Innholdsfortegnelse for March 2020 i Fairlady

I saw a sobering statistic the other day: in two years, there has been a 37% increase in people being admitted to hospital for eating disorders in the UK. I think that’s really shocking, don’t you? And I don’t believe it’s restricted to the UK, either. I know I sound like a boomer here (probably because I am one, as our kids are fond of reminding me), but I’m sure this massive increase has a lot to do with the ‘perfect’ lives constantly being showcased on social media that inevitably invite comparison – which in turn, inevitably, results in feelings of inferiority, isolation and shame. I’m increasingly struck by how hard we all are on ourselves, about everything – from what we look like to the choices we make about…

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STONECAMP LETITIA FLY START-UP COSTS: ‘It’s hard to make money immediately,’ says Letitia Fly. ‘About R120 000 covered our costs for the first six months: the sewing machines, material, setting up the brand, the logo, the website, the photo shoots and salaries. After that the business sustained itself.’ TURNOVER: ‘The business has grown from three to eight employees. It’s doubled over the past five years. We make between R30 000 and R80 000 a month, sometimes more.’ Letitia Fly established the Stonecamp leather bag label five years ago while she was on maternity leave with her first son. ‘I was struggling to find a nice, functional leather handbag that didn’t cost the earth,’ she says. ‘I started working from the kitchen counter at home, cutting material and stitching it by…

Best time to go: Feb to May; Sep to Nov High season: Jul/Aug; Dec/Jan Low season: Feb/March Best weather: April and May: moderate temps; green landscapes Worst weather: The weather is always pleasant, but hot inland Dec to Mar; chilly mornings at the coast, Jun to Aug. How to get there: Daily flights into Windhoek and Walvis Bay from JNB and CPT. Driving: Main roads are in excellent condition. Gravel roads can be rough. Where to stay: We stayed at grand Mokuti Etosha Lodge in Etosha and the Strand Hotel in Swakopmund, a cosy boutique hotel located on the promenade. It has the best sea views!…

1. Take pride in yourself ‘You don’t need designer clothing to look your best. It starts with a bit of self-love: appreciating what you have and making the most of it. Take care of your hair and your body.’ 2. No ankle straps ‘They shorten the leg. Your leg starts where your shoe ends, so unless you’re tall and leggy, don’t wear shoes that come too high up the foot.’ 3. No waisted dresses ‘The waist is a weak spot for most women. Unless you’ve got an incredibly flat tummy, don’t wear anything waisted; it draws attention to areas you’d rather hide.’ 4. High necklines are a no-go for large breasts ‘Women with larger busts tend to cover them up with high necklines. But the higher the neckline, the larger…

1. HOBBIES CAN IMPROVE YOUR PHYSICAL HEALTH Obviously, taking up running or yoga will improve your health, but the same is true for non-physical pursuits. In one 2009 study involving 1 400 participants, a group of psychologists found that engaging in enjoyable leisure activities had a positive impact on, among other things, their resting blood pressure, body mass index, waist circumference and perceived physiological functioning. 2. HOBBIES HELP REDUCE YOUR STRESS LEVELS Matthew Zawadzki, a health psychologist at the University of California, found that a mentally stimulating hobby does more than improve focus and improve stress. In the long run, it can also lower levels of depression and make you happier. ‘There was a definite carryover effect later in the day,’ he writes. ‘If we start thinking about that beneficial…

Q: My mom told me to set up a f-ck-off fund – a secret bank account, in case my marriage goes south. But I am married in community of property – is it even possible? A: Your mom’s right (sigh, aren’t they always). Having a savings account that you can access in an emergency and that your spouse doesn’t have access to is a good idea. Legally, your spouse is entitled to half of all of your assets, including what’s in that emergency fund. But they’d only be able to claim it once the divorce is wrapped up, which usually takes several months. That fund is there for the first few days and weeks after something goes wrong (and of course, we hope it never will), to rent yourself a…

Steer clear of these potentially irritating combinations. RETINOL + AHAS/BHAS Can damage the skin barrier, causing irritation and dryness. Use separately. RETINOL + VITAMIN C May result in over-exfoliation, which causes increased sun sensitivity. Use vitamin C in the daytime, and retinol at night. RETINOL + BENZOYL PEROXIDE Benzoyl peroxide oxidises retinol and can be irritating to the skin if applied together. VITAMIN C + AHAS/BHAS The brightening ingredient should never be mixed with citric acids and AHAs; these ingredients destabilise each other and can be irritating to the skin. DO NOT APPLY A PURE RETINOL PRODUCT DURING THE DAY!…

‘PROTEIN-PACKED CHICKPEA “TOFU” HAS TONS OF FLAVOUR AND A SILKY TEXTURE ENCASED IN CRISPY GORGEOUSNESS. EVEN MEAT-EATERS WILL WANT TO TRY THIS!’ MISO VEGETABLES WITH POUNDED RICE SALAD SERVES 4 PREP + COOK TIME: 30 MIN FOR THE POUNDED RICE SALAD • ¼ cup (55 g) sushi rice • 1 large (350 g) yellow sweet pepper, sliced finely • 1 large (350 g) red sweet pepper, sliced finely • ½ cup loosely packed coriander leaves • ½ cup loosely packed mint leaves • 1 cup (100 g) bean sprouts • 2 tbsp sesame seeds, toasted FOR THE MISO SAUCE • ¼ cup (60 g) white miso • ¼ cup (60 ml) rice vinegar • 1 tbsp honey • 1 tsp finely chopped pickled ginger • 1 tbsp pickled ginger juice…

FASHION COUTURE COLLAB H&M has joined forces with heritage label Pringle of Scotland to create a knitwear line. Expect the signature Pringle argyle pattern and jacquard weave, but with a subtle twist. The range includes patchwork and raw-edged sweaters, funnel-necked jumpers with balloon sleeves, sweater dresses with ring-pull zip closures, cosy hoodies, second-skin leggings, slouchy hats and scarves. The collection makes clever use of recycled polyester and organic cotton along with cosy wool and smooth viscose fibres – and includes dog sweaters in matching patterns and colours! Available at H&M from 26 March 2020. ME-TIME WHERE STORIES LIVE Whatever story you want to tell, there is a reader waiting for you on Wattpad, a community for readers and writers to publish user-generated stories. And you choose your genre, from non-fiction…

Pisces 19 Feb – 20 Mar Express the gratitude, shout it, feel it (even if you don’t really); bushels of thankfulness bring bountiful abundance your way. Nobody really knows how this works, but it’s a natural, mysterious law of some sort, and you’re in the best place to start making it happen. Saying ‘thanks!’ for the small, joyous things is a daily action to cultivate. Aries 21 Mar – 19 Apr The bit about the journey, not the destination, is your takeaway from any philosophical musings you might indulge in now. A leak in your drive and determination tank may paint March as iffy, but that’s certainly not the case. If you have one iota of sense, which you do, grasp every moment to push ahead with plans. No go-slow…

AFARI BEAUTY PRODUCTS Margaux Knuppe was assistant beauty editor at FAIRLADY for a while, and she had an incredible understanding and knowledge of product ingredients and what they were really capable of. Now she’s taken all that knowledge and experience and created her own high-end skincare range using Bulbine frutescens, a flowering plant indigenous to Southern Africa. Traditionally used as a remedy for skin injuries thanks to its anti-inflammatory qualities, it also stimulates collagen synthesis – exactly what my dry skin needs! The Protecting Day Cream worked wonders for me. Have a look at the whole range on afari.co.za I think it’s fabulous. THE BOOK OF ICHIGO ICHIE BY HÉCTOR GARCÍA AND FRANCESC MIRALLES ‘Ichigo Ichie’ is defined as one of those tiny, perfect moments in life that…

THE MUSHROOM EFFECT When an enthusiastic friend first offered me a mushroom chip, she could see I was unconvinced. A whole mushroom as a crispy chip? Huh-uh. But eventually – after a LOT of insistence on her part – I caved and put it in my mouth with no intention of swallowing. I was gobsmacked! It was delicious – crisp and flavourful. Well, only the box is left! A must-try. favesfoods.co.za – Janine Skin makeover I’d never had problematic skin, until this year. Stress and a hormonal imbalance took their toll and I started noticing a few pimples here and there. My skin seemed to be both oily and dry. I decided to try the Nimue 12 Week Challenge. Nimue says, ‘If you can’t ditch your foundation in week 13, we…

The International Women in Entrepreneurship Barometer for 2019 revealed that South African women are bolder than their international counterparts: 70% of women in SA aspire to becoming entrepreneurs. The study – commissioned in SA, France, the UK, Japan and Hong Kong – found the following in SA: 44% of women feel that the risks of entrepreneurship are worth the rewards of success 78% of South African women between 20 and 29 years old are willing to give entrepreneurship a go 24% of women and 29% of men claim to experience imposter syndrome 56% of women confirm that a fear of failure could dissuade them from taking the plunge into entrepreneurship 67% of women entrepreneurs state that they have already experienced a professional failure owing to their gender 69% of women…

Colour analysis determines which shades of clothing and makeup best complement your complexion, as well as your eye and hair colour. The seasonal colour system first rose to prominence after Carole Jackson outlined it in her 1980 book, Color Me Beautiful. WINTER Dominant skin tones: Very white, white with delicate pink tone, beige (no cheek colour), rosy beige, grey-beige, brown, olive, black (blue undertone), black (sallow) Most flattering colours: Black, pure white, royal blue, emerald green, rich true red, strong magenta, turquoise, icy pink, icy blue, sharp yellow, charcoal, silver greys, taupe SUMMER Dominant skin tones: Pale beige – delicate pink cheeks, pale beige (no cheek colour) rosy beige, grey-brown, rosy brown Most flattering colours: Rose, soft orchid, light grey, dove grey, steel blue, bluebell, light blue grey, French grey,…

‘When David was born in 2002 we were over the moon,’ says Ilana. Like any new parents, Ilana and Martin marvelled at his tiny toes and fingers, checking that all was well with their baby. ‘We couldn’t wait to take him home and start our life together as a family.’ David appeared to be the perfect baby, smiling and cooing, rolling over, sitting up and meeting all his milestones – for the first 10 months. ‘This was when our first round of doctors’ visits started,’ says Ilana, ‘originally with ear, nose and throat specialists who prescribed antibiotics for his recurring ear infections; followed by hospitalisation for diarrhoea and a high fever, which eventually led to an intravenous drip that had him fighting and screaming the entire time.’ Suddenly, from smiles,…

Q: I often experience a terrible, sharp pain that seems to come from my intercostal muscles. Instances are totally unrelated and I’m never sure when it’s going to strike again. Afterwards, it hurts to breathe deeply or move my upper body too much. Should I be concerned? A: It can be very frightening to experience unexpected pain – but that concern is a good thing! Pain is one of the body’s warning signs, so don’t ignore sudden chest pains, especially when you also feel short of breath, sweaty or dizzy. That’s the time to see your doctor or visit the ER immediately. But pains that go on over a longer period of time, not getting worse but not getting better either, can be a bit more confusing. There is a…

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WINNING LETTER Sisterhood FAIRLADY has been a part of my life since I learnt to read. Roll on the years… I employ a domestic worker who is an elderly widow with adult daughters she supports, plus their children, as well as children from her late husband’s second wife. That is her life. My highly successful daughter has battled infertility for years and has decided to keep it private, so I have not been able to share the sadness of not having grandchildren (yet) with friends.Recently, when her latest attempt at IVF failed, my domestic worker found me in tears. I confessed I had a secret and told her about it. She put her arms around me and, in tears, shared her secret too. It transpires her ‘daughters’ are not her…

With the legendary Diana Ross for a mother, you’d think Tracee Ellis Ross (47) had it made from the start – that’s showbiz royalty by blood, after all. Not so. ‘Being the “child of” meant you were sort of riding on the coat-tails of your parent,’ she says. ‘It would unlock the door, then people would sit on the other side… waiting for you. Like: “She’s no Diana Ross.”’ She does, however, admit to living a charmed life: Tracee attended elite schools in New York and Switzerland, and graduated from Brown University with a BA in Theatre Arts. After that, she worked briefly as a model and as fashion editor at Mirabella and New York magazines, before finally landing her debut lead role in the comedy television series Girlfriends. The…

‘What are you?’ was the defining question of my childhood. Sometimes it was broached delicately, woven into idle chit-chat. Other times it was less subtle; strangers would blurt it out within minutes of meeting me. These days it would seem an odd, confrontational question to ask someone you’ve just met. And how do you begin to answer it? Identity has become so fluid. But during apartheid, life was far more rigid. We lived in a system based on separateness and classification, and people needed to know where you slotted in. It determined whether they could go to the beach with you, enter a shop through the same entrance as you, use the same toilets as you, or what they needed to tell their parents when they invited you home. So…

At the end of her reign as Miss South Africa in 2006, Megan Coleman told her mother, Fay, about a vision she’d had for a business. ‘I recall her saying she had goosebumps because she’d had a similar idea 10 years previously,’ says Megan. The rest, as they say, is history. Through their Durban-based image consulting business, Image Insured, the two women have helped hundreds of people find the styles and colours that really suit them. Based on their skin tones, clients are placed into one of four categories (spring, summer, autumn or winter) and given a colour palette to work with. Everything – from their hairstyles to their outfits – is based on this analysis. After that, there’s the option to undergo a figure analysis to determine the correct…

‘Whether my day has been great or gloomy, an hour of yoga always leaves me feeling incredibly at peace and like I’m floating. A flowing Vinyasa practice, hot Bikram or slow Yin is guaranteed to help me realign my priorities and forget trivial worries.’ Caroline ‘Watching people arrive at the airport! I know, it’s such a movie cliché, but seeing people coming together after being apart for a while really makes me smile!’ Liza ‘My happiness fix is discovering new music. I can spend hours on YouTube trawling for amazing bands and artists. I also use a website called Music-Map (music-map.com) that creates maps to help you narrow down your search by grouping similar artists. It’s basically an atlas for music!’ Ashleigh ‘At the crack of dawn, as the sun…

FIG, WALNUT AND GOAT’S CHEESE PHYLLO PIZZA SERVES 2 PREP TIME: 20 MIN This is like having a cheeseboard on a pizza, very ‘wine farm’ and ‘I’mtoo-fancy-for-my-pants’ vibes. Have this with a very good glass of wine or champagne and call it a day. • 4 sheets phyllo pastry • 100g butter, melted • ¼ cup tomato sauce • 4 figs, quartered • 100g walnuts, roughly chopped • 2 spring onions, finely sliced • 150g goat’s cheese • pinch of black pepper • sprouted greens, for topping 1. Preheat the oven to 200°C. 2. Grease and line a baking sheet. 3. Brush four phyllo sheets with butter to prevent them from drying out. 4. Stack the four buttered phyllo sheets on top of each other. 5. Place the sheets on…

ON EARTH WE ARE BRIEFLY GORGEOUS BY OCEAN VUONG It’s been a while since I’ve been completely blown away by a novel. Ocean Vuong’s devastatingly beautiful first offering is the coming-of-age story of Little Dog, a Vietnamese immigrant in the US. Framed as a letter from a writer in his 20s to his illiterate mother, the fragmented narrative pieces together the trauma of a very broken family struggling with PTSD from the war and the complexities of immigration. (His mother is illiterate because her education came to an end at the age of seven after her school was napalmed during the Vietnam War). Vuong draws on his own personal experiences to describe the painful confusion associated with adolescence and sexual exploration. When Little Dog comes out as gay, we’re invited…

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