Innholdsfortegnelse for June 2018 i Cosmopolitan

This Month on Cosmopolitan.com Can’t get enough royal wedding? Neither can we (see page 138!). We’re also going HAM online, with ongoing coverage of all things Harry and Meghan and the May 19 event. If you suddenly feel empty after the I-dos, don’t stress. You’ll always be able to revisit our live tweets of the big day. Win It! SEE OUR JUNE COVER STAR IN CONCERT! You could win a trip to see Kesha live in Miami! The prize includes two tickets to The Adventures of Kesha and Macklemore show, a two-night hotel stay provided by Hilton, and round-trip airfare for two. Enter at KeshaMiami.Cosmopolitan.com, and see page 155 for details. SHE WHO DARES WINS Just Sayin’ Snap and share this month’s inspo on your social channels with the hashtag…

My happy place: Reading a book on the swing in my backyard in L.A. I have a pergola with vines and flowers that attract hummingbirds. I have a weakness for: Shrimp scampi. My mom used to make it every year on my birthday. I think it was store-bought, but I didn’t know that back then! My worst trait: I’m disorganized. My wife, Lauren, is the opposite, so when we finally moved in together, it was a journey. My weirdest quirk: If my foot brushes up against something, I have to brush against it with the other foot. I hide it pretty well, but it’s super weird. My most fearless moment: Skydiving. You never look at the sky the same way again. I hate it when: People use literally incorrectly. It…

Confessions “My BF and I had just split up, and I was still heartbroken. So my friends set me up on a blind date. I got to the restaurant before my date, so I sat down. When he walked in, he wasn’t what I’d expected. He spotted me and asked me my name. I lied and told him my name was Anna Marie. He walked around for 30 minutes before giving up and leaving. I felt bad, but a girl’s gotta do what a girl’s gotta do.”—SHAAKIRA W., 24, STUDENT, TALLAHASSEE, FL “My bestie and I pretended to be British on vacay. We met new friends and kept the act going.… We taught people British sayings we’d made up and even came up with details of the ‘town’ we were…

1 Yesterday, 12:13 P.M. Don’t expect to hear from me again. Today 7:11 P.M. I’m horny. 2 Hey This isn’t happening. Why? Because, last time, you ate pizza in the middle of having sex and then threw up all over my clothes Oh yeah, forgot about that. 3 Can I borrow your dog for a date? Seriously? Please, it will only be for one date, and I’ll never ask again! I told this girl on Tinder he was my dog, and now we’re supposed to be going on a hiking date with him. 4 So, I’m just throwing this out there, but would you want to have a 3-some with my fiancée and me? If not i understand. We actually don’t swing, but she wants to and I told her…

Make It Sexy A tie-front top, high-waisted wide legs, and platform sandals? Scorching. Make It Sweet Jean shorts, sneaks, and a printed cover-up lend easy, breezy vibes. Swimsuit As Bodysuit ‣ Open your Amazon App ‣ Tap the camera icon ‣ Choose SmileCode ‣ Scan to shop!…

1 Wet and Wild The risk: “Water weakens hair strands and makes them susceptible to stretching and potentially breaking,” says NYC hairstylist Stephen Thevenot. Combing a wet style stretches them even more. The fix: Dodge H2O altogether, and fake the look with gel. Spread a quarter-size amount into your palms, then slick hair back from your hairline, ideally with your fingers. Garnier Fructis Pure Clean Styling Gel, $4.50, drugstores 2 Badass Bends The risk: These waves only look chill. “When hair is heated with a curling iron, its protein [key to strong, healthy strands] is depleted, causing loss of moisture,” says Damien Carney, creative director of Schwarzkopf Professional. The fix: Defend hair before you start styling by spritzing on a heat-protectant spray. Already feeling the burn? Use a weekly treatment…

1 Dark Circles or Redness SKIN FIX Blue, purple, and red tones are the result of dilated blood vessels that peep through thin under-eye skin, says derm Shari Marchbein, MD. Try a cream with caffeine (like Sunday Riley’s), a vasoconstrictor that can temporarily shrink vessels, to help discoloration. CONCEALER TRICK It’s all about color correction. Cancel out blue or purple circles with a peach (for lighter skin tones) or orange (for darker complexions), says celebrity makeup artist Allan Avendaño. To neutralize redness, go green. Let the color set for a minute, then top with your favorite concealer. 2 Pigmentation SKIN FIX Are your under-eyes more brown than blue or red? “It’s likely due to excess pigment in the skin, which is mostly genetic and more common in women of color,”…

You Want a Clean Break You’ve had your good times, but you’re either ready to get serious with someone else or don’t want to continue. WHAT TO SAY: “This was so fun, but I’m not in a place where I want to keep things going.” WHY IT WORKS: You’re offering up a positive but also being clear. If you’re cool with staying friends, say so, but don’t promise anything you don’t really mean. You’re Catching Feelings Bring it up when you’re not between the sheets, suggests Dossie Easton, coauthor of The Ethical Slut. You won’t feel as vulnerable (and, um, you won’t be naked). WHAT TO SAY: “I know we agreed to keep things casual, but I’m actually starting to have feelings for you.” WHY IT WORKS: You’re acknowledging your…

Hint: not what it used to. As women continue to claim their fair share of power (at work, at home, in relationships), male behavior—and what it means to “be a man”—needs to be rapidly rethought…by both genders. Because while it may sound controversial, redefining masculinity shouldn’t rest solely on the shoulders of men. When major cultural shifts happen for half of our society, they affect the other half just as much. For instance, now that women are becoming more empowered in the workplace, men might have to take on additional duties at home or change the way they operate at work. This is prompting the need for conversations about new roles for both parties and how gender expectations, in general, should evolve. You may be thinking, Wait, this is the…

It’s the first thing you grab when you wake up and the last thing you touch at night (even after bae). You reach for it countless times in between and panic if you leave it at home. “You can become psychologically addicted to almost anything—including, and maybe even especially, your phone,” says Earl Miller, PhD, a professor of neuroscience at the Picower Institute for Learning and Memory at MIT. A smartphone is basically a mini dopamine factory, doling out hits of the feel-good brain chemical as a reward when you get Likes on social media or relieve boredom by scrolling Twitter. Unfortunately, “the dopamine system is not satiable, so you continue to crave more and more,” says clinical psychologist Elyssa Barbash, PhD, of DoctorElyssa.com. That’s why the average American ends…

Great: Exercise steers blood to your pleasure zones, paving the way for wowza sex. Not so great: Nearly 1 in 3 women reports pain during nookie—and docs suspect the rise of fitness culture may be partly to blame. “In the past few years, more women are complaining about painful intercourse,” confirms Tami Rowen, MD, a professor of obstetrics and gynecology at the University of California at San Francisco. Some of these aches occur in the pelvic floor, a hammock of muscles, nerves, and tissue that may be feeling a harsh burn from your gym routine. “As workouts have become more intense, pelvic-floor dysfunction has increased,” explains Lesli Lo, a pelvic-floor physical therapist at Northwestern Medical Group in Chicago. Classes like yoga, cycling, and barre can cause the area (which gets…

Pop (and Protect) Your Pout Who can be bothered with a full beat on beach day? All you need to make a statement is a bold lip. Just make sure your tube has SPF. Skin cancers on the lips can be especially dangerous, says dermatologist Kenneth Mark, MD, because they’re more likely to spread. Missha M Matt Lip Rouge SPF 17 ($15) comes in four bright, UV ray–blocking shades. Buff That Bod Score smooth, sexy skin with… 1 SALT Feeling extra flaky? “Salt is coarse, so it’s great for sloughing stubborn dry spots,” says NYC dermatologist Joshua Zeichner, MD. TRY Origins Ginger Body Scrub Smoothing Body Buffer, $40 2 SUGAR The sweet stuff is made of finer particles than salt is, and many formulas dissolve as you rub them in,…

1. Be Present Offer to hang out or grab coffee. Studies suggest that social connections may trigger hormones that can relieve traumatic stress. 2. Keep It Practical Instead of sending flowers or stuffed animals—which can just pile up—text when you’re at the grocery store and ask if they’re hungry, or offer a ride to therapy. 3. Ditch the Platitudes Advice like “everything happens for a reason” can seem dismissive of survivors’ pain. If they want to talk about it, listen patiently. If they don’t, chat about everyday things (your new man, celeb gossip) to remind them they’re more than a shooting victim.…

For decades, Cosmo has been encouraging our millions of readers to be fun and fearless. But even we know that feeling fearless 24/7/365 is impossible. (I mean, unless you were born without a survival instinct!) Our real objective is to get you to strive for fearlessness as often as you can so that you go after everything you want in life. Because fear is limiting. It prevents you from pursuing goals with less certain outcomes, like a bigger job, a better relationship, a new city. Here’s what I’ve discovered: Whenever I push doubt aside to do something a little scary, more often than not I end up wishing I’d done it sooner. I bet you’ve felt that way too. So…since we all sometimes need a (friendly) kick in the butt…

KJ Apa He plays Riverdale’s all-American icon Archie Andrews (catch the season two finale May 16 on The CW), but IRL, he’s a New Zealander through and through. Shooting Sexy Scenes “It’s weird with someone you don’t know that well. On a movie set, you have time to get to know the person and rehearse before shooting. Camila [Mendes, who plays Veronica] and I just had to dive into it. Now that we’re friends, it’s easier.” Dating Down Under “Guys in the States are a lot more confident than guys in New Zealand. There, if you go out with your mates, you all hang with one another because you’re too scared to talk to the girls. Being in the U.S. has made me way more confident. Also, having a New…

The 4 Sexiest Swimwear Trends ’60s ’tude Try retro prints, ruffles, sweetheart necklines, and high-waisted styles. ‘70s groove Go for rainbow colors, skimpy bottoms, fringe, and peekaboo crochet. ‘80s inspo It’s all about pops of neon, colorblocking, mesh details, metallics, and bold cutouts. ‘90s vibe Bring on sporty styling, vibrant hues, checkerboard designs, and logo mania. ‣ Open your Amazon App ‣ Tap the camera icon ‣ Choose SmileCode ‣ Scan to shop!…

Wear Them With… White Jeans Choose your fave cropped shape (from skinny to super wide), and let your foot print pop. A Straw Bag Ditch your typical leather tote, and keep your look summery from head to toe. A Sundress An ankle-skimming frock—in a solid hue or stripes of similar colors—makes a fab match. ‣ Open your Amazon App ‣ Tap the camera icon ‣ Choose SmileCode ‣ Scan to shop!…

Is higher SPF always better? Recent research from the Journal of the American Academy of Dermatology found that sunscreen with SPF 100 was significantly more protective than SPF 50. Do I need to wear SPF in the shade? Yes! Shade doesn’t block rays from all angles. In a JAMA Dermatology study, 78 percent of people who used only an umbrella burned versus 25 percent who used only SPF 100. I have dark skin. Do I really need SPF? Although you have more UV-protecting melanin, it’s equal to only SPF 4, max. And the 5-year melanoma survival rate in African-Americans is 26 percent lower than in Caucasians. Is the SPF in my makeup enough? Only if you apply a quarter-size dollop—the suggested amount of sunscreen for your face. Most people don’t…

Sitting Next to TMI “I’ve overheard so many ladies dissect lame texts from guys during pool rides. I wanted to tell them that these men are textbook losers. Girl, you can definitely do better!” —NICOLE, 25, PHILADELPHIA, PA Pls Lose My Number “After my ride, the driver texted me an invite to his reggae concert, but I straight-up ghosted him.” —ALISE, 28, BERKELEY, CA The Hangover Drive-Thru “Ugh, one night, I vommed while in my ride-share. I rolled down the window and threw up as the car was moving. Luckily, it was raining so the puke was washed away.” —JEN, 24, BOSTON, MA Big Little Lie “This hot driver picked me up at my hookup’s place. We started talking, and I didn’t want him to know I’d been with another…

“Bath bombs. They’re soaking in dirty, colored water.” —PAT K., 24 “It’s funny when girls stretch in random places. You’ll be talking, and suddenly, they’re bending like it’s a yoga class.” —ARNIE S., 20 “Why do you wear choker necklaces?” —JACK K., 20 “I never understand why it takes so long to put on makeup in the morning. What is all that stuff anyway?” —DENNIS L., 20 “Why do women have hair-tie collections that slowly vanish?” —JOSEPH Q., 25…

If the word cannabis still brings to mind blunts and laced brownies…girl, catch up! In 2018, there’s way more to weed than getting glued to your couch with the munchies. In fact, today’s hottest pot products don’t even get you high. But they do claim to slay stress and anxiety, relieve headaches, ease period cramps, soothe skin, improve sleep, and turbocharge your orgasms. And all with no smoke involved. Instead, you can simply rub on a body oil or moisturizer, snack on a chocolate bar, or sip a spiked coffee. The products’ secret ingredient? Cannabidiol, or CBD, the second most abundant chemical found in marijuana plants. Since it lacks the psychoactive properties of tetrahydrocannabinol (aka THC), CBD isn’t intoxicating. Research shows that it might, however, boost your mental and physical…

Space A quiz first diagnoses how you use your phone (how often you are lured in and for what purpose). You then set better goals, and Space tracks how closely you stick to them. Free on iOS and Android, findyourphonelifebalance.com Moment Enter the amount of time you want to spend on your phone each day and Moment will notify you when you have hit your limit. It will also log your use by apps, to help you ID your biggest time sucks. Free on iOS, inthemoment.io Freedom You can set it up to block apps, websites, or the entire internet for set periods of time. Override it if you must—unless you use the “locked mode,” which keeps you offline no matter what. $7 per month or $29 a year on…

TREND REPORT Chill on the Cheap A new crop of all-inclusive getaways makes hitting a morning sweat session seem almost as enticing as hitting the swim-up bar. 1 Omm Retreats Yogis who don’t want to spend all their time in tree pose (although there’s plenty of that) can also hike the Camino de Santiago through Spain, take a cooking class in Bali, or snorkel in Oaxaca, Mexico. From $550 for 6 days, ommretreats.com 2 Den Meditation Slay stress with a week of hiking, boating, and meditating in the Adirondacks. Or go on a New Year’s trip to Nicaragua that includes horseback riding and volcano hikes. From $1,000 for 7 days, denmeditation.com 3 Yogascapes Sightsee and snack on delish local eats in places like Morocco, Peru, and Joshua Tree National Park…

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I But Harrie wasn’t a photo-op-only princess. She soon pulled on gloves and planted her (royal) ass off, starting with her favorite: peonies. When she threw dirt on the landscaper by mistake, she quickly apologized. Despite himself, Mark was charmed. He sent her peonies the next day—with his number. ONCE UPON A TIME, there was a princess named Her Royal Highness Harriet Victoria Louise Alexandria. (Don’t worry, you can just call her Harrie.) She and her family ruled a small kingdom in Europe, but she was living in the U.S., working toward a PhD in early childhood development. One fateful day, Harrie went to see a new garden being planted at an inner-city elementary school. She took pictures with the kids, and they brought her around to meet the volunteers.…

Cognitive Processing Therapy (CPT) A form of talk therapy that helps reframe negative thoughts related to a traumatic event (e.g., “I can’t trust anyone”). Find a counselor at CPTForPTSD.com. Prolonged Exposure (PE) Patients gradually confront their fears until they feel less scary. For example, they might talk through a traumatic incident with a therapist, then eventually drive to the place where it happened. PE has been shown to significantly help up to 80 percent of patients suffering from chronic PTSD. Search for a trained therapist at Locator.APA.org. Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) Patients recall an event while tracking a therapist’s finger movements with their eyes. Some scientists think this alters how the brain processes memories and lessens their emotional vividness. Visit EMDRIA.Site-YM.com for more information. SOURCES: AMERICAN PSYCHOLOGICAL ASSOCIATION,…

Triangle If your print has three distinct points (they can be rounded), chances are, you like to help others succeed and are good at helping friends shine—just like a great teacher or coach. Rectangle/Square If your mark is boxy, your BFFs might look to you to solve their problems… and for good reason. You’re a down-to-earth and practical person. Wavy If your top and bottom lips look wavy, you are most likely creative and like to think outside the box. In all relationships, it’s important for you to find people who “get” you. Diamond If there’s a point at the top, bottom, and sides of your pucker, your sparkly personality attracts people. It’s likely you roll with a big crew and tend to be besties with everyone. Giving back is…

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Hot Blockbusters! Must Have Beach Reads! When Life Gives You Lululemons, $27; When Katie Met Cassidy, $25; Campaign Widows, $27; So Close to Being the Sh*t, Y’all Don’t Even Know, $19; Love and Ruin, $28; The Favorite Sister, $26, amazon.com ‣ Open your Amazon App ‣ Tap the camera icon ‣ Choose SmileCode ‣ Scan to shop!…

At the start of my career, I lived in a “two body” world. One was full of beautiful white girls who would excitedly be like “OMG, you are so skinny!” The other was my beautiful African-American community of friends and family, who were always trying to fatten me up. So when I gained weight around the age of 22, after years of successful runway modeling, I didn’t care. All the black people clapped their hands, like my body was coming along nicely and I’d finally started listening to what they’d been telling me since I was 12. The modeling world, on the other hand, felt differently. They weren’t happy. In fact, they were pissed. I will never forget a certain man from the industry and the look on his face…

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Spice Up Your Look Monochromatic makeup gets a fearless makeover with a one-two pop of paprika. Play with opposite textures—lustrous lids, a mouth that’s matte—for an ultramodern take.…

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Hey, enough trash talk about millennials being the hookup generation. Plenty of single women have been seeing and having sex with whomever they want, whenever they want, at least since Cosmo’s beloved late HBIC Helen Gurley Brown wrote the book on it (Sex and the Single Girl, 1962). Back then, it was controversial for women to casually date or have uncommitted sex. But today? It should be anything but. Pop culture is full of women getting theirs with no strings attached. Issa Rae’s character on Insecure juggles what she calls a hotation of men. And on The Bold Type, journalist Jane Sloan expands her sexual experiences by periodically hooking up with a sexy coworker. Real women are also in on the action. Forty percent of singles in the U.S. have…

Sploshing: Sounds kinda gross, but it can actually be really sexy. It’s the act of playing with food to arouse your (and your partner’s) carnal appetite. But before you start hauling groceries into bed, know that only certain eats are pleasure inducing. Others are just a straight-up mess…or even hazardous. Then there’s the golden rule of frisky food play: Safe sustenance can go all over the body but almost never inside the vagina, where it could cause infection, says New York ob-gyn Alyssa Dweck, MD, coauthor of The Complete A to Z for Your V. Follow this guide to naughty nibbles. Eff, Yes! Chocolate Sauce Just a drizzle makes naked skin taste sinful, and it contains phenylethylamine, a compound linked to dopamine, a chemical your brain releases when you’re in…

Velvet Swing This lube—which also contains THC—promises to take your orgasm higher (sorry). $25 for .44 oz., velvetswing.com for retailers Om Edibles CBD Raw Sipping Cacao Spread on toast or mix with milk and you may get a mood boost. From $28 for 4 oz., omedibles.org for retailers H. Hemp Company Super Breath Blast This spray freshens your mouth and may relax you. $25 for 1.3 oz., honesthemp.com Verte Essentials Ascent Ampoules These pills claim to “reboot” digestion and help treat fine lines when rubbed on skin. $62 for 5 ampules, verteessentials.com Green Roads Gourmet CBD Coffee A java that supposedly wakes you up and takes the edge off. $55 for 8 oz., greenroadsworld.com Whoopi & Maya Rub Yes, as in Goldberg. Her pot balm, made with a blend of…

One of the top stress sources for women: money, per the American Psychological Association—more specifically, the lack thereof. Sixty-seven percent of millennials have less than $1,000 in savings, and 46 percent of those have $0! Worrying about this sitch is warranted, says Sallie Krawcheck, CEO and founder of Ellevest, a digital investment platform for women. Having no cash cache doesn’t just threaten your retirement, it can put your well-being at risk right now. Let’s say, for example, that your boss is a monster and work has become unbearable, affecting your mental health and relationships, or that your mate is borderline emotionally abusive and you’re desperate to move out and get your own place. Without a financial cushion, you may feel stuck in these scenarios. That’s why you need an f-you…

1. Your BFF’s beach party is days away, and your new haircut is meh as hell. You: —A Bolt to a different hairstylist and go platinum. —B Decide to get banged…first at the salon, then maybe IRL? —C Pull out your cute sun hat and make do. 2. You spot a dime pumping iron across the gym. What’s your move? —A Claim to be a pro masseuse and offer a post-gym rubdown. —B Ask if he’ll spot you on a heavy weight set and wait for a green light to flirt. —C It’s no time to manhunt when you’ve got both sweat stains and visible panty lines. 3. In an elevator with your company’s CEO, you spend the ascent: —A Presenting your pitch for a great new product: caffeinated condoms.…