Innholdsfortegnelse for 13-Sep-2018 i Chat

There’s nothing more adorable than a daddy with their newborn… Read why Rich and his daughter Cherry have got such a special bond on p31. Helen’s shocking story on p6 shows you never really know what’s going on behind closed doors. And brave Lesley on p60 made us all smile. Laughter really was the best medicine during the hardest time of her life. On top of all that, we’re packed with even more real-life stories, the usual prize puzzles, fab fashion, a quick and tasty fish-pie recipe (p36) and beauty buys. So what are you waiting for?!…

Didi Perry, 50, Dallas, Texas As the woman on the screen in front of me wept, my heart went out to her. Sharing her infertility journey on a television show, it was agonising to hear how much she wanted to be a mum and simply couldn’t be. I cradled my own newborn, Amanda, in my arms and thanked my lucky stars. From feeling my baby’s first kick, to the final moments of labour, I’d loved everything about being pregnant. ‘I’d love to be a surrogate,’ I muttered, thinking aloud. ‘A what?’ my mum Linda, 40, quizzed. As I explained that being a surrogate meant carrying a baby only to give it away, Mum was horrified. She had traditional views and couldn’t get her head around it. It was 1986 –…

The jury found Naeem Davis, 34, not guilty of all charges and decided that he was acting in self-defence. The jury forewoman cried and hugged Davis as he walked out of court. ‘For me, there was a lack of evidence on most of the charges,’ she told reporters afterwards. ‘I’m thankful for my freedom,’ Davis said. ‘I knew it would happen eventually. ‘If you work and have a job and do the right thing, the law is going to work on your behalf.’…

Post-hol moles  Q I always come back from holiday with new moles and freckles. Are they dangerous? Anita, Runcorn A Small moles and freckles can appear after you've been in the sun and they're usually harmless. Any definite new mole should be checked to rule out melanoma, a form of skin cancer. Sounds as if you've been overdoing the sun - cover up in future and always use high-factor sunscreen. Running hurts  Q I started running, but had to stop because of leg pains which my GP called shin splints... India, Stirling A These are inflamed muscles and ligaments in your shins, due to overdoing the running. Shin splints usually settle with rest, particularly when they affect the inner side of your shins. However, if they affect outer shin muscles,…

Tracy Lamont, 39, Hamsterley, County Durham As I walked into the coffee shop, my heart was racing. But when I saw the familiar face I’d fallen for online, I let out a sigh of relief. Nik, 40, was the bearded hunk I’d been chatting to for weeks. And here we were in May 2012 on our first proper date. We chatted about my 4-year-old son, and Nik’s own kids, 15 and 12. Then talk turned to our shared love of running. ‘You ran it 17 seconds faster than me!’ I squealed, learning Nik’s personal best for the Great North Run. I was determined to beat him at the next race, so we signed up for the 2012 run together. And by then, we were madly in love. We crossed the…

1 Shop around It's essential to get the best deal from your estate agent, so speak to lots of agents and ask what they charge and what their tie-in period is - then negotiate. You're in a strong position, as they want your business. You could save even more cash by using an online agency which offers fixed fees rather than charging a percentage of the sale price, so savings for higher-valued properties can be greater. 2 Be ruthless It can be hard saying goodbye to a much-loved armchair, but if there isn't going to be room in your new home, get rid of stuff before you go. Removers will charge you on the amount you take, so the more you can trim that down beforehand, the less it will…

Coronation Street Meet Tyrone’s nan! Maureen Lipman joins Corrie as Tyrone Dobbs’ gran Evelyn Plummer, an ‘outspoken battleax’. She comes into his life after he researches his family history following his mum Jackie’s death. Plus, Jim has lunch with his ex Liz and tells her the girl at the next table is the daughter they thought had died as a baby… Emmerdale Bails in the dock! Evil predator Bails finally appears in court and Charity is rocked by his account of the past. Although she gave a heartfelt account from the witness box, she now fears that he’ll be found not guilty. What will the jury’s verdict be..? Elsewhere, Noah reveals to Aaron and Robert that police are looking for a body at Home Farm. And Robert’s incredulous to see…

Hannah Barker, 18, Colchester As the lady cupped my face and spoke sweetly into my ear, I felt giddy. It was 2014, and I’d just met one of my heroines, Princess Aurora, in Disneyland Paris. ‘Have a lovely day,’ she said, strolling off. I stared after her wistfully. With her long, thick locks and sparkling blue eyes, she’d been more beautiful than I could’ve ever imagined. This wasn’t my first trip to Disneyland – I’d been hooked, since first going there with my family, aged 1. Obsessed with everything Disney, my first word had been ‘Tigger’. At 2, I’d watched, mesmerised, as Tarzan and his jungle posse swung through the vines. Now, at 14, I was on my seventh visit to the theme park, and couldn’t help but squeal as…

When Shaynna Sims married Montie Smith, it was supposed to be forever. Like most new brides, she was madly in love. But, for Shaynna, this love would turn to obsession and set her on a path to darkness… For Shaynna was plagued with paranoia about her husband’s faithfulness. She couldn’t stand the idea of him being with anyone else – even if it was before she met him. And the thought of one ex-girlfriend in particular began to consume Shaynna. That woman had dated Montie five years earlier. The relationship had ended, and the woman had later happily married. But, to Shaynna, 28, she was still a threat. When she saw that Montie had tried to contact his ex on Facebook, Shaynna was fuming. In 2014, she began to stalk…

Q Did you have any worries that you wouldn’t be able to hand the baby over to the parents? Nicola Cowdell-Murray, Dukinfield, Greater Manchester A Absolutely not. I went into surrogacy with the mindset that these babies were never mine to begin with. I just helped them come into the world. Q How do your kids feel about the babies you’ve carried for others? Ann Johnson, Runcorn, Cheshire A It's never been an issue for them and has actually inspired my daughter Shayna to become a surrogate herself. Q Do you feel like you’ve missed out on your 40s due to being pregnant so much of the time? Shelley Barrett, Sheffield, South Yorkshire A No! My body coped with pregnancy well - and, if anything, I felt healthier! I loved…

Magnetic attraction!  I make fridge magnets out of used bottle tops. Just glue magnets on the back and decorate with a pic of your choice. Lucy Robinson, Bristol Clever storage Short of cupboard space? Then just store your laundry detergent and fabric conditioner inside the washing machine. Emma Bevan, Fareham Grass is greener… Used offcuts from a friend's artificial grass made attractive, money-saving liners for my baskets. They last all year, stay green and have drainage holes already. Helen Lake, Stevenage Quick dry In a hurry to dry your nails? Just use your hot brush. Take the brush off, hold it a few inches away and, ta-da - dry nails in an instant! Julie Ward, Poole Cute coasters Recycle polystyrene pizza-base boards by turning them into funky coasters. Cut them…

Oral sex OK? Q Is it safe to give my boyfriend oral sex if I have a sore throat? Faye, Barking A It's best avoided. A sore throat due to bacteria may infect your boyfriend's penis and cause an inflamed, sore helmet. Cold sores could transfer this way, too. Remember, there's also a risk to you if he has an infection such as chlamydia, gonorrhoea or genital warts. Weird rash…  Q I used my pal's hot tub and now there's a pimply rash around my vagina and pubic area. Juliette, Loughborough A This sounds like folliculitis, infection of the hair follicles in your skin. Often, shaving is a trigger, but it can follow a session in the hot-tub. Let air circulate, use a mild, antibacterial cleanser and don't shave. Your…

Rebecca Griffiths, 42, Solihull Scoffing my fourth slice of buttery toast, I shooed my daughter, Blythe, 6, upstairs to brush her teeth. I had to get the kids off to school, but I was exhausted from my night shift as a nurse. My feet throbbing, I perched on the side of the bath. I only had myself to blame. At just 5ft 2in, I weighed 21st 9lb, was a size-26. My whole body ached from carrying my heavy bulk around. I always joked that food was the language of love, and for me and my hubby Pete, 44, it was true. From the moment we’d met, we’d bonded over romantic meals out. But 18 years and two children later, our lovely dinners out had been swapped for late-night cuddles on…

Catherine Hutchison, 58, Lincoln Turning the corner, on to my street, I clocked a familiar figure up ahead. With his scruffy clothing and long brown hair, it could only be my neighbour, Tony Wilson, 61. He never looked very presentable, but who was I to judge? I made a break for it, running and stumbling next door... I’d lived on the street with my family all my life and it was a friendly area. Everyone was cheery – and though Tony was more of a loner, he was always nice to me. ‘Morning, Tony,’ I smiled as our paths crossed. ‘Morning, Catherine,’ he beamed. After a while, he started dropping by the house, asking for a hand with his computer from my hubby Matt, 45. Matt didn’t mind helping him.…

Easy fish pie  Serves: 6 Prep: 15 min Cook: 40 min Cost per serving: £1.47 • 1.75kg potatoes, peeled and cubed • 75g butter • 600ml full-fat milk • 60g plain flour • 2 x 400g packets frozen fish-pie mix 1 Boil the potatoes in a pan of water for 15 min. Drain and mash with 30g of the butter and 2tbsp of the milk until smooth. 2 In a saucepan, melt the remaining butter, add the flour and whisk until smooth. Gradually add the milk, whisking until thickened and smooth. Season with salt and freshly ground black pepper. Remove the pan from the heat. 3 Heat the oven to 190C/Gas 5. Add the fish-pie mix and stir to coat in the sauce. Transfer the mixture to an ovenproof dish…

He’d screamed, begged them to save me Lisa Simmonds, 38, Maidenhead Helping my toddler Ollie, 3, to the kitchen table, I watched as he grabbed a blue felt-tip pen and the calendar. ‘There!’ he yelled, crossing off one more day. And Ollie wasn’t the only one on a countdown to 6 November last year. My husband Alex, 33, and I had tried for a year before I finally fell pregnant. Now I was 20 weeks, though the pregnancy wasn’t ticking along smoothly. My history of blood clots meant I needed daily injections, and my hips ached so much that I could barely walk. Still, I clung to the moment the baby would arrive, and we’d finally know. Boy, or girl. Until then, I prepared the house and got out Ollie’s…

Door-knockers, take note Here’s one sign I’d like on my door! F Rutherford, Southbourne Wrong impression People usually think pole dancing is all about sexy girls in nightclubs, but it’s more than that. It’s an amazing workout that people of all ages can enjoy. It builds strength, flexibility and muscle tone to increase overall fitness. My sister goes to a class with students ranging from 11 to 75 – men and women! She says it’s a lot of fun and she’s made lots of new friends, too. Anna V Hammett, Little Neston Mobile madness! The number of people I see walking while looking at their mobiles... I saw one lad step into the road without looking for oncoming traffic. Fortunately, he crossed safely. I spoke to him and joked, ‘You…

Dear Dad, Even writing those words brings bile to my throat. Because, let’s face it – you never really acted like my dad. You never tucked me into bed or read me bedtime stories. Never so much as glanced my way or spoke to me. You didn’t make me giggle like all the other daddies did. In fact, the only time you were interested was when you crept into my room late at night, perching on my bed, pulling at my PJs. I was 8 years old, Dad. An innocent child – you must have sensed how scared I was as I scrunched my eyes shut, desperate to block out the vile things you were doing. You just didn’t care. ‘It’s what all daddies and daughters do,’ you’d whisper. Even…

Helen Handley, 30, Telford, Shropshire Rushing home from work, I stuffed a bag with the essentials for a weekend at my boyfriend Julian’s house. It was March 2015, and I lived in Shropshire, while my fella Julian lived over 100 miles away in Cardiff. But you know what they say... Absence makes the heart grow fonder. It rang true for us. We missed each other like mad. Every two weeks, we took it in turns travelling the three hours by train. Tall, charming and kind, Julian was worth it. But a long-distance relationship wasn’t easy, and we began bickering. So, in November, when Julian announced he was moving in with me, I was absolutely over the moon. For a while, it was bliss. With Julian’s husky-cross Dodga, we became a…

DAVIS: Felt threatened SUBWAY VICTIM: A terrible way to die... It was a freezing cold day in New York City as Naeem Davis, 34, made his way to work. A refugee from Sierra Leone, he earned enough to get by, running errands for vendors in Times Square – the famous area in the Midtown Manhattan section of the city. But on 3 December 2012, he’d left the Bronx homeless shelter he called home later than planned, and was now running late. Gripping a coffee in one hand and his rucksack in the other, Davis made his way through the turnstile and into the subway. As he did so, he knocked into another man, who seemed unsteady, swaying drunkenly. Davis didn’t apologise and the businessman, Ki-Suck Han, 58, was clearly irritated,…

Tayiba Syed, 31, Doncaster Rocking newborn Ayaan in my arms, I counted his little features – two big, brown eyes, one button nose, 10 tiny fingers and 10 little toes. Then I noticed the balls of his feet were red raw and his fingertips were flaking. ‘What’s wrong with his skin?’ I asked the midwife. ‘We need to do tests,’ she said, whisking him away. Ayaan was transferred to a specialist hospital and I was moved there next day. ‘We believe Ayaan has epidermolysis bullosa, EB,’ the consultant there told us. EB is a group of rare, inherited disorders causing the skin to blister at the slightest touch. A single mum, I’d dreamt of taking my baby home, but he had to stay in hospital. I longed to cuddle him,…

Clare Scott, 38, Brisbane, Australia As I wiped the sweat from my brow, I collapsed on the sofa, shattered. It was May 2017 and my husband Alister and I had just moved into our new house. A quaint little house with a huge garden for our lively sons Finley, 7, Orson, 5, and Winston, 4, to run around. ‘I can’t wait to have everything unpacked,’ I said to Alister, 36. Having spent all day washing, cleaning surfaces and unpacking, now all I wanted to do was sleep. But, as I settled on the sofa, I felt a sharp pain tear through my right hand. ‘Owww!’ I winced. I noticed it was painful while I was doing the dishes, but I was sure it was just a little graze. Alister was…

Barry M All Night Long Full Coverage Foundation, £7.99, Superdrug Not only does this new long-lasting base boast a creamy formula that blends easily on to your skin with a lightweight finish, it is packed with anti-oxidising fruit extracts and vitamin E to moisturise and protect your complexion too. You’ve got to love a multitasker. Y ope Boswellia &Rosemary Natural Shower Gel, £7.99, Waitrose Not only does this shower gel look pretty on the side of your bath, but it's made from the gentlest cleansing ingredients and natural plant extracts, making it perfect for sensitive skin. Oh, and boswellia is a plant known to fight off inflammation just FYI! Nip + Fab Illuminating Fixing Mist, £9.95, Superdrug Meet the new final step in your make-up routine! It is a moisturising…

Rich Willis, 49, Driffield, East Yorkshire Gazing down at the grainy scan of our baby in June 2011, it all felt unreal. That one photo was a sign that life was going to change forever... Me and my wife Charli, 26, couldn’t wait to be parents. The news had come hot on the tail of a few tough years. At 3ft 8in tall, I had diastrophic dysplasia, a rare form of dwarfism. Since I was born, I was told I’d never be able to walk, which led to dozens of surgeries until the age of 17. As I grew older, I developed arthritis, meaning ops on my hips, legs, knee, shoulder and ankles. Eventually, I was forced into medical retirement at just 38. The saving grace was that my condition…

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Waitrose 1 Fish Pie 400g, £4.25  A single-serve option that’s perfect for a solo supper. It has a nice cheesy topping and a good amount of fish, but the sauce didn’t pack quite as much flavour as the other two. Iceland Classic Smoked Cod, Salmon & Tiger Prawn Fish Pie 500g, £2.69  This bargain fish pie has a lovely cheesy topping that gives great flavour. We loved the really juicy prawns and the lovely thick sauce in this pie. Sainsbury’s Supper Club Fish Pie 700g, £7 This winning fish pie is packed with soft, flaky fish and has a homemade feel. It has a delicately smoky flavour, a perfectly crisp top and a good ratio of fish, potato and sauce. Pricey but worth every penny!…

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MANCHESTER  Manchester’s considered to be England’s second city and it’s certainly a dynamic destination. You’ll find everything from some of the country’s best museums to fab shopping. BIRMINGHAM  More heritage museums, mega arenas and space-age stores than you can shake a railcard at, you’ll leave withbulging bags – and a lighter purse! LEEDS  One of the gems of the north, Leeds has many impressive Victorian buildings and modern architecture. It’s no wonder millions of tourists and students flock to this bustling city every year.…