Innholdsfortegnelse for April 2019 i Fairlady

Australian comedienne Hannah Gadsby’s one-person show, Nanette (on Netflix), won a host of plaudits last year. It’s a riveting and extremely uncomfortable piece of work, so be warned: if you’re looking for laughs, this is not the place. But it made me think long and hard about a lot of things: humour in general and, more specifically, the use of it to mask hurt and abuse. At the end of the show, Hannah says it will be her last, because she intends to deal with her pain properly rather than deflect it by making it funny (this isn’t a spoiler because I’m happy to report that the massively positive response made her change her mind). A Fine Arts graduate, Hannah also talks about how women artists have been airbrushed out…

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According to my teenagers, I show bad form on social media. My crime is this: I don’t believe I have to respond immediately when I receive a WhatsApp. I can hear my phone bleep, but I ignore it until it suits me to pick it up. Sometimes I read my messages only before bed, and then, surmising that the senders are probably already asleep, I switch off, planning to respond in the morning. I even remember to do so on occasion. As a result, I regularly leave my senders ‘on read’. If you’ve not heard this term before, let me enlighten you. ‘Blue ticking’ is the act of reading a WhatsApp message and not responding immediately. The sender can see that it’s been read, but no reply has arrived. To…

• The best time to go to Stockholm is in spring (March to May) or summer (end of May to the beginning of September) as the days are the longest. In late autumn and winter it’s cold and less conducive to walking as the pavements are slippery. • There are various one-stop flights from SA to Stockholm. When we had a quick look back in February, the cheapest return flights were going for R8 000 in mid-May; by June they had risen to about R10 000. • Food and drinks can be pricey. Restaurants and cocktail bars in Gamla Stan and other trendy neighbourhoods tend to be very costly, but in quieter districts groceries are surprisingly well priced at corner cafés and supermarkets. Salmon is cheap compared to what we…

The 20th of this month (also known as 4/20) is a lamdmark occasion in South Africa: internationally recognised as Weed Day, this year for the first time Saffas will be able to partake — legally, anyway. Last September, the Constitutional the passed down a judgment legalising the private cultivation and use of cannabis. But while some have celebrate the ruling, others have voiced concerns. We asked cannabis activist Myrtle Clarke and specialist psychiatrist Dr Abdul Kader Domingo to share their opposing views. ‘MY partner Julian Stobbs and I were arrested in 2010 for cannabis possession, and we’ve been working full-time as cannabis activists ever since. It’s about more than just a plant for me: it’s a human rights issue. This is about the sovereignty of our minds, and our cognitive…

ayurveda or ‘the science of life’ is a holistic system with its roots in Buddhist and Hindu spiritual ideologies dating back at least 3 000 years. But according to many of its growing number of proponents in the West, including its talk-show posterboy author Deepak Chopra, it’s based on the same principles as quantum mechanics. The human body, Chopra maintains, is underpinned by a ‘quantum mechanical body’ composed not of matter, but of energy and information. ‘Human ageing is fluid and changeable; it can speed up, slow down… even reverse itself’ – it’s possible to attain “Perfect Health”, he writes in his book of the same name. This is done, as the charismatic doctor informed me on one of his first visits to South Africa, by achieving a balance of…

CONDITIONER Conditioner, made up of oils, silicones and emollients, should be the backbone of your everyday haircare routine. The natural moisture in your hair is mostly stripped away after you shampoo it, which is why you need conditioner: to replenish those natural oils. What does it do? Conditioner fortifies the damaged cuticle with a protective coating, allowing the hair to keep growing instead of breaking off easily. Because your hair is constantly exposed to the outside world, the cuticle gets damaged until it breaks. But conditioner fills in those injuries. Who is it suitable for? Everybody. If you’re not already conditioning your hair, now would be a good time to start. If you’re uncertain about which conditioner to use, try a few different ones to see what works – or…

Cherry-picking The trick to wearing head-to-toe red (without looking like a tomato) is to combine different shades and opt for pieces with interesting detail or textures. In the nude Beige doesn’t have to mean bland – simply amp up the details. Tortoiseshell buttons and standout accessories add interest to this nude knit dress. Modern romance This one might be a touch sexy for work, but a wrap dress flatters just about any body type and is so versatile. You can take it straight from your desk to dinner and drinks. Tweedledee Tweed and satin – it’s been a while since we’ve seen a combination this perfect! A colourblock belt completes this elegant look. Pearly whites Pearl detailing elevates this comfy knit from stay-at-home loungewear to stylish workwear. Pair it with…

If you swear by the Keto diet, then you may think wine is completely off the menu. And – since living Keto means extremely low to no carbs – you’re probably right. But for special occasions, look out for dry, low-alcohol wines (less than 13,5 percent) with low residual sugar (RS). RS isn’t listed on the bottle, but here are some broad strokes to guide you: Heavier reds (Shiraz, Pinotage) are usually higher in alcohol, and whites often have more RS to balance the acidity. Instead, opt for light, dry reds – which usually have lower alcohol content and less RS (like Nebbiolo, Verdot, Pinot Noir and some blends) – and Brut, Extra Brut and Brut Nature MCCs, which are all lower in RS. Cheers!…

Aries 21 Mar – 19 Apr ‘Go big or go home’ seems to be your mantra for the month. And the year, apparently; you’ve been stockpiling that sizzle for a while. Even low-key Arians are likely to feel festive for no reason at all. What to do with this barrel of mojo? Whatever, really, as long as you don’t bottle it up. Have purpose and get moving to avoid that pressure-cooker panic. Taurus 20 Apr – 20 May Teamwork for the win! You’re the reigning hero right now, so utilise the fanbase to clinch a bucket-list goal or at least throw concrete for a solid adventure later. Time isn’t an issue now; just use your patience and interpersonal prowess to work wonders during this career-friendly, crowd-pleasing period. You just can’t…

BONES RESTAURANT Think ‘bare bones’ rather than meat (although that’s delicious too): this Woodstock restaurant produces gorgeous, unfussy, absolutely marvellous food. The mushroom risotto and gorgonzola gnocchi will make you want to stand on your chair and sing! TIM MINCHIN I think musician/librettist/comedian/writer Tim Minchin is a genius, and I don’t say that lightly (he wrote the music and lyrics for the excellent musical Matilda, if you were lucky enough to see it when it was in SA last year, though he’s done so much more than that). His latest song, ‘15 Minutes of Shame’, is a comment on the viciousness of social media and riffs on artist Andy Warhol’s comment that in the future, everyone would experience 15 minutes of fame. Total genius. 21 SOUTH AFRICAN WORDS WERE ADDED…

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‘Starting a new business comes with risks,’ says Janina Slawski, principal investment consultant at Alexander Forbes Investments. Here’s what to keep in mind. 1. FIND YOUR PASSION AND MAKE IT PROFITABLE ‘You need to find something that will add value,’ says Janina. ‘It’s great to do something that you enjoy, but you can’t have a business that thousands of others have thought of.’ Katlego agrees. ‘Learn a skill that you can market, not just what you’re passionate about.’ 2. RUN IT BY YOUR EMPLOYER You can’t have a side hustle without a full-time hustle, so be sure not to put your first job at risk. ‘Chat to your employer about it to make sure that it isn’t going to cause conflict,’ says Janina. ‘And make sure you can meet all…

• The personal use and cultivation of dagga is legal as long as you are in the privacy of your home. • Though the cultivation of dagga is legal, it is illegal to purchase or sell seeds. • It is illegal to deal or sell dagga and it’s illegal to smoke it outside of your home. • The government has not ruled on how much dagga you can legally grow or possess in your home and has given prerogative to the police on this until the law can be changed.…

NOUGHTY TO THE RESCUE INTENSE MOISTURE HAIR TREATMENT, R149,95 I have naturally curly hair but it’s frizzy when I leave it, so I blow-dry and straighten it often. As a result it’s damaged and brittle. I chose this mask because it’s a vegan product and also because I liked the sound of the nourishing sweet almonds and restoring black oats. I applied a generous scoop onto washed hair and combed it through. I left it in for 20 minutes for an intense treatment, but you can leave it in for as little as three minutes. I noticed results immediately – my hair looked healthier and shinier (the smell is great too), although it did look a bit greasy the next day. I’d definitely do an intense treatment once a month,…

SLOW-COOKED BEEF BRISKET SERVES 4–6 • 2 tablespoons extra virgin olive oil • 1,5kg beef brisket*, trimmed and cut into 4 pieces (see notes) • 1 onion, finely chopped • 3 cloves garlic, thinly sliced • 1 cup (250ml) red wine • 2 cups (500ml) beef stock • 2 cups (500ml) water • 3 cups (750ml) tomato purée (passata) • 6 bay leaves • sea salt and cracked black pepper STEP 1 Preheat oven to 180°C (350°F). STEP 2 Heat half the oil in a large ovenproof, heavy-based saucepan over medium heat. Add the beef and cook for 4–5 minutes each side or until browned. Remove from the pan and set aside. STEP 3 Add the remaining oil, the onion and garlic to the pan and cook, stirring, for 4–5…

GRISSINI ANTIPASTO PLATTER Serves 6 Prep time: 15 minutes • 150g serrano ham • 150g breadsticks (grissini) • 200g salami, thinly sliced • 150g mini cucumbers, sliced • 300g black olives, pitted and drained • 200g baby tomatoes • 1cup store-bought sweet onion relish • fresh thyme to garnish • extra-virgin olive oil, to drizzle 1. Wrap the serrano ham around half the breadsticks and place on a platter along with the sliced salami and mini cucumber slices. Place the remaining breadsticks in an upright container to serve more easily. 2. Place the olives, tomatoes and relish in small bowls. 3. Serve immediately, garnished with fresh thyme and drizzled with olive oil. EASTER SALAD Serves 6 Prep time: 15 minutes • 5baby gem lettuce hearts, leaves separated • 200g feta…

✽ WINNING LETTER RULE 5 I read the excellent feature ‘ Buying sectional title? Read this first!’ in the November issue, and I’d like to add a rule: Check that what you see is what you get. If you see a garden around the unit, make sure it’s allocated to the unit; if you’re told that buying the unit gives you ownership of a garage, make sure that happens. As an attorney, I’ve come across many instances in which buyers think they’re acquiring such extras only to discover that the previous owner used those amenities but didn’t own them. Owning a unit without a parking spot seriously impacts the value of your property. So when you see a garden area or parking bay or garage that you believe goes with…

1 Emily’s sister Felicity is married to her The Devil Wears Prada co-star Stanley Tucci. The pair met at Emily and John’s wedding. 2 Her favourite beauty products? ‘I absolutely love Sisley products. I think they are beautiful.’ A special indulgence for her is the Sisleÿa extra-rich moisturiser. 3 Mary Poppins Returns would not exist without Emily. ‘Rob [Marshall] basically said, “If you don’t want to do this with us, we are going to find something else, because we won’t do it if you don’t want to”.’ If she weren’t an actress, she would be flipping houses. ‘I adore renovating. I love working with different materials and coming up with a different story for each room. I am Pinterest-mad.’ 5 One item she’d love to pass down to her daughters…

PROF MAMOKGETHI PHAKENG Vice chancellor of the University of Cape Town This was the message that went out to new students at the University of Cape Town (UCT) via Twitter back in February this year – from their first female vice chancellor, fondly known on social media as the Fab Academic or Deputy Mother, Professor Mamokgethi Phakeng. ‘Always remember why you’re here. Make sure you hit the ground running from day one of lectures and don’t remove your foot from the pedal until you’re done with your degree. With love, Deputy Mother.’ Phakeng has a PhD in Mathematics Education and is an internationally acclaimed National Research Foundation-rated researcher who is passionate about research and education. In 2004 she founded NPO Adopt-a-Learner, which provides financial and educational support to students from…

Stockholm is a city made up of islands: 14 large ones lie within the city limits, and outside the city and along the coast, the Stockholm archipelago consists of about 30000 islets, as well as skerries, small rocky islands that protrude out of the sea. Despite being the economic centre of Sweden (the region accounts for more than a third of the country’s GDP), Stockholm is anything but clinical and industrialised: 30 percent of the city area is made up of waterways, with parks and green spaces, making up another 30 percent. Stockholm also claims to have more museums per capita than most other cities, and one of the largest and best-preserved medieval city centres in Europe: Gamla Stan. GAMLA STAN Although a visit to the Royal Palace is highly…

1 Born in Tzaneen, Blessing Ngobeni overcame poverty, homelessness and imprisonment to become one of SA's leading figures on the contemporary art scene. ‘His work is evolving into collages, three-dimensional works and relief sculptures,’ says Makgati. 2 Colbert Mashile is an artist from Johannesburg whose work deals with tradition, customs and rituals as well as attitudes prevalent in society. What draws Makgati to his work is his playful combination of disparate objects. 3 Born in Soweto in 1966, Andrew Tshabangu is renowned for his photographs documenting the rituals of black communities in urban Africa. Makgati describes his work as ‘bringing everyday life into focus, heightening one’s awareness.’ 4 Billie Zangewa is a Malawian artist who works on silk fabrics. ‘I find her storytelling through needlepoint and fabric very cathartic,’ says…

We all love a bit of sparkle. And with Mother’s Day fast approaching, it’s time to start thinking about the perfect gift for the ‘first lady’ in our lives – and that means either our moms or ourselves! That’s where Swarovski Jewellery comes in. Founded in 1895 by Daniel Swarovski, the brand’s elegant crystal jewellery designs are just the finishing touch your outfit needs, whether you’re dressing up or down. Now eight FAIRLADY readers stand a chance to win Swarovski jewellery from their sparkling Mother’s Day collection. The amazing craftsmanship reimagines nature, injecting a touch of fantasy that makes the individual pieces both modern and timeless. Keep as a gift to yourself, or spoil your Mom. Question: Who is the founder of Swarovski? HOW TO ENTER: SMS the keyword SWAROVSKI,…

Vicky and I are complete opposites. She is bold, proactive and enthusiastic. She speaks with her arms, throwing them out from her body to illustrate her points. Three things she says a lot are, ‘It will be great!’, ‘I’ve done my research’ and ‘That’s so interesting’. I sometimes wave my hands about, but my elbows are always in. What I say a lot is, ‘I’m not sure about that’, ‘I haven’t got round to it yet’ and ‘I don’t mind – you choose’. Vicky clambers up mountains with hardy hikers. I stroll round the nice flat common, alone. She’s a powerful swimmer and does laps at the gym. I bob in the shallows at the beach, trying not to get my hair wet. She is a leader and a doer;…

Q: I’ve tried various home remedies to sort out my loud snoring, but to no avail. What could be the cause and what medication can I use? A: Snoring can affect relationships, the sleep quality of both partners and daytime functioning. Your mouth and throat form a muscular tube, and when you sleep it relaxes, making the gap for breathing smaller and causing those relaxed floppy muscles to vibrate noisily. Snorers can experience short pauses in breathing, which prevent good-quality sleep. Simple things that increase the ‘floppiness’ of your throat at night are obesity (especially a fat neck), alcohol, smoking and sleeping on your back, so these are the first things to change. Some women start snoring after menopause and find that HRT helps. Surgery is an absolute last resort…

CHANEL BAUME ESSENTIEL MULTI-USE GLOW STICK, R765 As seen on the Chanel Spring 2019 runway! This magical multipurpose stick is sheer and translucent, creating a dewy shine on cheekbones and eyes, no matter your skin tone. SECRETS DE SOTHYS PREMIUM YOUTH CREAM, R2495 An exceptional cream that forms a satin film on the skin’s surface and has a lifting effect. And the soothing oriental, peachy fragrance doesn’t hurt either. GHD MK IV EARTH GOLD, R2100 The original hair hero is back with a new look – think golden sand and metallic pastel tones. It’s limited edition, so get it before it’s gone. ALMAY LIP VIBES LIPSTICK, R149 EACH Get high-impact colour in just one swipe! Plus there are 24 shades and three finishes to choose from: matte, cream and topper.…

GOING SOLO Cabernet Franc and Grenache have long been in South Africa, but historically they’ve been used mainly in blends: Cab Franc for its earthy grassiness and Grenache for its slightly peppery, ripe berry flavour. Now they’ve left the band to pursue solo careers, and they’re both becoming very popular very quickly. Cab Franc is one of the fastest-growing varietals in South Africa, with an annual Cab Franc festival (at Avontuur Estate in Stellenbosch, scheduled for May this year). If you’re not absolutely wedded to the huge flavour and heft of our more traditional reds, I’d recommend trying both on their own. They also work beautifully slightly chilled – there’s something about their flinty leanness, for want of a better description, that lends them to lower temperatures than we’re used…

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