Innholdsfortegnelse for Edition 1.3 i TBT The Boys Times

Behind every laugh, every loud joke in a group of friends, and every confident stride a boy takes in a crowded hallway, there often lies a quiet, unspoken pain. A pain society never prepares him to speak about. He smiles, he teases, he competes, he pretends – because that is what is expected. But when the lights dim, when no one is watching, and the silence of the night replaces the noise of the world, that’s when the tears come. Silent, warm, and terrifyingly real. The world tells boys from the moment they are able to understand language: "Don't cry," "Be a man," "Boys don't cry," "Crying is for the weak." This conditioning starts early. A scraped knee doesn’t earn the same sympathy as it would for a girl. A…

When people talk about body shaming, the conversation almost always revolves around women. From unrealistic beauty standards in the media to harsh comments about weight, skin tone, or clothing choices, it’s widely accepted that girls and women face pressure to look a certain way. And they absolutely do. But in the middle of this justified focus, there’s a group quietly suffering, whose pain is dismissed, mocked, or outright ignored – boys. Yes, boys get body shamed too. Relentlessly. Consistently. And often silently. But the difference is, society refuses to recognize their suffering. There is no support system for them. No widespread campaigns. No hashtags. No safe spaces. When a girl opens up about her body image struggles, she gets comfort, empathy, solidarity. When a boy does the same, he gets…

Introduction: The Silent Victims No One Talks About When we talk about sexual abuse, the focus overwhelmingly leans toward female victims — and rightly so, as women face a large portion of such violence. But hidden in the shadows of that conversation is another disturbing truth: boys and men get sexually abused too. And unlike female survivors, they are met not with support, but with laughter, disbelief, or brutal silence. The result? Countless boys suffer in silence. Countless men carry invisible scars from childhood traumas, teenage assaults, and adult violations. This article is not about shifting the spotlight — it’s about widening it. Because justice, empathy, and healing should never be gender-specific. Understanding Male Sexual Abuse: Breaking the Myths One of the most dangerous myths about male sexual abuse is…

Introduction: Beyond the Jokes and Memes The internet has made the word “friendzone” a punchline — a recurring theme in reels, stand-up comedy, and social media gags. It’s used to mock, to laugh, and to tease boys who expressed feelings but didn’t get them reciprocated. On the surface, it’s treated like a minor inconvenience. But beneath the joke lies a deep emotional scar that many boys carry silently. This article is not about blaming anyone. It’s about giving space to a truth that often gets laughed away: being emotionally led on, used, or repeatedly undervalued takes a very real toll on a boy’s mental health, confidence, and trust. What the “Friendzone” Actually Feels Like When a boy falls for someone, it’s rarely just about physical attraction. It’s emotional. It’s late-night…

Arvind had always been the type of person people admired. A well-built, confident young man with a successful career, he seemed to have it all figured out. But beneath the surface of his perfectly curated image, something was amiss. What most didn’t know was that Arvind had been carrying a burden for years, a burden that he had learned to hide under a mask of strength. From a young age, Arvind was taught that emotions were a weakness. “Boys don’t cry,” his father would say, “Be a man, hold it together.” These words echoed in his ears every time he felt overwhelmed or vulnerable. He was conditioned to believe that showing any kind of emotional struggle was a sign of weakness, something that was frowned upon by society. He watched…

In a world that claims to stand for justice, fairness, and truth, there exists a dark, silent corner where boys who are falsely accused are left abandoned, unheard, and often destroyed. Their pain is invisible. Their stories are unwelcome. And their innocence? It becomes a battle against a tide so strong that most don’t survive with their dignity, reputation, or mental health intact. It begins with a whisper. A small accusation – sometimes anonymous, sometimes emotionally charged, often completely baseless. And that whisper turns into a storm. The boy, regardless of who he is, where he comes from, or how clean his past might be, suddenly finds himself under a microscope. The world around him changes overnight. Friends stop replying. Teachers or bosses start acting differently. Even family members begin…

"Mard ko dard nahi hota." It’s a line we’ve all heard, sometimes in movies, sometimes in families, and sometimes in the silent expectations society carries for every boy who grows up in this world. It sounds almost noble, like a badge of honor, a compliment to the male spirit. But it isn’t. It’s a lie. A dangerous one. One that has cost countless boys their emotions, their mental health, their relationships, and sometimes, their lives. The idea that a man must be emotionless, invincible, and unaffected by pain isn’t just an outdated cultural stereotype — it’s a wound that cuts deeper than most people realize. From childhood, boys are told not to cry. Not to complain. Not to express fear or show vulnerability. A little boy who falls and scrapes…

Introduction: The Silent Pain of Emotional Invisibility You open your phone. You scroll. Nothing. No new notifications, no messages, no missed calls. Another day, another reminder that no one thought of you first. It’s a feeling many boys carry deep inside — the sense that they are not anyone’s priority. Not their friends, not their crushes, sometimes not even their families. They are always the ones to initiate, to ask, to care, to reach out. But no one texts them first. It seems like a small thing, but it’s not. It’s a quiet grief. A repeated sting. A psychological wound that grows over time. This article dives deep into the emotional and mental impact of being "the unnoticed one" — a boy whose presence is expected, but never sought; whose…

Introduction: When Love Becomes a Punchline In today’s world of memes and mocking culture, there’s a term boys fear more than heartbreak: being called a “simp.” It’s a label that gets thrown around casually, used to ridicule any boy who shows too much emotion, invests too much time, or loves too openly. But what’s really behind this word? And who are we laughing at, really? This article explores the harsh reality of boys who are emotionally available, gentle, and genuinely caring — yet mocked, sidelined, or labeled “simps” for doing what healthy love demands: expressing care, support, and vulnerability. Because he’s not a simp. He just cares too much — in a world that forgot how to value that. The Rise of the “Simp” Culture “Simp” started as internet slang,…

When the world feels heavy, and the road is tough, Remember, my friend, you are strong enough. The battles you fight, the tears that you shed, Are steps to a future where dreams are led. Don’t hide your heart, let your feelings flow, Through every storm, you’ll learn and grow. Strength isn’t silence, nor hiding the pain, It’s rising each time you break through the rain. So keep moving forward, with hope in your eyes, No matter the setback, just reach for the skies. The power’s within you, it’s been there all along, Rise above the struggle, and you’ll find where you belong.…

He listens. He remembers your favorite song, your go-to coffee order, the little things you told him once at 2 a.m. He checks in when you're sad, waits patiently when you're upset, never disrespects your boundaries, and is the first to show up when you need someone – without asking for anything in return. He’s the good guy. The nice guy. The one people say they want. And yet, more often than not, he’s the one who gets left behind. In a world that constantly praises kindness and decency, it’s ironic how boys who actually live by those values often feel invisible. Girls often say they want someone who’s sweet, caring, emotionally available, respectful. But when that boy appears in real life, he is frequently misread, misunderstood, or dismissed as…

Introduction: A One-Sided Expectation From the earliest years of a boy’s life, society teaches him an unspoken rule: protect the women around you, no matter the cost. Whether it’s a sister, a friend, a girlfriend, a classmate, or even a stranger, boys are expected to step up, intervene, shield, and stand guard — with no regard for their own safety, fear, or emotional state. The role of "protector" becomes less of a choice and more of a societal obligation, etched into the boy’s identity before he even understands what it means. But what if he doesn't feel strong? What if he feels scared? What if he’s just a kid himself, unsure of how to handle conflict? Unfortunately, no one stops to ask. Society assumes boys are born with an invisible…

Introduction: The Home That Doesn’t Feel Like One For many Indian boys, the first heartbreak doesn’t come from a crush, but from the home they were born into. It’s not a dramatic disowning or overt hatred. It’s a slow, silent kind of rejection — the kind that builds over years. It begins with subtle comparisons and ends with boys feeling like they’re just tools of responsibility — ATMs, bodyguards, future breadwinners — while affection, care, freedom, and emotional validation are reserved for the daughters. This article explores a harsh but real truth: that in many Indian households, the emotional needs of sons are quietly ignored, and the burden of sacrifice is placed solely on their shoulders. The “Lucky” Son Myth From the outside, sons are considered privileged. "Beta to ghar…

Introduction: The Ignored Pain in Plain Sight When we hear the word “bullying,” we often think of girls being harassed or online hate targeting women. And while those issues are real and serious, another reality gets ignored far too often — boys get bullied too. In classrooms, hostels, friend circles, gaming communities, and even families, boys endure a different kind of abuse — one that is brutal, silent, and tragically normalized. But because boys are taught to be “tough,” their pain is dismissed. Laughed at. Or worse, blamed on them. This article is a courageous dive into that hidden world — the cruel teasing, the physical violence, the silent humiliation — and how no one comes to save them until it’s too late. It Starts Early: The First Punches to…