Innholdsfortegnelse for January 2019 i Cosmopolitan

Long Hair, Don’t Care “There are enough pretty guys who are groomed. I had to cut my hair once. I was bummed, and my wife [Lisa Bonet] was like, ‘If you ever cut your hair again, I’m leaving you.’ She was joking, but she does have a thing for long hair.” Love at First Sight “Oh, I was like a little kid [when I met Lisa]. She has the fireworks. That was 13 years ago. I’m very lucky. She loves me, she makes me grow, we learn together, we support each other, and we’re foolish and playful.” Naked Ambition “I’m comfortable not wearing clothes. I like rock climbing without a shirt on. It’s a little challenging when I go to the gym and people take pictures—but I’m not too self-conscious…

“I was on a first date and ordered extremely saucy wings as my entrée. When I went to the bathroom later and checked myself in the mirror, I realized I had chicken stuck between almost all my teeth! I’d also been full-smile laughing at his bad jokes for the past hour!”—SIMEDAR J., 24 “I was sort of seeing a guy who lived out of state but would come to my city for work. One day, he asked me if we could grab dinner. Excited, I told him yes. I got to the restaurant and waited 30 minutes without hearing from him. I checked his phone location, and it said he was close to 15 hours away! So I called him, and he laughed and told me it was all a…

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Your Goal Just a Glow Grab a glotion (it’s like body moisturizer and shimmer had a baby) like Jergens Brilliance Skin Illuminating Moisturizer ($12, amazon.com). Light-reflecting mica and silkening shea butter work like highlighter, accentuating you from the neck down. Your Goal Hint of Tint Cellulite or unevenness is NBD. But if you want to diffuse it, reach for a high-gloss body bronzer. St. Tropez One Night Only Finishing Gloss ($25, sephora.com) makes streaks a nonissue. Your Goal Epic Sparkle Heart the new glitter craze? Rihanna to the rescue! Tap Fenty Beauty Diamond Bomb All-Over Diamond Veil ($38, sephora.com) on your cleavage and shoulders and down the center of your legs—anywhere you want to shine bright like a…you know. Your Goal Full-Body Beat Yes, there’s foundation for your body (bye,…

Q: How should I approach introducing my risqué fantasy to my partner? A: If you’re ready to share, awesome! I admire your courage and honesty, and I hope your partner will too. Be patient. This will most likely take time. When I first outed myself to my vanilla fiancé (now husband), I imagined that finally sharing my big secret would be a magic bullet. It wasn’t. That first disclosure was merely the beginning of a process of mutual honesty and exploration that took years and continues to this day. Don’t expect your partner to understand right away. You might have to answer uncomfortable questions, explain embarrassing things, and probably experience moments of disappointment. Hang in there—the chance to finally be yourself is worth it. —JILLIAN KEENAN, AUTHOR OF SEX WITH…

1 He makes last-minute plans. The dude who just wants to hook up hates arranging dates in advance. He never knows if he might swipe on someone more intriguing (to him) in the meantime. 2 He doesn’t let you into his life. Most players keep their dates a secret from friends and family. If you have been hanging for months and still haven’t met his crew, it’s likely because they don’t know you exist. 3 He goes totally off the radar… then bounces back. This guy behaves like a boomerang—and it’s tempting to get excited when his name pops up again. Maybe he really was “just busy” …but probably not. 4 He’s pissed when things don’t get sexual. He’ll expect things to move quickly—without wanting to make much of an…

To this day, no one fully understands why in the early stages of dating, couples want to rip each other’s clothes off—yet the longer they stay together, the more that urge fades. What we do know: that this happens often—like, really often. And there are so many factors at play with erotic cravings in relationships—and why they ebb and flow—that it makes analyzing the phenomenon difficult. For starters, sexual desire is an elusive and complex thing. It’s mental, physical, emotional, and contextual. It also occurs differently in women than it does in men. And we all have this story in our heads that if sex with a partner starts out hot, it has only one place to go: down. That belief in itself may be limiting us more than we…

You probably think your drinking is pretty moderate… ish—a glass or two of red after a long day, a few cocktails to pregame a first date, a series of tequila shots after an awkward Tinder meetup leaves you begging the bartender for some liquid aid. Here’s the deal though: All this tippling can add up, and these common behaviors—especially that last one—might be a red flag for high-risk drinking, defined as downing four or more boozy bevs per day. More truth: The number of women doing this type of imbibing has soared in recent years. Meanwhile, the number of 25- to 34-year-olds dying from alcoholic cirrhosis of the liver jumped an average of 10.5 percent annually between 2009 and 2016—the most of any age-group, according to the scientific medical journal…

For most healthy people, occasionally conking out with the help of nighttime cold or allergy drugs is probably okay, says Monica L. Plesa, MD, assistant clinical professor at the David Geffen School of Medicine at UCLA Health System. But taking them every night for weeks or months could be bad news for your blood pressure and maybe your liver. A safer option: popping up to 5 milligrams of melatonin (also available at drugstores) about an hour before snoozing. “Still, if you find yourself relying on any sort of sleep aid, see your doctor,” says Dr. Plesa. A doc can help suss out the real culprit behind your restless nights.…

BOOTY BURN LEVEL Stand with your feet shoulder-width apart, toes turned out slightly, and hands clasped in front of your face. Place a resistance band (like SWB Booty Bands, $25 for 3, sweatwithbecnyc.com) a few inches above your knees. ▶ Keeping your hips back, bend your knees and slowly lower your butt as far as you can. ▶ Push yourself back up to standing, then move your hips forward and squeeze your glutes. That’s 1 rep. Do 3 sets of 15 to 20 reps, 3 times a week. NOW MAKE IT YOUR OWN… If you’re thinking, “Squats? I thought you said shots…” Turn down the heat by performing the same move sans band. If your closet is mostly leggings… Follow the basic move, but amp it up by starting with…

Loyal Insta followers are the best. They Like all your posts, send you hearts in the DMs, and tell you your thirst-trap pics are hot. But could they cut it as real-world friends? Lots of seeming BFF-doms now spring up online, and they can be legit connections. But so-called Follow friendships don’t necessarily carry the same perks as ones you nurture IRL. “You might know what she had for lunch, but she doesn’t know that you’re going through a hard time because you don’t post about it,” says psychologist Andrea Bonior, PhD, author of The Friendship Fix. “Social platforms make things murky,” adds friendship researcher Miriam Kirmayer. “People might have different perceptions of how close you are.” If you do post about a rough patch, you might hope she calls…

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My happy place: Whidbey Island, Washington, eating pie and grilled cheese at Greenbank Farm. One thing everyone should do in their 20s: Go on a road trip with your buddies! My weirdest quirk: I am always readjusting and resetting my jaw. It looks like I’m constantly chewing gum. Something I used to worry about but don’t anymore: I used to be so scared to go to the gym. I was really intimidated by the people there. One day, I just woke up and told myself I can’t be afraid of something that will make me stronger. What really works my last nerve: When someone I’ve never met asks me to follow them on Instagram. Current MCM: John Krasinski. Current WCW: [Actress] María Gabriela de Faría. I have a weakness for:…

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PORPHYRINS By-products of acne-causing bacteria that is naturally present on all of us, porphyrins can become lodged in pores, leading to blackheads, whiteheads, and cysts. “While breakouts alone don’t make you look older, the rough texture and lingering red marks can,” says derm Shereene Idriss, MD, of Union Square Laser Dermatology in NYC. WRINKLES Lines are inevitable, but UV exposure, chronic stress, and poor diet can speed up their arrival. All trigger free-radical damage in the skin, an inflammatory process that breaks down collagen and elastin. RED AREAS Inflammation (blame UV damage or a weak skin barrier), broken capillaries, and conditions like acne or rosacea all cause redness, says Dr. Idriss, who notes that discoloration has been found to make skin read “older” in studies. PORES These oil-producing divots are…

Get Cozy & Carnal Intimacy Tricks From Head to Toe SCALP Run your fingertips through their hair in circular motions (as if you’re massaging in shampoo) to deliver full-body shivers. EYES While kissing, cover their eyes with your hands. Taking away their sense of sight helps build trust—and lust—says O’Reilly, because they will have no idea where your next smooch will land. NECK Tickle the baby hairs at the nape of their neck with light kisses to make it seem like you’re about to share some NSFW info. ARMS AND TORSO Put a hand on each other’s chest and breathe together, says sex therapist Shannon Chavez. Use your other hand to caress each other’s shoulders and arms. Taking note of how your heart rates quicken will make you feel connected.…

Is there actually such a thing as a “mindgasm”? I don’t buy it. A Getting so aroused by your thoughts that you climax without any touching is possible. “Your brain is the biggest sex organ you have,” explains clinical sexologist Dawn Michael, PhD, who’s seen women think themselves off IRL. That said, it’s not exactly easy. Using mind power alone to reach your peak takes practice, and only a few people can achieve it, says Michael. But there is another potential way to score hands-free ecstasy: You can try for a “nocturnal emission,” or—to put it in a less gross-sounding way—an orgasm in your sleep. Although it’s an involuntary response, reading a steamy story or thinking hot thoughts before you hit the hay may make it possible. I find foreplay…

Ginger Fizz Effervescent with a subtle kick ½ t. grated ginger 2 thin slices fresh mango 2 oz. mango juice 4 oz. ginger beer In a tall glass, muddle ginger and mango slices. Add mango juice and ginger beer, and stir. Add ice, and garnish with a slice of lime. So-Cal Mule For when you crave something light and citrusy 3 oz. sparkling limeade 2 oz. pear juice ¾ oz. fresh lime juice ¾ oz. maple syrup In a highball glass, combine limeade, juices, and maple syrup, and stir. Add ice, and garnish with a sprig of mint. Sparkling Tart Apple Fruity and bubbly with just the right amount of tang 5 oz. sparkling apple-grape juice ½ t. balsamic vinegar Pour juice into a wineglass, and add vinegar. Garnish with…

Daniella Mohazab will never forget how, while watching her undress from the waist down, her gynecologist smiled. A middle-aged man in khaki pants, George Tyndall, MD, didn’t leave the room after asking Daniella to remove her clothes. He stood there as she lay down on the exam table, then inserted two ungloved fingers into her vagina, feeling around for what felt like ages, pausing only to add lube. Dr. Tyndall explained that he was prepping her for an STI test, making it so the swab wouldn’t hurt when it entered her. Daniella, then 19, had never had a pelvic exam before. “It felt very sexual,” she says. “But I just assumed that’s how a normal gyno visit was done.” She’d already gotten weird vibes from Dr. Tyndall 10 minutes earlier…

We get it. The entire idea of investing may sound kind of daunting. For good reason—in the past, it’s been complicated, and just 19 percent of millennial women really know how to do it. But think about this: If you start putting a little dough each month toward buying stuff like stocks, you could score an extra $1.1 million during your lifetime, per a report by financial platform Ellevest. And you now have a simpler way to do it: microinvesting. It’s an app-based approach perfect for newbies that allows you to start with as little as $5. “Accessing Wall Street has felt tough for women, with high investing minimums that are actually sexist, since men make more than women,” says Ellevest cofounder Sallie Krawcheck. New platforms have fewer limitations, allowing…

@AuroraAstro CAPRICORN 12.22–01 .19 True, you typically DGAF about making sweeping resolutions, but the New Moon solar eclipse on the 5th is the perfect time to channel some clean-slate vibes. Things may get a little rocky overall on the 13th, but by the time verbal Mercury moves into visionary Aquarius on the 24th, you’ll be feeling clearheaded and confident. YOUR YEAR: By March, you’ll meet an unexpected lover who is good with words… and hands. Come July, you could be smitten (cue: couples trip), and September will bring a big break at work. AQUARIUS 01.20–02.18 You have the mic, so use it! Especially on the 6th, when your ruler, innovative Uranus, goes direct. That will help you start to tackle any communication problems. And when the Sun moves into your…

1. The second the clock strikes midnight on NYE, you’ll be: A Just getting started. Who’s ready for the most epic 2 a.m. bar crawl?! B Air-kissing your BFFs before they real-kiss their BFs. C Cracking open your new 2019 journal with your Future Is Female pen in hand. 2. Rent and food excluded, last year you spent the most money on: A Unredeemed (and now expired) Groupon deals for fancy caviar facials and goat yoga. B An unlimited data plan, so you can binge-stream romcoms whenever the thirst strikes. C Coffee, coffee, more coffee—and late-night Ubers home from work. 3. For your annual holiday card, you used a photo from: A Halloween. The only thing scarier than your Handmaid’s Tale costume is the length of your roots rn. B…

Confessions “I rushed into the bathroom at school to pee. While sitting down in a stall, I noticed a pair of huge sneakers passing by. Then a herd of boys came into the room. I was in the wrong bathroom! I jumped on top of the seat so my shoes wouldn’t give me away, and I sat like that for a whole five minutes.”—AMAN K., 23, STUDENT, HICKSVILLE, NY “I was working as a social-media assistant and accidentally retweeted a Leonardo DiCaprio post on my work account instead of my personal one. He had nothing to do with the brand I worked for, and that one tweet could have cost me my job!”—KAMARA W., 26, WRITER AND CONTENT CREATOR, TRINIDAD AND TOBAGO “I had started hooking up with someone when…

Show off your legs (and risk a temporary chill) with a silver mini and li’l black moto. Leathery pants and a bright neon knit make for casualcool layering.…

The latest style savers that started in the complexion aisle. 1 Prebiotics The balance of good and bad bacteria (aka the microbiome) on your skin is key to a clear complexion. Well, your scalp has a microbiome too. And when it’s out of whack? Expect itching, flaking, and irritation. Enter this scalp serum. Unlike many antifungal treatments, which seek to kill the bad stuff (but unfortunately also zap the good), this feeds beneficial bacteria with niacin so they can thrive, multiply, and control misbehaving bugs. 2 Micellar Water Just like the popular liquids that clean your face, shampoos are now being made with micelles, small cleansing molecules that lift dirt and oil—sometimes more gently than traditional formulas. Result: clean, healthy hair that’s never stripped or dehydrated. 3 Vitamin C Free…

How do I tell my BF of two years that I want him to go down on me more often? A Clearly he hasn’t been reading between the lines—or spending enough time between your legs—so don’t be shy. If you want oral, you must orate! Mouth off about where you’d like his mouth to be.…Okay, I’m getting carried away here, but my point is, I bet your boyfriend doesn’t have trouble letting you know when he’s craving a blow job, so if you want him to give you some below-the-belt attention, speak up. Say, “I love it when you go down on me—it’s been so long,” or suggest meeting him halfway (or upside down) in 69. The guy I’m seeing keeps calling me dude. I like him a lot, but…

Ask Dr. Ashton I’ve heard that not everyone has a 28-day menstrual cycle. True? Q Yes. Anything from 21 to 40 days is normal, according to the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists. But regardless of where you fall on this spectrum, your cycle should stay pretty consistent (and you should be able to predict when your period will come, give or take a day or two). If it varies more widely—say, 21 days apart one month, 39 the next—have your doctor check for a hormonal imbalance. Q Could drinking kombucha really help my UTI symptoms? Probably not. But 40 to 50 percent of urinary tract infections resolve without antibiotics, so if you like fermented tea, it doesn’t hurt to give it a try. Just note: You should always ask…

When body-positivity influencers like Tess Holliday and Jessamyn Stanley took to Instagram in the early 2010s, they cultivated a space where unaltered images of women’s bodies challenged beauty norms and where you didn’t need a flat belly or cellulite-free thighs to attract thousands of supportive comments. On a perfection-obsessed platform, their accounts gained millions of followers. Their message has finally gone mainstream, with major fashion brands expanding their sizing options and featuring women with diverse and often unretouched bodies in ad campaigns. Hop on the Aerie, ThirdLove, or Thinx social-media accounts and you’ll see models with soft curves and belly rolls posing alongside those with ripped abs. On the ASOS and Outdoor Voices sites, un-Photoshopped women of varying sizes rock spandex. J.Crew now has a line of size-inclusive clothing too.…

Meet the Avocado Burger 1 avocado, halved, pitted, and peeled2 TGreek yogurt seasoned with a drizzle of olive oil and a pinch of salt½ c. arugula1½ oz. smoked salmon A few thin radish slices1 t. lime juice Olive oil, for sprinkling Black sesame seeds ▶ Place one half of the avocado on a plate, with the cut side up. ▶ Spoon yogurt over the avocado surface. ▶ Layer on arugula, smoked salmon, and radish slices. ▶ Drizzle with lime juice. ▶ Top with the remaining avocado half. ▶ Sprinkle olive oil over the burger, and scatter black sesame seeds on top before serving snapping. ▶ Open your Amazon App▶ Tap the camera icon▶ Choose SmileCode▶ Scan to shop!…

Meet the Curvy Sweetie by Cosabella For larger busts and smaller ribcages, The Curvy offers bigger cups for more coverage with a smaller band under the bust. Wireless design with power-mesh lining for all-day comfort and support. Sized 28DD to 40H. Made in Italy. cosabella.com Challenge the Period Status Quo Stop believing what you’ve been told. There are more than two ways to deal with your period. And for so many reasons, way better than your average pads and tampons divacup.com Give. Back. Pack. This isn’t your average backpack. Not only because of its superchic look, or that perfect pop of color, but also because for each bag sold, STATE will support an American child in need…in the way they need it most. #GiveBackPack statebags.com Transform Your Hair With the…

FREE SPIRITS Mix embroidered jackets with loose blouses or textured cardis with ankle-length dresses. GOOD SPORTS Give a workout top new life by pairing it with prints, neon dresses, or pleated skirts. BEAUTY BONUS Balance your casual lewk with a fierce red lip. Slick on Chanel Rouge Allure Liquid Powder in Avant-Gardiste, $30. BORROWED FROM THE BOYS Who knew dressing like Jonah Hill could look chic? Hoodie + trench + guys’ pants = on trend. WEEKEND CHILL Roomy tees and velvet? Hell yeah. These clothes were made for slacking. BEAUTY BONUS Off-duty hair, but make it fashion. A topknot (keep it on lock with L’Oréal Paris Elnett Satin Hairspray Strong Hold, $15) gives DGAF vibes.…

Egyptian Foot A descending toe pattern might indicate that you are descended from royalty—or that, in general, you covet all the nice things. You may love being pampered and splurging for mini luxuries like mani-pedis. Greek Foot Constantly dishing out inspo? People with a long second toe are allegedly ultra creative (and maybe a tad impulsive). If this digit is narrower at the bottom and wider at the top, you might be very expressive, with some drama queen–like tendencies. Germanic Foot If your big toe rules over four others of equal length, chances are, you’re hardworking and recognized by others as being responsible and diligent. Roman Foot Those whose first, second, and third toes are all roughly the same length tend to dominate in sports. You radiate a well-balanced, athletic…