Innholdsfortegnelse for November 2025 i Foughtism

There is something truly beautiful about a quiet moment. In a world that moves too fast, these pauses remind us to breathe, to notice small joys, and to connect in our own way. For many neurodivergent families, calm does not always mean silence, it means feeling safe and understood. This November, as we explore our theme Cultivating Calm, Gratitude, Growth, and Gathering, we invite you to find what peace feels like for you. It might be a slow walk, a favorite song, or just a shared smile across the dinner table. Gratitude is not about doing what everyone else does, it is about finding meaning in moments that are real and gentle. Foughtism has always been about celebrating every kind of journey. As parents, caregivers, and young readers, we all…

My Family Gets It…And My Family Doesn't: A Teen's Guide to Surviving Gatherings Navigating family gatherings as an autistic teen can feel like walking a tightrope, balancing between wanting to be part of the fun and needing space to recharge. One unique approach is to create a "social map" before the event. This means identifying who will be there and predicting how each person might interact with you. For example, some relatives might engage in deep conversations, while others may make lighthearted jokes. Understanding these dynamics can help you prepare mentally and emotionally. When it comes to small talk, consider using "conversation anchors." These are topics or phrases you can rely on to steer discussions in a comfortable direction. For instance, discussing a recent book you've read or a hobby…

Print Me ACROSS 2. These are sometimes cooked with marshmallows on top -- sweet _____ 5. They worked with the Native Americans to create the first Thanksgiving meal. 6. One of these can be baked with pumpkin or apple filling. 8. After the meal, there's lots of dirty ______ 11. Sweet treats after a meal. 13. There's always a few games of this sport on TV on Thanksgiving. 15. Small, red berries usually made into a sauce. 16. A large meal for many people. 17. Instead of turkey, some families enjoy this type of meat. 18. It goes on mashed potatoes. DOWN 1. The month of Thanksgiving. 3. The biggest part of most Thanksgiving meals. 4. The type of bread usually served at Thanksgiving. 7. These people gather together for…

How to Be the Best Sibling Ever, Without Getting Tired Being a sibling to an autistic brother or sister can be both rewarding and challenging, especially during family events. The key is learning to be a supportive ally without forgetting your own needs. Start by noticing what helps your sibling feel comfortable, whether it’s keeping noise levels low, respecting their personal space, or joining in an activity they love. Small gestures, like giving a thumbs-up when they do something brave or sharing a quiet moment together, can mean a lot. Equally important is taking care of yourself. It is okay to step away for a few minutes to recharge, whether it’s listening to music, reading, or simply breathing deeply in a quiet corner. Communicate openly with your family about your…

The Power of Deep Focus, How Autistic Traits Drive Innovation At just 12 years old, Nathan Reynolds was fascinated by robotics, spending hours dismantling old gadgets and studying circuits with unmatched focus. Diagnosed with autism at a young age, Nathan often struggled with social expectations but excelled when immersed in tasks that captured his attention. His ability to hyperfocus and notice details that others missed became his superpower. Today, as a young programmer developing assistive technology, Nathan creates innovations that improve accessibility for countless users. His colleagues often marvel at how he spots small coding errors and design flaws that would escape most eyes, showing that autistic traits can drive exceptional outcomes when nurtured and celebrated. Similarly, in his art, Nathan uses intense focus to produce intricate digital illustrations that…

Finding Calm: Therapies and Tools for Regulation Emotional regulation can look different for every autistic child, teen, or adult, which is why understanding therapeutic options is key. Occupational Therapy (OT) can help individuals develop sensory regulation skills using activities like deep pressure input, movement, or fidget-based tools to calm the nervous system. Speech-Language Pathology (SLP) focuses not just on communication but also on socialemotional expression, helping autistic individuals find words or alternative ways to express feelings before frustration builds. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), when adapted for autism, teaches practical strategies for identifying emotions and reducing anxiety through visual supports, predictable routines, and flexible thinking exercises. When choosing a therapist, look for someone who uses a neurodiversity-affirming approach, meaning they value differences rather than trying to “fix” them. Ask about sensory-friendly…

Soothing Sensory Snack: Noisy-Free No-Bake Bars Sometimes the kitchen can feel overwhelming, especially for autistic teens or children who are sensitive to noise or texture. That is why these Noisy-Free No-Bake Bars are a perfect sensory-friendly recipe for quiet afternoons. They do not need blenders, mixers, or loud tools, just a bowl, spoon, and a little patience. Start by mixing creamy nut butter or sunflower butter with warm honey until smooth. Stir in crushed rice puffs for crunch or soft oats for a gentle chew. You can also add finely shredded coconut or chia seeds for texture variety. For kids who love smooth textures, skip the seeds and use quick oats instead. Spread the mix into a tray, press firmly, and chill for an hour. These bars can be soft,…

This month, we are honored to feature Naoki Higashida, a remarkable young autistic writer whose creativity and voice inspire many. Diagnosed with autism at age five, Naoki discovered a way to communicate through his unique letter-tracing method and alphabet grid. He has since published acclaimed works including The Reason I Jump, sharing what it feels like inside his mind. Naoki’s special interest lies in language and storytelling. He writes poems, short essays, and reflections that touch readers deeply. This year, he says he is especially thankful for the patience of his family and the chance to reach people across the world with his words. To relax, Naoki often gazes out windows, sketches patterns in his mind, and quietly listens to the sound of rain or distant voices. In his calm…

Beyond Thankfulness, Teaching Authentic Gratitude to Neurodivergent Kids Q: How can I help my autistic child express real gratitude instead of just saying thank you? A: Dr. Emily Parker, child psychologist, explains, “For many autistic children, words alone can feel empty or forced. Encourage them to express thankfulness in ways that feel natural, like drawing a picture for someone who helped them, sharing a favorite interest, or doing a small act of service.” Observing how your child naturally responds to kindness is key. It might be a smile, a short note, or a small gesture that truly reflects their feelings. Q: Are there creative strategies to make gratitude meaningful and fun? A: Yes. Therapist Jason Reynolds suggests setting up a “gratitude corner” at home where kids can post notes, sketches,…

Filling Your Cup, The Non-Negotiable of Parental Self-Care Parenting an autistic child is rewarding, but it can also be exhausting, and burnout sneaks up faster than most parents realize. Taking care of yourself is not selfish, it is essential for your family’s well-being. Even five minutes can make a difference. Try micro-self-care practices like stepping outside for a few deep breaths, savoring a cup of tea or coffee, stretching while listening to music, or journaling a single thought of gratitude. These small moments help regulate your emotions and reset your energy. Remember, consistent microbreaks matter more than occasional long sessions, and creating tiny rituals throughout the day signals to your nervous system that it’s safe to relax. You might also try quick sensory self-care, such as rolling a textured ball…

Our Family's New Tradition, Readers Share Their Wins When Sarah Thompson realized her son, Liam, was overwhelmed by the chaos of holiday dinners, she decided to create a “quiet gift wrap station” in the living room. Liam could wrap presents with minimal noise and sensory input while the rest of the family prepared dinner. “It changed everything,” Sarah shares. “He felt included and calm, and we all enjoyed a more relaxed evening.”. Across the country, Jason and Emily Harris introduced a family gratitude walk instead of the usual crowded holiday brunch. Each member, including their autistic daughter, Zoe, shared something they were thankful for while strolling through the neighborhood. The walk became a calm, joyful ritual that everyone looked forward to each year. Other readers, like Megan Riley, began hosting…

Foughtism Reads: Cozy Edition This November, we’re diving into three heartwarming reads that focus on emotional regulation, autism acceptance, and family connection. First, The Calm Cloud by Sophie Aldridge, a picture book, teaches children coping skills and mindfulness through a playful story about a cloud learning to manage its stormy moodsSparkle Rating: 4.5/5. Perfect for younger readers exploring feelings in a gentle, engaging way. Next, Threads of Friendship by Lucas Harrington, a chapter book for teens, follows an autistic teen navigating social challenges, forming friendships, and discovering self-acceptance in middle school. With relatable characters, humor, and realistic scenarios, it encourages empathy, understanding, and thoughtful reflection-Sparkle Rating: 5/5. For parents and caregivers, Guiding Light: Embracing Neurodivergence by Dr. Eleanor Vance provides practical strategies, personal stories, and guidance on supporting autistic children…

Apps for Anxiety and Regulation Looking for helpful apps to support regulation, emotion tracking, or calm-down routines? Here are three solid picks that go beyond basic tools: • Molehill Mountain Designed specifically for autistic users, this app offers a CBT-inspired anxiety course adapted to make sense from a neurodivergent perspective. Users identify worries, unlock tools, and track progress over time. • Thruday - A visual daily planner built for neurodiverse users, combining routines, mood tracking, journaling, and reminders. Its traffic-light mood system helps both teens and caregivers notice emotional trends. • Foxtale: Emotion Journal Buddy - A mood journaling app with a friendly fox companion that “gathers” emotions into glowing orbs. It makes tracking internal states feel less clinical and more playful. These apps help users notice patterns, practice self-regulation,…

Q: What did the turkey say to the computer? A: Google, google, google! Q: Why was the Thanksgiving soup so expensive? A: It had 24 carrots! Q: What’s a pumpkin’s favorite sport? A: Squash! Q: Why did the scarecrow win an award? A: Because he was outstanding in his field! Q: What do you get when you cross a pie and a snake? A: A python dessert! Q: Why did the cranberry turn red? A: It saw the turkey dressing! Q: What’s a math teacher’s favorite holiday treat? A: Pumpkin pi! Q: What do you call an autumn leaf that tells jokes? A: A comedi-tree! Q: What kind of key can’t open a door? A: A tur-key! Q: Why do pilgrims make good friends? A: Because they bring their own…

The Sensory Friendly Thanksgiving, A Survival Guide Thanksgiving can feel overwhelming when you are parenting a child or teen on the autism spectrum. The surprises of new foods, crowded rooms, and social expectations can turn joy into stress. But with a little planning it can be better. First, consider visiting the hosting home ahead of time. Walk your child through the layout, point out quiet corners or exits, and let them take in smells or sounds slowly. Second, create a “quiet room” escape plan. This is a calm space filled with soft lighting, your child’s favorite comfort items, noise cancelling headphones, or a tablet with soothing music. Let them know it is okay to retreat when they feel overloaded. When it comes to food textures, serve familiar safe foods first,…

Create Your Own Calm-Down Corner Building a personalized calmdown corner is a fun way for kids and parents to create a cozy space where everyone can relax, recharge, and feel safe. Start by picking a spot in your home that feels quiet and lowtraffic, like a corner of a bedroom or a small nook in the living room. Together, think about lighting-soft string lights, a small lamp with a warm glow, or even a light projector can make the space inviting without being harsh. Next, add textures that feel comforting. Weighted blankets, soft pillows, or a plush rug can help kids feel grounded. Include a few fidget tools, stress balls, or tactile toys to give hands something to do when the mind feels busy. Visuals are also important. Hang favorite…

Advocating for Austistic Joy, It's More Than Just Accommodations Too often, advocacy for autistic individuals focuses on meeting needs and providing accommodations, which are essential, but not enough. Joy, comfort, and genuine happiness deserve just as much attention, especially during busy or sensory-heavy times like the holidays. Parents and caregivers can take the lead by noticing what sparks delight in their child, whether it’s engaging in a special interest, creating a sensory-friendly space, or celebrating milestones in ways that feel meaningful. Protecting these joyful moments is not indulgent, it is critical. When autistic children have opportunities to engage in experiences they truly enjoy, they build confidence, resilience, and a sense of belonging. Shifting the conversation means designing environments that prioritize pleasure alongside practicality. This could be adjusting lighting or sound,…

Demand Avoidance, What It Is and What It Isn't When Rachel Morgan noticed her son, Aiden, resisting even simple requests, she worried he was being difficult. Over time, she realized it wasn’t defiance, but Pathological Demand Avoidance, or PDA. Children with PDA resist everyday demands because their nervous system responds to anxiety and a strong need for autonomy. Behaviors vary, some distract, others freeze or shut down-but all are ways to cope with overwhelming stress. Understanding this perspective allows parents to respond with empathy, patience, and strategies that focus on choice rather than control. Managing PDA involves offering options, reducing pressure, and creating safe spaces. Simple tactics like letting a child decide task order, framing instructions as playful challenges, or providing advance notice of transitions can prevent escalation. It’s not…

Calm Connections: November Meet-Ups Looking for inclusive, low-key events this November? Here are some sensoryfriendly options across the U.S. that cater to autistic individuals and their families: Sensory-Friendly Sunday Date: November 2, 2025 Time: 9:00 AM – 11:00 AM Location: Robinson Nature Center, Columbia, MD Details: Enjoy a calm, accommodating setting with nature exploration activities designed for children with autism and sensory processing differences. Registration: Required. www.howardcountymd.gov Fall Colors Hike Date: November 1, 2025 Time: 10:00 AM Location: Williams Park, Brownsburg, IN Details: A guided, sensory-friendly nature walk focusing on leaves, colors, and learning about the outdoors. Registration: Free. https://circlecityaba.com Board Game Night Date: November 24, 2025 Time: 6:30 PM – 8:30 PM Location: Autism Society of South Central Wisconsin, Madison, WI Details: An in-person board game night offering various…

Your Questions, Answered by an Occupational Therapist Q: My 10-year-old son, who is autistic, seems extra restless during the colder months when he can’t play outside as much. I’ve heard about “heavy work” and “vestibular input,” but I’m not sure what that means or how it can help him calm down. Can you explain? A: Absolutely. “Heavy work” simply means any activity that makes the muscles and joints push or pull against resistance. It gives the body deep sensory feedback that tells the brain, “I know where I am, and I feel grounded.” During indoor months, try having your child push a loaded laundry basket across the room, carry groceries to the kitchen, or build blanket forts using heavy cushions. You can also let them use resistance bands while watching…