Innholdsfortegnelse for May 2020 i Fairlady

because of Covid-19, I’m writing this letter from home. So far, it seems to be working out pretty well in terms of the magazine (in fact, this month marks our 1000th edition!). And in terms of my household, bar a few minor skirmishes over possession of the dining room table as workspace, we seem to be doing okay too. My husband is also working from home, and the kids (19 and 20) are here too – their university has closed for the forseeable future. I wouldn’t describe what 19 and 20 are doing as working exactly: they’re sleeping, gaming, peering into the fridge while muttering darkly about boomer food choices, wearing headphones, watching endless incomprehensible series, laughing at their phones and (sort of) trying not to blame us adults for…

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Annie Wilson tipped her first headache powder onto her tongue as a teen and chased it with cooldrink. ‘I got a lot of headaches after I dislocated and cracked a cervical vertebra in a car crash when I was 18,’ says the now 50-something fashion stylist and designer. ‘Then, at varsity in Stellenbosch, someone said “Take one of these, they’re brilliant!” And they were.’ So brilliant that Annie began knocking one back each time she had a headache. And this grew more frequent. ‘Fifteen years later, when I was living in New York, I was taking one or two every morning with my coffee, and often a third later in the day – pulling out a powder became a bit of a party trick. ‘It went on for 20 years.…

An all-expenses-paid 6-night stay for two adults at Lagoon Attitude Hotel, including return airport transfers and an ‘Otentik’ dinner experience at a local’s home, sponsored by Attitude Hotels. Two return economy-class tickets on Air Mauritius (including airport taxes) from Johannesburg, Durban or Cape Town to Mauritius, sponsored by the Mauritius Tourism Promotion Authority. QUESTION: What is the name of the dinner experience that is sponsored by Attitude Hotels? HOW TO ENTER: SMS the keyword LAGOON along with the answer, your full name, physical or postal address, and email address to 37174. SMSes cost R1,50 each (free SMSes don’t apply). Or visit fairlady.com to enter online. CLOSING DATE: 31 May 2020 Go to fairlady.com for terms and conditions. PRIZE VALID FROM: 01 May 2020 – 31 May 2021 (excluding peak season)…

• Always wear sunscreen! If you skip makeup, that’s up to you. If you’re skipping sunscreen, you’re asking for trouble. • In life, we fear many things that don’t happen. When bad things happen, we need to find a solution. • There’s no such thing as a guaranteed ‘yes’, but if you don’t ask, it’s a guaranteed ‘no’. • Changing up your style might make you feel uncomfortable, but give it a try, and don’t let anything like age limit you. • You can be happy in love, or you can be happy on your own. If you cannot find the right person for you, find love in family, friends and work. • If you are going to indulge, do it because it tastes wonderful, not because you have been…

• R80 000 in cash to the Woman of the Future • R50 000 in cash each to the Rising Star and Social Entrepreneur • An hour’s invaluable mentorship with one of our judges • A PR package worth R10 000 from Lulalend • A luxurious beauty hamper worth R5 000 from Estée Lauder • Business printing worth R5 000 from Lithotech • A course worth R17 000 from GIBS • A Samsonite Zala 2.0 Bailhandle worth R3 699 • A ladies wristwatch worth R1 095 from Missguided • A media training course…

Black mark Paraphenylenediamine (PPD) is a popular ingredient found in some hair dyes and black henna tattoos because it contains a pigment that makes them last longer. Problem is, PPD can cause a severe allergic reaction, and that reaction seems to be becoming more common. According to the Allergy Foundation of SA, when you have a PPD-containing tattoo done, there’s a 2.5% chance of developing an allergy. Symptoms – such as irritation, a rash, redness, swelling, hives, sometimes even blisters and shortness of breath – can become more severe the more often you’re exposed. So a tattoo you got on a beach in Thailand 10 years ago can cause you to have a severe reaction to your new hair dye. Bottom line? Check your dye for PPD – and avoid…

BASIC RISOTTO SERVES 4 PREP + COOKING TIME: 35 MINUTES • 1.5L (6 cups) chicken stock • 100g butter, chopped • 1 medium brown onion (150g), chopped finely • 2 cloves garlic, crushed • 2 cups (400g) carnaroli or arborio rice • ½ cup (125ml) dry white wine • 1 cup (80g) grated Parmesan 1. Bring stock to a simmer in a medium saucepan; keep warm on low heat. 2. Heat half the butter in a heavy-based saucepan over medium heat; cook onion and garlic, stirring, for 5 minutes or until the onion is soft. 3. Add rice; stir for 2 minutes or until well coated. Add wine; bring to the boil. Stir in 1 cup of hot stock until absorbed. 4. Continue adding stock mixture, 1 cup at a time, stirring until absorbed after each addition.…

✸ ✸ ✸ ✸ NESPRESSO LATTISSIMA TOUCH ABOUT R4999; NESPRESSO ONLINE This capsule machine produces coffee that’s rich in colour and taste with beautiful crema and aroma. It heats up super quickly with very little noise when brewing; it is simple to operate and functional. Verdict: Efficient and stylish – an exceptional model. ✸ ✸ ✸ K-FEE SQUARE ID ABOUT R1599; @HOME If you’re short on space, this capsule coffee machine is for you. It produces strong coffee at just the right temperature – a variety of coffees can be made thanks to a wide range of capsules – but the brewing process is relatively lengthy. Verdict: A good choice for the first-time buyer.…

WATCH Sex Education This Netflix series is X-rated. Seriously, Mariella, it is not family viewing. Otis is the16-year-old son of Jean, a sex therapist. He’s an outsider, but when Maeve (a fellow student) sees his potential and sets him up as a sex therapist for other learners at school, things change. This show is perceptive, funny, smart and surprisingly moving. Mariella, NOT WITH KIDS. LISTEN TO The Jungle Prince A podcast by Ellen Berry, a New York Times correspondent in New Delhi, who starts investigating stories about the last surviving members of the Muslim royal family of Aboudh, who have been in hiding in the jungle – some say for 10 years; some say since the British usurped their kingdom in the 1850s. This makes for fascinating listening and says…

Charmed, I’m sure Before my birthday each year, my husband starts following me around the shops, telling me to ‘point at things’. The system works: I get things I really want, he doesn’t have to scurry around the shops at the last minute, and I don’t have to pretend to be delighted by a teddy bear in a mug (or whatever the female equivalent of soap-on-a-rope is). This year, I pointed at a rose gold version of Famke’s Fingers Crossed necklace, and I’ve barely taken it off since. I love the delicate engraving and the playful take on a good-luck charm. They are R500 and you can get them online at famke.co.za. – Liesl Gin master general I’m a bit of a craft gin fanatic, but I guess as a…

• You take more – or more often, or for longer – than directions recommend. • You get withdrawal symptoms when you stop taking it: craving for the medication; changes in mood, weight, sleeping patterns… • You have effects from overusing or mixing medications: lightheadedness, fatigue, muscle weakness, slurred speech, lack of coordination, blurred vision, dizziness, palpitations, difficulty thinking clearly, gastrointestinal discomfort, nausea. • Headaches for which you are taking painkillers keep recurring, and get worse. ‘Caffeine is an addictive stimulant and can increase pain in an individual with chronic pain because their nervous systems are already over-stimulated, including the brain,’ says psychiatrist Dr Shaquir Salduker, director of the Durban Pain Clinic at St Augustine’s Hospital.…

1 THE POMODORO TECHNIQUE This method is named after the creator’s kitchen timer – which was shaped like a tomato (pomodoro in Italian). The idea is to work in short bursts – 25 minutes of focused work, broken up by five-minute breaks. Once you’ve done four in a row (two hours), you can take a slightly longer break. Having a defined amount of time helps you to make decisions faster and adds a sense of urgency. 2 90-MINUTE INTERVALS Need more time to get your head in the game? Sleep researchers William Dement and the late Nathaniel Kleitman proposed that 90-minute work stints are ideal as they mimic the body’s natural rhythms – a full sleep cycle is 90 minutes. This has also been called the ultradian rhythm. Professor of…

I’ve always loved to dance. At six, I leapt around the lounge, as devil-may-care as Gene Kelly with his umbrella in Singin’ in the Rain. At 15, I choreographed one-woman shows in my bedroom, dramatic hair flips included, and belted out ‘What a Feeling’ into my microphone-hairbrush. And at 26, I jived around my single-woman flat in the dark, beer in hand, singing along to Marilyn Monroe’s throaty rendition of ‘My Heart Belongs to Daddy’ and wishing I was more voluptuous. I met someone who loved music as much as I did. We fell in love, and two years later, moved in together, intending to get the whole world dancing to our tune. But synchronicity eluded us, and gradually I surrendered my will to the insistent direction of this charismatic,…

We don’t like to think about it, but we will all pass away one day, leaving behind our loved ones. And, especially if you have children, it’s important that you leave them with financial support, like Kristen’s family did for her. ‘The easiest and most accessible way to ensure your loved ones are taken care of is through life cover,’ says Samke. The biggest benefit of life cover? The return is far greater than you would find with a normal investment. Once you have life cover, you can also look at alternative investments. ‘Of course, this means nothing if you don’t have a valid will,’ says Samke. Don’t be tempted to download one from the internet. Wills are often contested and can be found invalid if they aren’t legally binding…

The Santam Woman of the Future title is awarded to an entrepreneur aged 30 or older whose business is older than 1000 days and who is well on her way to creating an empire. The Santam Rising Star title is awarded to an entrepreneur between 16 and 30 years old who is still within her first 1000 days but whose business, our judges believe, will flourish way beyond them. The Santam Social Entrepreneur title is awarded to an entrepreneur making a real difference in her community. Aged 30 or older, her business has survived the first 1000 days.…

Don’t skimp on sunscreen during colder months - the winter sun is still dangerous. 1 USE A GENTLE CLEANSER The point of a cleanser is to gently clean your skin, not strip it to the bone with abrasive chemicals. ‘Avoid harsh washes and toners that contain alcohol,’ says Dr Suretha Kannenberg, a Cape Town-based dermatologist who is affiliated with Stellenbosch University. ‘There’s actually no need to use toner at all. Harsh products strip your skin of the lipid layer that helps to maintain moisture.’ When picking out a cleanser, look for formulas that contain moisture-retaining ingredients such as hyaluronic acid and ceramides. If you have dry skin, you’ll want to take it easy on alpha-hydroxy and beta-hydroxy acids as they can cause more harm than good. HOW DO YOU KNOW…

‘I’m not from a food background at all,’ says Dianne Bibby with a laugh. ‘When we ran into some financial difficulties I started selling baked goods to generate an income. There were two things I knew how to make: rusks and biscuits. That’s really where my journey with food started.’ These days, Dianne is a food stylist, recipe developer and food photographer, a far cry from her previous profession – she’d worked in the fashion industry for 18 years before becoming a stay-at-home mom to her two daughters. ‘At first I did it as a necessity, then it became a creative outlet. I began looking at ingredients in an inspired way, like working with different fabrics in fashion.’ Dianne began a food blog (also called Bibby’s Kitchen) where she shared…

The Shelly Bay Ladies Swimming Circle BY SOPHIE GREEN This is a delightfully quick and easy read – no complicated plot or characters. Yet it is profound in its message of sisterhood. Four very different women find themselves coming together at sunrise each day for a swim in the sea off Australia’s Gold Coast. As they overcome their physical limitations and get stronger in the water, so the bond of female friendship grows among them and is tested through their individual journeys of family fallouts, death, divorce, cancer and childcare … in other words, LIFE. Learning to belong and look out for one another in the water, they feel safe and seen, and so they begin to work through the vulnerable and tender times of their lives, both past and…

WINNING LETTER UTIS REVISTED As a nurse with long-time experience of working in sexual health, I’d like to comment on the article on UTIs in the March issue. It’s true that UTIs are generally caused by e-coli bacteria which live in the gut, but this does not enter the urinary tract via the mouth. Also, there are different types of e-coli, and the majority are part of a healthy gut flora. You cannot eliminate it through eating probiotics, as implied. The reason women get UTIs more frequently to men is the closer proximity of their urethra to their back passage. The bacteria gets transferred to the urethra either through not passing urine following sex (during sex it’s easy for bacteria to be carried forward from the anus to the urethra…

1 Stop taking the painkillers. If you suffer from severe migraines, ask your doctor or pharmacist about a triptan (a tryptamine-based painkilling and anti-nausea drug) such as Sumatriptan instead; ignore minor headaches and drink water. 2 Use non-medical methods to manage pain: good sleep hygiene (avoid caffeine, go to bed at the same time every night in a dark, cool, quiet room free of electronics); regular moderate exercise; progressive relaxation and mindful breathing; and addressing your life stressors – with counselling if necessary. 3 See a neurologist or pain management specialist to get to the root of your problem, and address that. ‘We detox pain patients with physiotherapy to help relax muscles, and have a psychologist who educates them on the nature of their pain and helps them reframe it…

Shawn Slovo remembers her early years as turbulent. ‘My mom [Ruth First] and my dad [Joe Slovo] were very involved in the anti-apartheid struggle,’ she says. ‘My mother was arrested and detained under the 90-day detention law, and when they released her, she was banned and prevented from leaving the house. They took away our passports, so we applied for an exit permit.’ In 1964, the family arrived in the UK as political refugees. Then just 14, Shawn had to adapt to a new life and unfamiliar circumstances. ‘Although we had to leave our lives and friends behind, I can speak only to my own experience, and I’m very grateful. Others had it a lot worse, particularly black South Africans. I had a very good education in the UK, it…

When you get to your 60s, you become very wise,’ says Maye Musk, with a laugh. The mother of Kimbal, Tosca and Elon (you know the one – the billionaire co-founder of Tesla and SpaceX) has lived an anything-but-ordinary life and, at 72, she’s an international style and beauty icon. Earlier this year, she immortalised a lifetime of experiences in her memoir, A Woman Makes A Plan. In it, she shares moments from her life and what we can all learn from them – whether it involves business, health, beauty or overcoming hardship. Although she’s been modelling since she was 15, it was only at the age of 68 that Maye’s career really took off: she appeared in Beyoncé’s music video for ‘Haunted’, was signed to IMG models (the same…

I wanted to maximise people’s time so they could get the most out of it. myUTOPIA Sandi Dekker STARTUP COSTS: ‘myUTOPIA had 7 546 member visits in our first year,’ says Sandi. TURNOVER: ‘We’re in our fourth year, and have grown to about 16 800 member visits.’ Have you ever wanted to be one of those ‘I don’t know how she does it’ women? You know the type: glowing skin, perfectly blow-dried hair, a smoothie bowl for lunch and squeezing in a yoga class before work? If so, get to know Sandi Dekker – she might just become your secret weapon. In 2016, Sandi opened the doors to myUTOPIA, a premium boutique lifestyle centre that offers fitness classes and wellness services all in the same place, so you can tick…

We’re so excited to invite you – or an amazing woman entrepreneur you know – to enter the 6th annual Santam Women of the Future Awards in association with FAIRLADY and, for the first time this year, our sister title, TRUELOVE. We’re looking for the best women entrepreneurs in the country, so if you’ve just started a new business, or you’ve been running your own business for a while, we want to hear from you! There are fabulous prizes to be won, of course, but what we really want to do is celebrate and encourage female entrepreneurs. We believe in women, and we believe that women running their own businesses, in their own ways, can change the economy – and the future – of our country. Winning one of the…

‘We’ve seen about a 40% increase in the number of moms who have joined our site.’ WOMAN OF THE FUTURE: Phillipa Geard, RecruitMyMom ‘Winning this award opened so many doors for me,’ says Phillipa Geard, founder and CEO of RecruitMyMom, an SA-born online recruitment agency that has helped countless women find jobs that allow them to integrate their careers and family lives. As a mother of two, Phillipa has a keen understanding of the issues facing mothers n SA. After having left her corporate job to focus on her family, she decided that it was time to re-enter the workforce. But this time she wasn’t looking for a full-time, in-office position. Philippa was lucky to find something that suited her needs, but she knows that many other mothers aren’t as…

I’ve been having vivid, disturbing nightmares every night. I often wake up sweating and crying – sometimes I wake myself up from violently scratching myself. I’ve had these dreams since I was a child, and this has got worse with age. Could this have something to do with my major depressive disorder? It is normal to move around and have dreams when you’re sleeping, but some people experience odd behaviour called ‘parasomnia’. There are many different types of parasomnia; sleepwalking is the most common one, but others include nocturnal epilepsy, restless legs and rapid eye movement (REM) sleep behaviour disorders (RBD). Sleep is actually a transition between three different phases: wakefulness, REM sleep and non-REM. During REM sleep, your brain behaves as if you’re awake, but your body’s muscles are…

Taurus 20 APR – 20 MAY Despite your stay-at-home frame of mind, pole position is what you’re secretly after. Sign that permission slip; nobody’s lurking in the bushes, waiting to pounce, so any delay in implementing plans is procrastination, really. You’re so much more than you give yourself credit for. We know it, you know it, and the world’s waiting. Gemini 21 MAY – 20 JUN Easy does it. The tangles and knots will unravel in time. Often, the worst bit about bumps in any relationship – work, family, pleasure – is the thought that the relationship could end, or become boring. Happily for you, good sense is a natural mindset, so don’t write off what may simply need a bit of a breather. Cancer 21 JUN – 22 JUL…