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Jessi Klein In "My Boobs Lost Their Power" (p. 178), Comedy Central writer, stand-up comedian, and self-professed "shy nerd" Klein writes about the identity crisis she and her breasts went through when her fiancé started looking her in the eye instead of at her chest. Women who inspire you most: "I kneel at the altar of Tina Fey and Amy Poehler." Stephanie Savage Savage, the cocreator of Gossip Girl and executive producer of Gossip Girl, Hart of Dixie, and The Carrie Diaries, explores the timeless sex appeal of the reckless guy in "Why Are We So Obsessed With Bad Boys?" (p. 60). "Bad boys are adorable; bad men are not," says Savage. "The hope is to make smarter choices as we grow up." First big break: "I wrote a personal…

What You Thought of the March Issue You didn't tell us what you thought of our Miley cover…you showed us. Miley's fans had newsstands covered—literally. "This is the best cover I've seen from Cosmo, maybe ever," wrote Cori H. of Richmond, VA. "It's fresh, powerful, and sexy!" WORKIN' IT "Thanks for the 'The Modern Work Etiquette Guide'! My boss is a generation older than I am, and our wires cross con stantly. I tried out one of your lines, and he congratulated me for my change in attitude!"—Tasneem A., New York, NY IN THE MOOD "I loved the March issue. '20 Moves From Cuddly to Crazy' was very informative—a lot of secrets for every mood. It was fun reading them, and I'm sure they will be fun to try with…

Men reveal their most mortifying moments and dirtiest deeds. Bad Teacher "I was a TA for an undergrad environmental-science class, and I developed a crush on one of the cute seniors. I tried to ignore it, since I wasn't supposed to hook up with students, but at the end of the semester, I had to drive the class of 16 in a big van to a conference at a university in Washington, D.C. The girl I liked sat in the front seat next to me, and I couldn't not flirt with her. We had a great time talking and listening to music, and I could tell she felt the spark too. When we got there, the group split up, and I texted her to see if she wanted to hang…

Either you're in or you're out of Heidi Klum's smoothie club. Gwen Stefani totally drinks blonde roast. Let's hope Sophia Bush didn't drop her car keys. We'll take that extra one to Ryan for you, Eva Mendes! Harry Styles is a whole "latte" adorable. Mila Kunis and Ashton Kutcher have a coffee threesome (scandalous!). Come nap time, Britney Spears is gonna regret that sweet family coffee treat. Keep calm and carry on, Emma Roberts. Perfect! One for each of T-Swift's exes! Brit's little frappu-niños Come on, paps! Help a girl out! OMG, Hair Twins! Copping another star's hair: faux pas or fab compliment? You decide. Adam Lambert took some "tips" from Halle Berry's signature style. J.Lo and J.Law: Twinsies in name and in mane. John Travolta and Alicia Keys:…

COURTSIDE SHENANIGANS FUN Lemme see that bling! Tom Hanks and Christopher McDonald go gaga for Olivia Wilde's engagement ring from Jason Sudeikis. FEARLESS Jean Liddell, 85, takes a hard pass from Kevin Durant to the head, then gets an "I'm sorry" kiss from the baller. FAIL Just for kicks, Will Ferrell dresses up as a Staples Center usher named "Ted Vagina." Good one, Will! READ MY SHIRT FUN From her eyewear to her sweater, Khloé Kardashian-Odom skillfully throws shade in all kinds of ways. FEARLESS After the fallout over her lip-synced inauguration performance, Beyoncé asks the world for a break. FAIL NFL tight end Rob Gronkowski gets busted for throwing a guy to the ground at a party, then steps out in this tank. COLLABORATIONS FUN Got your tickets? Justin…

TRICKY TREND POLKA DOTS Fresh and fun, sport this season's spots in a cool way. We're not in grade school anymore. TIP 1 Too much volume or extra detail will leave you looking like a Disney character. Stick to simple silhouettes. Tip 2 On their own, polka dots look crisp. Mix with another print for a more indie style, but be sure to keep everything on the same scale. Miranda Kerr layers one under a tailored jacket. Rihanna adds sex appeal to a ladylike skirt. Ashley Madekwe opts for a high- necked style. TRICKY TREND CROP TOPS Make sure your crop top never lands you on the wrong side of the "Sexy vs. Skanky" debate. TIP 1 The shape is attention grabbing enough. Stick to black and white to avoid…

Shocking but true—your bathing suit can be your best friend. Look your hottest in the latest bright and graphic styles. Our most flattering picks… —LAUREN PANARIELLO Balances a Wide Bottom Creates Major Curves Lifts and Supports Malo Swim by Monica Wise, $185, shopbop.com Bikini top, $38.95, and bottom, $36.95, Gap, gap.com Supports a Big Bust (sizes go up to a G-cup!) Bikini top, $86, and bottom, $62, Aerin Rose, bestswimwear.com Highlights a Toned Tummy Mileti Swimwear, $151, miletiswimwear.com Becca by Rebecca Virtue, $128, everythingbutwater.com Boosts a Small Bust Shows Off a Sporty Figure Bikini top, $110, and bottom, $90, L*Space, boutiquetoyou.com Bikini top, Topshop, $24, topshop.com Flattens Your Belly Bikini top, $101, and bottom, $97, Basta Surf, neimanmarcus.com Creates a Slim Shape…

ABOUT FACE… A faithful SPF user, Alison recently became addicted to monthly facials at Biba West Hollywood: "It's so nice not having to worry about breakouts!" CHEEKY TRICK Alison always quizzes her NBC makeup team for tips. Her favorite: Layering this Stila cheek stain under this Koh Gen Do powder blush. "I like the combo so much, I basically wear it all the time," she says. ARCH ADVICE "Face-framing brows are such a big thing on Mad Men that I became obsessed with filling in mine. This is my go-to powder." ALWAYS IN HER BAG "I'm obsessed with Fresh's tinted lip balms. I have all seven colors and switch them up throughout the day." Alison as Annie on Community Stila Cherry Crush Lip and Cheek Stain, $24 Koh Gen Do…

BEAUTY DIRECTOR'S chairEvery spring and fall, while getting the backstage scoop at Fashion Week, I inevitably end up with a major case of beauty envy. This season, I was green over the perfectly glowing skin every model seemed to be flaunting (I mean, look at these girls—they're poreless!). Getting skin this good is tough, especially coming off a dry, dehydrating winter. So at the first sign of a daffodil, I indulge in my favorite change-of-season skin fix: Kate Somerville's Ultimate Kate Facial at The Spa at Trump SoHo New York. It kicks winter skin's butt…so try these tips inspired by it. Then go flaunt your own gorgeous skin! Follow Cosmo's beauty director on Twitter and Instagram (@LeahWyar) Faux Facial Kate Somerville ExfoliKate, $22 A good rule: Book a facial every…

IF THESE NAILS LOOK FAMILIAR… It's because sponge manis are blowing up Pinterest and Instagram! To get the two-tone look, which debuted at Mara Hoffman's spring show, paint nails beige, then dip a makeup sponge into blue polish and dab it onto edges in layers. Sally Hansen Complete Salon Manicure in Blue My Mind, $8 It Cosmetics Hydra Sponge, $24 Candlelight Your Date Night Hookup playlists are played out. The new mood-setting trick: lighting candles that smell progressively sexier throughout the night. Nest's trio takes things from flirty to fiery with notes of orchid, then leather, and finally smoky embers…hot! Nest After Midnight Collection, $34 each A Really Necessary Box Centuries ago, fancy SOS kits (aka necessary boxes, like the one at right) were a luxury. Today's version, packed with…

A Well, I always aspire to be kind and considerate of other people. And I also don't take myself too seriously—that's important. Q Justin Timberlake was the last guy to star in the brand's fragrance campaign. Pressure? A Don't compare us! Justin's a young, accomplished musician. I'm just an old actor. Q But you're one of the highest-paid TV stars. Where's your massive ego? A Look, I was raised in working-class Australia—I mean, I brought my old camping buddy to the fragrance launch party. I don't get caught up in the Hollywood thing. Q What kind of woman turns you on? A The classic stars were all hot—especially Sophia Loren. In films, she was nurturing yet a total bitch. I like that bad-girl thing. Some men can't handle it. Q…

Be part of the first-ever Cosmo global beauty report! We're surveying Cosmo readers from around the world on their favorite products, get-sexy habits, and so much more. We'll get you the scoop on what's big in Brazil, the latest skin-care obsession in Asia, and the absolute must-haves in Europe. Just head to Cosmopolitan.com/BeautyAwards2013 to take part (bonus: you'll automatically be entered to win more than $1,000 worth of beauty swag). We'll reveal all in October.……

When we asked you on Twitter if you had any credit-card questions, the answer was, "Yeah, big-time." Cosmo's financial guru, Alexa von Tobel, CEO of LearnVest, cuts through the confusion. "What is the best credit card out there?" @MarisaAnhaltzer The ideal card has no annual fee and earns you either cash back or rewards points that you can later redeem on stuff you'll actually use—say, airfare and concert tickets. Your card should also have an annual percent rate (APR) of 15 percent or less. Your APR is the interest rate you pay on your balance (as in, north of $160 a year for every $1,000 of debt), so it's major. "Is there a standard number of credit cards that a person should have?" @MissCassandraM There's no magic number, but it's…

At age 5, Tommy Gabel happened to catch a Madonna concert on TV. That's me! he thought to himself, entranced. That's who I'll be when I grow up. Lots of little girls want to become Madonna—the problem was, Tommy felt like he was a girl even though he had a boy's body. Seeing Mia Farrow with her Rosemary's Baby–era pixie cut, which looked like his own boy haircut, inspired him: "She was my hero." Soon, Tommy started nosing around his mom's closet. He would build forts out of pillows and sneak in a pair of his mom's nylons. In middle school, he started shop lifting girls' clothes. "Putting them on made me feel calmer, more like myself. It was a stress relief," says Tommy—now Laura. Growing up in Florida in…

"What normal guy doesn't want to have sex?" Teresa, 29, from Boston, Mass achu setts, used to ask her boyfriend angrily when weeks would go by without his making a move or respond ing to her advances. Accord ing to an enlight ening new book out this month, Why Men Fake It: The Totally Unexpected Truth About Men and Sex, by Abraham Mor gentaler, MD, the answer is, a lot more normal guys than you'd think. "In my practice, I frequently hear from men who complain about low sex drives," says Dr. Morgentaler, an associate clinical professor of urology at Harvard Medical School. "Many people still operate under the assumption that guys are obsessed with sex and that all a 'real' man needs to get an erection is for the…

For years, comedian Jessi Klein reveled in guys' reactions to her "kind of fantastic" chest. But when her fiancé stopped gawking, she (and her breasts) had an identity crisis. I was an extremely late bloomer. I could vote, then drink, before I could fill out a B cup. By my senior year of college, I'd stopped waiting for breasts, assuming that once you're 20, every body part you're going to have has already come to the party. While it was frustrating to be small, in hindsight, I'm grateful. While other girls were developing a chest, I was forced to develop a personality, a feature that will never sag. When my boobs finally did appear, which happened somewhat spontaneously at 21, they made a rather grand entrance: They weren't just present,…

3 Date-Night Moves You'd Never Guess Guys Love It's safe to say that a typical guy's idea of a fun date does not involve recapping the latest Real House wives episode. But here's an update from the Random Stuff Guys Want files: These three surprising moves will make him putty in your hands, claims Londoner Matthew Hussey, an international matchmaker and author of Get the Guy. Try 'em tonight, and tell us how it goes! 1 Leaving Your Phone in Your Bag Yes, it says something about our current dating landscape when simply not texting during a date earns you boy brownie points. But here we are. Disconnecting from technology lets a guy know you actually care about what he's saying—and assures him that you aren't half-listening while secretly counting…

JUNE 13, 2012, BUFFALO, NEW YORK—RECEPTIONIST JACQUELINE WISNIEWSKI, 33, SHOT AND KILLED BY EX-BOYFRIEND AT THE HOSPITAL WHERE SHE WORKED. JULY 13, 2012, ELLICOTT CITY, MARYLAND—SPA TECHNICIAN LAN PHAN, 34, SHOT AND INJURED ON THE JOB BY EX-BOYFRIEND. HE WAS VIOLATING A PROTECTIVE ORDER. SEPTEMBER 11, 2012, SIOUX FALLS, SOUTH DAKOTA—MANAGER AMANDA CONNORS, 24, SHOT AND KILLED AT THE SALON WHERE SHE WORKED BY HER EMPLOYEE'S BOYFRIEND. HE WAS VIOLATING A PROTECTIVE ORDER. SEPTEMBER 27, 2012, ORLANDO, FLORIDA—HOTEL WORKERS CARLENE PIERRE, 28, AND VANESSA GONZALEZ-ORELLANES, 28, SHOT AND KILLED AT THE RECEPTION DESK BY PIERRE'S EX- BOYFRIEND. HE WAS VIOLATING A PROTEC TIVE ORDER. OCTOBER 18, 2012, CASSEL BERRY, FLORIDA—HAIRSTYLIST MARCIA SANTIAGO IS WOUNDED AND HER COWORKERS NOELIA GONZALEZ-BRITO AND EUGENIA MARTE AND CUSTOMER GLADYS CABRERA ARE KILLED BY SANTIAGO'S…

Paper or Plastic? NEITHER! These reusable bags aren't just good for the planet, they also look adorbs on your arm. Who knows what local delights you'll pick up at the market? —L.P. Gap, $49.95, gap.com Birdkage, $136, birdkagestyle.com SnapSac, $3.99, snapsac.com PATTY-MELT BURGER Grill a thin burger patty; place it between rye-bread slices and top with a slice of Swiss cheese and sauerkraut. Put sandwich on a cool part of the grill, flipping occa sionally, until both sides are golden brown. Serve with 2 tablespoons Thousand Island dressing for dipping. PICKLED-ANYTHING BURGER Mix equal parts sugar, white vinegar, and water; bring to boil. Pour over a bowl of sliced veggies. Grill a poblano pepper; cut into strips. While patty grills, top with a slice of pepper jack…

For most of her life, Addie Hobbs's naturally pale skin had rarely seen the sun. But once in a while, during high school, when she'd had an event she really wanted to look good for—like her high school prom—she'd squeeze in about 10 tanning-bed sessions. For a few summers, she had been a lifeguard at the pool in her rural Pennsylvania town. In college, she'd hit the tanning bed for special occasions—before a dance, a party, or her graduation photo. "At the time, I didn't think it was a big deal, because I wasn't going all the time," she says. Hobbs's mom had sent her for annual skin checks from a young age, wary of her daughter's fair complexion and her odd-looking moles, known as dysplastic nevi, which are typically…

Trendy Neon and pop- art accents make these fragrances look as punchy and playful as they smell. Prada L'Eau D'Iris, $77 Fresh mint energizes the usually soft, powdery scent of iris. Marc Jacobs Daisy Sunshine, $65 The popular Daisy scent gets spiked with juicy guava, lychee, and red currant for an even fruitier take. Juicy Couture Couture La La, $70 This scent evolves: It starts with citrusy mandarin and finishes with a sexy, musky note. DKNY Be Delicious Eau So Intense, $48 It's even crisper than the original apple aroma that made this perfume a hit. Bond No. 9 Central Park South, $190 The latest perfume from this NYC-inspired brand is an homage to Central Park and the green ivy, lily of the valley, and cedar bark found there. Justin…

BIRTHDAY GIRLS (APRIL 21–MAY 21) Taurus STELLAR GIFTS You're loyal, sensual, and practical. BLIND SPOTS You can be stubborn and self-indulgent. FASHION FAVES Soft materials and classic cuts define your impeccable signature look. INDULGENCE You take pleasure in life's little extravagances. SEDUCTION STYLE You're a big fan of flirty conversation. THIS MONTH Major career developments on the 1st will present you with two exciting opportunities. Gather your thoughts on the 11th, and express your opinions at work when verbal Mercury gives you a major confidence boost. In love, it's all about keeping an air of mystery. Play hard to get. YEAR AHEAD This is the year to strengthen your friendships. Hit the town with your girls in June, and make the most of your endless energy. And get ready for…

1 The guy you've been dating for a month asks you to his parents' house for his family-reunion weekend. You're thinking: A. "OMG, time to start a wedding Pinterest board!" B. "He's moving too fast. Does he rush into things with every girl he dates?" C. "I'm excited to see his old bedroom and teenage sneaker collection." 2 You're out to dinner with the girls and the hot waiter who's been flirting with you all night writes his number on your check. You: A. Assume he's into you. Nice! You just might call. B. Figure he's just looking for a big tip. C. Drum your fingers at the bar until he finishes his shift. Why waste time? 3 The cute new guy at the office asks you out for a…

Rachel drove herself to our West Hollywood set, arriving sans entourage at 9 a.m. with still-wet hair and wearing an argyle sweater. The chill Cali girl lunched with the crew, chatted about her love for Flamin' Hot Cheetos, and wowed us with her rap-lyrics recall. She took off at 7 p.m. to catch her little sis's spelling bee—so cute! —MALIA GRIGGS Rachel loved the candy-colored bracelets we brought to the shoot. The L.A. native cruised to our set in her Audi station wagon. So many bright pumps! She wore these booties from her ShoeMint line to the shoot. Our gift to Rachel—it's personalized with her b-day. Necklace, Dalla Nonna, $700, dallanonnajewelry.com Love these lips! Stylist Isabel Dupré put a ring (or three) on Rachel. Photographer Matthias Vriens-McGrath busts out…

"I'm getting my master's in mental-health counseling, and I wish people wouldn't put such a stigma on seeking professional help. They think you must be crazy to see a therapist, but everyone goes through problems sometimes." Angelica Kendrick, 26, student, from Jacksonville, FL "My entire life is changing—I have a new job and a new name because I'm newly divorced. Photography has been my outlet lately, and I'm taking it more seriously as an artist. I love capturing human energy through photos. It's the coolest art form of modern time." Erin Pinkley, 28, design director, from Cincinnati, OH "I am getting ready to graduate and have been thinking about what to do after that. I really want to travel, maybe work on a farm in Australia or South America. I…

We'd been set up by a friend, and so far, I liked him. Over dinner at a candlelit restaurant, he asks me, "Have you ever been to a sex club?" "I haven't," I admit. See, when it comes to sex, I consider myself to be a liberated woman. Until I find my next great love, I'm going to have all the safe, consensual sex I want. But a sex club? That's out there—even for me. Oliver says he knows of a club where crazy sex happens. In his posh accent, this sounds almost…sophisticated. I'm intrigued. We take tequila shots and hail a taxi. "There have to be rules," I say, trying to embrace the adventure and ignore my escalating anxiety. I won't have sex with any strangers, and Oliver is…

Q What are we going to see you doing on your new show? A My biggest passion is swimming, but it's a sport that doesn't really get talked about until the Olympics, unlike baseball, football, and bas ketball, which are on TV all the time. That's one of the reasons I wanted to do this show. I want peo ple to enjoy the sport as much as I do. My whole family swims! You can pretty much say chlorine runs in our veins. Q What about your family? We hear you're tight with them. Will they be on the show? A Yeah, they're the most important thing to me. I was raised in a big family [Ryan, 28, is the third of five kids], and most of them live just…

Tune In MY CRAZY BEAUTIFUL LIFE KE$HA'S BROTHER SPENT TWO YEARS FILMING THE POP STAR'S BOOZY, GLITTERY, PARTY-HAPPY LIFE FOR THIS MTV DOCUSERIES. DON'T MAKE A DRINKING GAME OUT OF THIS ONE: IT COULD BE DANGEROUS! (APRIL 23, 11 P.M.) Punk Out NATIONAL TEACHER DAY, MAY 7 Take your gratitude public on Facebook and Twitter with the hashtag #Thank ATeacher and hand out digital gold stars to those great physics teachers and econ professors in your life. Read These Pain, Parties, Work: Sylvia Plath in New York, Summer 1953 by Elizabeth Winder NONFICTION At 20, an ambitious Sylvia Plath won an internship in NYC, and her riveting diary entries from that trip offer a glimpse into the tragic writer's younger, happier self. Adulting: How to Become a Grown-Up in 468…

Top, Billabong, $32, billabong.com Top, American Eagle Outfitters, $24.95, ae.com Fedora, Express, $34.90, express.com Shade your face with a cool fedora. Earrings, Sarah Aghili, $12.50, sarahaghili.com Tote bag, Gap, $39.95, gap.com Bracelets, Mono and Me, $27.60 each, Bloomingdale's Pile on laid-back, colorful bracelets. Tank top, Express, $29.90, express.com Bikini top, $8, and bottom, $8, OP, walmart.com Shorts, American Eagle Outfitters, $39.95, ae.com T-shirt, American Eagle Outfitters, $24.95, ae.com Bikini top, $24.95, and bottom, $12.95, H&M, hm.com Bag, Billabong, $39.50, billabong.com Bikini top, $19.94, and bottom, $19.94, Old Navy, oldnavy.com Sunglasses, Forever 21, $5.80, forever21.com Sandals, Forever 21, $12.80, forever21.com Shiny frames in a classic style look luxe. Dress, Aéropostale, $24.75, aeropostale.com Whitney Port is hot on the beach in American Apparel! Bikini top, $29, and bottom, $29,…

Play up your assets with curve-creatingruffles, tummy-tucking bottoms, and one-pieces that show just the right amount of skin. —LAUREN PANARIELLO Bikini top, $145, and short, $120, Charlie by Matthew Zink, charliebymzstore.com Lilibon Swimwear, $324, lilibonswimwear.com Tames Your Tummy Gives More Bottom Coverage Boosts a Small Bust Boosts a Small Bust Zimmermann, $225, zimmermannwear.com Bikini top, $48, and bottom, $46, Billabong, billabong.com Bikini top, $127, and bottom, $85, OndadeMar, ondademar.com Supports a Big Bust Shows Off(but Contains) Curves Bikini top, $110, and bottom, $110, Tori Praver Swimwear, revolveclothing.com Suit, OndadeMar, $198, saksfifthavenue.com Mix 'n' Match Calls Attention Where You Want It Camouflages Love Handles Bikini top, H&M, $14.95, hm.com Beach String Bottom, Victoria's Secret, $22.50, victoriassecret.com Bikini top, $106, and bottom, $110,…

$10 —Tops! SOAP STAR Hands down, the chicest way to suds up. MOR Belladonna Soapette, $9 ROYAL FLUSH Sweep from apples to temples for a gorgeous glow. E.l.f. Studio Baked Blush in Passion Pink, $3 GLAM GAZE Bat these sparkly falsies for even more impact. Ardell Glitter Lashes, $7 BLING FINGERS A triple coat offers sequined tips. OPI Lacquer in Pink Yet Lavender, $9 JUST DEW IT Spritz on legs and shoulders for gleaming skin. Champneys Citrus Blush Body Oil, $8 WRAP STARS Dress up your do with necklaces for your hair. Goody DoubleWear Metallic Head Wraps, $10 for 2 HAIROINE One shine-boosting drop also fights frizz and flyaways. L'Oréal Paris Frizz Taming Serum, $7 HAUTE COCOA Smell more irresistible with this cocoa-licious scented balm. Pacifica Mexican Cocoa Solid Perfume,…

Step 1 APPLY OIL-FREE LOTION AND LIP BALM, THEN SMOOTH EYE PRIMER ONTO LIDS (LATER, IT'LL HELP SHADOW AND FAKE LASHES STICK) AND UNDER EYES (IT PREVENTS CON CEALER FROM FADING AND LOOKING CAKEY). Step 2 DOT LIGHT-REFLECTING CONCEALER AROUND EYES, PLUS ONTO TEMPLES AND THE BASE OF THE NOSE AND UPPER LIP (AREAS THAT CAST SHADOWS WHEN A FLASH IS USED). APPLY FOUNDATION AND CREAM BLUSH, THEN POWDER YOUR T-ZONE. Step 3 UNIVERSALLY SEXY, PURPLE EYE SHADOWS INTENSIFY EYES. SWEEP LILAC ACROSS LIDS, VIOLET IN EACH CREASE, AND DEEP PLUM ACROSS THE UPPER LASH LINES (APPLY WITH A WET LINER BRUSH). FOLLOW WITH THREE COATS OF VOLUMIZING MASCARA. Step 4 BALANCE A SMOKY EYE BY FILLING LIPS WITH CORAL LINER THEN TOPPING WITH GLOSS (IT MAKES LIPS LOOK PLUMPER).…

THE Pro: HEIDI WALDORF, A DERMATOLOGIST IN NEW YORK CITY 1. Spread a teaspoon of SPF 30 (or higher) over these zones: forehead, nose, cheeks, ears, chin, and neck. Blend in long, outward strokes (circles cause clumping) until a thin layer covers your face. 2. Next, dip the edge of an angled foundation brush (like the one above) or makeup sponge into sunscreen, then dab it into the hairline and along your part—both overlooked, skin-cancer-prone areas. 3. Top with a water-resistant mineral SPF powder, applying in even, circular motions (it won't get clumpy like a cream). Like powder foundation, this layer budge-proofs the cream plus mattifies it.…

Some girls have fabulous legs. Others have full, sexy lips. For me, it's my long, voluminous hair. It cascades around my shoulders in smooth, shiny waves, bouncing as I walk—well, that is, after it's been blown into submission at the salon. I got my first blowout back in high school. I still recall the feeling of my newly sleek style (the exact opposite of my naturally frizzy texture) gliding between my fingers. After attending a fancy event that night—and hearing words like polished, mature, and sophisticated on repeat (to describe my mane and manner)—I realized that, right or wrong, people judge you on your hair. My wild style had been falsely advertising a disorganized, unreliable mess, when in truth, I'm someone who almost always arrives on time and juggles a…

It can be hard to know what passes for acceptable behavior on the job these days…if Mark Zuckerberg can wear flip-flops, why can't you? Still, the higher-ups we talked to agree that certain things are just never okay—for you and Mark alike. You know not to sleep with your boss (right?) or steal office supplies (well, maybe the odd Sharpie). But other no-nos might not be on your radar yet. Read these cautionary tales, cringe, and learn. SHE CAME DRESSED FOR THE CLUB "I had an MBA hire at a Fortune 500 retailer who dressed for work in four-inch stilettos (granted, she was short), skintight pants, and plunging necklines. When it came time to award special projects and promotions, our male CFO wouldn't even entertain her name for consideration. He…

In a Job Interview, Ask… ''How Did the Last Person With This Job Do?" You've been peppered with questions, but you should have a few of your own. A winner: Ask about the highs and lows your predecessor had. It will give you a deeper sense of what's expected of you…and show off your drive in a nonbraggy way. With Your Boss, Ask… "How Can I Help?" There's a time for asking about big projects you want to take on, but when your boss is busy, your ques tions should be focused on her. If she has an afternoon meeting, ask if you can gather materials or even grab lunch for her. She'll appreciate that you're one step ahead, and soon you'll be taking on the tougher stuff. In a…

Every guy is a mama's boy at heart. This Mother's Day, use these tried-and-true tips from readers who got in good with the original leading lady in their man's life. One smart move may be all it takes to tame a potential monster-in-law. "I took my boyfriend's mom shopping—she felt so hip and helpful that day, and she's connected those positive feelings to me ever since. —Amanda M., 23 "Handwritten thank-you notes go a long way. When a guy brings me home to meet his parents, I send them a personal thank-you note soon after. Moms love the idea that their son is dating a girl who's appreciative and old-fashioned. —Katherine K., 22 "WHENEVER I ASK MY GUY'S MOM ABOUT HER LIFE OUTSIDE THE HOME—HER JOB, TENNIS CLUB, LATEST DIET—SHE…

You know the story: Boy meets girl. They fall in love, get married, and live happily ever after. But what happens when the fairy tale ends—in divorce? Even on my honeymoon, I knew. Something in my gut told me this marriage wasn't right. As much as I tried to drown my feelings of doubt in tropical drinks, they surged even stronger when we got back from paradise and had to face the reality of every day life together. Eventually, I couldn't ignore the truth: I didn't love my husband. So I filed for divorce. I was 31, and we'd only been married for a year and a half. When nearly every week brings news of another young starlet and her famous husband splitting up—think Katy Perry and Russell Brand or…

LISTEN IN! Tune in to Cocktails With Patrick, on Cosmo Radio (SiriusXM Channel 109), on Wednesday, May 1, at 4 p.m. ET, when Patrick reveals more stuff women think guys want in bed…but really don't. Everywhere you look, there's a new list of tips on how to "Drive Him Wild!" The message they send? "Hey, girls, if you'd only try harder, he'll like you more." But actually, most guys I know are pretty simple. Are you a girl? Okay, good. You're 99 percent of the way there. All that crazy advice is, well, crazy to us. Like these doozies.… 1 Join him in his prework morning shower. A GUY'S GUT REACTION: Oh, you mean the only 10 minutes of alone time I get all day? WHY IT'S NOT THAT SEXY:…

Q I feel like my boyfriend and I have hit a rut where all we do is watch movies and eat pizza in bed. I want to go out more, but he's never interested. Help! A First of all, a nightly habit of eating pizza in bed will make your bedroom feel as sexy as a Sbarro. Second, make sure you're spending time with your own friends. Not only will you scratch some of the itch you have to go out more, but seeing you having fun without him may inspire your boyfriend to put down the remote. Another good way to light a fire under a guy's ass is a little healthy competition. So suggest that the two of you take turns planning the most fun/unusual/inexpensive/creative date night to…

It's another sunny spring day outside, so why are you inside making keyboard crumbs? Sixty percent of Americans spend most days dining al desko. Head to a park bench or stroll to a food truck instead, and score these body benefits. SLIM DOWN You've probably heard that eating while you're distracted makes you eat more, but it gets worse: People who have lunch in front of their computers hoover twice the calories in snacks later that afternoon, a study in the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition found. GET MORE DONE Share this tidbit with your boss: Those who dig themselves out of the mire of office politics long enough to take a break for lunch come back energized and better able to concentrate on their work, according to a Portland…

Hitting the same gym for the same workout every time you exercise gets boring fast… and can fizzle your results. Enter FITiST.com, a website that allows you to try fun, new classes at the buzziest boutique studios for a set fee, without paying for a membership at the fancy venues you check out. Sample Pilates near your office Monday morning, Spin by your apartment Wednesday night, and box in your BF's hood on Saturday afternoon. Now in NYC and L.A., the site rolls out in eight more cities by the end of year. Your New Motivation Trick Start at your goal number of reps and count down. You'll be more stoked mentally to power through those tough final reps when you're nearing zero instead of, say, 25. SOURCE: TRAINER CARI…

SHE'S EVERY GIRL'S STYLE CRUSH AND EVERY GUY'S… UM, JUST PLAIN CRUSH. RACHEL BILSON TELLS HOW TO MAKE AN OUTFIT WORK AND A RELATIONSHIP LAST. (HINT: THE TWO ARE RELATED.) (This page) dress, Halston Heritage, $425; bra worn underneath, Victoria's Secret, $49.50; earrings, Louis Vuitton. (Opposite page) dress and bag, Dior; bra worn underneath, Huit, $64; shoes, Brian Atwood; belt, Oscar de la Renta; earrings, necklace, and flower rings, Dior Fine Jewelry; love written ring, Solange Azagury- Partridge BEAUTY BONUS For richer brown locks like Rachel's, try a tinted shampoo and conditioner duo for brunettes (we like John Frieda Brilliant Brunette, $6.50 each). "Pretty underwear makes you feel sexy. Even if no one else sees it, you know it's there." "I'm lucky that my boyfriend is open-minded when it comes…

Spoiler alert: Daphne Oz has a droolworthy kitchen. With every vintage dish and must-have tool in its place, The Chew cohost, 27, and author of the new book Relish: An Adven ture in Food, Style, and Everyday Fun, has created a kitchen that inspires her to fire up the stove. "Anyone who tells you that cooking is a breeze? It's like, 'No!' Like anything worth doing, it takes effort." Her favorite room is the perfect place to make a mess when friends gather…or when happily cooking for herself. She gives popcorn a tropical twist with a coating of coconut oil. As she writes in her book, Oz believes that "life builds around and from the kitchen." It's where the best times and conversations start. Her young woman's handbook is about…

I knocked anxiously on the door of 11N. I was supposed to help my neighbor, Melissa, set up for a party she and her boyfriend, Jaime, were throwing. As per usual, I was 20 minutes late. "How can you be late when you live one floor below me?" Melissa asked, as she opened the door. "Sorry, sorry." I walked into her kitchen. "What do you need me to do?" "I would say stock the ice bucket, but I just discovered we're out of ice. I sent Jaime out to get some more." Melissa surveyed her apartment. "Um, there's a pack of straws underneath the sink. Can you stick them in a glass and put it on the bar?" She glanced at the clock. "Oh my god, it's 8:50. People are…

It's our goal at Cosmo to bring you a magazine packed with stories that get you talking, laughing, argu ing, sharing, and trying new things (in the bedroom and beyond!). In this issue, we've gone all out, and I'm hard-pressed to pick my favorites. From the fun "Orgasm Guaranteed" (p. 164) to the serious "Stop Calling It Domestic Violence" (p. 196), a shocking feature on a new kind of intimate terrorism that puts us all in danger, to the unexpected "Young and Divorced" (p. 170), a piece that looks at what happens when marriage doesn't turn out as you'd thought, to six great women who changed their careers after embark ing on very different paths (p. 141)—we want Cosmo to reflect the full, varied, and fabulous life you want to…

Red-Hot Red-Eye "I sat next to a cute guy on a red-eye flight, fell asleep, and dreamed about hooking up with my crush. I woke up feeling great—our dream hookup was hot—but then I noticed that my seatmate was giving me a dirty look. I wondered if I'd been snoring, so I apologized. He gave me another dirty look and said, no, I'd actually been moaning! The worst part: We were at the back of the plane, so I couldn't even make a fast getaway—I had to sit there for what felt like a million years, imagining how loud my moans had been (and hoping I didn't get, uh, more into it than that)." —Jenna P., 22 Great Expectations "I work at an advertising agency, and I heard that there…

Ever look at groups of people and wonder how they're connected? Or what the heck they're talking about? We do. To satisfy our nosy streak, Cosmo will be crashing a different scene each month and getting to know the people there. This month, we hit up brunch at Los Angeles hot spot BLD. —ANGELA LEDGERWOOD AND GENA OPPENHEIM Beth, 24 LArry, 27 Dancing Duo WHO'S WHO? Beth is a model, and Larry is a civil engineer. COSMO: We saw you guys dancing on the sidewalk just now. What's that about? BETH: It was a continuation of last night. He was teaching me how to do the box step in the kitchen. LARRY: When I was in seventh grade, I had to take classical-dance classes. Last night, Beth said, "I never…

Q. Why Are We So Obsessed With Bad Boys? Stephanie Savage, executive producer of Gossip Girl and The Carrie Diaries, explains the phenomenon. A When writing papers for a women's-studies class in college, we were always asked to state any personal stakes up front. So let me declare: I have a thing for bad boys. As executive producer of The O.C., Gossip Girl, Hart of Dixie, and now, The Carrie Diaries, one of my favorite aspects of my job is bringing bad boys to life on the small screen. In my own life, I'm a good girl. I know better than to let someone else's chaos pull from my own crea tiv ity and career. Before I came to Hollywood, I was a PhD student who taught classes in gender…

Prints can be intimidating, but these easy-to-wear tropical styles will put you in an island state of mind in no time. —CHARLES MANNING Dress, SuperTrash, $130, supertrash.com So cute over a bikini at the beach! Dress, Denim and Supply Ralph Lauren, $98, select Macy's stores Necklace, Duro Olowu for jcp, $25, jcp.com Shoes, Isabel Marant, $640, Isabel Marant, Los Angeles, 323-651-1493 Sunny Skies by Rolf Armstrong, circa 1953 Dress, RVN, $475, nordstrom.com Top, Topshop, $76, topshop.com Pants, Bongo, $20, kmart.com/bongo Bracelets (from top), $120, $115, and $105, Chan Luu, chanluu.com Dress up patterned pants with strappy heels. Shoes, CL by Laundry, $49.99, chineselaundry.com This swirly, textured print has a slimming effect. Backpack, ASOS, $78, asos.com Top, Mango, $49.99, mango.com Sunglasses, Chilli Beans,…

Sexy yet polished, this celeb favepacks a day-to-night punch. —CHARLES MANNING Clutch, ModCloth,similar styles availableat modcloth.com Jacket, $216, and shorts, $137, Cameo, revolveclothing.com; top worn underneath, Blue Life, $48, shopplanetblue.com Shoes, Charles by Charles David, $125, charlesdavid.com Rock graphic and gold accents with a red-hot outfit. Clutch, River Island, $47, riverisland.com Sleek accessories let the print do the talking. Jacket, and shorts, $540, Helmut Lang, Helmut Lang retail stores Shoes, Sergio Rossi, Sergio Rossi, Bal Harbour, 305-864-3643 Jacket, $298, and shorts, $148, Marciano, marciano.com Clutch, JustFab, $39.95, justfab.com Shoes, Truth or Dare by Madonna, $120, macys.com Wear it bare and slightly unzipped for a night out. Julianne Hough Miranda Kerr Karolina Kurkova BEAUTY BONUS Marni Body Lotion, $55, gives legs a gorgeous gleam…and…

—Charles Manning KATE FOR ANN TAYLOR With a new collection inspired by her personal style and a commitment to helping empower young women, Kate Hudson proves she's more than just the face of Ann Taylor. Necklace, Kate Hudson for Ann Taylor, $58, anntaylor.com Dress, Kate Hudson for Ann Taylor, $128, anntaylor.com Kate Hudson shooting her Ann Taylor campaign. Sunglasses, A|X Armani Exchange, $95, armaniexchange.com HERE COMES THE SUN A|X Armani Exchange's limited-edition Color Flash sunglasses collection features collapsible frames, colorful mirrored lenses, and just the right amount of neon. The contrasting strings on this bikini are so cute! Swimsuit, Tommy Hilfiger Surf Shack, $128, tommy.com Surf Shack, Baby! Tommy Hilfiger's Surf Shack capsule collection is half '60s surfer and half modern-day prepster. Full of fun prints, easy…

Q Should I use shampoo formulated to preserve my color or control my texture? A Color trumps texture—it's a pricey investment! After washing, enhance or tame your texture with styling products. SOURCE: RYAN TRYGSTAD, STYLIST AT THE MARIE ROBINSON SALON IN NYC Q Is it a waste of money to get a gel pedicure? A Not if you're going to the beach. Sand and saltwater strip shine and cause regular polish to chip. SOURCE: TRACYLEE, CELEBRITY NAIL PRO Q What's the best way to apply mousse for tons of volume? A Part hair like you're making pigtails, and evenly spread mousse through roots, moving from your hairline to nape. SOURCE: JEANIE SYFU, TRESEMMÉ CELEB STYLIST Q Why do I constantly get a pimple in the same spot? A Blame leftover…

"Purple liner makes my hazel eyes look greener." Amber McConnell, 23 photographer Make your eye color pop with CoverGirl LiquilineBlast Eyeliner in Violet Voltage, $8. Confidence in a tube: Bare Min erals Loud and Clear in Amped Pink, $15 "A swipe of neon lipstick makes me feel sassy!" Virginia Brown, 28 research assistant Aerin Multi Color in Freesia, $42, gives cheeks a lift. "I play up my high cheekbones with pale pink blush." Jaclyn Torres, 23 paralegal "I get artsy with my manis—they let me express my creative side." Meghann Rosales, 30 cartoonist Use Nicole by OPI in Naturally, $8, as a base. Add dots with Lancôme Vernis in Love in Peach Mélodie, $15, plus black-and-white nail pens. "My hair has a free-spirited, Mary-Kate Olsen vibe. I don't like when…

1. DOUBLE UP ON FACE LOTION "Apply a lightweight moisturizer, then top it with a richer cream. You'll plump fine lines and create a luminous, fresh finish." 2. BLEND BLUSH TWO WAYS "Sweep it up cheekbones, then back down to soften—Most women only go in one direction." 3. BRIGHTEN UNDER EYES WITH YELLOW CONCEALER "It's the secret to neutralizing redness and dark circles…and looking wide awake." 4. CARRY A LIP WARDROBE "I always keep a gloss, balm, and perfect shade of lipstick in my purse—the mix works for any occasion—so my lips stay hydrated and healthy." 5. make spf 365 your motto "WEAR SUNSCREEN EVERY DAY. AND DON'T FORGET YOUR NECK AND CHEST. THEY'RE OFTEN EXPOSED WITHOUT YOUR REALIZING IT." "I love traveling to the Bahamas so much that it…

Before you start hyperventilating over beach season, first know that cellulite affects 90 percent of women of every size. It also has less to do with fat than it does your body's septae—a fancy word for the fibrous bands that connect layers of tissue under the skin. Unfortunately, in women, they pull at unflattering perpendicular angles. "Fat cells bulge through the bands, causing skin to look like a dimpled mattress," says Joshua Zeichner, a New York City dermatologist. Diet and exercise can help (more on that later), but the latest bump-blasting technologies are doing some serious heavy lifting. Follow our three-pronged approach for fighting cellulite at home, and check out the most effective in-office options that come thisclose to eliminating the issue altogether. GET KNEADY The Reason When fluid and…

"I Left a Cushy Career—Twice" Wei Deng, 29, operations manager for Game Closure, Mountain View, CA "In October 2008, I was working at a top law firm. But after two years of drafting documents, I'd lost my passion for the law. I decided to switch to investment banking, and after teaching myself financial modeling from books and videos, I landed a coveted job. Yet I quickly realized my passion wasn't in banking either. I felt lost. "I thought about what made me happiest at work: exploring new ideas and moving fast. I zeroed in on technology. My parents and a lot of my friends were dead set against it. They saw me leaving a well-paid position for the unknown. But I took a leap of faith and landed a job…

These women are kicking ass and making a difference. THE FOOD ARCHITECT Natasha Case, 29, entrepreneur Case was studying architecture at the University of California at Berkeley when one project received a jarring critique from a professor. "He told me it looked like a layer cake," Case says. The merging of architecture and food became the philosophy behind Coolhaus, an ice-cream company that constructs frozen sandwiches in "stories" and builds flavors around architectural movements. After Case and business partner Freya Estreller brought their first ice-cream-sandwich truck to the 2009 Coachella festival, word of mouth caused a feeding frenzy—literally. Today, you can find Coolhaus in New York, L.A., Dallas, and Austin and in 1,000 supermarkets in 22 states. Not bad for a company that started four years ago with "just my…

If someone were to tell you that only 30 percent of the women at your company will ever get promoted, you might think to yourself, Hey, I should find a new company that's more supportive of women! Now, consider this: Only 30 percent of women have orgasms from intercourse alone. Surprised? We blame movies like The Notebook, where the girl magically climaxes after two-and-a-half minutes of P in the V action. This is not reality, unfortunately. The truth is, the way most men and women view sex—as a completely physical, penetrative, in-and-out exper ience—isn't doing you any favors if you're on the hunt for the elusive orgasm. "Intercourse pro vides internal stimulation, but for women, the really sensitive parts are outside the vaginal canal," says sex educator Dorian Solot, coauthor…

It started as an escape from my life. I was a junior in high school in Saucier, Mississippi, a tiny, two-stoplight town. School was a nightmare. Kids called me a freak, the weird girl, the fat girl. So one day, I decided to become someone else. I chose a MySpace photo of a teen girl in Ohio I had long admired—a blue-eyed blonde with a rocker edge. She was petite, skinny, hot—pretty much the opposite of me. I grabbed her photo and built a fake profile on MySpace. I called her Abby Johnson and said she lived in Georgia. This was three years ago. It wasn't the first time I had posted a fake persona on MySpace. I had created one in middle school but didn't keep that one up…

Q I enjoy girl-on-girl porn even though I'm not a lesbian. What's going on? A There could be several factors at play, says Yvonne K. Fulbright, PhD, author of Touch Me There! For one, girl-on-girl action is still largely considered naughty and taboo, so it's titillating to watch. You're also probably identifying with the women: When you see them touching each other, it's easy to imagine how it would feel to you, since you share the same body parts. And because women are more attuned to the touches that feel good to another woman, it's understandably pleasing to watch two girls together—that relatability is a big part of the turn-on. It could also be that the men in porn are—how do we say this?—largely unattractive, making it harder to get…

When she no longer felt at home in the bustle of New York City, single writer Sarah Z. Wexler up and moved to laid-back Portland, Oregon. In the second chapter of her moving diary, she deals with some inevitable culture shock…and loneliness. When I get off the plane at the cute little Portland airport, I'm greeted by my friend Lindsey, who'd made the same move from New York City a year before. She informs me that she's leaving on a 10-day trip starting the next morning. That brings my friend count within a thousand-mile radius to a grand total of zero. She drops me off at my apartment, where I'm greeted by piles of cardboard boxes. I officially enter panic mode. Who picks up and moves 3,000 miles away from…

Late Application There's no such thing as being fashionably late when it comes to putting on a condom. It exposes you to pre-ejaculate, which can contain sperm and transmit infection. Early Removal Putting on a condom only to take it off for the main event is futile—you lose your protection when you need it most. Think of a condom like Spanx: once it's on, it ain't coming off. Air Bubbles They can form when you (or he) puts the condom on and can pop while you're grinding, which can tear the latex. Smooth any bubbles with your hands. Tearage It's sex, not a Top Chef Quickfire challenge. Slowly open a condom wrapper instead of ravaging your rubber with scissors or, say, teeth. Wearing Two Save double-bagging for the supermarket. Layering…

Say hello to your amazing core, and say see ya to crunches. MEET YOUR TRAINER Tracy Anderson is a top fitness guru who helps A-listers like Gwyneth Paltrow, J.Lo, and Gisele sculpt lean, tonedbods. Check her out at TracyAndersonMethod.com, and follow her on Twitter @TracyAnderson. Turn up the music and shift with the beat. Work up to sets that last for one song. Side-to-Side Sizzle 1 Start with your hands on your hips, standing with your feet just wider than hip-width apart. Your hips should be square, and your toes should face forward. 2 Keeping your legs firmly planted and your hips stationary, shift your ribs to the right, then back to the left. That's one rep; do 30. Fold-Over Waist Whittler 1 Start in the same position as the…

It's Kendall Jenner's time to shine, and in summer's hottest frocks—from shorts suits to monochrome minis—this little sis is making a big splash. Little Miss SUNSHINE TOP, $345, AND SHORTS, $395, NONOO; SHOES, GIANVITO ROSSI; WATCH, NIXON, $75. TOP AND SHORTS, COSTUME NATIONAL; SHOES, B BRIAN ATWOOD, $495; LONG-BAND BANGLE, DINOSAUR DESIGNS, $105; GOLD BRACELET WORN THROUGHOUT, JENNER'S OWN Northern LIGHTS TOP AND SHORTS, $535, FOTINI; SHOES, JIMMY CHOO, $595; HAT, HAT ATTACK, $98; RAINBOW-SWIRL BANGLE, BEN AMUN, $80; BROWN BANGLE, CIRCA SIXTY THREE TOP, MICHAEL KORS; GOLD BRACELET, KENNETH JAY LANE, $90; ONYX HORN BRACELET, FURBISH STUDIO, $48 BEAUTY BONUS RED-HOT LIPS AND TIPS ARE WORTHY OF A DOUBLE TAKE. PAIR KHROMA BEAUTY NAIL LACQUER IN RACE, $8, WITH KHROMA BEAUTY JOYSTICK LIPSTICK IN RETRO RED, $9. KendallFills intheBlanks…

It's really happening: Your best girl's getting hitched, and you're now on bachelorette-party duty. Friends, food, drinks…maybe an appearance by a "police officer." Stress? No way—just use Cosmo's guide and you've got this. STEP 1 Talk to the Bride "My biggest advice is to communicate with the bride very directly," says Cathy Schroeckenstein, editor-in-chief of WeddingBee.com. Ask her what her expectations are (does she want penis pops or not?). If she gives you a non-committal answer, bug her to tell you what an ideal day with her friends would look like. STEP 2 Talk to Her Friends Show your invitees a courtesy and ask how much they can spend. You may have to manage expectations and get the bride to prioritize. When you figure out what's doable, get…

Bitch It Out! Crazy situation working your last nerve? Vent here! Sweet and Low "Really? No one wants to use the sugar that has been sitting between your legs for the past hour." —Shauna S., 29 Grab and Go "I don't know what's worse, the fact that his hands are down her pants in public or that she's letting it happen!" —Tyler B., 20 Rear-View Eater "I came here for dinner…and completely lost my appetite when I saw this guy!" —Kelsey M., 24 ANNOYED BEYOND BELIEF? LOG ON TO COSMOPOLITAN.COM/BITCH-IT-OUT TO SHARE YOUR PET PEEVE (AND PHOTO). IF WE PRINT YOUR SHOT, WE'LL GIVE YOU $50. TABLE OF CONTENTS Page 10: Oscar de la Renta — net-a-porter.com. Dior — Dior boutiques nationwide, 800-929-DIOR. Marc Alary — marcalary.com. Roberto…