50 polishes." Her two fave hues: Essie Nail Color in Lights (left) and Clambake, $8 each STRIKE A HOT POSE "A photographer once told me to part your lips very slightly in pictures. It makes…

WHAT YOU'LL SEE: A Softer, More Luminous Texture "The rate at which your skin cells turn over starts to slow in your 20s," says NYC dermatologist Adam Geyer. This buildup of dead keratin prevents light from reflecting off skin's surface evenly, creating a dull finish and rough texture. KEY INGREDIENT: Alpha Hydroxy Acids or Enzymes Many antiaging serums and creams address this decrease in natural exfoliation with AHAs (find them in SkinCeuticals and Physicians Formula, here) and enzymes (try Perricone MD, left). Their job: to dissolve dead cells gently and reveal a fresher, more dewy-looking layer. Because these formulas are buffered with emollients—and aren't gritty like a scrub—most are gentle enough to use on all skin types, says Dr. Geyer. WHAT YOU'LL SEE: Clearer Skin This could be the best…

In the workplace, men tend to own their accomplishments more than women do. We're so afraid of being labeled egomaniacs that we often downplay the times we excel. Guys haven't been socialized the same way, so they don't think twice about letting everyone know when they've done well. This needs to change. In the early stages of my career, I worked my butt off taking extra shifts and assumed I was racking up brownie points. I realized no one had noticed…because I hadn't told them. So listen up, ladies: Get over your fear of bragging and speak up. Here's how to do it without coming across as obnoxious. 1. Keep Your Boss in the Loop Letting your boss know what you're doing, especially when it's above and beyond, is essential.…

Maybe you've already experienced a gripping, all-consuming, complete-each-other relationship at some point in your life. Wherever you went—to a bar, to the movies, to the grocery store—it felt as if you and your guy were the only people there. Like the world was so as-it-should-be when you were together that it practically stopped turning when you parted ways. Experts refer to that supercharged, almost electric phenomenon as consummate—i.e., epic—love: "It's like the holy grail of love: a perfect blend of passion, intimacy, and commitment," explains Justin Lehmiller, PhD, a social psychologist at Harvard University, whose research focuses on relationships and sexuality. "Not only are the partners best friends who connect with each other on a very deep emotional level, but they also can't keep their hands off each other—so the…

When your boyfriend does something annoying, like cancels dinner plans 20 minutes before you're supposed to meet up, naturally you're going to want to call him out on it. So you should send him a quick, drama-free text explaining why you're hurt, right? Actually, no. If your ultimate goal is to keep your relationship in a good, strong place, you're better off stifling that urge. "Texted words come through in a vacuum," says psychiatrist Ish Major, author of Little White Whys. "You have no idea how the other person is reacting, and before you know it, that initial message snowballs into a full-blown text war." That means you standing still in the middle of a street/store/party, sending and receiving the kind of texts that can and will be used against…

Love advice from our guy guru, Ky Henderson Q. On vacation, my guy always wants to have hotel sex first thing. Why is that? A. Guys pretty much want sex no matter where they go—work, the mall, funerals, etc. It just so happens that having sex when they get to a hotel room is socially acceptable and won't potentially lead to their arrest. That, plus the naughty factor of doing it in a new place, is why doing the deed, not a walking tour, is priority number one. Q. I am traditional and won't have sex until things are really serious. How do I handle the third (or fourth or fifth) date and let him know that even though I'm really attracted to him, I'm not there yet? A. There's…

TREND ALERT Look sexy while you sweat in peekaboo panels! Check out the latest from tried-and-true brands like Puma and New Balance, or go cutting-edge with new designer Michi (sports bra, $95, leggings, $125). ADD THIS TO YOUR POST-WORKOUT SMOOTHIE The new superfood: maca. It's believed that Incan warriors used to eat the root to prep for battle, and now celebs and supermodels are adding a powdered version to their juices and smoothies for a healthy boost (Miranda Kerr recently said that she drank the stuff to prep for the Victoria's Secret fashion show). "It's a source of energy-essential complex carbs, B vitamins, amino acids, and phytonutrients," says Wendy Bazilian, RD, coauthor of The Superfoods Rx Diet. "It also has calcium, which helps muscles recover after exercising." Just add three…

Q Lately, I've been hungry all the time. What could be the cause? A If you haven't been killing yourself at the gym or following a restrictive diet, those hunger pangs may be masking another issue. For starters, have you been getting enough sleep? Studies show that a lack of sleep can make your stomach rumble. Stress and boredom can also trigger hormonal signals that your brain misinterprets as food cravings, says Ann Dunaway, an RD in Atlanta. Address these problems, and your appetite will likely return to normal. GET FLAT ABS, A GREAT BUTT–IN HALF THE TIME ROCK THIS ROUTINE THREE TIMES PER WEEK FOR FAST RESULTS. MEET YOUR TRAINER Tracy Anderson is a top fitness guru who helps A-listers like Gwyneth Paltrow, J.Lo, and Gisele sculpt lean, toned…

SO YOU…tortured your nails with a million manis Constantly changing your nail polish is already harsh (repeatedly removing polish is dehydrating). But the most popular holiday lacquers—those spiked with shimmer or chunky glitter—scrape nails as they're removed, says Tracylee, celebrity nail pro for Sally Hansen. And if you're addicted to gel manis—or rather, picking off color as it starts to lift—you're actually stripping away full layers, causing tips to grow back weak and flaky, says Tracylee. REHAB PLAN Massage in nail oil (such as Essie's, left) twice daily using circular motions. "This promotes blood flow to the matrix, so nails grow faster and stronger," says Tracylee. Strengthening treatments (Sally Hansen's, left, contains hydrating vitamin E; if tips are super brittle, try OPI Nail Envy, $16.95) are also key. Apply one…

PACK LIKE A PRO PARE down your wardrobe to essentials you can mix and match, like dark jeans and drapey tees, to create outfits for each day you're away. Go with garments that won't wrinkle easily and multitask: Yoga pants can double as pj bottoms. WEAR your heaviest gear (boots, a cable sweater) on travel days, so you don't have to worry about fitting them in your suitcase. PACK dressier clothes that have the highest risk of creasing first. Separate each garment with tissue paper, or put them in dry-cleaning bags. The tissue paper or plastic will prevent rumpling. LAYER garments that won't crease next. Fold them so they form an even surface. Folding uses less space, but if your suitcase has soft sides, roll up each garment—the contents in…

From your cozy soul mate to the guy who makes your head spin FAST & HOT FLING? OR TRUE ROMANCE? Find Out Bedside Astrologer 2013 Aries SWEETEST MATCH Shia LaBeouf GEMINI SEXIEST MATCH Chris Hemsworth LEO ARIES: When two fire signs get together, things become explosive. You'll have a blast teasing each other into a sexy frenzy. 7 | 9 TAURUS: You guys get X-rated in the sack. But his old-school values outside of bed can clash with your forward thinking. 5 | 6 GEMINI: His quick wit keeps you enthralled. And when you're naked, his creativity comes in extremely, uh, handy. 10 | 9 CANCER: The sex is steamy, but this relationship will take effort. His moodiness contrasts with your oh-just-get-over-it attitude. 2 | 5 LEO: People can sense…

"YouTube videos. I've been watching so many of them lately, namely of people on the streets in Thailand. I like to look at what people are wearing in other countries, and the internet makes it so easy to get inspired. I especially like edgy styles, like my skull shirt!" Tajai Pontip, 25, Fashion student, from thailand "Branding yourself—it's so important these days. I just came back from a Euro trip, and I want to incorporate the culture I saw into my designs. That way, my work represents what I love and who I am." jana freeman, 26, jewelry designer, from houston, tex. "I'm burning myself out right now, working 67 hours a week while I'm trying to find my dream job. It's made me realize how important our bodies…

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Every month, we take on a hot topic. Answer by Nahnatchka Khan, creator/executive producer/writer on the hit ABC show Don't Trust the B---- in Apartment 23 A. If you look up bitch in the dictionary, you'll find a few definitions: 1. A malicious, spiteful person, especially a woman; 2. A lewd or immoral woman; 3. Something that is extremely difficult, objectionable, or unpleasant. To me, those all feel very unsatisfying. Yes, a bitch may be spiteful, lewd, and difficult, but she can also be so much more. So I'm adding a new definition for bitch: 4. Someone who lives by her own rules; unconcerned with the opinions of others; free. There are few things more fun than watching girls make poor choices unapologetically. That's why I was…

Booty Call "I got a new job as the assistant to a big-time CEO, and it was so stressful that I started sleeping with my phone next to my pillow every night in case something important came up and he called me late. After one especially tough day, I invited the guy I was dating over for a much-needed let-it-all-out weeknight session. We went at it for about an hour, then fell asleep. The next morning at work, my boss called me into his office…and he did not look happy. He told me to take his number out of my phone and memorize it so he didn't receive another 'late-night call like that' ever again. Turns out, I'd rolled onto my phone while my guy and I were having crazy…

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It's Friday afternoon, and your colleagues are talking about weekend plans. You happen to be going to a stripper-heavy bachelorette party in Las Vegas, and you're not sure whether you should volunteer that info….That feeling of uncertainty about what's appropriate to talk about at work is more and more common—and it's not because the definition of TMI has changed but because the way people communicate has changed. "The rise of social media has caused our lives to blend together more than ever, and everyone's a bit more transparent," says social-media expert Amy Jo Martin, author of Renegades Write the Rules. The good side to this is it's easier to show off your greatness. But you have to be careful not to take things too far. 1 When You're Talking to…

I WANT TO TELL YOU ABOUT MY LITTLE SISTER, Meredith—or Mez, as everyone knew her. She was beautiful, loving, funny, and one of the bravest people I've ever met. Mez was the kind of girl who'd do anything to put people at ease, who could make friends faster than anyone I know, and who always had something interesting to say. She was the kind of girl who could have made her mark on the world. She was fiercely intelligent and knew everything about politics. She wanted to work in a foreign embassy or maybe as a writer. But instead, five years ago, she made headlines worldwide in a way none of us could have imagined. One evening in November 2007, my mother rang, sounding worried, to tell me a British…

When I turned 25 in July 2010, my life was golden. I loved my family and friends, I had a great live-in boyfriend, Mike, and I was going to graduate school in the fall at a university close to my hometown in California. Then classes started, and I met Bree. Bree was a short, quiet brunette with piercing blue-green eyes, and she had a mysterious vibe about her. She seemed cool yet vulnerable at the same time. I wanted to know more about her, so one day after class, I invited her to join a study group I had organized. Her face lit up, and she asked, "Do you need my number then?" As we parted ways, my heart started racing. Why are you nervous to text her the info?…

For most women, rebound sex can be almost as stressful as your actual first time. The pressure is on, your emotions are raw, and the sex can end up being a drunken mess with some guy who didn't even attempt to find your clitoris. But it doesn't have to be that way. "This shouldn't be about getting it over with so you can move on—ideally, it should be a sexy, pleasurable experience that leaves you feeling confident and optimistic about the future of your love life," says sex educator Pamela Madsen, author of Shameless. Happily, achieving this goal does not require a dozen sessions spent with Madsen. Just follow three guidelines to bouncing back so that you come out on top (literally and figuratively). Rebound Rule 1 Know Your Goal…

YOUR HABITS Breaking Bad, Making Good In his best-selling book The Power of Habit, New York Times reporter Charles Duhigg deconstructs the science behind our behavior and explains how you can outsmart it to meet any goal you set for yourself. What's your New Year's resolution? It's one thing to say you're going to get yourself a new job/learn a foreign language/write that novel…but actually doing it? Pretty damn hard. But if you understand the habit loop, you can create a plan that'll help you succeed at anything. Here's how it works: It starts with an initial cue (like a place, time of day, or activity) that triggers your brain to crave a ritual or routine (often a negative one, such as snacking or Facebook stalking) that gives you a…

Hillary was baffled. Last year, the 32-year-old Los Angeles screenwriter noticed that her colleagues on a project were clocking insane hours with laserlike focus, while she was struggling to stay on the ball and meet deadlines. One day, a work friend she'd confided in slipped Hillary a pill and said, "If you need a little help, here's some Adderall." Hillary was used to taking a myriad of prescription meds. For years, her purse had bulged with Lunesta, Ativan, and Valium. She and her girlfriends shared scripts as casually as they shared gossip. "We've always sort of diagnosed each other's problems and 'prescribed' each other medication," she explains. "One friend seemed to be having panic attacks, and I gave her my Ativan. When I've been overwhelmed, I've taken a friend's Vicodin."…

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These lodges serve up style, glamour…and a whole lot of men. WOODSTOCK INN AND RESORT Woodstock, Vt. woodstockinn.com This spot has the perfect combo of downhill and cross-country skiing plus a 10,000-square-foot spa for non–snow bunnies. GETTING THERE Fly into New Hampshire's Lebanon Airport, then take a 20-minute taxi ride to the lodge. RESERVATION TIP A standard room is about $260 a night. Ask for a Tavern Wing room—it has an enclosed porch and fireplace. INSIDE SCOOP Have dinner at the inn's award-winning, farm-to-table restaurant, The Red Rooster—and order its famous local Cabot cheddar fondue. THE SEBASTIAN Vail, Colo. thesebastianvail.com The hotel capitalized on Vail's 7-to-1 male-female ratio and created The Odds Are Good package, which includes free spa and yoga sessions, champagne room service, and a guide to the…

Capricorn BIRTHDAY GIRL (DEC. 23–JAN. 20) STRENGTHS: Ambitious, hardworking, responsible WEAKNESSES: Bossy, skeptical, temperamental WHAT MAKES YOU SEXY: You're extremely confident, which men love, but you also have a mysterious side that keeps them guessing. The combo is intoxicating! YOUR BIRTHDAY MONTH: Lively Uranus gives you a surge of energy at the start of the month. Now's the time to hit the gym and start training for that 5K or another major goal. You'll finally have the drive to accomplish it! DATING TIP: You'll meet an interesting guy when you're out with friends around the 28th. He's not your usual type, but open-minded Neptune says give him your number—you'll discover that you have a lot in common. LOVE ADVICE: You've been busy, so your significant other has been planning all…

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