Innholdsfortegnelse for April 2016 i Cosmopolitan

1. DIG IN to the new Broadway show Waitress (based on the cute-as-pie movie), with music penned by Sara Bareilles. 2. TRADE IN your boots for chic sneaks or sandals from Misha Nonoo’s luxe new collection for Aldo Rise ($90, aldoshoes.com). 3. DRESS for your dream job: Rent the Runway (app available for iOS) branches out into workwear this spring. 4. GET your groove and your grub on at Zac Brown Band’s Southern Ground Music & Food Festival in Charleston (Apr. 16 to 17). 5. SET THE DVR to “record series.” The fourth season of Inside Amy Schumer premieres April 21 on Comedy Central. 6. DITCH the baggie this 4/20 and stick your stash in one of AnnaBís’s odor-controlled bags ($295, annabisstyle.com). 7. REPORT to Melissa McCarthy, crushing it as…

1 “I was in a dance recital doing a quick change. I couldn’t find my tights, so I grabbed another pair. The entire front of the crotch was gone. I had shorts on, but you could see the torn pieces. I fully performed in crotchless tights! Mortifying.” —JORIE G., 21, STUDENT, MIAMI, FL 2 CELEB CONFESSION “My brother [Haley Joel Osment] and I once, without knowing, auditioned for parts that would have had us playing each other’s love interests. We were horrified when we found out. Thank god we didn’t get them!” —EMILY OSMENT, YOUNG & HUNGRY 3 “I lied to my boss about following up with someone and proceeded to fabricate an entire e-mail chain by replying to myself and changing the dates.” —LOUISE S., 23 4 “I…

1. WILL YOU WON’T YOU WANT ME? by Nora Zelevansky When Marjorie Plum, once queen bee of her Manhattan prep school, is forced into a pauper life, she realizes starting at the bottom might get her to the top. 2. ELIGIBLE, by Curtis Sittenfeld Pride and Prejudice is reincarnated with NYC editor Lizzy Bennet, whose return to her Ohio hometown gets messy when hot (and cold) doc Fitzwilliam Darcy shows up. 3. SCARLETT EPSTEIN HATES IT HERE, by Anna Breslaw What happens when a social outcast pens a burn book disguised as fan fiction? Cosmo writer Breslaw brings Scarlett Epstein face to face with The Populars. 4. MILLER’S VALLEY, by Anna Quindlen When the town where Mimi Miller grew up is faced with destruction, big questions arise: What makes a…

WHAT I ’D WEAR FOR BEACH “I’m spending a few days in Miami for a wedding. I love that these pieces can transition from lunch with friends to the beach. Just wear a swimsuit under the peasant blouse and voilà! I’m all about light packing.” —KATHY LEE, senior accessories editor @KathyGLee OFFICE “Matching coordinates— co-ords—are having a moment right now and are great for looking pulled together at work without too much thought. I’d wear this set with a bright bag and a bold lip.” —SARAH CONLY, fashion market director @SarConly…

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Mornings were the worst. I felt dread before I even opened my eyes. I knew what I’d see in the mirror, but each day, I hoped it would be different. It never was. My teenage face was still crowded with painful acne cysts ranging from red to purple, like a Martian landscape. I hated looking at myself, so I could hardly blame the reactions I got from others. Strangers at the grocery store told me what I’d done to cause my acne (used too much hair spray, drank too much soda). My homeroom gave me a group lesson on how to wash my face while I fought back tears and listened. More than once, I found Oxy pads on my desk, a not-so-subtle suggestion. Once, a boy asked me out,…

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If you’re a head case while waiting for a big reveal—Did I get into grad school? Is he going to propose on my birthday?—you might be doing yourself a favor. “Keeping only a positive outlook can backfire,” says Kate Sweeny, PhD, whose research was published recently in the journal Emotion. “If the news is good, it will feel underwhelming. If it’s bad, you’ll be unprepared, which can be overwhelming.” To wait right, spend the time distracting yourself (seek out absorbing activities, like tackling that 800-page Hamilton biography) and prepping for both outcomes. Creating a game plan, such as scheduling dinner with a friend to celebrate or commiserate, will get you ready to accept any news. 46 PERCENTAGE OF PEOPLE WHO REPORTED BEING “PPHUBBED” (PARTNER PHONE SNUBBED) BY THEIR BAE. STOP…

You’re three Proseccos deep, his hand is on your thigh, and your loins are sizzling like a plate of shrimp fajitas. You know this date’s going to end with sexy time. There’s just one question: Your place or mine? Personally, I am all about the home-court advantage. Going to a new guy’s house is taking a risk! Sure, he might live in a gorgeous home with an infinity pool and a NordicTrack. But what if he lives in a freezing basement with an illegal ferret named Scratchy? Here are three reasons you should never go to a dude’s place for first-time effing. 1. Boy Bathroom Have you ever been inside a 20something dude’s bathroom? It’s basically a Where’s Waldo of rogue pubes. There’s never any hand soap, and the toilet…

THE OTHER WEEKEND, my friend had a drunken bar make-out with a dude who turned out to have a “sort of” girlfriend. Before that, she spent a few months dating a man who—dickhead alert—was secretly married with a child. “My therapist thinks I’m only attracted to emotionally unavailable men,” she told me afterward. This pissed me off, because people used to suggest that to me too, judgmentally, like I was broken and masochistically handpicking guys who’d poke at my wounds. Now that I’m in a healthy relationship, I look back at all my past relationships and realize what BS that “emotionally unavailable” pronouncement is. 1 It’s Blame-y and Baseless The idea that we go after emotionally unavailable partners is a put-down used to shame and blame single women. It puts…

A LOT OF GUYS say it three beers in or, as I have, no beers in: If my wife made enough money, I’d love to be a househusband. Now, I don’t have a house, just an apartment in Brooklyn. And I’ve had a wife only as of December. But I do have a couch, and I’d love to sit on it even more than I already do. Especially if it were with the blessing of my new spouse. I’d keep our place tidy, grocery shop, do laundry when the hamper filled up, and clean the shower just often enough. Maybe I’d even get into cooking. If we were to have kids, I’d become the cool dad: unencumbered by the stress of work, able to hold a baby in one hand…

We’re horny...and not thinking clearly. And it’s not like (some) women haven’t expressed interest in our penises before. Women don’t see my penis IRL and recoil. They’re attracted. It’s received warmly. Why should a pic be different? Because sex, of course, requires context. Many men, however, require astonishingly little to be convinced they’re moments from sealing the deal. And by that, I mean horny enough to forget that a dick, out of context, isn’t appealing. The unsolicited dick pic almost never works as an overture, but when it does, it becomes the stuff of legend. One friend of mine (every guy has a friend like this) had success once. The girl responded positively and later slept with him. Now, he constantly chases that dragon, seeking another hit. With that mind-set,…

No-BS responses to questions you can only ask Cosmo E -MAIL YOUR SEX QUESTIONS TO SEXQANDA @COSMOPOLITAN.COM. Q/ So I finally Googled what Nicki Minaj’s “Truffle Butter” song means. Oh. My. God. Do people really do that…and is it safe? A/ Once you know the meaning behind the song, the way you’ll think about the condiment will never be the same. If you’re okay with that, read on.…“Truffle butter” is the substance that forms around the vagina when you switch from anal to vaginal sex. And no disrespect to Nicki, but it’s a great way to get a UTI, says gynecologist Elizabeth Poynor, MD. Compared to the vagina, the anal region houses higher concentrations of bacteria, like E. coli for instance, and if you’re switching in the same session, you…

“YOU CAN BE A PRETTY FACE ALL DAY, BUT WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO WITH THAT PRETTY FACE? MY ANSWER TO THAT IS, ‘I’M GOING TO CHANGE THE WORLD AND MAKE HER FASHIONABLE WHILE I’M AT IT.’” BEAUTY TIP NAIL THE LOOK OF FALSIES, MINUS THE MESS, WITH LASH STAR BEAUTY FULL CONTROL LASH SCULPTING MASCARA , $35, CREATED BY TRACY MURPHY (WHO DID ASHLEY’S MAKEUP HERE!). “DON’T LIKE THE TERM ‘PLUS-SIZE.’ IT’S JUST NOT HELPING WOMEN. I’M READY TO GET RID OF IT. IF YOU HAVE TO LABEL ME, I LIKE TO BE CALLED ‘CURVY-- SEXYLICIOUS.’” “WE’RE IN A GEN ER ATION OF WOMEN EMPOWERMENT —AN ERA WHEN YOUR GENDER, YOUR SIZE, AND HOPEFULLY SOON, YOUR RACE WILL NOT MATTER AT ALL. THAT, TO ME, IS SEXY.”…

WATCHING the Academy Awards last year, Cindy Robbins was struck by Patricia Arquette’s acceptance speech for best supporting actress. After making the requisite round of thank-yous, Arquette went there: “It’s our time to have wage equality once and for all and equal rights for women in the United States of America,” she said. Robbins is the executive vice president who heads up global human resources at Salesforce, a cloud computing software company in San Francisco. She began to wonder: Are we paying women fairly? With her colleague Leyla Seka, senior vice president and general manager of Salesforce Desk.com, they started reviewing salaries, one by one, for 17,000 employees, and they found some women were being paid less than their male counterparts (although there were also some men being paid less…

SPILLS That, um, expressionist art that’s happening in the microwave and fridge? Here’s your game plan.... Microwave It Away Pour 2 cups of water and ½ cup of white vinegar into a microwave-safe bowl. Put the micro on full power for three minutes, and let the steam sit for two more so it loosens food bits. Then wipe the walls with a paper towel. Layer Up the Fridge Lay down plastic place mats in your fridge to catch goop. When spills happen, let them dry, then wipe the mat with a soapy scrub sponge ($10 for 6, casabella.com). laundry DITCH THE IRON Glide the My Little Steamer Deluxe ($30, hsn.com) along hanging dresses and shirts before you bolt out the door. EVEN EASIER . . . Spritz a bottom-of-the-pile tee…

SHANELLE Matthews 31, OAKLAND, CA ASPIRATION 8WKS “I was in college, and I relied on my partner, who was a few years older than I was, to take care of birth control. I was unsure of the mechanics of sex—I never really got any sex ed. You can’t divorce my race from my experience. I had a family member who would remind me time and again that [getting pregnant] was the expectation in society for black teenage girls. There’s so much shame around that, which is partly why I didn’t tell my track coach the truth about why I had to take a week off.” 1. TALK TO A DOCTOR IF YOU HAVE AN OB-GYN YOU TRUST Best case: You’ve discussed birth control and abortion and know she’ll talk to…

33, NEW JERSEY D&E 21WKS Dear Cosmo Reader, I do not regret my choice. But that hasn’t made my experience easy. I began writing about it as therapy, then I heard about state after state proposing 18- or 20-week abortion bans…and candidate after candidate supporting them. And I felt compelled to take my private experience public. In September of 2014, my husband and I went to see my ob-gyn for our 20-week anatomy ultrasound. The results were “concerning,” said our doctor, who recommended we see a maternal-fetal expert. Our baby had a skeletal disorder called thanatophoric dysplasia, which causes underdeveloped lungs, among other ailments. The name translates from Greek to “death bearing abnormal formation.” Gravely, she told us that if our baby survived birth, he would die soon after. We…

@Regan_Rudolph10 Actually obsessed with @Cosmopolitan food article [“When Did Food Get So Scary?”]! Dietetics major or not, everyone should read it. COSMO CONVO Thank you for writing “The Swing Set” and giving readers an in-depth look at open and polyamorous relationships. I love learning about unfamiliar concepts, but I didn’t appreciate the jab insinuating that religious upbringings dictate monogamy. I think the choice to be monogamous or polyamorous is unrelated to religion. —LAURA PHELON, 26, VIA IN-BOX Great reporting (and fun read) by @TaffyAkner on human sexuality, a very difficultto-report-on subject. —JULIE SCELFO, VIA TWITTER I really appreciate that the author understands that there are many nuances to the umbrella term nonmonogamous and the relationship is built to suit the people involved and is dependent on trust, cooperation, and communication.…

“He walked over, jerked his shirt and pants off—he had no underwear on— and proceeded to give me a very energetic, naked lap dance. Not hot.” —BRITTANY D., 25 “He was acting uncomfortable. Then he told me he’d used a hair-removal cream on his balls right before leaving the house.” —SHELLY H., 39 “He was so boring during dinner that when we went to the movies, I fell asleep.” —ALLIE D., 30 “He texted me that he’d be late. Then he said he had to change a tire. Then he got pulled over for a taillight that was out. Then I got a call from a cop asking me to pick the guy up because his license was expired. Ugh.” —CAIT J., 26 “Right before we were about to have…

IF YOU ARE single, you know that feeling when you’re working until 9 p.m. and your colleagues left hours ago to relieve the sitter, make it to the in-laws’ dinner, or attend their spouse’s office party. Of course, the struggle to manage familial obligations with work is real. But at present, women are almost as likely to be single as they are to be married. Around 46 percent of adults ages 25 to 34 are unmarried. Yet most socially approved pauses in life still accrue to those with families. And all the single people? Well, they get left to pick up the slack while their colleagues honeymoon or head to Suzie’s school play. The assumption that a single woman’s life is somehow less crowded and stressful or her schedule is…

CancÚn Get that D! Vitamin D, that is, in vibrant embroidery and playful tassles made for frolicking in the sun. Las Vegas Feelin’ lucky? Roll the dice on your next party look by pairing an LBD with gilded bling that screams big spender, on or off the Strip. Park City Hit the ski lift in layers of fringed knits and standout snow gear—or take the swag straight to après-ski.…

1. Prep Start with a ridgefilling base coat (Essie makes a great one, $8.50, essie.com) to ensure polish dries flawlessly. 2. Pick a Design Opt for opposing shades on the colorwheel (try a blue base with an orange tip), pair opposite textures (say, a sparkly gunmetal and a creamy neutral), or go with a nontraditional, graphic design at the tip (like the crisp cutout at Cushnie Et Ochs, above, or melting effect at Marques’Almeida, far right). 3. Paint a Perfect Line Use a firm nail-art brush (we swear by Sally Hansen’s trio of different sizes in the I <3 Nail Art Brush Kit, $5.50, drugstores) instead of the flimsy one built into your polish cap, or fake it with stickers (we love Miss Pop’s New Moon collection for Tattify, $8,…

IN THE DARK corners of YouTube and Reddit, acne is having a moment. Type in blackheads and enter a black hole of extraction videos. These homemade films are often grainy and shaky, yet some have racked upward of several million views. But when Cali-based derm Sandra Lee, MD, hit the scene in late 2014, amateur hour was clearly over. Known as Dr. Pimple Popper, Dr. Lee’s highdef clips have amassed more than 750,000 Instagram followers, and she now has a virtual gross-out empire. So what’s the draw? Bonding Over Blemishes Sometimes seeing something icky—but authentic—can make you feel better about yourself. “Humans are a social species, so it’s exciting to see others participate in behavior that is usually seen as embarrassing or gross,” says Matthew Traube, a psychotherapist who specializes…

25 PERCENTAGE OF INSURED WOMEN OF CHILDBEARING AGE WHO F ILLED AN OPIOID RX. THESE MEDS MAY CAUSE BIRTH DEFECTS — CONTRACEPTION IS CRUCIAL. SOURCE: CDC DATA 2008 TO 2012 KNOW THE SIGNS “Ovarian cancer symptoms, including bloating, stomach or pelvic pain, and frequent urination, can be mistaken for IBS,” says gynecological oncologist Sharyn N. Lewin, MD. If gastro remedies don’t help, ask for a CAT scan. Cervical cancer rarely has early symptoms, but abnormal cells can often be caught with a Pap smear and treated early. MAKE THAT APPOINTMENT ALREADY Women are more likely to see their hairstylist regularly than their ob-gyn. Not okay. Even if you need a Pap smear only every three years, you need to see your ob-gyn annually, says Dr. Lewin. “Sexual partners and family…

YOU’VE GOT A BADASS JOB…that’s super demanding. Tinder matches are piling up, and they all want dates. And your squad makes you feel #Blessed, but damn if they don’t make a ton of plans! You’ll sleep when you’re dead, right? No way, says Arianna Huffington, president and editor-in-chief of the Huffington Post Media Group and author of The Sleep Revolution. Skipping sleep has become a badge of honor in America, she says, but it’s actually making us less happy, less productive, and more prone to weight gain. She sat down with Cosmo to explain the importance of enough zzz’s and how to catch more of them. Q/ A lot of women might think lack of sleep isn’t a big deal because it’s not a chronic issue. It’s just been one…

THE QUESTION has never been “Am I crazy?” but rather “Am I so crazy that I’m doomed to be alone all my life?” As the child of a mentally ill poet and a raging alcoholic philosophy professor who gave me away to be raised by their even crazier psychiatrist, I worried I might be too warped to ever fit perfectly against somebody else. That my crazy parts would keep all the good, sane people away. In a way, this is exactly what happened. I felt dented and broken in so many ways that my 20s and 30s were absolutely littered with failed relationships. But the brilliant thing about growing older is that you care less. I realized it was hopeless to try to pull myself together and act normal and…

“Are you really [an X]??” Asking him about his interests will get him, well, interested in you. Try “Are you really into salsa dancing?” Or say “Did you really vacation in Vietnam? That’s my dream!” You’re showing an immediate connection to some aspect of his life, and he’ll be eager to impress you even more. “I have no idea if we would get along, but I had to send you a message just because you also love [X].” Men feel safe and more open when they know that the woman they’re talking to approves of their passion for a particular band/book/cereal. Also, by telling him “I have no idea if we would get along,” you’re subtly challenging him to prove that you would, which drives him to please you. “So,…

Beauty Tip A METALLIC MANI MAKES ANY OUTFIT COOLER. SWIPE NAILS WITH ESSIE NAIL POLISH IN NO PLACE LIKE CHROME, $8.50. The last time I saw Kaley Cuoco, it was raining: gobs and gobs of gray water, dropping hard and vertical onto Burbank. But inside the restaurant, she was ebullient and cheerful and 20 minutes early, all of which are things that celebrities being interviewed generally aren’t. Ryan Sweeting, the tennis player she’d just married after dating him for only three months, was home, sick. We ate, and she ordered him soup to go. “I’m a good wife,” she told me back then. She’d married him in a swoop of love and optimism, and she was self-conscious about the haters on Twitter, and she had just starred in a comedy,…

1 Embrace an Idea “Find something that you know a lot about and that you’re really fired up about,” says Shaan Pruden, senior director, partnership management at Apple, who oversees the company’s relationships with app developers. One starting point: Think about what’s bugging you. Robyn Exton founded the lesbian dating app HER after using a few terrible dating sites. “They were all built for men. It was about whom the closest person was that moment,” she recalls. “A lot of them would have guys with profiles asking for a threesome or trying to convert you, and it was really frustrating.” Ruzwana Bashir was driven to cofound the activity-booking app Peek after spending 20 hours researching things to do for her upcoming trip to Istanbul. “I thought, Wouldn’t it be great…

Everything Is a Vase SKILL LEVEL: RIDIC -EASY Empty wine bottles, perfumes, even shot glasses can hold stems, Porcaro says. One is a cute gift for a BFF. A group cascading down a table is an Instaworthy centerpiece. Greens Are Gorge SKILL LEVEL: YOU’VE GOT THIS Start by placing greens— ferns, seeded eucalyptus, and dusty miller leaves—in a vase, then add bigger blooms to the mix. Spin the vase as you go to fill holes. FLOWER GIRL’ S TOP TIPS 1. SHOP SMART Choose hardy flowers (roses, carnations, or ranunculus) that won’t wilt right away, and check the stems to make sure they’re not brown. 2. PICK A PALETTE Go for a twocolor scheme, or play around with different shades of the same color. 3. MAKE THE CUT Before placing…

ZERO Abortions performed on U.S. military bases (except in cases of rape, incest, and health). Women may potentially seek unsafe abortions off base. SOURCE: NATIONAL ABORTION FEDERATION *CONGRATS, YOU’RE IN A SAFE ZONE CALIFORNIA , CONNECTICUT, ILLINOIS, MONTANA , NEW JERSEY, NEW YORK, OREGON, VERMONT, AND WASHINGTON HAVE NO MAJOR RESTRICTIONS. 3Number of states (cough—North Dakota, Ohio, and Texas—cough, cough) where doctors must give women seeking the abortion pill a regimen of mifepristone that’s based on an outdated FDA protocol, potentially increasing their risk of side effects. FEET OF MANDATED SEPARATION BETWEEN VISITORS AND PROTESTORS AT ABORTION CLINICS IN COLORADO AND MONTANA, IMPROVING PATIENT SAFETY. RESTRICTIONS KEY Medication abortion can be performed only by a licensed physician, which excludes nurse practitioners, certified nurse midwives, and physician assistants, limiting providers. Abortion…

1.You have a hangover and need carbs, stat. Plan of attack? a. Max out your data plan with groupchat brunch GIFs, then wait two hours for a table for 20. b. Head to your standing res, and shun anyone who shows up with a random plus-one. c. Order in. Instructions: Bring BEC directly to bed. 2. You find a funny Insta meme to “tag your besties” in, so you: a. Tag your top 40, then brace for a tidal wave of notifications. b. Save it to your secret #SquadGoals Pinterest board. c. Comment #FollowBack with your parakeet’s personal account handle. 3.You be up in the club like: a. A pride of lions herded around the DJ booth, monopolizing the dance floor. b. Huddled into a human bermuda triangle—no one gets…

MEANWHILE, IN SWITZERLAND... At The Girls’ Lounge during the World Economic Forum in Davos, Intel boss-lady Roz Hudnell (right, with Cosmo’s Laura Brounstein) breaks down what it really takes to be a successful woman in tech. Some choice advice: “Seize the power to be different.” For more, see p. 182. GET ALL THE COSMOS Download the Texture® app and subscribe to get connected to more than 165 of the world’s best magazines (and years of back issues). Check out must-reads before they hit newsstands, and hit up the most popular stories on social media with exclusive digital-only extras. Add to “My Collections” to read and share anytime. THE TABLET OR VISIT TEXTURE.COM FOR A FREE TRIAL TODAY.…

Q/ What’s the best way to make a good first impression? “Before entering a meeting, take the initiative to research and form educated opinions about important topics so that you have an insightful position to share if and when the time is right. Technology can be a major distraction, so leave your phone or laptop behind if it will not add anything to the meeting. Also, be on time or ideally, a couple of minutes early, and dress in a polished and professional manner.” Q/ A lot of women feel like they’re frauds at work or really don’t know what they’re doing. How can we manage those insecurities? “Start off by listening to the people around you. Absorb as much knowledge as you can, and if you don’t know the…

LOSING IT “I was 15, in Mexico. I met an Italian girl from The Bronx. I‘m an Italian kid—I mean, my name is Nico Luigi Tortorella—so it was like, ‘I’ve met the love of my life.’ We went to my hotel room and watched Scarface. It was ‘Say hello to my little friend’…literally. When she left, I went to my parents’ room. My mom and I tell each other everything. So I said, ‘I just lost my virginity!’” MAKE IT A VIRGIN “I got sober more than a year ago. It’s easy to fall madly in love when you’re wasted, but when you’re sober, you’re completely different people. The first time trying to have sex sober was...well, it took some getting used to. But it’s been great.” GOING SOFT “It…

Coachella APRIL 15 TO 17, 22 TO 24 | INDIO, CALIFORNIA | COACHELLA.COM WHO’S PLAYING A$AP Rocky, Calvin Harris, Disclosure, Ellie Goulding, Guns N’ Roses, Halsey, The 1975, James Bay, Sia, Major Lazer, Grimes, Flume Ultra MARCH 18 TO 20 | MIAMI, FLORIDA | ULTRAMUSICFESTI VAL.COM WHO’S PLAYING Avicii, Icona Pop, Chet Faker, David Guetta, Kygo, Tiesto, AlunaGeorge, Zedd, Martin Garrix, The Chainsmokers, Robin Schulz, Duke Dumont, Thomas Jack Stagecoach APRIL 29 TO MAY 1 | INDIO, CALIFORNI A | STAGECOACHFESTI VAL.COM WHO’S PLAYING Sam Hunt, Carrie Underwood, The Band Perry, Luke Bryan, Little Big Town, Lee Ann Womack, The Doobie Brothers, Eric Church…

AROMATHERAPY IS hardly new: From ancient Greece to hippie co-ops, dabbing your body with essential oils or soaking in a lavender-laced tub has been credited with enhancing your state of mind. But now, beauty brands are spiking their face creams with aromatic formulas, hoping the direct path to your nose will intensify the effect (with the bonus of smoothing out your wrinkles!). “Depending on the fragrance and the percentage of essential oils in it, skin care can have a major effect on your mood,” says Mary Leber, a consultant for Kneipp, which sells products featuring essential oils to energize and calm the senses. Once you apply it to your face, the scent travels a short distance through your nostrils, up your olfactive nerve to your limbic system, a part of…

PIN THIS! Given how many memes there are about lost bobby pins (“I’ve got 99 bobby pins, and I can’t find one!”), the struggle to hold on to these suckers is real. Get a magnetic knife bar, which looks cool with a mix of bright pins like Remington Just Stay Pastel Bobby Pins, $3, drugstores. PICKUP STICKS If your makeup brushes are lying around your bathroom or at the bottom of your bag, they’re collecting germs. A diner-style straw dispenser is a cute way to keep them clean and at arm’s reach. CASE CLOSED Edit your makeup stash down to your VIP items, then pop them into these stackable, acrylic organizers—a dead ringer for the fancy ones like the Ice Box (around $400!) that celebs obsess over.…

SNEAKS THAT FEEL AMAZING SAUCONY KINVARA 7 At just 6.6 ounces, these lightweight sneaks will help you pick up the pace so you can finally break your PR. BROOKS TRANSCEND 3 The laser-cut mesh upper on these colorful kicks keeps your feet well-ventilated during long sweat sessions. MIZUNO WAVE CATALYST The perfect everyday running shoes, these will give you the support you need to log lotsa miles. The soft upper fits feet like a glove. NEW BALANCE FRESH FOAM 1080 Super stable with hella cushioning, these trainers will keep you comfy through 5Ks and half marathons. DANIELLE IS DIGGING… ANTI–CAMEL TOE LEGGINGS Nothing ruins post-gym brunch like realizing your spandex capris have created an unsexy crotch situation. But Prismsport leggings (from $82, prismsport.com) work for fitness and Sunday Funday. The…

Nothing beats a meal in a bowl. For a lower-calorie fix that still packs protein, try poke. The Hawaiian favorite (pronounced poh-KAY) is raw fish piled atop rice and veggies—and it’s landed on the mainland. Make it at home for you and three friends with this recipe from Dakota Weiss, executive chef at Sweetfin Poke in L.A. Expert tip: Buy sashimi-grade fish, and avoid pieces with muted colors or a fishy smell. California Winter Poke 1½ lb. fresh ahi tuna loin, cut into ½-inch cubes 2 avocados, cubed ⅓ cup pomegranate seeds 3 leaves shiso, cilantro, or mint, chopped fine 1 Thai green pepper, chopped fine 3 t. toasted sesame seeds 3 scallions, chopped fine 1 T sesame oil 4 T ponzu Mix all ingredients together, and serve over a…

IT’S DUSK AT MYSTERYLAND, a three-day EDM festival in upstate New York, and 28-year-old Kellye “Mohawk” Greene is racing against time. Having finally located her booth uphill from Steamboat Stage (which belches smoke from twin stacks along with an endless stream of bass-heavy music), she unloads boxes of earplugs, condoms, and rubber bracelets that read Say “Know” to Drugs. She sets out informational cards on substances ranging from nicotine to LSD and hangs a neon yellow DanceSafe banner just as the grounds open. With her signature mohawk and colorful plastic bracelets, Greene looks like many of the festivalgoers. Unlike them, she’s not here to play in interactive light domes and listen to Space Jesus and Diplo. As the volunteer head of the New York chapter of DanceSafe—a nonprofit with 14…

“LET’S DO AN ACTIVITY,” I’d say, holding out a big strip of tape to a dozen wide-eyed eighth-graders. I explained the game: Press the sticky side against your skin, then pass it to your neighbor to do the same. Once everyone took a turn, I held up the tape again for them to see: a useless, lint-covered piece of trash, incapable of attaching itself to anything anymore. “It’s a metaphor,” I explained. “When you have sex before marriage, you become dirty, unwanted, and unable to bond with anyone.” That’s a message a lot of kids hear. In her book A Love That Multiplies, Michelle Duggar—of TLC’s controversial but massively popular purity-pushing clan—relates a lesson her husband, Jim Bob, gives their children, in which he compares sleeping with someone who’s had…

20 THE PERCENTAGE OF GUYS WHO’D GIVE UP SEX FOR A WEEK TO SCORE AN EXTRA DAY OF VACATION. BECAUSE EVERYONE KNOWS VACATION SEX IS REALLY WHERE IT’S AT ANYWAY. . . . SOURCE: 2015 EXPEDIA SURVEY Nail It Down This app alerts you when your toenails go from gross to falcon-like talons that make you a safety hazard in bed. Femosity It’s a brain game like Lumosity, but for important intel about women, like feminist theory and Beyoncé lyrics. Tin-dar A radar that senses if you’re actually real-life friends with a person you recognize—or if you just remember her face from Tinder. Flippr When you’re on a bad date, Flippr summons someone to the restaurant to literally flip your table over, effectively ending the evening.…

Q / I went on a fantastic date with this girl. After hours of great conversation, she mentioned that she’s “not a big texter.” It was only the first date, and we’ve barely texted at all. Is she already making excuses for being a bad communicator? Is this a warning sign? A IMHO you shouldn’t read too much into this. You had “hours of great conversation” on your first date. If those IRL sparks are real, who cares if her emoji game is off point? Q/ I met these brothers and hooked up with one of them. I thought I picked right, but now I feel like I effed up. The other guy is hotter and funnier. Is it too late to switch? A Oh, brother. If you’ve been with…

Sunset glow Warm up all over by sweeping bronzer across your face, shoulders, and cleavage with a big fluffy brush. Swipe on a flaming orange lipstick (try Dolce & Gabbana Classic Cream Lipstick in Orange, $37), keeping eyes bare, to shimmer like the sky at dusk, says Sir John, celebrity makeup artist for L’Oréal Paris, who created these looks. blue sk-eye A matte finish gives pastel shadows a cool, street-style effect. Prep lids with primer to ensure maximum color payoff, then sweep matte baby blue (like Nars Dual-Intensity Eye Shadow in Pool Shark, $29) on upper lids, stopping at the crease. petal pont Loves me, loves me not…honestly who GAF when your mouth looks this fab? To get blooming: Buff lips with an exfoliating face wipe, then apply a light…

Funding KATHRYN FINNEY Founder and managing director of DigitalUndivided New York, NY Finney studied women’s studies and poli sci, then earned a graduate degree in epidemiology and first worked in that field. Always a lover of fashion and technology, she started a hit blog called the Budget Fashionista as an outlet and later served as editor-at-large at BlogHer. Seeing the power of tech entrepreneurship firsthand led her to start DigitalUndivided, which trains and supports black and Latina founders. “The term founder is such an important one in the tech world. Few entrepreneurs of color realize that in this space, trying to build something and starting your own company— even if it fails—is still considered better than working for someone else’s. Or they may feel less comfortable taking that risk. To…

Coding Let’s start at the start. Coding (aka programming) is how you tell your computer what to do. The result is software—like an app or a site. Companies such as Codecademy and Code School help you practice. Then you can put work online or, if it’s an app, submit it to Apple or Google for a green light. Front End/Back End When you check Insta, you see the front-end styling. The back end makes sure, for example, that you can log in by checking your password against a database. Basically, the front end is Gigi Hadid’s glam squad, and the back end is the assistant who booked the studio. Both talents are in demand. Open Source If you’ve used Google Docs, you know how open-source code works. Using GitHub, many…

THEY SEEM to have such sensible, compassionate reasons to make abortion after 20 weeks of pregnancy a felony. “[It] doesn’t prohibit all abortions…and presents a middle ground.” —former Nebraska Senator Mike Flood, sponsor of the first state-level ban “We have a moral obligation to end dangerous late-term abortions in order to protect women and these precious babies.” —Rep. Marsha Blackburn, cosponsor of the proposed national ban “The dignity of each and every human life is fundamental.” —Sen. Marco Rubio, presidential candidate I’D LOVE TO TEACH these politicians what they are really doing, especially to the dignity of human life. I’d begin the lesson in the cramped office of the New Mexico Religious Coalition for Reproductive Choice. They’d sit on a lumpy maroon chair and listen as a staffer answers the…